LVM movie red flags! 🚩

fcebtfs · 2020-12-01T08:21:22+00:00

Honestly I'd be surprised if a LVM even read clock-work orange or the catcher in the rye. But that is still a really good point that I never considered before. What someone's favorite consumed media really says about them. Its like how you should not date the guy who watches Joe Rogan or Ben Shapiro, but that is more obvious than if someone's favorite shows are Breaking Bad and Rick and Morty.

Saitschik · 2020-12-01T10:39:41+00:00

They like it because they identify with the main characters. Men don't know it but they are allowed to be a misfit.

Imagine breaking bad with a female protagonist. Chemistry teacher decides to open a meth lab and going savage while her annoying and always worried husband sits at home and is featured as the annoying sidekick. Would men like this movie? They would hate it.

Or a girl that fails in school and life with a I don't give a damn attitude like the protagonist in catcher in the rye... Well that would be something interesting to read but nobody writes it because that's a role women just can't occupy, society hates it.

Men feel edgy when they like those movies and identify with it, when there is nothing edgy about it because on some level they were and are always allowed to fuck up and have an eccentric character. Women aren't.

I watch out for men who fanboy over Tarantino. They are usually toxic and have bad taste.

RiasXgremoryX · 2020-12-01T12:59:48+00:00

The Great Gatsby, 500 days of Summer, The Wolf of Wall Street, You.

TheSilentGlomper · 2020-12-01T13:00:58+00:00

I don’t think if it’s their favourite movie then it’s a red flag. But if they tell you that the main character is their favourite and that they’re “just so like them” then absolutely run away. This is also extended to Bojack Horseman (also a red flag if they hate Diane.) American Psycho, American Beauty, The Joker from anything Batman (as well as if they idolise/romantisice the relationship between the joker and harley quinn. The first guy that ever groome me was absolutely obsessed with harley quinn because she was “cute but psycho”.) Wolf of Wallstreet or Taxi Driver.

As a film major, I love a good chunk of these things, but guys will idolise the fuck out of them to an obsessive level. I mean just look at John Hin.ckley Jr, he tried to k.ill Re.agan just to impress Jodie Foster, who was 17/18 at the time. Just yuck.

puddlesteps · 2020-12-01T13:37:17+00:00

When guys hate skylar and love Walt from breaking bad. RED FLAG.

x_LiMi_x · 2020-12-01T15:45:34+00:00

"Haha i love rick because he doesnt give a fuck and i wanna be like him/im just like him"

R U N

Ntop__ · 2020-12-01T11:58:38+00:00

American Psycho should be on that list. If the biggest takeaway they get from that movie is "Did he imagine it all in the end?", you GTFO of there no looking back

straighthairgreece · 2020-12-01T17:36:51+00:00

I would add Bojack Horseman. Especially if they hate Diane.

omfgreuben · 2020-12-01T10:36:20+00:00

If he reads and idolizes Bukowski, run

whokilledhydra · 2020-12-01T17:07:03+00:00

I'll add Good Will Hunting and any kind of 'misunderstood male genius' trope.

huevos_and_whiskey · 2020-12-01T19:56:22+00:00

Almost everything in this thread is entertainment I love...

This is a huge eye opener for me! I’ve always naturally separated characters I love to watch but wouldn’t want to emulate. I like exploring my dark side ...vicariously. Also the point of shadow work is to bring that toxicity to light to deal with it, not to wallow in it.

It’s not as simple as just finding someone who likes the same movies, books, etc. that you do. You’ve also got to pay attention to why they like those things, what’s their takeaway, what does it say about their values? I’m going to do much better vetting after reading this.

curiousandbashful · 2020-12-01T13:22:24+00:00

This thread is full of his favorites. Bleh. I was (taught to be) so naive. Feel cheated out of years of my life. US Midwest conservatism can fuck right off.

Aocwannabe · 2020-12-01T14:32:10+00:00

“The Office”, “Seinfeld”, “Curb Your Enthusiasm”, anything with Adam Sandler or Woody Allen, Seth Rogan or Judd Apatow. All reinforce “age gap” relationships and/or men that bat significantly out of their league. This is part of why so many men are delusional about thinking that women don’t care about looks. Also, more of a yellow flag than a red one...the idolization of Anthony Bourdain. Like his show isn’t particularly insightful for anyone that isn’t white or has travelled internationally.🤭

greeneyesrosylips · 2020-12-01T08:20:32+00:00

My ex LOVES Breaking Bad and Ricky and Morty (and The Office, of course) 🤡

romantickitty · 2020-12-01T17:02:28+00:00

To me, one movie is not a red flag. But I've seen OLD profiles that list all this stuff together. Now, THAT is a red flag.

