Not sure what to say next. Please help

Little_shaqs · 2019-05-03T03:52:31+00:00

Rip soldier ( may 2, 2019 colorized)

quinnmcd · 2019-05-03T03:31:31+00:00

Move on she’s clearly saying she’s unavailable

MrDownhillRacer · 2019-05-03T08:43:33+00:00

"No worries!"

That's literally all you need to type.

Trying to be the "gamey alpha type who pushes past the no" only works in the stories of bullshit bloggers and and YouTubers. It doesn't work in real life (I've actually tried it a few times, against my better judgement—it doesn't go over as well as internet tough-guy Casanovas will lead you to believe, not everything is a "shit test" or whatever).

Ignoring her completely will just make you look butthurt.

Texting anything too long that tries to hard to be clever is just cringe.

Literally just saying "no worries" suffices. It shows acknowledgement and respect without making it look like you're crestfallen and lack other options.

Whether you take her up on her offer to be friends is up to you. I have no problem staying friends, but I also kinda have enough friends these days, and can't keep in touch with every single girl who rejects me. But hot girls tend to hang out with other hot girls, so there's always a chance you'll meet a single friend of hers. It's really up to you, and more about your personal preference than anything.

pgbabse · 2019-05-03T08:38:35+00:00

"thanks for being that honest, I highly value honesty. I wasn't looking for a friend, wish you all the best"

roamtheplanet · 2019-05-03T05:02:35+00:00

Respond to her. Tell her you totally understand and to text you if she becomes available, if she knows what you mean

Tangomajor · 2019-05-03T05:06:48+00:00

Lol I like how your phone already has responses laid out for you.

It's basically what your phone and everyone else on this thread is saying: give her a message of finality (or none at all) and move on.

You polarized her. She made it clear where she stood. You've filtered out someone who will waste your time in the long run.

jiraiyapervysage · 2019-05-03T07:57:55+00:00

Send a dick pic

millioneuroextreme · 2019-05-03T04:48:22+00:00

tanenbaum · 2019-05-03T11:06:41+00:00

Just reply with this

MisterPlagueDoctor · 2019-05-03T04:14:32+00:00

Move on unless you can only "be friends" with her. Have some spine.

DrRayNay · 2019-05-03T05:36:20+00:00

I would answer: "I understand. Let me know if you are ever available in the future."

THATS IT.

And never text her again. Even if she answer something. The only time you can text her back in the future is if she contacts you first first. But only answer in a cool headed way. Have a small conversation of like 3 texts and then ask her if she wants to meet. If she says, Yes.. go ahead and go meet her up. If she says, no.. just say alright let me know when you are available.

Repeat until she wants to meet and after a couple times just don't answer.

Dude. You have to believe you are high-value. Because you are. If she comes back, cool. If she doesn't, cool. With time either she will come back or you will fomd something better.

PS: They always come back.

TL;DR: "I understand. Let me know if you are ever available in the future."

Ekarron · 2019-05-03T10:30:28+00:00

I see your phone told you exactly what you should write back

RedundantFlesh · 2019-05-03T11:59:05+00:00

Here’s your help: just accept it.

inthefirsthour · 2019-05-03T13:51:44+00:00

Just tell her your credit card number.

marykate216 · 2019-05-03T08:07:28+00:00

“That’s totally fine, have a good one”

mrHoebot · 2019-05-03T05:42:12+00:00

Sure there could be some way to game her into boning you, but come on man, there's a lotta pussy out there you don't need that much drama for just boning someone. Drama is only acceptable in an LTR, because then it's inevitable. So just tell her bye bye bitch I already got friends.

Cactusthelion · 2019-05-03T09:13:47+00:00

"No troubles bubbles" And exit

ashoka007 · 2019-05-03T07:25:26+00:00

Do not respond. She clearely said that she is not interested in what you want. If you keep writing to her it will hurt you. You subconscious will want to be whit her, but her answers will be negative. So take a step back and do not respond.

