She is not replying to your texts? MOVE ON instantly.

DarthFarris · 2020-09-14T09:13:18+00:00

I thinking blocking is a bit too far, but I agree. This goes for everyone, if they don’t text back, just forget about it. It’s not gonna happen.

I had a date with this girl last week. Mind you, she texts me asking to go out on Friday. I say sure. On Friday, I text her asking if we’re still on at around 12pm. She doesn’t respond until 8:30pm and says she’d been asleep (no she wasn’t, she was tweeting all day haha and we follow each other so idk what she was thinking). Anyway, at that point I just decided to hang with some friends and didn’t even respond. 2 days later she starts texting me, saying she’s sorry, responding quickly, blah blah blah.

Sometimes giving people a dose of their own medicine works. Or at least saves you a headache.

Simply_Bry · 2020-09-14T10:31:54+00:00

Blocking isn't necesarry I think. It can make you look a bit butthurt.

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_DaLi- · 2020-09-14T12:48:07+00:00

Blocking really seems like you are proving yourself something, seems like you are trying to tell yourself how cool you are and how valuable your time is, but deep down you dont actually believe it. Just stop texting her, that's good advice.

streetfighterv4 · 2020-09-14T11:09:25+00:00

I understand the situation but I don't think it was the best reaction at all. It showed that you were only affected. If it hadn't affected you, you wouldn't have blocked her and just followed your life. Regarding the girls who are slow to respond, I don't think it was the best advice either. That depends on the level of girls you are interested in, if you are looking for a woman who stays 24/7 on your instagram to covet the lives of others, that's fine! now you cannot draw conclusions that all girls take too long to answer because they are disinterested. Texting is just a means to an end, where the end is a date, for example. Don't expect to have excellent text conversations, the real magic happens face to face. But it is good that you value your time, that is excellent, now you do not always have to discard a girl just because it takes hours to answer, even because you, as you are focused on yourself, will not be there to answer. You have to ask yourself, is this girl worth my effort? Or am I just wasting my energy?

Strongandpretty300 · 2020-09-14T12:47:55+00:00

Life goes on whether she replies or not.

jefffffffff · 2020-09-14T16:51:07+00:00

This advice is absolute ass. Be persistent. Cant tell how many times ive fucked a girl because I texted her again

cutanddried · 2020-09-14T12:46:34+00:00

The sentiment is good. But to say the only reason she's not replying to your text is because you screwed up or is shallow is childish.

Many people actually dont attend to their phones every second. Especially at work.

Another great reason is that she's just not that into you. Which has nothing to do w being shallow, or that you screwed up.

EvilDomGM · 2020-09-14T11:55:36+00:00

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RelapsedSexAddict · 2020-09-14T15:12:42+00:00

100%. It took me years to realize it was my text game that was killing me. I honestly don’t understand people. I know what I like and I know what turns me on and how I would want a woman to interact with me. Turns out people are weird and don’t like the same thing I do.

So several years ago, my mentality became “I just don’t care anymore and all trying is doing is giving me more problems. I’m done with trying on these fake ass women.” That was my mentality and you would not believe the change that happened.

I was also trying to practice my general social skills at the time for professional advancement, etc. This meant I was smiling, bantering, etc with a lot of people I knew or met. Combine this with the general interest I occasionally receive from women, I was surrounded by people now that thought I was interested in them and who were interested in me. But as I said, I was operating under the ignore all girls cause all they’re ever gonna do is play games and I don’t have time for their shit mentality, so I never so much as asked for their numbers or snaps when it became clear they were interested. Many of these women all over my old college campus and in my classes, began to ask for my number. Of course, many of them were trying to hide all of this and to do it innocently and as passively as possible. As such, I used that as an excuse to say I had no clue they were interested in me if they brought that up cause I didn’t want to deal with them. I remember in my critical writing class, it was 90% women and at one point 6-7 girls in that class of 20 were always showing my physical interest, waiting for me after class, randomly look and smile at me in the middle of class, etc. I was sick of it. I despised most of the people in that class and school for that matter thinking all these bright faced immature 18-21year old college idiots are just gonna ruin my life if I so much as think about letting them.

Here’s the thing, I played along in person to be polite. I never showed interest in any of them but my usual smile and practicing banter apparently made them think I was interested in them and honestly I didn’t care enough to make them think otherwise. They wanna fuck with all these guys feelings, I’ll do the same... that was my mentality at the time. Some of them never messaged me, some wouldn’t stop, some would try. I just ignored them. In that 3-4 month span, I had gone from being someone who would have happily been with any one of those girls to someone who was really making my own standards because that was the first time in my life I had options that weren’t completely based on my looks. I needed standards and I realized once they started chasing me that I wasn’t actually attracted to 90% of them. There was this one girl in the class I was attracted to and she was the shyest one but clearly smiled and blushed at me in class all the time. She sat directly to my right. At this point, many of the girls were taking with each other about me not responding to them and instead of catching onto the fact that I wasn’t interested in them and their bullshit, they took it to be a competition. I had one girl a year after tell me that a couple of those girls thought I was interested because of the interactions we had in person, but thought I was a guy that needed to be impressed and who was waiting for some kind of attention grabber from them that would “lock me down”. One girl started randomly sending me very revealing pics of them in various swimsuits and underwear. At one point she and 2 other girls would always wait outside the classroom for me and it was really awkward since those 3 girls weren’t friends. So I would often try to avoid them and just keep walking past them which to them was an invitation to grab my arm or keep following me to my next class.

Key takeaway, be the guy girls want to be with, focus on your own life and mental health. Never ever go out there looking for a girl. It is a waste of time. If you show interest and she ain’t having any of that, in your head you must say to yourself “NEXT!” And move on.

