r/sex told an ABUSE SURVIVOR not to be scared of someone who wants to STRANGLE and HIT her 🤡🤡🤡

Pornruinedsociety · 2020-10-30T00:36:59+00:00

I love pressuring my boyfriend to let me stomp on his Balls, i don't know why he won't let me as it's a very common fetish among people that are lovely and men in porn love it so I just know he will to. I'm sure he'll enjoy it if I manipulate and pressure him to let me try.

JiltedGroupie · 2020-10-30T01:00:12+00:00

It’s insane to me that nowadays a man can say “choking and beating you would really turn me on sexually” and women are expected to be okay wit that and accept it.
“It’s a common fantasy! He won’t actually do it to you without consent so it’s not a problem. Why do you have a problem with this? Very vanilla/prude of you. Don’t judge him.”

To quote Mugatu, I feel like I’m taking crazy pills. I can’t believe we live in a world where a woman is just expected to accept that her SO would like to beat and choke her. So anything that makes a man’s dick hard is automatically okay? We should just accept this without question? It’s disgusting.

Growlithe99 · 2020-10-30T00:49:19+00:00

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Ok_Ad_67 · 2020-10-29T23:49:03+00:00

“ this is a very common fetish among people who are lovely, normal nice and wonderful people. It’s just a sex thing and it’s extremely common”

🤡🤡🤡 what kind of a world are we living in??? He wants to choke and slap her and apparently this is NoRmAL and NiCe.

And that’s besides the fact that he knows she has a traumatic history.

ProfessionalPee · 2020-10-30T00:34:56+00:00

If somebody told us the girl down the street was strangled to death and raped by her boyfriend we would say that fucking terrible.

So why is it okay to reddit when somebody says they want to do so before actually doing it?

MyDarlingGirl · 2020-10-30T03:14:24+00:00

So what should a woman do if she doesn't want to be choked or slapped in bed? since it's so fucking "common" and "normal"? You know what's not normal? Men wanting to be choked in bed. Why is it always us who have be fucking degraded during sex?

And shame on that bf for even bringing it up. Her emotions are 100% valid and he's a loser who's only thinking with his dick.

azureangel35 · 2020-10-30T00:40:54+00:00

I'm really curious what men's reaction would be to women wanting to choke, smack and spit on them during sex. They know exactly how fucked up it is. He is a boundary pushing abuser. No HVM would ever want to do that to an abuse victim, or think she would be ok with even hearing it.

OrangeyPanda · 2020-10-30T00:31:14+00:00

Thats a horrible community. My heart breaks for her and she is completely justified to lose all attraction for a monster that would be sexually aroused by being violent towards her. There's no such thing as a nice person that would choke or hit others. Only predators and rapists do that.

shoesfromparis135 · 2020-10-30T02:09:09+00:00

I’m in my early 30’s and I still cannot believe this kind of shit is considered “normal” now. 🤮🤮🤮 What is wrong with these guys, seriously?! JFC, and here I thought men would get BETTER as I got older. LOL! So fucking disgusting. Girl, run.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-10-30T00:03:24+00:00

DoN't WoRrY! It'S jUsT A FeTiSh.

🏃‍♀️💨💨💨💨💨

Mysterious_Midnight7 · 2020-10-30T00:20:30+00:00

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marilynmonw0e · 2020-10-30T02:59:05+00:00

He's gonna do this to her as soon as an opportunity presents itself. He'll 'lose his temper' or in the 'heat of the moment' during sex, he'll pull this shit.

Imagine going to bed with a man who gets a dopamine rush from thinking of slapping and choking the shit out of you.

I so wish I could save women like this but the majority of them won't listen to reason.

what-i-dont-know · 2020-10-30T00:47:33+00:00

That sub is horrible they are pro rape! And if you say anything against it they ban you.

ashleah_aiyong · 2020-10-30T00:15:41+00:00

wtf?! That’s awful! Why’s Reddit hate us

LevelTurbulent · 2020-10-30T03:13:36+00:00

Nope. Bullshit. He wants to hurt her. He told her he wants to hurt her because it will get him off. This shouldn't be seen as very common and no, nice people do not fucking do this to people they love. This is what sick fucking degenerates do.

I hope she runs like hell.