SpiralofHope1 · 2019-05-03T07:53:24+00:00

Say it's ok, and ask her when she'll be available next for whatever it is you guys planned, maybe coffee if you wanna just have a quick chat and get to know each other, idk man.

goodhabitsaccount · 2019-05-03T08:27:45+00:00

You want a friend or nah

ripgd · 2019-05-03T11:46:28+00:00

She might have hot friends and building your network is never a bad thing. Befriend her, be yourself, and be open to any number of possibilities as a result.

Xcalibrated · 2019-05-03T05:34:09+00:00

Tell her it's cool, and just to promise not to fall madly in love with you secretly, you dont want that kinda drama anymore..

Mathew_F · 2019-05-03T08:57:38+00:00

Don’t respond and delete the number

hazelstein · 2019-05-03T09:14:16+00:00

Say "*Sniffs, through tears* you are just like all the other whores, shame on you slut. Send me pictures of bobs and vagene"

/joke

Don't message anything.

razama · 2019-05-03T08:18:05+00:00

I think all these comments telling you to move on are missing a lot of the necessary subtly that would go with proper inner game. Obviously don't get hung up on this person. However, just keep going with a mindset you should of had in the first place: no expectations and not being result oriented.

So, what do you do next? Say this:

"That's cool! Anyways... " Then continue your previous conversation, in jokes, and being generally interesting and adding value to their life. That's it.

The argument from some of these comments, or more like *excuses*, for not using this approach in situations like this seems to be "But I have so many friends - don't need more." or "I don't want to waste my time." That's bullshit. This is how you build your social circle and how you keep your sets on the hook for possible future chances. "I'm not available if you know what I mean" is such a silly way of phrasing something that could be better communicated with, "I have a boyfriend." She mostly is afraid of moving forward with you and the expectations that would come along with continuing flirting with you while she has other romantic options already going on. Maybe, the truth is she is really taken. Maybe the emotional spike of meeting you and talking has died down and you need to rekindle it. You don't know yet, but either way you need to just say, "Happy for you! Hey, also, remember that story from last night...".

You have nothing to lose by building your connection with her yet so many potential opportunities by having a connection with an attractive girl. Don't frame it as "we'll just be friends". Just respect what she is really telling you here, "I don't want to/can't commit to exploring anything romantic with you at this time."

So say okay, respect it, but just continue on being amazing and charming in their eyes.

keongmanja · 2019-05-03T11:55:37+00:00

A silent moment to our Brother.

Theplayasclub · 2019-05-03T05:38:40+00:00

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DiogenesOfNike · 2019-05-03T08:14:20+00:00

Be real more next time with those girls. Not so much cockiness.

Nothing or even a thumbs-up could be enough, depends on your wish and the context.

doomsday0099 · 2019-05-03T12:53:25+00:00

Smart text is on. Even suggests what you can reply. Is that what the feature is called? I had mine switched off

ProEraWuTang · 2019-05-03T13:07:08+00:00

Dr Pavel, I'm CIA

wakejedi · 2019-05-03T13:31:30+00:00

just respond: All good, maybe I'll see ya around. Then if you do, just be friendly and don't hit on her.

JustALake · 2019-05-03T13:35:38+00:00

Answer with the suggested messages duh:

"😊 It's okay"

Aristox · 2019-05-03T13:42:57+00:00

Perfect response:

Ah damn, that's disappointing. But yeah you seem cool so i hope we can be friends too

She's not available.

hideout78 · 2019-05-03T13:44:38+00:00

Just be gracious and a gentleman. No reason to be friends however. You don’t have to tell her that, I’m just saying that you don’t want to be a beta orbiter backup plan.

cloutdrought · 2019-05-03T13:51:42+00:00

dont reply

thebestpossible · 2019-05-03T14:10:14+00:00

I know it’s hard to hear but this girl doesn’t matter and her not being into you isn’t a problem. You’re going to have so much else going on that in the future when things like these happen, you’ll let them go.