If she wants to be with me after I shot my shot, she will either continue to respond normally and we will have a good relationship, or she will play games and she can chase me up and down broadway but I’m not going to go near having a relationship any of those girls cause it spells bad news long term and for the future of the relationship. I’m not desperate enough to settle for someone who can change their mind on such a whim.... that’s not genuine interest. That’s temporary infatuation and ego boosting. I don’t have time for that shit and neither do any of you.

7udgerKresnik · 2020-09-14T09:24:23+00:00

What if she replying immediately but her reply is just 1 emoji or 1-2 word

PumpkinFeet · 2020-09-14T13:13:32+00:00

either because you messed up interacting with her or she’s just shallow

Or maybe she's just busy. Or maybe she just doesn't like the kind of person you came across as via text.

VeganSoulz · 2020-09-14T13:21:07+00:00

A high value guy doesn't block. That is what a frustrated guy does. A high value guy has other activities in his life to keep him busy and sends a text first or in response, engages in conversation when it happens and doesn't when there isn't back and forth conversation going on. I feel for you since you had expectations that weren't met but also realize why you got worked up. You put too much attention into creating an ongoing text conversation. Did you try calling her? Leave a fun message for her to call you back when she can?

I also want to say that if you recognize in this experience that you want someone who communicates more and at least responds to you by saying, "I'm busy / will get back to you another time." Then nicely tell the girls that this is an expectation of yours when you start getting to know each other. A high value guy does lay out what he wants and doesn't put effort into those who can't meet them. But you have to mention it. People can't mind read.

hipnot_tohate · 2020-09-14T12:39:49+00:00

How old are you? You all sound very young. And it seems like this girl was playing games because you were too available. As an adult with a job where I have to be 100% focused for hours at a time and doing school work on my “off time” I don’t have time to text people all day. When I do respond I make my responses interesting and ask questions but if I don’t know what to say to the most recent text message I won’t answer it ?

My friends often go a few hours to even a day between answering my texts and I wouldn’t block them for it. Also after 1 or 2 dates no one is entitled to be priority number one.

Do you actually like this girl or did you just want to play a game back and “win”? because it sounds like you lost tbh

lunchladyshand · 2020-09-14T19:33:36+00:00

Woman here:

If I don’t call or text you back, I’m not “playing hard to get” or hoping you’ll chase me. I’m not interested.

Parzival027 · 2020-09-14T14:40:26+00:00

I know this sounds stupid, but when a guy i really like texts me I take forever to respond because I'm extremely anxious about having an interesting answer as well as sometimes im doing something or im out with someone so I dont want to give him half assed answers. So its not always like that.

Dextorian · 2020-09-14T14:47:31+00:00

Yeah I went on a date, had a great time even kissed her, she seemed into me. Dropped her a text a few days later no response followed up a week later no response! Having spoken since, fuck knows what happened but yeah move on

Ostirious · 2020-09-14T18:14:05+00:00

My God, men, it is so simple. The phone is for setting dates! That's it!

All you need to do is text her a definite place, day, and time to meet and cut the conversation altogether and continue doing your stuff.

If you truly value your time, this is what you need to do, and there is no need to worry about if she hasn't replied or how long she is taking or any of that bullshit. Since you set up a definite date and if she has a high level of attraction towards you, she will be looking forward to seeing you.

If she blows you off on the actual date, then you don't ever text her or reach out again (blocking her is unnecessary). It is like you said, "my time is valuable.”

CaptSkunk · 2020-09-14T13:36:10+00:00

Wait, she actually drove 5 hours to possibly meet you somewhere, unexpected? That sounds a bit crazy, no? Remember folks, never stick your dick in crazy.

cgarnett1988 · 2020-09-14T18:00:22+00:00

A lad I work with has a good method. Every time he messages a girl back he deletes them off what's app. That we he cant message again until they reply lol

Jimmy281 · 2020-09-14T18:50:13+00:00

Yep, people are literally scrolling through their phones while taking a shit. If she hasn't responded in a timely manner she doesn't give a fuck about you.

miggyshyper · 2020-09-14T14:41:50+00:00

“Or she is just shallow.” I stopped reading from there. You say it like women are supposed to like you when you text them. They don’t owe us shit.

Ludens0 · 2020-09-14T12:04:10+00:00

This is toxic advice, tbh.

What you should do is expect nothing in the first place, not texting too much if she doesn't reciprocate and just understand that not everyone is going to like you. Also, people has their phones 24/7 but I can not respond to everyone because I just don't feel like it. I just don't want and that's OK.

Being online is not an obligation to respond. Unlearn toxic behavior people, please.

ParaLegalese · 2020-09-14T13:26:14+00:00

I hate texting and won’t respond to it. I’m not here for you to text when you are bored or feeling needy

fagman7969 · 2020-09-14T15:42:33+00:00

Guys to summarize for him - if you’re a loser that sits on your phone all day and get bothered that someone hasn’t responded instantly to your messages, or even within a few hours, then you need to move on.

Kinda a retarded mindset to have - if you rely that much on constant communication to feel that someone likes you, I would suggest maybe not using your phone for a few days because that’s extremely pathetic

juju_brad · 2020-09-14T11:18:08+00:00

Sometimes you just have to charge it to the game and move on. Like you said women always have their phones on them, if she's not replying to you she's replying to someone else.

tacticalassassin · 2020-09-14T14:47:22+00:00

It makes sense, but I hate that this is the new normal. If it’s not instantly perfect then people move on instantly. No one is willing to put in the work to make something work if it’s not 100% ideal from the get go.

relentless_pma · 2020-09-15T20:37:41+00:00

Kinda stupid about these kind of posts (I have seen it a few times already) is that the advice is to move on if she does not replies. I agree to that. But the post(story always ends with the girl crawling back to you. When in most situations she will not crawl back and you really have to move on and meet other girls.