Toot--Sweet · 2020-10-30T08:07:24+00:00

Can we take a moment to note just how smug and condescending in tone the reply is? How dare they talk down to this woman, who has more sensitivity and insight that they can even aspire too. And all sex pozzies are like this, aren't they? Jumped up and full of themselves: acting as though they've discovered some secret esoteric wisdom about sex that they have a responsibility to evangelize to the rest of us. Meanwhile it's plain to see they're just bog-standard, old-fashioned perverts.

Platipus6 · 2020-10-30T01:06:47+00:00

"Have you told him how the abuse made you feel so he can jerk off to THAT too?"

Also why does the phrase "he hugged me tightly and reassured me" in just about every post like this give me the creeps?

Is it the feeling of grasping manipulation and not letting her leave until he got to whisper his sickly words in her ear? He needs to be up close to check her reaction to his lies?

icecream1013 · 2020-10-30T01:21:07+00:00

I wonder if he her sexual abuse is actually what led him to want to do this. To me, this reinforces FDA and my code of not revealing abuse to a man ever. Keep it between you, your trusted therapist, and trusted, safe friend(s) and family member(s). If you feel like you must share with your man, do not tell him until you are engaged or even better, marriage. And when it is revealed, not provide too much detail. So many men look at a woman differently afterwards. I think it's probably best for women to simply state their boundaries about what they will and won't do without feeling compelled to explain why it is a boundaries.

I think some men get off on knowing their girlfriend or wife was sexually or physically abused. Also, I doubt he would feel comfortable if she told him kicking him in the balls, stomach, and punching him would turn her on. These type of "kinks" often work in one direction.

2020-10-30T04:52:31+00:00

This is not normal at all. Sick men try to normalise it through abuse porn.

Meadow97 · 2020-10-30T06:51:20+00:00

On today's episode of the world hates women we have scrotes telling a literal abuse victim that their partner's sexual pleasure means more than their own mental health.

Will the scrotes keep their stance? When will FDS members join forces and beat their asses? Why are men.. Men? Find out next week on 'I'm sick of this shit.. No seriously it's making me ill'.

Aggressive_Birthday4 · 2020-10-30T03:42:54+00:00

Ugh. Just because OP’s partner is a “nice, normal, lovely” person, she should change her viewpoint to something more common??? I canNOT

Growlithe99 · 2020-10-30T01:19:28+00:00

I’m fuming at this. Normally with these types of posts I just shake my head, but hoards of men convincing an actual abuse victim that their fetishes take priority over her mental well-being? For fucks sake.

Why is beating your girlfriend considered all across the board as a standard act of violence, but as long as it gets a man hard it’s suddenly okay and immune to all criticism?

YbhVan · 2020-10-30T02:23:44+00:00

I can relate to OP and I know for a fact I could never look at the boyfriend the same way ever again....

GrapeJuiceEnthusiast · 2020-10-30T09:03:39+00:00

It's actually so insane to me how it's fucking 2020 and we're at a point where gender equality should be at its highest, yet we live in a world where anal, choking, slapping, spitting and punching are considered vanilla. Women are collectively being gaslit into thinking these things are "normal" and exist in a vacuum. It's being forced down our throats that these males with DDLG, BDSM and rape fetishes are actually just normal, lovely people and just because they want to do those things "consensually" in bed doesn't mean they're actually rapists or pedophiles irl.

Jules_7390 · 2020-10-30T01:39:09+00:00

God that subreddit is such a cesspool, I've just read that post and the only downvoted to oblivion comment is the only sane person saying that it's not healthy and obv someone responded "my boyfriend do that and he loves me!!!" yes I'm sure that's the truth... /s I'm getting more and more hopeless about sex with men, cause they really seem monsters.

wayward_woman · 2020-10-30T04:32:19+00:00

Clown world.

watershipdowners · 2020-10-30T08:10:34+00:00

In the UK the proposed domestic abuse Bill has had an amendment to cover non fatal strangulation in order to allow women to deny choking by a partner on the basis it would be illegal:at present the offense is only classed as common assult. Its proven that men who strangle or choke partners often end up killing them why the law is being changed, while these score pieces of shit are doing this to women behind closed doors in the name of their penis soon justice will be served once this becomes law and their kinks will be shamed publicly. Women have been gaslighted by the porn industry (men) to accept violence in the bedroom when it has literally taken 1000's of years for us to be recognised in the law! Pass me the crazy pills now!

