Men complain about being used for resources is the same as women complain about being used for sex

No-Rough-7390 · 2025-08-07T12:51:54+00:00

Women don’t owe men sex.

Men don’t owe women a better life.

Pretty basic. Now is it best when both parties want to provide that? Duh. But neither are obligatory.

GhostXmasPast342 · 2025-08-07T10:01:05+00:00

Women also have the same resources as men do. Not sure that this is the same argument

BrightPapaya1349 · 2025-08-07T10:11:48+00:00

Men, stop dating broke ass women. If she makes minimum wage and you make triple what she does, yeah chances are she'll want you to foot the bill most times.

It's typically not a problem when she makes roughly the same amount as you, which happens quite frequently nowadays.

reddit_is_geh · 2025-08-07T12:46:01+00:00

Who the fuck are you guys dating? A bunch of trailer trash gold diggers who secretly hate you? I've never, not once in my long life, ever had a woman use me for resources. Stop dating trash.

wtknight · 2025-08-07T12:23:27+00:00

but at the same time when women complained about men lying for sex he showed 0 sympathy and said that she has options, choose better and so on.

Men have little sympathy for other men and their problems, too. The main purpose of men complaining about women is to try to control women, not to get sympathy for male problems.

throwawaytradesman2 · 2025-08-07T13:34:58+00:00

That doesnt make any sense. Your statement would imply that women derive no enjoyment from sex.

Both parties enjoy the sex.

HalfwaydonewithEarth · 2025-08-07T11:57:30+00:00

I have a wealthy husband and it wasn't the money. I was looking for good genetics and someone that would be a good father to our evental kids.

Everyone that says women are just gold diggers are very ignorant.

We are looking for someone we think will go the distance with us.

Mountain_Sand3135 · 2025-08-07T22:23:16+00:00

Hence why men are not the same as woman.

Earth shattering

UnlikelyThing4027 · 2025-08-08T03:09:57+00:00

One is a shared experience. The other is harvesting

Lift_and_Lurk · 2025-08-07T13:27:51+00:00

Ok let’s make a couple things clear

Most the dudes who complain about resources fall into two categories. 1) dudes without resources 2) those who ONLY have that going for them, or at least think that

The dudes who actually work hard and are successful have/homed/understand the principles that got them there in the first place AND also understood how to keep at arms length the leeches, losers and lazy that would try to latch onto thier work or take credit for their glory. PLUS any successful man usually has at least a mentor or really trusted crew who will take the time to warn about the hustler and the gold diggers, so it not like he doesn’t have the information given to him anyways.

So what you have online and places like PPD is “Splenda boys” complaining about sugar babies when they aren’t real sugar anyways.

And it’s not really them: it’s them parroting the RP influencers (like FnF) who have admitted the only dating they do is on seeking arrangement sites.

RedPillDad · 2025-08-07T18:01:54+00:00

Good post OP. If a man leads with his wallet, he encourages women to use him that way. If a woman leads with her sexuality, she encourages men to use her that way.

lesliecarbone · 2025-08-07T10:23:14+00:00

There are women who will use men for resources, to make her life easier and so on.

This only makes sense for women with very low earning potential. A man is unlikely to "make life ... easier" for a woman who can support herself.

Bouldershoulders12 · 2025-08-07T14:37:57+00:00

Sex is a mutual exchange . Resources and time are not.

MongoBobalossus · 2025-08-07T09:50:05+00:00

“Men being used for resources” sounds like some weird, third world take.

The average women in the west is making as much if not more than her male counterpart, needing a man for “resources” isn’t really a thing for most modern women.

Alone_Ambition_3729 · 2025-08-07T20:08:48+00:00

This is very true and I think the symmetry of it also captures how dehumanizing it can be for both groups to be used.

Women don't like to feel like an inanimate sex object to be discarded/ignored the rest of the time while someone else enjoys courtship and marriage and family life.

And men don't like to feel like a beast of burden or a dog or a slave to be chained up outside between shifts while someone else enjoys luxury and affection and intimacy they're work made possible.

HTML_Novice · 2025-08-07T13:56:11+00:00

I’d argue that someone wanting to have sex with you is more “you” than your resources are “you”. You can’t give someone else your looks, but you can give someone else your resources

xxTheMagicBulleT · 2025-08-07T15:25:47+00:00

Well is it do. Women can easily withhold sex. Men can't withhold time or resources. Cause there is a push for men to do there gender roles but there is very little to none for women to do the same.