Dauntless11911 · 2020-09-14T18:39:36+00:00

There's a lot more to it, but this is good. I love how the "women" are giving arbitrary dogmatic reasons to get the guys not to do it.

Women that do this are guileful and manipulative. Guys that do it are the same. Ain't no reason in chasing someone that's wearing a mask. There is no genuiness there and there never will be. Just bondage and a hounding desire to not let the other person get the upper hand. They'll either dominate u or you'll dominate them. There is no love.

Edit: It's literally social witchcraft.

On another note, folks like me take a while to actually notice the first message. I'm not exactly a phone person. But, a LOT of women as the guy said are always around their phone (and a LOT of guys are too.). Especially in this day and age. If you "messed up texting her too much" she was never into u. You're simply a bother. Don't bother with her. Same with the gals, "if u messed up texting him too much" he was never into u.

She'll then try to get your attention like a cat that wants to be petted. Not worth the effort or time. If there's no genuine interest and interaction at the beginning there will never be any. Don't fool yourself. They'll just use u, both the men and women.

Conclusion?

When u see the message, just answer it.

Don't like the person? Let em know.

Some folks are busy and see it, but have the memory of a colander and may forget to reply thanks to be swamped in something. (this is literally me) This rarely happens. But, I will always reply. Especially when a conversation is initiated. I ain't manipulative, why the hell would I not reply if I see a notification?

Some guys and gals employ the, "not replying too soon" when dating. You think the other person will think I'm desperate and too easy. Y'all are idiots. U both decided to date for a reason. Why would the other person think that if they're genuinely interested in the you? Not a soul on this earth who's worth a lick of salt would if theyre interested. And if they do think like that they're a tare and not a wheat. Stay away from em. Don't touch em with a 9 foot pole. There is no love there.

P. S some "folks" are desperate and easy. And some folks are genuinely interested in you. Reward them lovingly and match the beat of their heart. An "easy person" opens up their legs for any Tom, Dick and Harry that whispers in their ear sweet enough. Someone's who's heart is open is not an easy person. Just a genuine one.

Don't want to be used?

Marriage before sex weeds out the majority of tares. Save yourself some dignity. Give yourself some value. You are valuable. You don't have to become someone's personal whore to prove that u love them. Don't take that bait.

oikmule · 2020-09-14T14:05:30+00:00

Maybe she was worried you became suicidal due to the fact that she didn't text back and went out in the dark to let go of your woes.

Then on the bridge some thugs beat the crap out of you and stole your phone. They tortured you into telling them your password and they blocked all communication from outside so they wouldn't get caught.

After taking your phone, they kicked you into the river for the piranhas to feast on.

However, you managed to escape the piranhas with your swimming lessons you had in elementary school, but you got injured badly.

No-one is there while you are lying down badly injured by the bridge and she knows it's all her fault for not replying to your text.

Of course anyone would be concerned! Girls can be evil but at the end of the day they're human and don't want to murder you!

Sultmaker_9000 · 2020-09-14T09:53:59+00:00

To a point. You learn to feel the force over time. An example I can think of is when she's just come out of a relationship, and doesn't want to feel slutty about meeting up or something, it's just her rules, and you might not know her situation. I've had this at least 3 times, and it always led to an ONS when I sent a text a few weeks later.

Personally I don't block. Your situation is different in that you kinda know the girl from acquaintances all my women come from cold. But yes, never over chase.

EvilDomGM · 2020-09-14T14:06:26+00:00

We are all reading a bit much i to blocking her.

If he did it from a point of view of these interactions will never be productive for anyone, the best thing for everyone involved is for me to make this not be a part of my life any longer then yeah that's a great thing to do. I do the same thing with a lot of friends of friends on social media who have extreme political views (both parties). I'm not saying any buddies right or wrong in those situations, but interacting with people like that cuz I'm going to make anyone's life better and I find it a distraction.

If he thought that he was going to show her something and prove how cool he was then play some games then yeah that's not a great habit.

And I think everybody here probably knows that things that can be summarized exactly the same can have very different vibes. If this lady is still interested in him after he did this then I'm guessing the odds are he did it from mindset of this is not a great way to spend my time.

JustNatalieK · 2020-09-14T14:36:42+00:00

My question is do you feel maybe you came on a bit too strongly? Does she have a life to live? Because (now I'm going simply by what you wrote) you are coming across as a control freak. Women get as many mixed messages as men do. "Wait a few days to text" "See if he texts you first" "If he is pushing to meet you quickly he is just looking for a hook up" "Oh ya his ex is a crazy stalker bitch" etc. I'm glad you took a stand for yourself but were you being reasonable? I ghosted one guy and only 1 because he was pressuring to meet me right away (regardless of my schedule) and the steak knife to the heart comment "Pics?"..and I'm not talking about selfies.

doctorduckylucky · 2020-09-14T15:01:01+00:00

I see your point. I don’t agree with all of it. I’d go off case by case basis. I do believe everyone’s time is important. Personally, I’m seeing someone who doesn’t always text back. That’s fine with me though because I know his work hours and what best times to reach him. Not every text needs a reply. I know he’s seen it, that can be good enough. I F(28) respond back most of the time if I’m not busy. We’ve gone days, even a week without text. I believe it all boils down to a few things. The trust you share, the confidence you have in the relationship, and truly knowing someone. Also the maturity you possess. I feel if you need constant contact with someone like that it’s a sign of being needy. (Also a red flag)Then it becomes a whole other thing about if the needy partner actually likes you or isn’t able to comfortably be alone.