Fight Club, American Psycho, There Will Be Blood, Scarface, Pulp Fiction

Quentin Tarantino, Christopher Nolan

Chuck Palhniuk, Bukowski, Infinite Jest

Also... hot take, any guy who thinks The Notebook makes him seem sensitive and romantic.

esterfanie · 2020-12-01T14:36:37+00:00

I cringed so hard everytime a male friend said that 500 Days of Summer was his favorite movie. He hates Summer with such a passion...

datfishd00d · 2020-12-01T11:53:24+00:00

Also if their favourite movie is something like scott pilgrim or enternal sunset of an spotless mind.

intergalacticanon44 · 2020-12-01T13:24:16+00:00

Oh my God, the first time I watched Breaking Bad I was shocked at how anyone could like Walter White. He was such a toxic, selfish and arrogant person. It made the show hard to watch and I ended up finishing it just to see how Jesse’s story ended. Fuck that show

poison_snacc · 2020-12-01T21:40:42+00:00

I’ve seen this post before and want to add that most men I’ve met don’t even know what A Clockwork Orange was actually about. They don’t know it was based on a book condemning communism and the prison-industrial complex. They don’t understand the fact that the author himself never wanted Alex to be seen as a hero. They don’t even know that the music playing was Beethoven. They literally think it’s about some misunderstood badass and they identify with the main character. It’s disgusting.

superderpina_ · 2020-12-01T18:44:25+00:00

this also includes any joker movies

TheSilentGlomper · 2020-12-01T20:20:34+00:00

I think another BIG red flag to look out for when it comes to media is which directors they support. Like, I enjoyed some of his work but I will absolutely NEVER support roman polanski. And some men will literally go out of their way to defend him or play the whole “oh well you need to separate the art from the artist” card. Woody Allen or Tim Burton or Quentin Tarintino are also good examples of this. I used to work with a bunch of guys who would literally worship the ground that Tarintino walks on. And of course the amount of shit they talked about their partners was horrible too

KindlyPassenger · 2020-12-01T13:33:06+00:00

The Wire, Wolf of Wall Street, Entourage, Joker

lemonLu83 · 2020-12-01T19:14:24+00:00

Ugh and Natural Born Killers. My worst ex said it was his most favorite movie EVAR. I had heard of it, but never seen it. After watching it I should've left then, but I hung around for a few more years of abuse before finally realizing my worth.

KAT_85 · 2020-12-01T21:21:01+00:00

Okay... so I like breaking bad, Rick and Morty, and dexter. But it’s while knowing they’re monsters who shouldn’t be dated. Joker, especially the new class conscious mentally ill one is interesting because he reminds me of men I’ve met. It surprised me initially when people thought skylar was a bitch but now I use that kind of thing to make the men around me uncomfortable lol

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puddlesteps · 2020-12-05T02:06:22+00:00

On the other hand, my covert ex loved Alexander skaezgard’s character in big little lies , half joking that ‘what’s wrong what what he is doing. She’s (Nicole Kidman) pushing him. He pays for their house and their kids. He wants to see his kids’

He also hated dany from game of thrones and was relieved when she was killed. ‘I knew she couldn’t be queen’ I was so mad about this one

thewetdog_ · 2020-12-01T21:50:37+00:00

I am a woman and my favorite movie is fight club. I can quote it almost word by word while watching it. I love every single one of chuck palhniuks books - fight club (even the movie) is about so, so much more than “violence”. It’s literally about mental health and coping mechanisms (or rather, snapping) in a degraded consumerist capitalist society. The protagonist is brilliantly self aware (eventually) and there is a LOT to learn from both the movie and the book imho.

Sewud · 2020-12-01T13:50:58+00:00

What about The Big Lebowski? I've never seen it, but it seems to have a high intersection with fans of Rick and Morty.

strawbri_ · 2020-12-01T21:24:12+00:00

This is a good point that applies to many more things! I'm often skeptical of people who like certain things even if I also like them, because I feel that people like them for the wrong reason.

Salt_Satisfaction · 2020-12-02T01:25:49+00:00

Run away from men whose favourite director is Stanley Kubrick, Tarantino or Scorsese too. It's not usually because of the direction, but because they idolize the horrible male characters in their films.

greatmanatee2 · 2020-12-02T19:31:25+00:00

Catcher in the rye is actually my favorite book, though, mostly because I'm a huge sucker for "coming of age" stories. I liked how the main character was relatable, yet the author allowed us to see a lot of his flaws, irrationality, and hypocrisy pretty easily. It actually made me question myself even more if anything. The ending was also great imo.

Danaus_genutia · 2020-12-01T08:37:00+00:00

Eg: I like Jordan Peterson, he is not a bad guy. He has some good points apart from some radical views about gender.

But men who idolize him think they're fighting dragons when they are just folding the bedsheets like a NORMAL PERSON SHOULD and then dare to call us weak.

honeybeeroll · 2020-12-01T23:48:56+00:00

Add the joker to this list!!!

Like how infantile can one be 😂

And please let's NOT even say this stuff is good, it's basic as hell, especially catcher in the rye 🙄

Zayelle · 2020-12-01T13:48:51+00:00

That's so true.

VanessaViews · 2020-12-02T03:25:38+00:00

Looking for bfs favorite movie shawshank redemption okay good!

finance_lady · 2020-12-03T02:48:14+00:00

Hmm. As a woman, Breaking Bad is my all-time fave show along with its spin-off Better Call Saul. I’d love a man who is a fan of both though it’s not necessary. I hope I’m not doomed to LVM because of that. 🧐

Title	LVM movie red flags! 🚩
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