I know many decent and working guys that are struggling, probably because lack of exposition or shyness, but women are right that most of guys that are struggling don't have good hygiene, don't have a good haircut, clothes are old or unfitting, don't go out, etc.

I wonder if many of those men actually want to suffer. Maybe telling themselves they are superior by suffering, like virtue morality, while satisfying basic sexual needs with porn. It is easier to blame on others what you did yourself. The issue here is not that they are failing, but the fact that they are not even trying to look good! Even if you have ZERO game with women, there is no doubt it is way better to look good and well put than to look like a homeless person.

This also happens to some women, but guys have especially bad because usually they have all the loads of seduction, so it is a lot of work for men and it is a skill that is hard to develop and can easily be forgotten if not practiced.

So I do criticize a lot of things women do on dating and how unfair the game is, but they are right that it seems some guys just want to be victims, it is as if they are addicted to feeling bad and terrible, although they don't seem to be conscious on it.