I do think blocking someone is a bit too far. But I do understand and respect the need to distance yourself away. Especially if your feeling become sour. If I’d have been you I would have given her the courtesy of calling or texting her saying “look I’m unhappy with the lack of communication when I feel like you are constantly on your phone. I don’t appreciate being ignored when I clearly care for you. Understand that I feel like I’m not a priority. I need/want someone who’s willing to communicate more.” Something like that. She could just not even realize what she did. (In which case you might not want her anymore anyways.) But even though everyone’s time is important that doesn’t mean the your time matters more than hers. More than anything I think the lack or respect she’s showing rubs you the wrong way more.

Side note- you didn’t make a statement or stand on this. You ghosted and created an ultimatum she wasn’t even aware of. You ghosted. You blocked. You shut her out. Which is also just as disrespectful.

soliz_love · 2020-09-14T15:18:33+00:00

Blocking makes you look like a butthurt.

For me,if someone replies late then I just never text again and that does the job just fine.

nmj510 · 2020-09-14T15:41:47+00:00

This is NOT TRUE. I literally leave my phone at home sometimes to detach. No social media outside reddit and really try to be present.

If women are on their phones 24/7 how the hell would she even have time to acknowledge let alone pay attention to you?

I'm not at your beck and call nor do I have to respond immediately. The entitlement to ones time is ridiculous.

entertn9710 · 2020-09-14T16:48:00+00:00

This is really bad advice people.

MagyarAccountant · 2020-09-14T22:01:47+00:00

and don't believe the shit like "sry I'm just bad at replying"....been there done that... next

falennon_ · 2020-09-14T22:32:09+00:00

As a woman, I have to agree with the priority part. Though to add to the reasons, she might not be looking for anything serious (which would be why you aren’t a priority). But if that’s the case, she should be upfront about that. I’m sure you prob would’ve kept the texts casual if you knew that and were still interested anyway.

Or maybe you want something serious and aren’t interested in wasting the time. Unfortunately (and I know I’m preaching to the choir here), I know there are some women that like the attention too much to be honest with you because they’re afraid this is the case (insert your mention of shallow here). Those that do this suck.

Honestly, I’m sorry you went through that, and your time is just as valuable as hers is (which she obviously didn’t think was the case). I’m glad you didn’t give in though. For girls like that, if she got your attention back on her, she more than likely wouldn’t work so hard to keep it (again), and you’d be going through the same thing in a few weeks time.

EDIT: Honestly, there could be a number of reasons she suddenly stopped texting so often or was thrown off by you texting much more often than her. So, I probably wouldn’t block someone that did that too me. Yeah it can be a turn off, but are they really worth the effort of sticking it to them like that? We’re all different though, so whatever makes you feel better.

Phoenx2480 · 2020-09-14T22:35:19+00:00

I don’t like how we’re focused on how having self respect “looks” and this comment section supporting all of this shows me that it’s time to go. By pushing away people who can’t always text, you are filtering out people who are busy. That is something I actually desire. Obviously them never texting you and never making time for you is different but blocking them if they don’t instantly text you filters out the girls that I want.

ibuymyown · 2020-09-14T22:57:47+00:00

It takes 2.5 sec to text hi to someone. There are 24 hours in a day, all 7 days of the week. If they can’t find the 2.5 sec to text hi, then they’re not worth your time.

lolalololee · 2020-09-14T23:14:47+00:00

Yikes! This is some toxic incel stuff.

If they stops texting you, they’re just not that into you. Not everyone is for everyone and that’s ok. Don’t take it personally and move on; they did you a favor by not wasting your time.

badkitty71190 · 2020-09-14T23:45:49+00:00

Also realizing that people are busy and sometimes forget to text back. So it doesn't hurt to text at least one more a day or so later. But if there's still no response, it is time to move on.

Alarmed-Knowledge420 · 2020-09-15T00:01:06+00:00

Then there's me who frequently loses their phone for days at a time

RIP

PraiseTheWalls69 · 2020-09-15T00:16:12+00:00

Lmao, this is the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard

azarcard · 2020-10-12T10:22:32+00:00

Is it just me or every contact I have ever deleted, they never texted me again.

Kind of makes me think it was the right thing to delete the contact in the first place.

Gunavenkat · 2022-03-06T04:31:41+00:00

You are great bro it really motivated me👍🏻

LoneWolfSpartan · 2022-03-22T22:59:34+00:00

Exactly I'm about to leave my gf too, says why does she have to text she hates it. Like bitch bye

heavykick89 · 2022-07-25T12:05:50+00:00

I had a similar situation going on, this girl suddenly stops responding and just reading my messages in ig, she did it once and I said ok and let it slide for some time. Then I messaged her again some days later and left me on read, and I said ok she is not worth my time anymore and decided to move on from her, I did not block her I just removed her from my followers and my following, and unfriended on facebook. Yeah it pissed me off a bit but honestly why would I want her to remain on my feeds, better to go on with my life and when I open social media it is better to not see anything about her, period. Anger passed on pretty quickly after that. Better to invest your time to a girl who actually wanna talk to you.

4G3ntl3m4n · 2020-09-14T18:15:59+00:00

You blocked her and she drove 5 hours on the expectation that you will show up? It reads like a teen's revenge porn novel.

supremeideology · 2020-09-14T18:11:23+00:00

Women are like cats. They come when they want, go when they want to. Just keep doing your thing and they'll come back around. Women enjoy freedom.

drevenx13 · 2020-09-14T13:14:56+00:00

Finish the story!

