Are there really women out there that expect men to pay for literally everything in a relationship?

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2024-05-31T21:42:04+00:00

There are. I wouldn't say it's the majority of women out there but women who want someone to take care of them financially exist. You also have men who happily pay for fancy dresses and shoes because they get to parade a hot chick around. You have women who expect the man to take care of the household financially, while she does all the stuff around the house, you have men who expect that to be the case.

Most people I know are in relationships/marriages where both people work and pay for stuff, very few are in a situation where only one partner pays for everything.

NothingOrAllLife · 2024-05-31T21:31:48+00:00

Some women do.

In the us most don’t. They would like it, but who wouldn’t?

But the ones that do it’s Because they feel that they will naturally give more to a relationship than a man will ever have to risk.

And if you go by red pill standards it’s true: if you think women get worst with time while men improve, then a woman spending time on/with you is expending a more valuable resource just by going out with you.

She is giving up time that she is valuable in order to hangout and get to know you.

If you take it further and consider the cost of gestating, birthing and raising children then no matter how equally the relationship those things can never be shared.

Most women spend a lot of time (or at least more time than their partners) making themselves look good. If this work stops then they have gotten lazy and complacent.

Ultimately though it’s because men will.

Nellylocheadbean · 2024-05-31T21:43:02+00:00

If a man doesn’t want an independent woman then yes.

Professional_Chair28 · 2024-05-31T21:14:15+00:00

This question gets asked at least once a week on this sub. The few women who participate here give our usual “no, of course not. We want an equal partnership”.

But for the sake of clarity, no of course not. I want an equal partnership. I don’t even let men pay for the first date, I insist we go Dutch.

Maybe don’t assume the worst of an entire gender based on a few rage bait videos on TikTok?

Edit: oh look, an angry downvote, how original

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Planthoe30 · 2024-06-01T07:29:47+00:00

Yes, that is my goal. I work in the meantime & contribute but as soon as I am either pregnant enough or am in labor I will call it quits on my career. I may consider working 2 days a week no more than that.

CloudsTasteGeometric · 2024-06-01T11:27:42+00:00

I want a man that pays for everything but thats because I believe in traditional roles and hold myself to the same standard. That means I'll clean, cook, take care of children ect.

However, I'm totally open to change. If my husband also helps out with household chores or the more traditional "female" roles I would have no issue with also paying for rent and such. For me its more about wanting a man with a provider mentality that WANTS to take care of me rather then actually having someone cover all my costs.

TheAvocadoSlayer · 2024-05-31T23:15:08+00:00

Yes there absolutely are. Think of the most horrific traits and at least one woman out there will have it. Women aren’t exempt from them just because they have a vagina. There are tons of women who are very entitled and expect the man to pay for every single thing. The good thing is that enough women who are not like this exist.

complete_doodle · 2024-05-31T21:19:11+00:00

I’m sure that they exist somewhere. That being said, I’ve never met one in real life. So they are very, very rare. Remember that social media priorities clicks over everything else - “shocking” content (like a woman who expects her man to pay for everything) gets more clicks, so it’s disproportionately represented. You can’t trust social media!

toasterchild · 2024-05-31T22:05:15+00:00

I do actually know a woman like this IRL. She sees herself as old fashioned thinking men should take care of their women and she will serve them but it's always felt a little too close to prostitution for me. Most men don't stick around for more than a few months and she's been single and struggling for the 14 years I have known her.

Women like this overly represented in online dating.

bluehorserunning · 2024-06-01T03:12:12+00:00

Sure. If he wants a SAHM with no income of her own, he’s going to be paying for everything.

superlurkage · 2024-05-31T23:30:14+00:00

Of course. Just like there are men who expect to be treated like Chad

mrs_seng · 2024-06-01T00:16:11+00:00

Yes. I know one, it's my cousin. And i am very judgy about it.

mithril_mayhem · 2024-06-01T00:55:34+00:00

I'm 40/f and have been in several long term relationships, I have always expected equal contributions with my partner. The only time I didn't was when I was with an ex who was finishing his studies, so I paid a bit extra as i was working full time and offered to do so. The girlfriends that I have discussed finances with are all the same (equal contributions), apart from the ones that have taken time off work for pregnancies and childcare.

MistyMaisel · 2024-06-01T03:15:11+00:00

I'm sure there are. I think I know one. But they're pretty rare at least outside like, miami?

lvoncreek · 2024-06-01T07:44:47+00:00

Yes they exist. Though they are not the majority.

2024-06-01T16:49:19+00:00

If by “everything” you mean my rent, clothes, food, utilities, entire lifestyle, etc then no, I don’t expect that in a relationship. I expect a man I date to pay for dates, that’s it.

Obvious_Smoke3633 · 2024-06-02T16:30:28+00:00

Yes there are and I am one of them 💕

Ok-Situation2395 · 2024-06-03T13:45:24+00:00

Most Women want an egalitarian relationship, say absolutely not. We contribute and put our money in the communal pot. The guys who see relationships as transactional and want a stay at home mom, welp…for their partners; yes, absolutely. You don’t treat us as equals so you put yourself in that position, playboy.

2024-05-31T23:25:07+00:00

Yes but it’s less common for young women due to the fact that there just aren’t enough jobs that pay well enough. The older generation might’ve enjoyed that benefit though.

-Blatherskite · 2024-05-31T22:15:49+00:00

Do they exist? Probably. Have I ever met one in the wild? No.

asexualgolddigger · 2024-05-31T21:21:14+00:00

That’s what every girl wants ideally. Hot girls, average girls, and below average girls succeed since guys are desperate and don’t understand women’s asexual golddigging nature. Any girl who denies/disagrees is virtual signaling or pretending to enjoy paying for things.

luliloo · 2024-06-01T01:54:32+00:00

I love when the guy pays for all our dates and dinners.

I never ask for that or expect it. Not all guys do it, but for the ones that do, I have offered to pay but they insist on paying.

If I moved in with a guy, I would hope he isn’t going to make me pay rent and I’d rent out my place.

Right-Butterfly5036 · 2024-06-01T01:33:38+00:00

I expect it but I am flexible. I prefer experiences over all presents nowadays but if I want something expensive I’ll get myself a little job for a couple months to pay for it.

Title	Are there really women out there that expect men to pay for literally everything in a relationship?
Author	Harkmunt40
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Comments	198
Date	May 31, 2024 9:09 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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