I feel pretty strongly about the fact that a man (or a woman, I would give women the same advice actually) should never make women, love and sex his sole or even primary source of happiness in his life. Doing so will inevitably create a neediness and desperation which will drive women away.

Why is that so? When you send yourself the message that you have a hole inside of you the exact same size and shape as a woman and that only a woman will be able to fill this hole and make you complete, in essence you turn yourself into a beggar who is going around and chasing others hoping they will compete him. It's no different than the homeless guy who comes over to you to try and hit you up for money. It's a real turn off when people are needy and desperate and it's even more so in romantic/sexual relationships. I think every woman can attest to the fact that she can smell said desperation on a man from miles away.

I encourage men to look at women as icing on the cake. The thing that makes life extra sweet. But the thing is, there still needs to be a cake for it to have icing on top. And that cake is what men should be focusing on. This means their friendships with other men, their purpose in life, their careers. Women should be like a fine dining restaurant. Something that you go to every once in a while, but in between those times you eat at home. The source of your happiness and fulfillment in life should be found elsewhere and not in women.

Mind you there is nothing negative or denigrating about this. I'm not telling men to give up on women and never try to get laid or get a girlfriend. I'm not telling men "women are shit, why would you need them in the first place". I leave this bitter and vindictive thinking to the RedPill and related subs. But the minute you give up the thinking that you are doomed to be lonely and incomplete if you don't have a woman and start enjoying life and finding happiness in other things, women will magically start being attracted to you much more.

You don't really have to take my word for it. Every guy who has ever dated knows that when he is single and looking, somehow women are nowhere to be found. But the second he gets a girlfriend, other women come out of the woodwork sending him signals of interest. Weird? Yes, but there you have it. I've outlined your solution.