I’m sure you’ve all seen or heard of the “phenomenon” of fat girls confidently or openly hitting on good looking in shape guys. Maybe you yourself have spent a year or two getting in great shape, your face isn’t bad as far as you know, yet the only difference you’re seeing is now some fat girls hit on you from time to time.

It’s because fat, ugly, hot, you name it, women all find the same attractive men attractive. It’s not enough to just be a few points above her. That doesn’t spark it. You have to be actively attractive and therefore attractive to most women.

Women who settle for guys who are not traditionally or obviously attractive go through a self bargaining phase. They may even “grow to like” a guy who isn’t “hot” over time, but he still doesn’t make them feel the “tingles” or the arousal - regardless of how she looks herself.

A lot of women who say they see women with average men all the time in LTR’s truly see them as average or less, even if the guy is above average or a little bit attractive.

And very attractive women will still find most hot guys attractive but are immune to it because they get so much attention from them that they can see feel a guy looks good but KNOW they can land better, so treat even good looking guys as if they’re pretty basic looking, whereas unattractive women know they don’t have those options - hence why they openly hit on a guy who is still much above her league, a guy who should in theory match up with a pretty girl, but the pretty girl whilst finding him attractive is still flooded with even better options