TowelSmacker · 2020-09-14T13:33:54+00:00

I just block them so there’s no chance of being a rebound if another option falls through.

Pringles__ · 2020-09-14T14:46:32+00:00

I agree with the post, you did a very good job and you understand what attraction and seduction is about.

Yet, blocking her was a bad idea. This shows that you cared too much about her that you bothered to block her. Instead, I would have just ignored her message if she ever sent me one. If she didn't, it's okay, her loss.

I don't feel the need to manipulate her by blocking her and show her how butthurt I am because I can date another girl who will be more interested than her.

N0_name83726 · 2020-09-14T14:54:13+00:00

A good dose of their own medicine makes wonders! Ha

anon1880 · 2020-09-14T14:54:57+00:00

Great post but if she is hot i would have gone to that party :) half joking-half truth :)

ZiggyZig1 · 2020-09-14T14:58:50+00:00

This will show that you have some self respect and your time is valuable and not to be wasted.

Show who? Her or yourself?

Because my time is valuable and I’m not going to waste it

I never really understood when others say this. It doesn't take much time to text someone. Unless you meant this metaphorically.

Then I had learned that the girl did the 5 hours drive to see if I would be there.

This is bizarre to me. Really? Why would someone drive that long (or even an hour honestly) when they don't want to hear from someone? Why not just text you if she'd like to chat. This is weird. Out of curiosity who told you she did the 5 hour drive just to see you?

dvamain8897 · 2020-09-14T15:50:06+00:00

I tried messaging my ex crush, no reply so I just unsent the message and moved on with my life

KingRandor82 · 2020-09-14T15:54:28+00:00

as much as many folks will hate me for saying it, you're basically summing up what the host of the Youtube channel "Strong Successful Male" says all the time.

I think overall you did everything right, even if it's not what's commonly "accepted" to be, as it were.

Dwaynedibley24601 · 2020-09-14T16:42:08+00:00

This is a great story... You have hit the nail on the head... Women are motivated by what they can't have... if you are too interested you are considered conquered and they move on to the next... doing what you did shows you are not conquered and that is hard for the female psyche to deal with. If you had shown up at the same party as her but had an attractive date... she would have either started a fight with your date or tried to fuck you . They just need to win.

PoPoPanda13 · 2020-09-14T16:42:50+00:00

This sounds a bit extreme. I will be in no rush to answer ANYONE unless I’m REALLY into them/the conversation/bored...and that usually takes a bit. And how the girl was acting after the blocking seems like an extreme case. Not just speaking for myself but all my friends as well, we should never chase or care that much about a guy we chose to pass on.

It’s fucked up but some girls like a guy that will just feed her ego so she’ll keep him close enough to still compliment her and what not, to give her attention and feel desired. But then as soon as she finds someone she’s truly interested in, she’ll stop contact with him....idk maybe that’s not just a girl thing, that’s just what I’ve observed

Visualize_ · 2020-09-14T16:54:58+00:00

Blocking her sounds like you are super insecure. Like theres nothing wrong with moving on, but blocking her seems like you are trying to give yourself definitive closure so your ego doesn't get hurt.

LittleBitchyBanana · 2020-09-14T17:03:56+00:00

Woah. 😂 Do you, but what you are saying is not true. Some women work, study, go to the gym, not to mention me-time (self care) and simply are not on the phone 24/7 because they have better things to do. I am not saying replying after 1 week to someone because it’s disrespectful, but also I almost never reply instantly. If you want a girlfriend tied to the phone, do you. 🤷‍♀️

brutusdidnothinwrong · 2020-09-14T17:35:35+00:00

Why never text her again? Be open to it

You don't know why she's not answering. Don't throw out the possibility she's interested just slow to get back to you for some reason

static_madman · 2020-09-14T17:38:53+00:00

Now thats some good words right there !

emjlew_ · 2020-09-14T17:52:53+00:00

I think in some scenarios girls are shallow and get weird if you text too much and show that you are interested. However, the minority of women (myself included) would love to have this happen. There is nothing wrong with a man showing interest in talking to a woman because for some it happens very far and between. It's great that you blocked her and moved on because your time is valuable, and there's nothing worse than feeling like its been wasted. However I would just use this as a learning curve, because not every person is the same and it also helps you realise what you do and don't want from finding a partner.

slammedcavi254 · 2020-09-14T18:07:10+00:00

Thanks to all. Experiencing this right now

gmahogany · 2020-09-14T18:20:22+00:00

One caveat: I’ve thought a couple girls were not interested at all because of how long they’d go without responding. When I did end up meeting up with these girls, they were very interested and never looked at their phone.

Some people are better about being present in the real world vs sucked into the digital.

So the safe assumption for late responses is that they’re not interested. But as always, just don’t take anything personally. Don’t double text but don’t feel disrespected or whatever

TheSoundOfMyCockVYBE · 2020-09-14T18:26:53+00:00

Dude ur making shit up if she doesn’t text back she could have a billion things going on that have nothing to do with you. I love how u say either u fucked up or she is shallow. Yeah ok. Dink

Bulucbasci · 2020-09-14T18:41:01+00:00

This sort of PUA things don't really work.

Vennia_ · 2020-09-14T18:52:41+00:00

This seems a bit extreme. Sometimes there are outside factors, be it work, genuine forgetfulness, or even phone issues. People have lives. Blocking is excessive, but if they're expecting you to chase after them, yeah, that's rude on their end and they likely aren't the type of person to pursue even for a one night stand. I just genuinely think applying that logic to literally any female alive is some intense generalization that could end up forcing you to lose out in the end. Don't be so close minded because you had a few bad experiences.

stare_at_the_sun · 2020-09-14T18:59:56+00:00

I haven’t texted people back because of tragedy and a million other reasons, even if I am interested. Sometimes there’s a million things I want to say and get analysis paralysis.