V4refugee · 2019-05-03T14:13:12+00:00

Just say, “That’s okay sweetie, of course we can be friends. Let me know if you ever want to hang out.” After that just leave it up to her if she wants to be a friend. Go out and date other women and don’t worry about this girl anymore.

noprideinsomniac95 · 2019-05-03T14:13:23+00:00

kingcal · 2019-05-03T14:34:16+00:00

Leave the bitch alone.

BBCinParis · 2019-05-03T14:45:39+00:00

Make a joke, a better one this time. She's not unavailable but you made her unavailable with your insecure first message. The last woman i dated when i ask for her number she said "i have a bf, look he is just over there"

sneradicus · 2019-05-03T14:46:01+00:00

Abandon ship

SamsAdvice · 2019-05-03T15:03:58+00:00

"I'm not looking for friendship. If things change and you are available get in touch with me, but I have to go. It was nice hearing from you, take care."

Its polite, to the point, that you don't want friendship and will not settle for it, but is welcoming, in case she changes her mind later. Its low pressure. Its not your job to figure out why she is "not available." It doesn't matter, but right now, she is saying "no." She's doing you a favor by telling you not to waste your time on her.

You might have came off a little anxious with "save this number, its the most important one you get"

BigBeardDaddyK · 2019-05-03T15:05:32+00:00

I wouldn't reply. You could say something along the lines of "I'm not interested in being friends if you change your mind feel free to reach back out." Just understand she probably will never reach back out. I'd just move on. You won't be able to win this one.

JayBthirty4 · 2019-05-03T15:10:16+00:00

I don't want to be friends but if you ever get freed up see if my number still works

CakeMakerZ · 2019-05-03T15:20:34+00:00

Friendzone 100

Onbeskoffie · 2019-05-03T15:26:52+00:00

"No worries" "cool meeting you anyway" Props for asking her number bro. There'll be others

Xxshianne · 2019-05-03T15:33:46+00:00

Just say “no problem” that’s it , don’t even text her after or she’s gonna just string you along . Don’t be a backup plan . Nice confidence dude

adriano515 · 2019-05-03T15:52:18+00:00

Only tried this once but how about "I see, straight to the friendzone" and then prob just move on.

Altokation · 2019-05-03T16:18:42+00:00

You did the best you could but gotta move on here! I applaud you for your approach!

run_fast-eat_ass · 2019-05-03T16:20:24+00:00

"Hahaha no worries, just take it as a compliment! Sure we can we be friends!"

JGHipp · 2019-05-03T16:51:24+00:00

Maybe just “that’s too bad”

XCommunistX · 2019-05-03T16:51:53+00:00

Oh, okay

well_imaguy_sooo_ · 2019-05-03T17:27:15+00:00

I always state that I appreciate their honesty. I understand that it can be difficult sometimes to tell someone "no." I've had to do it,and it's not fun.

Pimpjuice2 · 2019-05-03T18:13:11+00:00

Yeah you blew it with that creepy line.

Try not to try so hard.

Just be like “hey it’s ___” if your really can’t think of a good call back.

Realistically, to avoid getting numbers from girls that aren’t super attracted to you and then being heart broken after the fact, try to build genuine rapport and talk about hanging out before you even close, if it comes up in a natural way.

Get their number or snap (snap is way lower pressure) and after a few flirty exchanges hit em with the “let’s get coffee tomorrow”

Don’t be discouraged, every no gets you one step closer to a yes. Every player out there has had this happen 1000 times. It’s a numbers game.

IMO you should follow up with self amusement, anything you find funny. Just blow it up on purpose to make yourself feel better about it. Will also help as an exercise to be less outcome dependent.

Pimpjuice2 · 2019-05-03T18:16:05+00:00

Could actually be a shit test.

Say “Yeah duh I wanna be friends, what else would We be? Let’s get coffee tomorrow”

I’ve seen this one a lot where a girl wil shitest you with the “just friends” thing when she knows you’re interested and you know she’s interested.

