Why do women like giving blowjobs?

Infinite_Signal90 · 2024-04-17T05:16:42+00:00

I’ve even had men I had casual with go down on me unprompted so I don’t know where you’re getting the idea men do this out of a sense of obligation. My husband loves when I sit on his face.

As for why I like blowjobs? As a straight woman, I like dicks. The reaction you get from a man when you have his dick in your mouth is wonderful and a huge turn on.

You sound like an alien trying to understand humanity.

EulenWatcher · 2024-04-17T04:39:26+00:00

First of all, quite a lot of men like going down on their partner.

Secondly, people of both genders like pleasing their partner and seeing them having a great time.

Thirdly, people can pretend to please their partner. Sometimes a bj doesn't really feel great physically, but you like their reaction so you keep going.

napthaleneneens · 2024-04-17T05:46:24+00:00

I’m in the minority that don’t like doing it. It feels degrading emotionally but I have other reasons that contribute to me not enjoying it in addition. Like being physically incapable of it.

januaryphilosopher · 2024-04-17T05:31:49+00:00

Men like it and women like seeing their partners having a good time because they care about them and it's hot. Loads of men love giving oral for the same reason. Being a selfish lover makes people terrible in bed. Do you seriously only want to do sex acts that directly give you pleasure?

leosandlattes · 2024-04-17T04:31:10+00:00

Porn brained bait question. Lol.

kalashhhhhhhh · 2024-04-17T06:43:35+00:00

Men either refuse to lick pussy or only do it out of obligation. I think a lot of men view the act as disgusting.

Thank god my every partner loved to do it. I couldn't be in a relationship with a guy who only did it out of obligation.

And their reaction to this, instead of disgust and thinking "I never want to do this again, is "Mmmmmm, give me more". What exactly is so appealing about sucking dick?

We're straight and attracted to men (at least the men we're sleeping with). What exactly are you not getting?

Why would a blowjob be degrading?

Safinated · 2024-04-17T15:13:25+00:00

Women complain about blowjobs all the time

That’s exactly why it’s called a job

jonni_velvet · 2024-04-17T06:07:15+00:00

Imma speak on behalf of myself.

When a man trusts a woman's mouth around his dick.. that's very intimate and is even an act of affection and appreciation. So when I give a man a BJ, I like that I'm able to see his vulnerable side, which many do not see. I like his whimpering, and all of it turns me on, especially when the dude has a bigger dick.. I feel like a dirty girl with something that big in my mouth, behind closed doors

P.S. A lot of dudes love to eat pussy. I once met up with a dude who only wanted to eat my pussy, and dip.

ConanTheCybrarian · 2024-04-17T04:55:33+00:00

Porn is not real.
A lot of (straight) men enjoy and even get aroused by going down on women.
When you are having sex with someone and you care about them, you want them to enjoy themselves. People with penises usually enjoy that. You may not love it, in and of itself, but you like that your partner likes it.
the people I know who LOVE giving blow jobs the most are men.

bluepvtstorm · 2024-04-17T06:17:50+00:00

Wow, tell me you did not grow up in a sex positive environment why don’t you.

Also if you are dating men who don’t perform oral then break up. I have never once in my entire life been with a man who does not enthusiastically eat me like a whole meal, not a snack but a meal then ask for seconds and then thirds.

You probably hate giving oral because it makes you feel degraded and used which is totally understandable if you aren’t getting oral and having less orgasms.

Here’s a list of why I like to perform oral.

You haven’t know real sexual power until you can bring a man to his knees with the power of oral treats. That power is a heady thing when you are in control of his favorite part of his body and you move your tongue just a little bit and get a whole new reaction.
Foreplay is good and fun and takes sex from transactional to intimate. There is nothing like the feeling of making your partner focus on pleasure happening in that moment. How do you do that, easy take him in your mouth and swirl your tongue under the bottom rim of it. Touch him gently, pay attention to his reactions. Have you ever cupped a man’s balls while slowly siding up and down with a warm wet mouth. The response is mind blowing for him.
With the right partner there is a certain feeling you can experience when you let him take control in bed. Using your mouth until he needs to be inside of you is one of the ways you can allow him to have control.
I wasn’t given these lips just to sit there and do nothing with them.

Honestly though, if you have had nothing but bad experiences and don’t get anything out of it then stop doing it but you have a selfish partner problem not a hating oral sex problem.

mlo9109 · 2024-04-17T12:29:06+00:00

Not all of us do. All the reasons you list that women love it are the reasons I don't as a woman. I also have an overactive gag reflex and it's a bad time for all involved.

YaKnowEstacado · 2024-04-17T12:51:53+00:00

Men either refuse to lick pussy or only do it out of obligation.

LOL.