It's like some couples are aspiring to be Fred and Rose West nowadays, oh sorry did I just' kink shame' two serial incest murderers, ill be banned from reddit soon!

Vmwvi · 2020-10-30T05:33:08+00:00

Link her to FDS.

Milobear27 · 2020-10-30T05:45:26+00:00

I have a fetish for slapping, choking, and using men during sex. It’s normal and common. Stop kink shaming me! I have needs.

Mysterious_Midnight7 · 2020-10-30T12:03:48+00:00

That comment is the pinnacle of gaslighting. Deviants desperately want to believe they're "lovely, normal, nice, wonderful people" don't they? And they will say the same exact thing about rape fantasies, pedophile fantasies, and who knows what else. They're deluded. Look, I've been with a lot of men of all kinds, even swinger types, and NOT ONE has ever attempted anything weird or violent like that. That is a NEW thing caused by DEGENERATE PORN that has warped these losers' minds. How sad and pathetic that they want to convince everyone that they're normal.

LadyGrimes · 2020-10-30T14:19:52+00:00

Will you look at that? Fucked up people are encouraging others to be fucked up too.

tmb-2019 · 2020-10-30T03:04:22+00:00

Here’s the thing. Even without an FDS lens, they are clearly not sexually compatible and there’s nothing inherently wrong with that. Either they accept that and move on or the guy adjusts since she clearly not comfortable with it. Like?? It shouldn’t be that complicated.

HexyHag · 2020-10-30T07:21:45+00:00

" - he hugged me tightly and assured me he'd never want to hurt me." Yet that's EXACTLY what he DOES want. Cognitive dissonance much? Poor sisters who fall for it :(

I'm so glad that here on FDS we can see and admit that violence = violence. Who'd have thought?!

trudith · 2020-10-30T07:37:10+00:00

I’m banned from r/sex and the mods muted me too for calling out shit like this and then telling them they’re nasty misogynists when they defended rape “fetishes”

nenindis · 2020-10-30T10:59:38+00:00

I am fucking fuming, please excuse my language.

What sort of sick depraved fuck of a man is this? The fact alone she has to come to the internet to ask how to overcome her genuine fear of him, her confusion, her pain, and there are stupid ignorants like that commenter veiling abuse as kink makes me sick.

I hope I never have a son because, honestly, I don't know what I would do if he turned out like this.

aquietsword · 2020-10-30T10:19:17+00:00

"Sex is always odd like that!" ... Jesus fucking clown shit, batman.

ShoshannaDreyfus · 2020-10-30T11:21:27+00:00

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Equal-Ear2312 · 2020-10-30T17:59:45+00:00

The guy practically wants to re-traumatize her. C-ptsd is a real thing.

protectinidentity · 2020-10-30T18:23:06+00:00

Years ago when all this fetishy stuff started to become talked about more in the mainstream, I tried to be open-minded and understand it. After being in an abusive marriage and regaining my self-respect I see this “fetish” for what it is, a desire to degrade me. I am not a prude, and I’m not vanilla. I’m happy to try new things if it’s coming from a place of mutual respect. But these fantasies that are built around degrading each other disturb me. If you’re into that then there’s very likely some deeper issues at work and it’s a massive red flag. I don’t want my partner to get aroused at the thought of choking/hitting/insulting me. I’m also convinced this changes the dynamic in your relationship for the worse, even if the behavior is “only in the bedroom”

AdrasteaRed · 2020-10-30T09:53:40+00:00

I know we are into roasting and exposing shitty men, but does anyone reach out to the women who are in these posts? Do you send a dm, comment on post, offer support or just screenshot it and post it? Are we rescuing them or just making shitty behavior a meme?

mommymilfluv · 2020-10-31T04:00:42+00:00

Wait wait wait..... I'm sorry what? Asylums need to be patrolling that board

2020-10-31T11:34:48+00:00

animalistic ah yes the classic primal urges completely take over and therefore allow people to physically abuse their partner it’s not their fault !

MrsTaylor101318 · 2020-10-30T21:22:48+00:00

So so sad :(

Title	r/sex told an ABUSE SURVIVOR not to be scared of someone who wants to STRANGLE and HIT her 🤡🤡🤡
Author	Ok_Ad_67
Upvotes	398
Comments	112
Date	October 29, 2020 11:46 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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