RYjack23 · 2020-09-14T19:15:09+00:00

100% agree with stop messaging first all the time and also if the conversation is one sided where your always trying to build on the convo itself but she just gives dull and short replies stop messaging aswell this doesn’t mean soon as they start sometimes people are busy but if it’s constant for a day or two of nothing but hard hard graft then leave it someone else will love the attention your giving and will respricate the same energy

Skinny_Wizard · 2020-09-14T19:18:04+00:00

Don't block them,also people have stuff to do they don't owe you shit like 1 hour replies. A high value person that does things like working out etc wont text you immediately,have some self respect and do shit too.

putcoolusernamehere · 2020-09-14T21:07:47+00:00

Disagree. Talk to other chicks and occasionally send out bulk messages to the leads that stopped responding to try to get an occasional reply.

starry_eyes222 · 2020-09-14T21:35:53+00:00

Same for guys

KingRemu · 2020-09-14T21:57:49+00:00

Blocking every flakey girl seems a bit excessive and might make you lose out on some great opportunities. Move on with your life of course but leave these girls on the back burner.

This girl was interested in you as soon as she saw your value which you failed to demonstrate at first I'm assuming. I'm not saying she's great relationship material, it's impossible to judge with this little information, but you probably would've gotten laid with her if that's something you're interested in.

fcukyofeelingzz · 2020-09-14T22:04:51+00:00

this is a 🚩🚩RED FLAG🚩🚩to me. If you got this uptight over a few no replies, I wonder how badly you’d react if you guys were dating and got into an actual argument with each other... and not just yourself, like this time.

AhYeaOhYea · 2020-09-14T22:08:18+00:00

To avoid over texting:

If she texts you, limit your text length to no more than twice the length of her text. Don’t make it a chore to read your long story when she may not even be that interested. It will force you to get to the point, edit your poorly worded long reply.

If she doesn’t respond, always give it 24 hours. You get one follow up text so make it count. Never address the disappearance. Just a passing thought or question to keep the convo going. Once you have two un-replied text, you should just forget her unless she replies. She isn’t interested. If she was just busy, she will reply.

If she is taking a while to respond, slow down yourself. If she consistently takes 24 hours to reply. Start responding just before going to bed. You’re showing you’re interested but not sitting there waiting for her reply.

augustpoppy · 2020-09-14T22:25:13+00:00

but like also a lot of times women do this because they’re not interested and they don’t want have to come right out and reject you, especially because you don’t give them the chance to. at some point you have to pay attention to social cues, no need to make women look bad for trying to let u down easy!! ofc it always depends on the situation tho

AligatorTears · 2020-09-14T22:40:48+00:00

I apply a fire and forget policy.

If I've sent a text then the ball is in their court and I have no intention of carrying the conversation. I have alerts so I'll know if they've responded and will respond back.

That said, I know I'm guilty of reading a text and thinking I've sent the reply when I only thought I had, so I'll give the benefit of the doubt once and do a temperature check in a few days, but that's the end of it.

I don't block anybody because honestly I don't need to.

fishster9prime_AK · 2020-09-14T23:43:50+00:00

You have a point, but this is not how I would say it. Yes, if a girl is not responding, you NEED TO STOP texting her. Continuing to text without replies will make you look extremely need and desperate, and will be a complete turnoff for her.

On the other hand, you shouldn’t “move on instantly” or block her. There are so many reasons a girl might not be responding. The main one (at least for Tinder) is that she had so many guys trying to talk to her that she’s forgotten about you— to her you’re no different than any other guy.

So what do you do? Just wait. A month maybe two, forget about her for a while. Then, if you still want to make a connection, send her a casual “hello again” type text. She’s probably forgotten about you, but this text will intrigue her. It will set you apart from the rest of the guys; it shows you thought she was memorable, and didn’t want to completely forget here.

Some time ago, I matched with a very cute girl. I opened with a cheesy joke. It took her four months to respond to that. We had a fairly dry conversation, and she again left me on read. Another month, and she replied. This time, I didn’t wast any time and just asked her number. Called her immediately, and have been FaceTiming off and on for a while. Unfortunately, she lives across the country so we can’t meet. Sometimes you just have to be patient!

anderfernandes · 2020-09-15T00:22:07+00:00

Totally agree with the title.

I still use Neil Strauss's great teaching in this first book with my own spin: only text a woman to get her to go out with you or to reply to her. When they are not replying, it is probably because they are with a guy who did exactly that, or THEY are texting the guy who asked her out.

NEVER EVER text a woman something like "wyd". They probably won't reply because they are too busy replying to the guy who asked her out.

Be firm when you send a text to a woman. Have a place and time already defined. If she doesn't like the arrangements, she will tell you when and where she would like to go. If she's not interested, she will either not reply or say no.

siltman · 2020-09-15T01:15:41+00:00

"I'm not on my phone that much"

That's the biggest bullshit you'll ever hear. Holy fuck.

brackattack27 · 2020-09-15T02:25:54+00:00

I wouldn’t have blocked but I will try this

aiolius · 2020-09-15T02:34:40+00:00

What are you, 17?

EstoopidFahim · 2020-09-15T02:43:11+00:00

I have a question, what if she was interested heavily texting you every hour she gets to respond constantly back and forth and then you guys have a stalemate of not texting for a while and then im here checking up on her multiple times and then she just blantantly ignores me. I already know the answer, she isnt interested anymore, but reassure me please lmao

pcbh1 · 2020-09-15T03:10:38+00:00

I’d say this goes for everyone... not just women.