2024-04-17T05:26:26+00:00

Men are usually excited to go down on me. I had one boyfriend who I thought might be gay or something because he wanted to go down on me but he never even let me see his penis. I'm bi and i enjoy going down on both men and women because you are in control of everything. Their reactions come from whatever you do and I take pride in that.

Sillysheila · 2024-04-17T07:06:19+00:00

It’s not the physical feeling usually it’s the psychological element to it, at least in my case. It’s not physically hot but it’s psychologically hot. In my opinion it’s not really degrading, I don’t think giving women oral is degrading either. I don’t do it to completion a lot of the time because it’s just foreplay before intercourse, so some of the stuff you wrote doesn’t apply to me, and many other women only do it as foreplay as well.

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Old_Luck285 · 2024-04-17T10:03:13+00:00

Actually, men are more into giving oral sex than women, statistically speaking (see e.g. this study: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/293015327_Was_it_good_for_you_too_An_analysis_of_gender_differences_in_oral_sex_practices_and_pleasure_ratings_among_heterosexual_Canadian_university_students#:~:text=Most%20men%20(73%25)%20and,28%25).)

I'm surprised how many people aren't really into giving. So, maybe don't do it? I don't understand why so many people are keen on sex acts that are mainly pleasurable for one party when there are also sex acts that they'd mutually enjoy. But, yeah, some might call me sex negative. 😄

6teeee9 · 2024-04-17T13:33:42+00:00

i must be in the minority even tho im a virgin. i just couldnt imagine tasting it its not what my mouth is for theres no pleasure nerves in there its just better to stick with vaginal

2024-04-18T23:01:51+00:00

Most men I have been with absolutely love eating pussy. They enjoy the intensity of the orgasm it gives her and the subsequent ego boost.

It's the same for some women (myself included).

I feel like I'm in a different universe on this sub. I have always known men and women do be aroused by their partners arousal. That's how sex has been most my life?

napthaleneneens · 2024-06-26T20:10:40+00:00

As a woman, I’m equally as confused as you. I’ve always considered it extremely degrading and gross and don’t do it. The most ridiculous thing is when they claim it’s ’empowering’ lmfao. Only women, particularly libfems, are delusional enough to believe that getting on your knees and gagging and being covered in someone’s bodily excrement is empowering. I’m not supposed to say this as a woman but I don’t really care: I secretly agree wholeheartedly with males that it makes a woman look like she doesn’t respect herself if she gives BJs. I don’t enjoy receiving either to be fair. It’s just penetration I like.

TheCounsellingGamer · 2024-04-17T05:54:13+00:00

It's enjoyable because it makes my partner feel good, it's a simple as that. I don't find it enjoyable in the same way that I find my hobbies enjoyable. If I'm home alone I'm not going to start shoving whole cucumbers coved in salty yoghurt down my throat, to try and recreate the experience.

Lots of men do enjoy going down on their partner for same reason.

Perfect-Resist5478 · 2024-04-17T11:06:13+00:00

Love going down. Love seeing how turned on it gets my man. Love seeing how turned on it gets me

fiftypoundpuppy · 2024-04-17T04:48:03+00:00

Lol I have no clue that’s nasty as fuck

MistyMaisel · 2024-04-17T15:49:13+00:00

I feel like I'll burst a lot of dudes bubbles with this, but: Of the BJs I've given, I would say maybe 20% I really was into and super thrilled to be involved with and usually that was because my man had me wildly worked up. About 60%, I could take or leave, but was participating in for his pleasure because I love him and want him to feel good. Him feeling good makes me feel good. I was not wildly insatiably interested and if I could have made him feel equally good other ways, I would strongly consider those. I was pleased to serve, a good soldier. 20% I wanted to be over before they started and was begrudgingly participating out of some misplaced sense of "this is how we do things" or worse, I was doing it with the most lackluster and apathetic possible nature to highlight that I didn't wanna be doing that so that my man would learn to earn them a little more and not take for granted the good soldier because the good soldier can stop serving if the good soldier doesn't feel rewarded in kind.

I assume the same is true for a lot of dudes giving head.

ILikeBird · 2024-04-17T17:34:37+00:00

Almost nobody likes the physical act of giving oral. The giver receives no physical pleasure from the act.

People (men and women) like how their partner reacts/giving them pleasure. That’s why people give oral.

Mental_Leek_2806 · 2024-04-17T15:01:40+00:00

Nice try but I'm not giving you masturbation material
This whole "men don't like going down on women" thing seems to just be weirdo redpill and incel shit

apresonly · 2024-04-17T18:31:04+00:00

i like giving people massages too, its similar

i like physical touch, i like making people feel good

it feels like one of the only times men are relaxed and emotionally present and you can be as lovey dovey as you want to without them acting like a caged animal

it feels very intimate and i feel very connected to them, which is a very meaningful life experience

Men either refuse to lick pussy or only do it out of obligation

this says it all

the male/female dating world in a nutshell

Title	Why do women like giving blowjobs?
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