Post your list of physical no-go's in men (Straight up honest thread)

pinkpilledlady · 2020-01-31T18:46:12+00:00

It’s such a double standard that guys are allowed to be superficial and refer to women as numbers (5s, 8s, 10s, etc) but god forbid we do the same!

I don’t even care if a man doesn’t make much money - I have my own $$$ but physical attraction is something I won’t budge on.

I work hard to be fit and I’m not settling for someone who looks like they’ve never been to the gym

airhostess_inthe60s · 2020-01-31T19:08:15+00:00

Physical attributes

Guys shorter than 5'8 / 5'7
Balding guys that insist on keeping their hair long and wear it in ratty ponytails
Small, dainty looking hands with thin fingers
Guys with full, feminine looking hips. Not their fault, but I can't!

And this is more in the realm of grooming

Long Nails. Maybe it's just me but these make a guy seem creepy AF! Especially when there's a visible effort to maintain them long
Poor oral care - Yellow, plaqued teeth. Yuck!
Dandruff
BO

Ishouldbewriting83 · 2020-01-31T18:54:26+00:00

I have preferences in looks, but I've certainly dated men that look very different because a good personality attracts me more than anything. There are, however, a couple things that I for sure have never been able move past though: 1) "dead spots" on teeth. That black spot that corrodes a tooth? I can't. I just can't. The idea of kissing that is viscerally repulsive. 2) Ear guages. Each to their own, enjoy your bodily fashion choices, but I cannot handle the way they look when they are removed. A holey ear lobe just flapping in the wind. Nope. Churns my stomach.

Ms_Tilly · 2020-01-31T19:01:15+00:00

If you plan on having children with a man, you can be as picky as you want. Your future children will thank you lol.

I don't feel like I'm super picky. I'll date within 5-10 years of my age. I find lots of not super attractive men attractive. One of my favorites is that Aussie who looks like a psychopath and often plays one. Ben Mendelsohn. He's just at my age range and more than looks it haha.

My no-go's are beards. I fucking hate them. I hate any hair on the chin or neck and any weird facial hair like mutton chops. I also don't like long hair on men.

I'm not attracted to fat men, especially when they are fat all over. Sometimes it's just a gut. I have dated men who develop a gut and while I don't find it attractive it doesn't make me disgusted with them.

So many fat, bearded men and so many "way older than me and look it men" keep hitting me up on OLD and it disgusts me.

Besides that I expect a good paying job, a vehicle, a home without roommates, and love/respect. But it's damn near impossible and I won't settle.

Fatt3stAveng3r · 2020-01-31T19:14:00+00:00

- Bad hygiene, yellow teeth

- Blonde hair, long hair

- Beards/mustaches

- Taller than 5'10" (I like shorter guys)

- wide faces or tall foreheads

...I'm not really picky but I just prefer short/medium height guys with brown hair and normal faces, whatever that is lol

thesunshinecat · 2020-01-31T19:36:58+00:00

I’ve done my share of “oh, lets give the ugly/average guy a chance, he’ll appreciate having a woman who he normally could not attain” and guess what? The ugly guys are WORSE than the hot ones. They’re insecure that you’re above them in the looks department and will try to compensate by negging or cheating. The men who have treated me the best have been good looking, secure men.

Not saying to choose a guy based on looks but don’t do what I did and think the ugly dude will be one bit more loyal or respectful.

hilariouslystated · 2020-01-31T19:19:08+00:00

-Overweight and doesn't work out -Bad breath -Wide hips

Parking-Act · 2020-01-31T19:51:39+00:00

I can't believe more than 2 people said men with childbearing hips!! Lmfaooo I don't think I've ever seen a man with such curves! Anyone have photo examples!? Because I'm just picturing Kim Kardashian as a man right now lol

natalie2k8 · 2020-01-31T19:04:58+00:00

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SarcasmSlide · 2020-01-31T19:47:13+00:00

Look at his hands, ladies. If his fingernails are long, run run run. If they’re dirty, and he didn’t just finish working on the car or gardening or some shit, look for the exit. Men with filthy hands are filthy people.

sandycheeks72 · 2020-01-31T20:52:43+00:00

- Physically undermuscled/unfit/skinny-fat/over-weight/fat: I'm petite but muscular and on the "thicker" side. I work extremely hard on my body and expect my man have the same standards for himself! If I can do it with all these stupid hormonal fluctuations that some of us ladies experience then he definitely can. I generally like athletic/in-shape men with nice developed shoulders, abs, legs and glutes..no toothpicks, guts and flabby butts!