UAsolracz · 2020-09-15T03:31:56+00:00

Blocking is to toxic I feel like

aiquoc · 2020-09-15T03:53:51+00:00

If she doesn't respond, just don't try to keep texting her again until she does. It's impossible that she doesn't check her phone for messages frequently (men or women, we all do that). Even if she missed it, if she had any interest in the guy texted her before, she would wonder why she had not seen anything from him for a long time, and check again. So either she purposely ignore the messages, or doesn't even care enough.

But you don't need to react negatively either. Just act as if nothing happen and move on. If you act in a good manner, she should be the one to feel bad about not responding properly. Deleting and blocking her don't make anything different and only show that you are hurt and affected by her rejection. But of course you can do that if you need. Bottom line is you should not feel too attached. Just move on normally.

ashmen92 · 2020-09-15T04:41:11+00:00

Not replying to your texts? She might be enjoying her mee time bro. Chill.

Shashankmiller · 2020-09-15T05:09:11+00:00

Blocking is what butt hurt people would do, kinda immature. Except that part, I agree with u

Hunkytoni · 2020-09-15T05:21:57+00:00

How old are you? Not sarcastically, but this is way off base. I’ve not texted men that I’ve been very interested back because I’m focused on work, take that focus seriously, and don’t feel like the progression of technology puts me at anyone’s beck and call. This is stage five clinger ish.

willgo-waggins · 2020-09-15T05:36:26+00:00

100% on the money.

Even as an older, wiser and more mature guy I had this go down last year with a GF.

Once I realized and ignored her she got to all kinds of maneuvering to “show up” at a place she found out I was going to be.

Still cyber stalking me now and even more so since she knows I’m with someone else.

dumthot · 2020-09-15T05:42:57+00:00

Y’all are wilding sometimes I forget to reply. Sometimes I am in the middle of doing something. Sometimes too much time passes and life gets in the way and I feel awkward continuing an old convo. And to be honest I’m so used to being one out of so many girls that a guy is talking to that I want to see if he will keep reaching out because I want to know if I’m actually worth it for the guy or if I’m just a body to him or a way to pass the time. Definitely don’t let a girl use you but just move on no need to be so vengeful this is just how things are now due to hookup culture and dating apps etc opening up a lot of options for either gender. Just relax and move on if you don’t feel like your time is being valued, nobody wants to date someone who will be so harsh about a texting mistake, life’s too short

Oycla · 2020-09-15T05:50:04+00:00

Yikes. She dodged a bullet by not dating you.

godofgainz · 2020-09-15T05:53:53+00:00

Agree, but blocking is not necessary. When they text again, which they will, reply back with “who dis?”. This insinuates that you erased their contact from your phone which is way more damaging to their ego.

fishmonger7 · 2020-09-15T06:01:22+00:00

Not a romantic relationship but a female friend texted me the other day and still hasn’t got back to my response. It’s honestly so frustrating at times, I’m much happier not receiving any messages at all then something like that where they respond and then ghost you. And your right, everyone is on their phone these days so not responding is akin to throwing away the letter.

cowboy-be-bop · 2020-09-15T06:15:08+00:00

This is like an incel gone right???

madisonbakes · 2020-09-15T06:45:31+00:00

You make the stereotype of men being overly sensitive even more true. Women want to converse with you as long as it’s relevant and interesting. Sometimes we’ve got other things to do. Dont be dramatic and block when someone doesn’t reply. We’ve all got burdens of our own to carry

leshhgooo · 2020-09-15T06:48:57+00:00

Never block a women it ruins potential future advances

Myz1988 · 2020-09-15T07:07:24+00:00

Kids playing kids games. “I started texting her but I texted too much because her friend secretly told me about it on the playground so I ghosted her”.

Pudding_people · 2020-09-15T07:44:08+00:00

This is not always true. I'm dating this girl now who practically never replies to my texts but I saw her yesterday in person and she laughs at every joke I make and cant get her hands off me. I'm guessing she gets nervous the text conversation won't go anywhere so that's why she's avoiding it.

woshISMYcake · 2020-09-15T11:53:13+00:00

I was in a similar situation vaguely but its not like this situation, my situation is I recently had a friend who is a girl texted me in Facebook she was dropping her anger on me because her BF and her isnt in a good terms at the moment, being a good guy and all. I kinda let myself comfort her in her worst moments, to Im not emotionally or physically attracted to her nor wanted to be with her, she's not that even damn attractive I suggest to her that she should talk it out to her bf what their problem is, then after a week I got suddenly add by her BF and told me to fuck the way off cause I was manipulating her GF to breaking up with him, mind you he also has all her password and all of that but I was baffled when i read it, then I said to him that ok, it will never happen again and I dont want to caused too much drama. Then after a month not contacting her she message me about things that I don't even give a crap about, but as the good guy and dont want condrontation I just said that I dont really want to cause any trouble between him and her, i dont wanna be in the middle of their fight, and I said we can still be friends but we should give distance to one another, after an hour or two leaving my phone charge, then i kinda look in to our messages to our messages to look if I send something looks fishy,. Then its just confusing that she block me after saying that its okay and we can still be friends, to be honest after the feeling of being confuse i shrug it off, in the morning I just find out that she allegedly accusing me of seducing her and post shit about me on social media, I lost tons of freinds because of this I tried to tell them the truth but they wouldn't listen well at least I got of couple of people want to listen, so now Im just here living my life and block her and her boyfriend and our circle of friends, i have a better freinds now and alex fuck you

Strict_Builder_9510 · 2020-09-15T15:01:56+00:00

I've sent a connection request to someone and it's been 2 days but she hasn't accepted it, should i keep the sent request pending or cancel it right away?

notwhitechoco · 2020-09-15T15:11:57+00:00

GOAT

Jarin01 · 2020-09-15T19:51:57+00:00

This is one of the most useful things I have learned from reading some of the better books on pickup. If a girl isn't enthusiastically pursuing you then her interest level is too low.