It’s a subconscious way for her to weed out people who lack self confidence/game.

mctankles · 2019-05-03T18:26:14+00:00

At first i thought this was two bots talking to each other

Redditaspropaganda · 2019-05-03T18:58:33+00:00

this thread has a lot of replies for something so simple lol. you have nothing you can say.

dawnpriestess · 2019-05-03T19:00:49+00:00

dawnpriestess · 2019-05-03T19:02:14+00:00

Send her a YouTube link to Tekashi 69's song FEFE... "I don't really want no friends..."

miscoco1 · 2019-05-03T19:05:55+00:00

hajahah wjat a bitcj

danishanus · 2019-05-03T19:11:41+00:00

This is r/seduction not r/justkeeptrying

poleshar · 2019-05-03T19:14:51+00:00

Be friends with her. You liked her as a person, right? Guys get super upset when they get friend zoned, but girls get upset too when they get fuck zoned.

Yeah, she totally should have told you from the get go, but she apologized and explained why she didnt. If you enjoyed chatting with her, be her friend.

Return_Of_BG_97 · 2019-05-03T20:08:03+00:00

Late to the party but move on breh.

The sea may be polluted to hell and the fish dying, but you sure as hell will find more fish.

XDarkstarX1138 · 2019-05-03T21:30:21+00:00

Ouch. Tell her "Playing hard to get already? :P"

Flyasspisces7 · 2019-05-04T08:50:08+00:00

The correlation to an MMA gym works in 2 ways my friend. Being an alpha to women, cool, how alpha are you to men.

MMA and boxing teach discipline, the men of society who can and know how to impose their will by force, taught how to be disciplined and when force is appropriate.
The literal definition of alpha is the 1, the top, the head. In that setting you will not be able to go in an assert any kind of dominance 1, because of their previously mentioned discipline, and 2 because if you want to challenge someone to a fight like how animals decipher dominance you’ll get the back of your face punched in.

Going into a social setting and believing you are an alpha, most likely is just you being forward, disagreeable and obnoxious. Funny thing is, this actually works, creating a connection with someone from being yourself is just better. OP doesn’t need to change he’s frame, he needs to leave her alone lol

Thanks for listening to my ted talk

passionlessDrone · 2019-05-04T14:17:20+00:00

"Like, friends with benefits?"

lonelyWalkAlone · 2019-05-03T11:38:07+00:00

Say: Yeah no worries!

*And keep your distance.* Don't fall in the friend zone, unless you can endure it.

macook814 · 2019-05-03T13:21:46+00:00

Wow, reading what some people think you should say makes me realize why they are in this sub. Congrats on the number but remember there are way more out there. This was good practice. Keep it up!

darksidessj25 · 2019-05-03T16:22:13+00:00

It's the most important one you'll get? Dude, that was a garbage statement. I would of reacted the same way. Stay friends. Don't erase her that's a BETA male thing. You can Game her still. If you show all the ALPHA traits. I gamed girls with BFs it don't fucking matter what she says. Ignore it and spike her emotions. Download GIFF keyboard and send her a funny GIFF. She is not attracted to you yet because you only spent so little time with her. There is a module called value vs comfort. It's by Todd V. Dating. The more comfort she gets with you the higher the attraction rate. See it as a opportunity to practice your Game.

Hand_Sanitizer3000 · 2019-05-03T17:12:06+00:00

be friends with her, meet all her girls, seduct one of her friends possibly with a recommendation from this one.

Boris_Yonkavich · 2019-05-03T19:05:05+00:00

Just become her friend, 50% win

anduxo · 2019-05-03T09:05:57+00:00

Actually, if you are actually not friends with her and don't really know her, I've found that following along has a high success rate.

For example, you could say "I never said anything about not being friends, did I? I'd love to finally have a female friend that is not into me! Maybe we can go for coffee some time, I'll let you know".

This, of course, depends on your past interactions with her. If you were never too direct with her, this usually works.

Why does it work?