- I'm co-signing on child bearing hips thing: I'm screaming cos I was literally talking to someone about this the other day!! Mate, get that voluptuous pear shape out of my damn face😬

- Thin/non-existent lips

- Uncircumcised/very small penis: I know men can't help their size but sorry that's not my jam. Average is just fine though

- Excessively hairy: I'm not talking about some hair here and there I mean like Bigfoot-level hairy, not my cup of tea

That's it, off the top of my head. Oh, and I generally don't date white guys...I like having someone I can relate to in some respect.

Everything else is just basic hygiene and presentation...B.O, bad teeth, doesn't use water or a bidet after they going to the toilet (I am dead serious about this one...tissue alone is not enough!!), sloppy dresser, ashy skin, smoker (this is a deal-breaker for me)

blair2006 · 2020-01-31T21:32:04+00:00

Under 5’9. I’m 5’7 so I just want someone definably taller
Blondes/blue eyed men. Not anything wrong with this, I just don’t like blondes/blue eyes on men.
Lots if wrinkles. Sometimes I see men’s profiles who are my age, and their foreheads look like pugs! I mean I have a bit of foreheads lines if I raise my brows but these guys need a truck load of Botox to smooth that out.
A weird hairline. Like when it’s a weird widows peak? Like avatar hairline? I mean I have a widows peak but my bangs hide it.
Super hairy body. I don’t like when a guy has a ton of back hair...it just feels yucky. Again it’s hard to help this but shrug

-Nice skin is preferred. I try hard to make my skin nice, so I don’t want a guy who uses dove to wash their face.

-Yellow rotten teeth. This is an obvious one. I mean I’m fine if there teeth aren’t perfectly straight (I dated a guy who was 23 and had his own house, had a rich daddy, but had crooked spacey teeth, like bro you got the money? Fix?). I had a boyfriend who had a crooked smile and it was endearing in a way.

No one overweight unless it’s muscle
Also: crazy muscular guys. I mean it’s attractive but I don’t want someone who will she me for not spending as much time in the gym as them.
Nobody religious. This means that some races may be out of the question because sometimes the two are intertwined. I am only okay with atheists/agnostics/Jewish men. I’m flexible with race as long as they don’t come from a sexist upbringing. Cultural Relevetism is a thing y’all.
Anyone who smokes or vapes or drinks heavily. Nasty habits.

Not Apperance but important - Men who dislike cats. I love cats, I do not trust men who dislike cats. It’s a red flag.

2020-01-31T19:34:40+00:00

I don't have a lot of no-gos because I know that I can easily have a crush on a guy who is balding for example (if he shaves of course), if he has traits I admire. At first, I can be absolutely indifferent or even negative about a guy's appearance, but if he is special in other areas like talent and intellect, and if he displays general signs of a HVM, I might fall for him.

But my absolute no-go's are:

Bad teeth
Attempts to cover balding with hat or longer hair (ugh)
Doesn't pay attention to his clothes (it's dirty, baggy, torn) — indicates that his house will be the same, I don't need a baby to take care of
Doesn't work out at all — it's absolutely necessary to take care of one's body, if he doesn't it can mean he is lazy and/or depressed and/or doesn't give a fuck
Unkept facial hair

woiashenseea · 2020-01-31T22:59:34+00:00

I'm pretty fucking forgiving, and naturally my standards have been called "shallow" waaaaay before I found FDS!

I'm ok with receding hairlines (I dont know why, but it doesnt bother me) and somewhat crooked teeth.