There would be girls that I liked and I wasn't sure if they liked me or not and I would waste so much time on them. Going out of my way to see them, chatting them up, asking them out. Only to have them take hours to answer my texts or flaking on dates.

If a girl really likes you then she will make the pickup process easy. As long as you don't get weird or try to get physical too early she will quickly agree to giving you her number and going on a date with you.

A woman that isn't interested will make excuses about why she can't go out on a certain day. A woman that is interested will cancel her plans so that she can see you or at the very least will suggest another day. And she will above all respond to you text messages right away.

If you are not sure that a girl likes you or she is dragging her feet about going out then just write her off, go quite. If she does like you then she will start chasing you.

MarcVincent888 · 2020-09-21T07:24:30+00:00

sounds like though you felt like you got rejected and took it pretty hard. this was also magnified by your friends reaction that texting daily ruined it.

sometimes people aren't sure and like to wait it out, let it breathe and see if you will. A little rash to block and not show up to the party just because she was there. imho, she drove 5 hours just to see you but you didn't see that all you saw was that she didn't reply right away

pierfishmarket · 2020-10-14T00:33:53+00:00

I find chasing a woman demeaning. It should be a mutual attraction and mutual effort

lazorback · 2020-10-25T10:19:39+00:00

What AWFUL manipulative advice 😂 some girls actually have something better to do than reply right away... How yOuR tIMe BeInG vAlUaBlE is enough for you to completely lose interest is beyond me.

If it really bothers you maybe communicate that fact and if she reacts badly then feel free to move on? Basic communication skills.

Ill-Blacksmith-9545 · 2021-01-18T00:38:45+00:00

Or maybe she was interested but was just busy?

Lil_T-Total · 2020-09-14T12:44:12+00:00

Hmm Yh probably best. I’ve been talking to someone and was talking fine for like 4-5 days. And then the one day she left me on read. But then replied the next day. And then we sent a few messages again that day. Then she replied again the next day and now it’s been like over 24 hours with no reply. So I’m kinda confused because when she does message the energy is still there like I mean we’ve exchanged numbers it’s not just on tinder or nothing. And she will still message back like laughing or using emojis and asks me some questions. So idk

Riccardo91 · 2020-09-14T18:55:32+00:00

Blocking her was silly. Only shows that you were frustrated with her thus expected too much from her. Confident man wouldnt care enough to block.

Also part of story where she drove 5 hours just to check if you were there doesnt sound realistic. Maybe it is something that you wish was the case.

christinebrennan1990 · 2020-09-14T19:27:04+00:00

So you mess up by texting too much and scaring her off and its somehow her fault? Then you proceed to block HER? Lol youre making yourself sound crazy that or you must just be young. It also doesn't make someone shallow if they dont respond. You're entire post makes you look bitter and petty.

ciudad_gris · 2020-09-15T00:06:05+00:00

I had this happen to me with a chick that was smoking hot (an 8). She sent me a text one Sunday afternoon and for medical reasons I was not able to reply to her message that night even though I saw it; replied to her next morning.

Next time I texted her about something you expect to be replied the same day o even the next day, she took 3 days to reply with an "oh just saw your message", even though she is on her phone 24/7.

After that she kept showing interest but I stopped expressing interest. I was 33 and she was 25. I don't really have the time nor the energy for juvenile mind games.

sleepyhead260 · 2020-09-14T14:48:06+00:00

This literally happened to me few weeks ago. Long story short I met this really cute girl in one of my classes so I tried to find her on the socials and initiated a conversation. We talked briefly via DM the first time, things were pretty cool. 2 days later I sent her another message- never got any reply. Figured it could be a lag or she had too many messages so mine went to the lower so I texted her again "Heya" and she didn't reply either. Thats when I knew she was just simply uninterested in me. Man that hurts but I know I gotta move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

Really_Not_Rick · 2020-09-15T04:34:24+00:00

My girl sometimes replies instantly and sometimes takes several hours but it always happens. I also tend to take a several minutes to hours because we’re both busy with college.

autisticspymaster1 · 2020-09-14T12:45:10+00:00

This is really valuable advice, I think more of us need to learn to let go. I sure do.

STylerMLmusic · 2020-09-14T15:06:21+00:00

Going nuclear and blocking her because she wasn't giving you attention has gotta be the most toxic shit I've seen on here recently, but otherwise you're correct. If someone wants to talk to you, they will, if they don't, they won't.

christinebrennan1990 · 2020-09-14T19:22:46+00:00

Not replying means shes shallow? Wow. Ya nice one 🤦‍♀️🤢🤮

JubJubBang7 · 2020-09-14T22:54:22+00:00

No free attention

SohrabMushtaq · 2022-07-14T07:16:28+00:00

You're spot on in your first sentence. And you did the right and got her chasing after you in return. But for soft hearted people its tough to ignore.

EsWai77 · 2022-08-18T20:17:49+00:00

Been talking to this girl. We were matched together. We live across the seas lol. Anyways we're getting to know each other and clicking pretty well but it's been slowing down a bit as of late. I shared with her a family pic and she ignored. It's been 3 days now and I'm not going to reach out first. Its just annoying she'd ignore... a family pic of all things. Kinda disrespectful lol

Title	She is not replying to your texts? MOVE ON instantly.
Author	drevenx13
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Comments	298
Date	September 14, 2020 9:03 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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