Just a reminder that negging is not always going to be so forthcoming, these scrotes get intricate and creative because they are cowardly and hoping not to completely miss out. I mentioned in my bio that I’m a writer as well as my intelligence being clearly communicated block and delete guys.

BrightIdeaGenerator · 2021-10-15T14:51:55+00:00

I think the biggest red flag is "how a HOT girl thinks" ..... like if you weren't attracted to her than her mind and thoughts have no value? That's what makes it sound like the only reason he wants to understand how you think is so he can mantiplulate you.

thewetdog_ · 2021-10-15T14:03:52+00:00

So this guys thinks you should just have a livejournal about your thoughts and feelings?

Also: “nothing more fun”? Send this guy a link to six flags

XNjunEar · 2021-10-15T14:01:40+00:00

So he did not read your bio but is recommending you become a blogger? Because he finds it fun? And you should take career advice based on what he finds fun? Entitled much?

oceanstains · 2021-10-15T15:43:30+00:00

Why does it annoy me so bad when they call us girls instead of women lmao I’m not a child

Ericaeatscarrots · 2021-10-15T14:32:32+00:00

Because it’s all about him /s

fuckbeingautobanned · 2021-10-15T14:14:04+00:00

Hot = alien! TOTALLY DIFFERENT LIFE EXPERIENCE! WOAAAAHH! What does a hot girl like you do behind that BORING paper 😳😳😳

Sage_Planter · 2021-10-15T14:24:55+00:00

His life must be exceptionally boring if there's "nothing more fun" than reading the thoughts of people he finds physically attractive.

all_or_nothing_bet · 2021-10-15T14:26:04+00:00

Ew. He made his "compliment" sound like if he is observing some entertaining cute animal in the wild and not a human being 🤮

Gambit12345 · 2021-10-15T14:06:56+00:00

I feel like a guy who wants to know how you think ultimately wants to learn how to manipulate you, say just the right things to get in your head and such

miwamus · 2021-10-15T15:11:41+00:00

He's so dumb that he assumes that you're as dumb as him.

sunflowergrazing · 2021-10-15T14:27:35+00:00

He basically did a backhanded “you’re not like other women”. As soon as men link attractiveness with being able to do something, it’s a red flag and a block.

keep_my_stuff · 2021-10-15T14:24:50+00:00

Blergh

Specific-Composer300 · 2021-10-15T15:02:50+00:00

Ugh, I hate grown men calling me a 'hot girl'.

edelbiatch · 2021-10-15T16:47:55+00:00

So you mention that you're a writer, is it correct to assume that you do it professionally? And he jumps to the conclusion that with his encouragement you could start a little cute blog? This sounds so patronizing and belittling.

Vmchik · 2021-10-15T14:49:23+00:00

That is honestly the creepiest message. I’m a writer too and hate when men talk about my writing like this🤢

FI-REfox · 2021-10-16T06:24:59+00:00

"I love that you're a scientist! Do you research for fun? I feel like you should with your degree and publication record. Something exotic yet relatable like marine biology. There's nothing more fun for than getting to know how a hot girl like yourself thinks and experiences porpoises."

Determinedblonde · 2021-10-15T16:17:57+00:00

I had this in the past. If you’re writing anything, it’s a cute little diary to them 😑

Maingurl · 2021-10-15T23:17:57+00:00

He used the words vocabulary and style because that is all he knows about the writing process lol.

TikiTikiTata-chalala · 2021-10-15T14:40:58+00:00

Tell me you want to make me insecure and self-critical without telling me you want me insecure and self-critical

ivory_727 · 2021-10-15T14:55:28+00:00

What does it matter if a girl is hot or not? Who bases their value on someone's opinion by how hot the person is? What difference does it make? There's no correlation between beauty and valid opinions... He sounds kind of misogynistic.

shoesfromparis135 · 2021-10-15T17:27:26+00:00

Don’t worry, they will still find a way to neg you if you do decide to start a blog. My favourite was, “Wow I feel like I have to complete a homework assignment before I even talk to you.” Nothing is ever good enough. We can never win. Don’t even waste your time worrying about it.

Platipus6 · 2021-10-15T20:47:17+00:00

Stalker vibes. You're just a hypothetical person to him and he wants to read it from afar like a voyeur. Lock your social media down.

seraphinelysion · 2021-10-15T15:42:24+00:00

Lmao, I never understood how men don't know how to talk to women, and then I read shit like this and it all makes sense. 😂

ConfusedBisexual1992 · 2021-10-15T16:54:43+00:00

‘There’s nothing more fun than getting to know how a hot girl thinks/experiences the world.’

Um… have you tried talking to us like you would any other human?

Vaahla · 2021-10-16T03:55:47+00:00

Perform for me, woman!

OnlyPaperListens · 2021-10-15T18:57:49+00:00

Grood like words. You grunt pretty.

12thwizard · 2021-10-15T19:28:13+00:00

What a great catch. Apart from the obvious 'hot girl' reference, he's also assuming that writing a blog is somehow of lower standard than other forms of writing, because it's 'for fun'. At least that's what I'm taking from this.

Scrotes be damned!

DumpsterWitchy · 2021-10-15T17:00:53+00:00

I can translate into what it really means. "SEND NUDES!"

cicerii · 2021-10-15T23:35:48+00:00

He talks to her the way he wants a woman to talk to him.

SupremeDearLeader · 2021-10-15T23:41:51+00:00

His game is low effort up front ...and it only gets worse w time I bet.

FDS-GFY · 2021-10-15T16:28:02+00:00

This sounds like a potential narcissist/bully/control freak.

Biracial_tooth_fairy · 2021-10-15T16:37:54+00:00

Wut..? He could just, you know, get to know women just like anybody else?

Thanks. This was gag-worthy

Big-Respond8481 · 2021-10-15T20:05:30+00:00

"Hot girl" is the signal word here. He should focus on her character, on getting to know her not her hotness.

katiekat0214 · 2021-10-16T03:46:04+00:00

I don't know what's worse, being thought of immediately as hot (and objectified) along with who knows how many other women he copied and pasted the same line to, or some scrote telling me wow, you're really smart (since he thought I was average/plain, needy, and older, and would be easy pickings).

thewetdog_ · 2021-10-16T13:21:45+00:00

Noting more exciting than getting to know how a hot girl experiences the world, huh?

So he wants to read the equivalent of your diary instead of idk GETTING TO KNOW YOU? this screams narcissist.

honestlyidkfr · 2021-10-16T20:28:21+00:00

Something about this just… makes my skin crawl. From trying to demean what you do in your professional life as if you do it for funsies, implying you aren’t as great at it (negging), calling you a “hot girl” (objectifying and infantilizing), bringing it back to himself with “nothing more fun for me” as if what YOU do has to be entertaining to HIM (self-centered), to that last sentence – betting $20 that what he really means is “I think women are just as porn sick as I am and view the entire world through a porn sick lense.” Who is willing to bet this guy thinks women look at cucumbers the way he looks at hot pockets, or socks, or a hole in the mud?

capresesalad1985 · 2021-10-16T23:02:06+00:00

God nothing infuriates me more than a man who panders a woman’s career or hobby. I went to fashion school, taught high school fashion design and work freelance gigs as a theatrical costume designer. In my 20s, every guy I dated treated my sewing skills as like “awww that’s cute your little hobby”. Like no, this is my career and I’m really good at it. Now I teach college fashion and have a paid YouTube sewing channel...not so bad for my cute little hobby.

dee_isabird · 2021-10-20T15:28:07+00:00

He is so threatened by your entire existence. The amount of butthurt in that one message is just WOW.

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