Major NO's:

shorter than/around my height (5'). These guys always have a fucking complex and NOW I actually am repulsed by men around my height.
"white people lips" which is so awful to say, but NO nonexistent lips!!
Moobs, pear-shape, all the things that show an estrogenic lifestyle (processed food, poor fitness, etc.)
PALENESS. Not whiteness, paleness like they dont invest in vitamin D
GUT. I dont care if it's from steroids or McD's, fuck off with that
no muscle. Feel free to be chunky, but its gotta be over some muscle so I know you dont live in a man cave

Fitncurly · 2020-01-31T20:02:03+00:00

If I were ever single again (and please no with all the LVMs out there!) and this were for purely physical ideals, then:

—no one as short as me or my same height when I wear heels. I like being petite, and I wanna be the petite one. So I guess my height limit would be no one under 5’9”

—no one overweight. I am very fitness and health conscious and also not overweight. I’m at the gym religiously 3-5x per week, and I have abs. I expect the same out of my men, especially since I was pregnant and gave birth a few times and they’d have no excuses.

—I’m into lifters/bodybuilders now since I’m one and married to one. So he’s gotta have a big muscly body if I were single. No scrawny dudes and no chunky dudes.

—Ok, this is TMI maybe, but at least a 7” dick. That’s my minimum. If he’s bigger than 9” I don’t know as I haven’t experienced that, but 8” is a sweet spot.

Everything else is whatever: race, color, hair, eyes, features, etc 🤷🏻‍♀️. I’d have to see the whole package, I just like ‘em generally attractive otherwise.

(Ps. So of course he’d have to have his teeth, and they need to not be yellow! I like hair—I’m a sucker for a luxurious head of hair on a man, and I have one to match if I do say so myself—as opposed to none or worse, balding, and I like clear skin and other signs of good health and virility)

jeanneeebeanneee · 2020-01-31T20:48:38+00:00

Stinky breath. I get it if you just ate something garlicky, but if it's consistent it's a no for me.

Overgrown nails. Regular manis and pedis not necessary, but keep them shits clean and trimmed.

Smoking. Hate the smell.

Whateverrr_345 · 2020-01-31T18:50:11+00:00

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1Here4Bach · 2020-01-31T19:32:26+00:00

Yellow/extremely crooked teeth

Small penises

Under 5’10’

Excessive Acne

Too Skinny

Balding

Beards for long periods of time

Small/feminine hands

Obese

BO/poor overall hygiene

Stupid tattoos

Long nails

Extremely weak jaws and extremely recessed chins

MuffinSongs · 2020-01-31T20:18:42+00:00

Quality I do not accept:

Too skinny, Picky Eaters, Too fat, Old looking, Bald/balding, Dirty, Stinky, Lack of self care/grooming, Stupid, Bad shoes, Wide hips, Weird dicks, I’m sure there’s more

2020-01-31T21:11:33+00:00

-Above 5’7 or below 5’2

-No butt

-Obese or skinny fat

-Huge bald spot

-Bald with no stubble( only like bald guys if they have some good stubble)

-Signs of poor hygiene

-Gorilla looming body hair

-Small penis

-Receded jaw

-Preferably Hispanic or mixed looking. Not really attracted to black, Asian, or really white looking guys

-Huge beards, really only like some good stubble if hey have facial hair

gursky0 · 2020-01-31T21:19:25+00:00

Hm I suppose my only hard physical dealbreakers are overweight/chubby, poor hygiene or grooming, and bad style. It's more like I take the man as a whole and ask, am I attracted to him, yes or no? But I generally find receding hairlines, weak jaw or chin, facial hair over 1cm or so, and eyes with a significantly negative canthal tilt unattractive. I like some objectively unattractive features like big noses, slight overbites and crooked teeth, and hairiness.

SslimReaperr · 2020-01-31T21:27:54+00:00

EXACTLY. I hold myself to strict standards when it comes to fitness, appearance, goals, and education...why is it so “shallow” of me to expect the same of my partner?

I spend hours in the gym keeping my body tight, I take extremely good care of my skin/hair/nails/teeth, I am HIGHLY educated, I have goals/passions/hobbies that actively take up my time, overall I consider myself an attractive woman.