So you have a lot more wasted time and resources on the men side.

Also cause in relationships the more partners a person has the less likely a relationship will last any meaningful time.

So I don't think its the same at all. Its the same as saying a hug is more valuable then a car. It obviously is not.

And cause people feel one is equal to the other. Is also why people find relationships and marriage less valuable.

If sex or making a meal for someone is the same as giving up big amount of time and resources.

Yea it shows how its not really worth talking about.

A act that cost you nothing. Or a act that costs you a lot of time and money. You can't put in the same boat.

Its like saying a kiss or a hug is the same as paying for expensive dinner dates.

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Outside_Memory5703 · 2025-08-08T05:56:37+00:00

Women can earn their own money; men are not able to earn their own sex

esdebah · 2025-08-08T11:01:36+00:00

Spoken like a man who's never used a woman for resources and been used for sex.

Popeoath · 2025-08-08T17:08:06+00:00

Women can still date without putting out sexually. Men often cannot still date while refusing to pay full for the date.

Routine_Condition273 · 2025-08-12T22:45:26+00:00

Well, it's much easier to put out than it is to get resources. Plenty of men would be down to have sex rather than do a full days work, even if they were tired of sex or weren't attracted to the woman.

TermAggravating8043 · 2025-08-07T10:53:49+00:00

It’s not remotely the same thing though is it?

When you get to know someone, you don’t just hand over your property or bank account. People get together and join their resources, then if they split up they are spilt. How is that unfair?

addings0 · 2025-08-07T12:49:46+00:00

Men want to be wanted in relationship, not because they provide something.

No. Men expect to be used for resources by women. Women don't want to ' owe ' men for it, nor be considerate of the gesture. Women want his resources for free, and then to be dismissed.

Women want genuine desire for relationship with them. They want someone who will like to spend time with them, have emotional connection and not just fake feelings for sex.

No. Women want social dominance in a relationship as fulfillment. Time and connection has to be at her convenience.

The thing is that what i see is a complete lack of that understanding or sympathy

There's a lack of trust, equal transaction, fair expectation ( plenty of misunderstandings to go around ) . Men want stability, women want whims.

Evening-Place1 · 2025-08-07T10:45:59+00:00

False, women just want sex and get it whenever they want. There are no conflicting interests between them and their situationships/fuckbuddies/hook ups. Commitment, loyalty etc comes up when they are in their 30s most of the time.

StoicKoal · 2025-08-07T11:21:05+00:00

To say they are the same is false.

Men spend a huge chunk of their life and time to build themselves, their careers and resources to get to a point where they can support a family. When that is being taken advantage of and abused then it is valid to complain about.

However women complaining about being used for sex when they are the main decider on if sex happens or not is their own fault for letting it happen.

IridikronsNo1Fan · 2025-08-07T09:56:20+00:00

You are in a supermarket. You walk past the fruits and vegetables section and head straight for the frozen junk foods. Yummy!

You then get indigestion. Who is to blame? You? Or the company that sold the frozen junk foods?

electric_icy1234 · 2025-08-07T18:49:08+00:00

It is nowhere near the same because

A) Money can be made again, but you only have one body. Women will always be at more risk with just the fact that she can get pregnant. Not to mention when being used and lied to about having sex with others, she may contract STD’s.

B) Men are not judged for spending money on a woman the same way men judge women for body count and tell women their biological clock is ticking.

If a woman gets used for sex, her body count goes up, then you have men judging her for it. You also have wasted her time she can never get back which she could’ve spent on someone who truly wanted her and once again, men are the ones who judge women by their age and say that their biological clock is ticking. It’s also men who judge women for being tricked by those people.

If you want people to care about men getting used for their money, men should learn how to not shame and judge women either. But the reality is that’s not the world we live in, so.

BashFish · 2025-08-07T10:52:37+00:00

men complain about being used for resources because it means the woman didnt want us for ourselves. its not about getting a fair price, good trade or some other transactional credit. there's the shame of getting tricked etc. but the most pain comes from the hope of a relationship burning up

in that sense i think youre very correct. woman have the other side where chad uses them for sex and they see that relationship burn up in front of them too.

Powerful-Fee-5512 · 2025-08-07T09:58:46+00:00

Friendzone and FuckZone are of the same concept

Title	Men complain about being used for resources is the same as women complain about being used for sex
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Date	August 7, 2025 9:47 AM UTC (11 months ago)
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