Woman gets negged by her husband and is wondering if she’s overreacting for being upset.

Infamous-Helicopter7 · 2020-10-09T11:04:29+00:00

"he stands by his statement"

What a piece of shit. It's one thing to say something dumb by accident, but his behavior afterwards shows he's either emotionally immature (he knows he's wrong but he can't admit it), or he's just a jackass who thinks his behavior is acceptable.

Either is a dealbreaker.

Thestral-glow6 · 2020-10-09T10:50:00+00:00

It’s always the gross overweight men that feel the need to criticise our bodies. No. That OP is not overreacting at all.

qwertymasshole · 2020-10-09T11:20:55+00:00

My ex said something similar to me 🤦‍♀️ I don’t get it, if “tit size” is important to you, then find someone who meets your standards! Just like I’ll find someone who meets my standards. I can’t change their size without surgery lol.

saymoneyhoney · 2020-10-09T11:49:46+00:00

If I were her, I would literally make it a point to tell him everything he could improve on his body, day after day, with no end in sight, until I made my exit plan.

BasieSkanks · 2020-10-09T13:59:19+00:00

I don’t get why overweight men try to neg women about their boobs. My brother once asked why I wasn’t wearing a bra and I just said “oh, I don’t know, why aren’t you wearing one?” He shut up.

ello-motto · 2020-10-09T11:20:19+00:00

She should tell him "if only your penis was 2 inches bigger, length and girth" and say she's sorry he didn't find it funny but stands by her statement and see how he feels. 😂

Adawritesrules · 2020-10-09T13:28:41+00:00

Women are waking up. That post got removed, I doubt it was removed by the OP. R.A. overlords just didn’t like the coments telling the fat limp dick to go stick it in a warm grapefruit. 😂

llamasinspace420 · 2020-10-09T11:50:16+00:00

Nope. And she married the wrong dude. That sucks. Im never getting married lol

ThrowRA745318 · 2020-10-09T13:20:38+00:00

Ugh at the "sorry if you got offended". I have zero time for men who think there's anything attractive about insulting me and claiming it's "just being playful". The words are still the same though, aren't they?

Mella_20 · 2020-10-09T13:36:27+00:00

Is it bad that I would divorce someone the second they criticize my body?

My dad was the type to criticize a post-baby body. I had to hate him for my mom.

atuan · 2020-10-09T14:11:12+00:00

I'm at the point where if I read the word "overreacting" I say dump him. Telling someone they're overreacting is them shifting the blame to you for showing a reaction to their shitty behavior. "Overreacting" is crying because you spilt milk. And even that would be shitty to have your partner say "god you're overreacting." There is no overreaction. A partner supports you when you're upset, doesn't tell you to stop having feelings.

chinchaslyth · 2020-10-09T12:20:57+00:00

“Wow that’s a perfect body. If only your dick was bigger!!!”

😑

oddcharm · 2020-10-09T13:52:38+00:00

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nat890 · 2020-10-09T14:01:05+00:00

It’s so sad that all of these pickme posts always end with “am I overreacting?” Women are so conditioned to think we’re constantly overreacting to everything. It’s so bad

thinktwiceorelse · 2020-10-09T11:42:09+00:00

oh, the classic case of 'sorry, not sorry'

Novemberinthechair · 2020-10-09T13:39:39+00:00

Ugly guys, man. They always want to chip away at your self esteem. I can't believe she let's him touch her.

-badmadAM · 2020-10-09T15:11:05+00:00

There are a lot of deal-breakers in this situation, and she should leave NOW. He clearly shows how he sees her: As a body, who fits his taste but still could be improved (fitting what society tells him a perfect female body looks like). He shows, that he doesn't appreciate her conventional beauty even though he himself is unfit. He shows that he doesn't appreciate or maybe even see her very individual beauty or finds her fully attractive as the individual she is. As soon as you start nitpicking your partners appearance in your mind in stead of just enjoying their attractiveness you know something isn't right.