But god forbid I don’t want to date a shortie with little man syndrome or an out-of-shape gamer who hasn’t eaten a veggie in months.

a man cannot be/have: 1. overweight, chubby, skinny fat, out of shape 2. short 3. recessed jaw/weak jaw 4. narrow palate 5. bad teeth or bad skin 6. balding or bald 7. socially inept or shy 8. white

Amy3e13 · 2020-01-31T22:46:47+00:00

● is a grown man, but dresses like a middle/high school kid

● unkempt toes

● nose hair

● bad smell

2020-01-31T22:52:40+00:00

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blair2006 · 2020-01-31T19:51:04+00:00

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jetpatch · 2020-01-31T22:57:16+00:00

Seeing as I like short skinny guys I should have my pick. Funny how it doesn't work like that.

greenappletw · 2020-02-01T00:59:39+00:00

Bad hygiene, obviously
narrow petite shoulders
Petite frame in general with the belly
Bad posture....ties into confidence
small, oddly feminine faces. Like when they look like their mom. I really hate well defined lips on men.
balding, depending on how he looks with it.
very unmoisterized skin

Diamondsareagirlsbff · 2020-01-31T18:53:39+00:00

I’m quite reasonable- bald would be less off putting for me that something else like dandruff or greasy hair (god why do we even need to have this conversation 😂😂😂)

One thing that really bothers me is when a guy who can afford to, doesn’t fix his teeth. Just a little bit of straightening would work wonders - and yet men simply don’t feel the need or urge to dot the i’s and cross the t’s. It’s almost rude of them!

rubymood · 2020-01-31T23:54:06+00:00

• high pitched/squeaky voices

• 5’3 and under

• recessed chin/weak jawline/double chin

• obese/doesn’t do something active

• white men (i make exceptions, but as a black woman my experiences with them have been abysmal)

• bad hygiene/yellow teeth/balding/acne

• small/weird dicks (i’m not trying to ruin my first time)

• stick skinny

purasangria · 2020-01-31T20:43:52+00:00

-- Overweight

-- Shorter than 5'8"

-- Sloppy dress

--Yellow teeth

--Doesn't have a professional career

--Long fingernails

-- Dresses poorly

-- Small dick

Whateverrr_345 · 2020-01-31T19:16:19+00:00

Bald men. Older than 5 years above me. I have racial preferences that I will not state but there's that. Really thin or really fat guys. Scraggly beard and moustache. Men shorter than me. Guys that smell like B.O. and have dandruff and look oily/greasy.

poopinfukinbuckets · 2020-01-31T21:34:05+00:00

-Doesn’t workout, this includes the skinny fats. Super turned off by low effort bodies. Lack of muscle tone is a no thanks -Bald -Bad teeth -Bad hair/facial hair grooming/unibrow -Blonde is usually a no go for a serious relationship -Id say 5’7 is my height cutoff, I’m not fussed since I don’t notice...if we’re planning on procreating Id probably reconsider -Small soft hands -Bad skin

It’s hard to make a list of things I’ve never looked twice at ;)

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2020-02-01T02:59:54+00:00

Butt Chins or prominent Quagmire like chins in general

Bald

Beards and moustaches

Jacked up teeth

Overly sweaty damp looking types

Excess body hair

Tattoos on the hands or above the collar bones

Those gauges that stretch giant holes in your ears

Cheap Walmart serial killer glasses

Overly masculine faces in general i.e. heavy brow bone and giant block heads, I like softer faces. (Probably why I watch so many K Dramas now)

aellope · 2020-01-31T19:54:15+00:00

Overweight/excessive body fat
Skinny fat/low muscle tone
Beard/facial hair
Excessive body hair
Bald/balding
Bad skin (I struggled with face and body acne for years, but finally found a routine that works for me, there is no excuse), and doesn't take care of skin or protect from sun damage
Smoker
Crooked teeth (they don't need to be perfect but there's a limit)
Long or unkempt hair
No chin
Bad posture
Poor cardiovascular fitness
Poor hygiene
Ratty clothes
Under 5'7 or much over 6' (I'm short and hate too much of a height difference, also hate guys with a "petite" woman fetish or who obviously want to be able to physically dominate me)
Tattoos. Just not my thing.
Bad diet or picky eater

I take care of myself and expect a man to do the same. I'm a powerlifter so I gravitate towards similar types - not unnaturally muscular or bodybuilder types, but muscular and strong, well proportioned or less muscular but still with muscle definition and lean. I also will not date guys whose faces I don't find attractive.