Well, for starters, you are basically kind of negging her. She may wonder "why does he agree with this? Am I not attractive enough for him anymore? Did he meet someone else?".

Second, you are not cutting her off from your life. You are actually cool with being friends. You are more than cool. You are actually happy you finally have a female friend that doesn't want to sleep with you. Makes her head keep asking questions.

And last, you keep her waiting. You'll let her know when to go for coffee as friends. Just keep her waiting and wondering. A few days. A week. Maybe two. It's likely that she'll send you a message before you do, and ask you "hey, what about that coffee?".

One thing I've learned is that you never, ever, completely burn the bridges if you still haven't slept with her. Better to keep it cool and leave that door open. You may never go through that door, but you may. Sometimes in a year or two. Doesn't matter because it takes zero effort to keep the door open, while you keep opening others.

It's a long-term strategy, but in no time you'll reap the rewards of having so many doors open. Give it a try. As usual in this game, there's nothing to lose.

holyshyeet · 2019-05-03T10:59:17+00:00

"Hey that's how it goes sometimes. No worries. Have a good one :)"

ViewsFromThe_604 · 2019-05-03T07:49:21+00:00

Block this hoe and go find another one bro

guywithahalo · 2019-05-03T07:57:12+00:00

MarckieMarc · 2019-05-03T09:06:25+00:00

Accept the shit test, start hanging out like what"friends" do. be ballsy and touchy when you hang out.

There's no way you get friendzoned that fast.

imshubh_07 · 2019-05-03T09:20:35+00:00

tryrforrob · 2019-05-03T09:47:41+00:00

Thanl her for being honest and be completely fine with being friends - if u guys clicked , she still can have some hot available friends. Never cut ppl out if they're friendly, be friendly and in the meantime - move on

joelaterreur · 2019-05-03T10:25:06+00:00

Too bad ,maybe in another life

Johnny_Kilroy · 2019-05-03T11:19:45+00:00

Just say Hey, it's OK, no worries.

Razor1804 · 2019-05-03T11:20:11+00:00

She may well be just soft rejecting you. There's still a chance and honestly you might as well try it because what do you have to lose?

In person when someone says to me they're "unavailable", I simply reply with "Unavailable for what, exactly?".

Inbefore121 · 2019-05-03T12:34:24+00:00

Next.

Lord_Augastus · 2019-05-03T05:51:30+00:00

"I have enough friends thanks' "byeee"

DontFailMeDarko · 2019-05-03T09:33:31+00:00

Block her

Hcdx · 2019-05-03T10:38:14+00:00

Call her a whore and block her /s

redfox180 · 2019-05-03T08:20:41+00:00

Tell her "thats cool but you should look at your relationship it's obvious that your not fully happy if your giving your number out to other guys but it was fun meeting you,best of luck! and move on to the next.

amd206 · 2019-05-03T07:20:28+00:00

Or maybe ask her: “oh how come you’re not available?”

meltboro · 2019-05-03T06:32:45+00:00

“You only want to be friends because you havent seen the benefits package yet”

Yay? Nay?

Remarkable_Drama5759 · 2021-12-15T23:16:17+00:00

ReformSociety · 2019-05-03T07:38:55+00:00

If she wasn't interested in you at all and wanted you to fuck off, she wouldn't have responded back at all. She'd just ghost, and move onto her mission of scouting the Alpha Chad Dick she desperately wants in her mouth.

She "hopes we can be friends" = I'm throwing out a hook for you to grab so we can still be in a part of each other's lives. I do this because I benefit either way.

If you're a beta, she will use you like she uses the cucumber as a dildo before tossing it in the trash.

If you destroy her shit tests, show confidence, look deep into her eyes, piercing her soul and making it known that you are the Alpha, then she will end up with a mouthful of your cock, horny that she's able to please you and make you happy. That she's being put to good use.

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In this situation, I wouldn't continue with it further because you don't have the frame to make it work (my assumption because you're putting this on Reddit and begging for advice).

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Title	Not sure what to say next. Please help
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