Must suck for him that she isn't just a perfect sex-doll bangmaid object, right? What is next, will he find some pores on her face repulsive, because her skin doesn't look like perfect plastic? Does he even see her as a human partner? This is extremely superficial and shallow, but I guess for him it is totally normal that she accepts him and even finds him attractive for himself, despite not being a stupid ken- doll.

Maybe the whole situation is so shocking for the wife because she perceives him and his attractiveness so completely differently than he does vice versa. This is sweet, but she really needs to understand that not everyone is like that and males often do see things very differently that her. Her husband has just revealed how shallow he is and she only needs to believe him and think if this is truly partnership she wants to have. She won't be able to change him or his core- believes.

The next deal-breaker is him not even trying to understand where she is coming from but invalidating her feelings. It doesn't matters to him that he hurt her and he doesn't care to at least listen to her, because he thinks he is "right". He tries to ridicule her and put her down by stating she is "overreacting" (Clearly he thinks only his narrative is true, not much respect or love here).

ASeaOfQuotes · 2020-10-09T14:13:10+00:00

Not only a bad fucking “joke” but absolutely no sincerity in apologizing. Real men own up to their mistakes. He hurt someone he supposedly loves and his ego is too big to care. 🚩

favoritesound · 2020-10-09T14:18:18+00:00

“Wow that’s a shitty overweight dad bod. If only your penis were bigger.....It’S JuSt a JoKe!!!”

Watch him lose his shit.

SkiesEclipse · 2020-10-09T23:21:10+00:00

Once, while holding my breasts in his hands during sex, my ex said “man I love your tits! A solid 8/10. I stopped and said “only 8/10?” He responded with, “you know, because there’s always room for improvement!” I said “no, I don’t know. There is literally nothing I can do to change the size and shape of my boobs. There is no room for improvement.” Anyway, needless to say sex stopped, and we broke up not long after that. Men who rate women, or any attribute of a woman is a HUGE RED FLAG 🚩🚩🚩

GingeroftheDead · 2020-10-09T14:17:20+00:00

He's mad his tits are bigger than hers.

Davina33 · 2020-10-09T14:38:21+00:00

I commented on this. This man needs to go straight in the bin. Who the hell is he to criticise anyone? I'm slim but so many overweight men criticise women's bodies, overweight or not. I've called them out every time they've done it in front of me. Odious specimens.

youdipthong · 2020-10-09T15:45:23+00:00

What is up with guys’ entitlement to criticizing girls’ bodies. I’m literally in high school and one dude told me out of no where that I’m “flat” (meaning I’ve got no boobs). I don’t remember how I reacted but I remember not knowing what to do in that situation because he said this to me in front of a whole group of guys. But the dude has a reputation of being horrible to girls so it’s whatever. He definitely is a pornsick dumbass because he literally is constantly making out with his girlfriend in the hallways and many times I’ve seen him petting her????

circescircus · 2020-10-09T14:57:52+00:00

Fat men are the worst.

hypointellectual · 2020-10-09T14:53:10+00:00

Just comment on his penis and he’ll get it.

Journalist_Full · 2020-10-09T19:57:06+00:00

He knows she is "out of his league" so he is trying to lower her self-esteem to his level in hopes she doesn't think she can find better, because her boobs apparently are not big enough.

Yuck

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-10-09T16:05:53+00:00

"wish your dick was bigger"

I would absolutely say that to some asshole who got too comfortable. Let him cry, I won't be.

pancakejourney · 2020-10-09T16:56:54+00:00

That's what my Ex said shortly after our break up.
He made 'jokes' about my 'tight pussy' and his dick. He knows I hate it and I'm sure he does it to degrade or provoke me because I broke up with him.
When I told him I didn't want to hear such 'jokes' ever again he called me a snowflake, sjw, that I am oversensitive and that I lack humor and muuch more.
When I made it clear that I wasn't having it he said "I'm sorry that it made you overreact" immediately followed by "but I still stand by my statement".