Edit: formatting

Coder-Cat · 2020-01-31T23:28:05+00:00

I love my men bald so it’s funny to see so many against it. SEND THEM MY WAY PLEASE!!!

I don’t care about much when it comes to looks except:
Nopes: Does not dress like a man. At bare minimum, he should wear clothes that fit and do not have cartoons on them. (But if a guy shows up with nice jeans and a button up shirt swoon). Any ostentatious piercings are a no as well, but I’m older so I don’t run into that really.

Long beards or long hair. I feel like too many men mistake these for having an actual personality.

Mehs: I don’t care if a guy is short but it seems like short guys cares care too much that they’re short.

Bigger dudes are fine but I’m really active and won’t stick with a man if he can’t keep up.

As far as looks, that’s pretty much my whole bag. You’d be surprised at how many men fail that first test, though considering it’s something they have full control over. Or maybe you wouldn’t be... sigh...

Edit: Oh, and I’m gonna add taking medication for depression or blames any mental illness for bad behavior. I don’t care if a guy is depressed or has anxiety or whatever because who the fuck isn’t these days but Anti-depressants can be scary af and I’ve met way to many people(men and women) who act like pricks because they think their suffering is unique.

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2020-02-01T07:32:05+00:00

From my experience men who have a small mouth /narrow smile and small teeth are the worst fuckboys. I wonder if there is a science that explains that correlation , 😂

Saitschik · 2020-01-31T23:54:00+00:00

Everything about hair. Shitty haircut, balding, gray hair, hair too short, GI-haircut.

Chubby, fat, a round face

Narrow eyes. The ex-husband of Adriana Lima has exactly the type of face I don't want my partner to have...

Eyes without expression

I am also not a huge fan of tattoos. They are not necessary a total no-go but it turns me off.

Evil_Rao · 2020-02-01T02:20:57+00:00

If I'm going to be completely honest...

- Balding / Receding hairline

- Out of shape

- Bad teeth

- Bad skin

- Weak chin (the importance of seeing a picture of him without the beard, ladies)

- Upturned nose

- Shorter than 170cm

- High pitch voice

- Hairy back

- Beard too long (most men don't know how to properly take care of it)

- Bad hygiene

- Tribal or just overall poor quality tattoos

- Too many piercings

- Long hair (unless it's clean and well kept, and you're as manly as henry cavill, lol)

- Ugly glasses (why can't straight men pick out decent frames???)

- Has a habit of biting nails

- No personal style, puts no effort to look good

- Smoker

siddmartha · 2020-02-01T02:53:53+00:00

I watch out for people in general with small teeth.. or chiclet teeth as I call them. My grandma always told me that people with small teeth are liars..and I've found it to be true. And general dental care..brush your teeth, make sure your breath don't stank.

I look at nails, how well kept they are is usually a good sign of how they take care of themselves. I know men who work in construction, working in literal dirt and they manage to keep their nails clean.

I won't date someone over 6'3. I'm pretty short and I told myself I would never date anyone over 6' but my current BF is 6'3 lol There is a HUGE height difference.

2020-02-01T17:00:54+00:00

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magiquex · 2020-01-31T23:41:37+00:00

-Bad hygiene (don’t take care of teeth, shower regularly, wear deodorant) -bad grooming (unkempt hair, beard, pubes) -Bald and insecure about it -shitty style, clearly doesn’t care about appearance -shorter than me (I’m 5’8”) -fat, “dad bod”

Literally went on a date with a guy who was bald with self described dad bod. Before we met he was fishing for validation on his appearance via message and I should’ve unmatched him right then and there. We had a brief coffee date and he was so insecure and arrogant. I noped outta there after an hour.

