What do you think it is about avoidant, "emotionally unavailable" men that makes them so intoxicating to, what seems like, the vast majority of women?

Internet pills believe it's because the unavailability triggers their hypergamy, because it gives them a sense of you being 'above' them in some way, be it socially, financially or whatever else.

On paper, that explanation makes sense. But I also believe it might just be some kind of gambling addiction. She will keep trying, by making bids for attention and affection, because she gets that sweet hit just often enough to keep her motivated enough to try, but not as often as she needs to feel secure. It's a toxic trap for her, because if you try to offer her a better sense of security and stability, she loses the thrill of the emotional highs/lows and feels bored by the relationship.

I've gotten very good at playing the role of that mysterious, aloof, just barely affectionate man over the years. It was fun when I was newly red-pilled, because I went from 0 interest from women, to new eager and excited dates lined up practically every day, but I don't really enjoy it anymore because the connections are inauthentic as hell and it's hard to respect someone who pines to be treated like an afterthought, who only tries their hardest when they exist in a perpetual state of uncertainty and anxiety - though this isn't always their fault because it's not conscious behavior in most cases, so I don't blame them for it. It's just something I've had to adapt my approach to.

The problem is, it's so effective across lots of different types of women, young and old, subculture to subculture, that it practically guarantees results. It seems like it's what 'the people' want, so there's this pressure to keep doing it. Because when you don't deliver, you don't get anywhere near the level of above and beyond treatment from women that you do when they literally see you as an addictive substance.

Everybody claims to hate playing games in dating and relationships, yet they respond extremely well to them, and are easily bored by something more stable, communicative, and accommodating.

I believe men are just as susceptible to these sorts of gambling-esque relationship traps too, though in different ways. So please try to avoid typical PPD woman bashing comments and discuss in earnest.