FDS already helped me so much to deal with such situations. I can't cut him out of my life yet but it's also so easy to beat him simply with consequences now.
I'm too sensitive? Ok, what's the consequence?
I'll stay away from your attitude that I apparently can't handle.
Now he's behaving, because he's actually the one who still wants and needs me in his life.

cicerii · 2020-10-09T17:30:08+00:00

Men think watching porn makes them connoisseurs of women’s bodies.

allergictoscrotes · 2020-10-09T12:51:34+00:00

The fact that women are the ones who get painted as “bitchy” and “catty” when men regularly say shit like this to women who are supposed to be the love of their life really says it all. Hope she dumps his ass ASAP.

redfarmmmmm · 2020-10-09T20:00:18+00:00

Its always the short, fat or ugly men.

My ex negged me for not doing my nails and my makeup. So i brought my big hand mirror and try to put foundation on his face. He got so mad and i told him if you want to do makeups and nails so badly, you could do it for yourself without telling me to do so.

2020-10-09T18:16:50+00:00

Not only the audacity of this scrote...but the STUPIDITY. Like, really? You thought you weren't being 100% transparent with that weak ass attempt of negging?

To pass off an insult as a joke, there has to be SOME wit or punchline. Telling your naked wife her tits are too small and then acting flabbergasted how that could be read as only an insult is the weakest attempt at manipulation I have ever seen.

You might as well wave a big banner that says you are insecure about your flabby self and want to knock your hot wife down a peg or two because you know you don't deserve her.

2020-10-09T17:03:40+00:00

I would have made a joke about his tits.

2020-10-09T20:09:01+00:00

I didn't have to read past "overweight" to know what we're dealing with here. Girl, go get yourself a fit man who can appreciate a fellow fit woman! This one clearly has no idea...

ContentWrangler · 2020-10-09T18:50:39+00:00

Throw him in the bin sis

2020-10-09T20:17:42+00:00

A few months before breaking up with me, my ex decided to start negging me about my body, basically forced me to go to the gym with him and said stuff like "you're not fat, you're fine. Just a little flaccid. You need to tone up".

To this day, I still don't know why I didn't leave him there and then. Probably delusion. And covid. Oh and being a pickmeisha 🤷‍♀️

FluffandRainclouds · 2020-10-09T23:20:06+00:00

This is how you kill attraction for me. Flat out.

Sad-Pumpkin5019 · 2020-10-09T11:37:18+00:00

Overreacting??! Absolutely not. I’m so pissed reading this. It was bad enough what he said but then being completely unapologetic about it. Unacceptable!

BellaStayFly · 2020-10-09T18:34:09+00:00

That would be the day that I put all his shit out in the yard.

2020-10-09T18:55:31+00:00

My first boyfriend used to do that to me... I was a lot more insecure back then and definitely wouldn’t tolerate it now

shugs87 · 2020-10-09T20:54:07+00:00

I would have said “Don’t worry...you make it up for the both of us.” 😉

Shinygoldendragonfly · 2020-10-09T21:39:02+00:00

Has she tried COmMuNicATinG that with him.

SOHBlue · 2020-10-09T14:45:00+00:00

Oh god. Oh god. Not the "I was just joking, you're being too sensitive/you taking offense to my shitty behavior makes me feel bad" move.

Biggest red flag/pet peeve for me.

feast_or_famine1 · 2020-10-10T00:28:33+00:00

I would just divorce him.

woadsky · 2020-10-10T02:21:27+00:00

He stands by his statement. What an ass.

BaneSlayer_ · 2020-10-10T02:46:56+00:00

Your husband is a shit humorist.

Title	Woman gets negged by her husband and is wondering if she’s overreacting for being upset.
Author	BasieSkanks
Upvotes	463
Comments	99
Date	October 9, 2020 10:45 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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