2020-02-01T00:14:16+00:00

All of these that you posted except for under 5'8" height. I have a weakness for shorter guys, but it doesn't matter to me that much, I don't care if he is a little taller than me, but only a little.

2020-02-01T02:53:26+00:00

- Balding. I was shocked to see how many guys in their mid-twenties are already balding. Not their fault but such a turn-off

- Bad shoes

- Bad hygiene - no need to explain

- Fat or plump

- Long hair. It looked good on young Robert Plant in the 70s, but you're not young Rober Plant and we're not in the 70s

- Weird hairstyles with a lot of hairspray, or different lengths, or dyed etc.

- It can be cute if he's a sharp dresser, but those hipster types who use like 10 different products for their "manly" beards? Just please no

- Guys much shorter than me

- On the other hand, very large/bulky men. They make me feel intimidated.

- Very light nordic blond types. Like flaxen hair, very pale skin, invisible eyebrows etc. Gingers too

- Baby-faced/round-faced

- Very young looking

- Voice. It's not just high-pitched, it's ANY voice that doesn't sound "right" to me. I guess that's where I'm most selective, and that's why I hate even the concept of dating apps

- Shaking their legs while sitting - immediate NO

- Rough/crude movements too. Men who move gracefully (and I don't mean in an effiminate way, it's really hard to describe until you really see one) are a God-given gift

7_0f_9 · 2020-02-01T06:12:17+00:00

i am so with you on the thin lips lol i hate that shit.

anyway, some of these i could compromise on if the dude in particular looks attractive overall, but yeah i'm pretty much put off by everything you listed.

mostly i just prefer to think about what i actually am attracted though.

pinkklady · 2020-02-01T07:10:07+00:00

• Shorter than 5’7

• overweight/“dad bod” or really skinny

• no muscle/strength (basically if they can’t lift me (i’m 115lbs), i’m not interested)

• weird facial hair

• weak chin

• straight hair

• unnaturally dyed hair

• weak chin

• face piercings

• GENITAL PIERCINGS

• doesn’t wear cologne/smell nice in general

• severe acne

• super thin lips

• tiny/weird looking/uncircumcised dick

EDIT: forgot to add: long/dirty nails, i know some guys whose nails are like three inches long and caked with dirt. it is straight up vomit-inducing.

moosecakies · 2020-02-01T10:30:48+00:00

Same. Everything you listed I won’t date either. 🤷🏻‍♀️

chungkingxbricks · 2020-02-01T03:10:36+00:00

Bad teeth, bad hygiene, back hair, and men shorter than 5’8.

4herlight · 2020-02-01T04:31:16+00:00

Other than the obvious ones listed already:

• huge beards (What are you hiding?!)

• face tattoos / Trashy ugly tattoos

• hunchback

• lazy eye. I just can’t. Where do I know to look to make eye contact properly?

• shaved pubes / stubble

Jumpingonair · 2020-02-01T04:45:33+00:00

-Bad hairline/balding -tiny legs/small calves (no small calf muscles- it’s a DB for me) -undefined arms -yellow teeth -bad skin -unkept facial hair -small/thin penis -little to no stomach definition, (I prefer abs or at least be firm and tight. ) -excessive body hair (I know some of you will get mad at this, but as a woman who is naturally pretty hairless and prefers herself hairless- I don’t see a problem) -shorter than 6 foot. -big noses (or should I say unflattering nose) -gummy smile - doesn’t know how to dress

Etc.

downbeatsue · 2020-02-01T05:23:21+00:00

You just described my ex in one list. God I can't believe I tried to encourage him to floss....thank God for FDS.

_mangoes_ · 2020-02-01T06:06:35+00:00

Under 6’1 (sorry not sorry)

Not fit

Bad teeth/skin/nails

No sense of style

Doesn’t smell good

Also I prefer brunettes with blue/green eyes

soxychamp · 2020-02-01T06:24:13+00:00

BO

Majorly crooked teeth

Non flat stomach

Man boobs

Balding

Title	Post your list of physical no-go's in men (Straight up honest thread)
Author	pinkpilledlady
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Comments	144
Date	January 31, 2020 6:32 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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