Why Men In Their Thirties Won't Commit — Solitary Beast

redbirdflies · 2020-07-11T23:53:53+00:00

I couldn’t get past the part about them being too busy pursuing their hobbies and interests

Watching porn, playing ‘Call of Duty’ and sleeping on a dirty mattress on the floor without a box spring surrounded by empty Mountain Dew Bottles in a room that smells like cigarettes and broken dreams are not hobbies, bruh.

Cosmictears83 · 2020-07-12T00:45:39+00:00

Oh SolitaryBeast.com again. They're still obsessing about our sub too.

43rdaccount · 2020-07-12T00:54:57+00:00

when youre 37 and sexualizing 13yos 👍🤮

gutsandgorey · 2020-07-12T03:00:36+00:00

"Women receive their value in the sexual marketplace up front. At 13, she is blessed with shiny, flowing hair, soft skin, a curvy waistline, and voluptuous breasts while boys her age wrestle with acne, awkwardness, and a squeaky voice. "

Is this guy on a list yet? Who describes a 13 year old that way??? And btw most women I know weren't "hot" as a preteen. We were also pimply, skinny and awkward.

LaBaronessa · 2020-07-12T00:13:04+00:00

Inaccurate af considering how many men I've come across OVER 35 who want to settle down with just about any woman. This includes the high earners that TRP and MGTOW talk about. Them too. They're desperate to get settled down and it's projection on a lot of us.

If it isn't that, they'll inevitably panic when they're 40+ if they haven't settled down. There's a lot of that too; I have enough friends who are in that age range that tell me how stalkerish they start getting when they don't get a response to their text after 10 minutes.

Also "hobbies and making money" ≠ porn addiction with no dates to spend money on so therefore they "save more".

sadcello · 2020-07-12T09:15:13+00:00

The only thing I hate about this article is that a man can say this

Heterosexual men don’t actually LIKE the company of women.

In big bold letters and everyone will clap and say he's telling the truth. But if I say it I'm a misandrist. Men don't like women, it's the truth whoever say it.

It's obvious because you can't like someone you don't respect. And for as long as men don't respect women, they'll never be able to like or love women. Any feelings of 'love' they have towards women is the same selfish love we have towards our food. We love the taste and how it makes us feel but we don't care if animals get killed to fulfill our desires. Men's 'love' towards women is selfish. The only people men love is themselves.

Men don't like women, they only see us as objects to use or trophies to win and make other men jealous. So once they get tired of the rat race, men can't pretend to love women anymore but they can't stop using women because they're addicted to how women make them feel.

Men need women, and the real reason men don't commit is because women have made it way too easy for men to get women without paying or sacrificing anything. That's how much feminism have freed men but of course they'll never give credit to feminism even if it kills them.

Now you know the true nature of men. That 1. They don't like women, 2. But they're addicted to how good women make them feel and can't live without any woman in their lives, even the so called MGTOW and bachelors and 3. They only commit when they can't get any woman anymore.

Replace women with fish and you'll see there's no difference. We don't like actual fish, we even find them ugly and repulsive, but we love how they taste and we only care about fish when they're almost gone now because of overfishing and global warming. But that doesn't mean we start to love fish, we just don't want to stop eating fish.

Do you understand now how much men actually need women and not vice versa? How much power women can have in a man's life? Have a strong standard and boundaries. Don't ever let men use you or take advantage of you. Force them to fulfill all your needs too or he's gone. Don't chase him, never ever chase him, let him go. Be a Queen.

ivarteefies · 2020-07-12T00:15:45+00:00

He missed one very, very important point.

According to this RP dude, men want or are driven less by sex less their 30's and 40's because women age and loose their looks, and that loss of incentive makes a relationship and dealing with women undesirable. Projection - can't get it up, ageing means less testosterone and a man's dwindling sex drive due to flogging it to hardcore porn has nothing to do with how women look.

But no woman wants the pillsbury doughboy, balding, devoid of a personality besides beer and fishing, especially late 30's and up. And by then it's too late because fuccboi has no stable relationship, no one to sucker into a life of servitude and changing his diaper when he realizes ageing won't spare him too. Oh, and kids. Fine sperm swimming around moldy scrotes at age 50, right?

Red pill men cancel themselves out. Every single time. At least with all the money they boast they have they can pay for their home care instead of expecting some poor woman to do it.

throwahweigh3521 · 2020-07-12T03:55:40+00:00

He’s insightful and correct about men not liking women’s companionship, the mercenary pursuit of sex for bro points, and that men’s sex tactics earn way more no than yes from women. He’s stupid blind believing that his observations indicate that men are winning at being men and therefore women are the losers.

He’s wrong that women are wired for relationship seeking and can be easily persuaded to be f*ck toys because there’s a possibility of a relationship at the end of his dick.

FYI: his shitty behavior is heterosexual dating in 2020. It’s as common as dirt. And like every other unwanted, unasked for and totally unnecessary passive aggressive bullying shit show women face on the daily- recipients hate their experiences and seek out answers. They don’t want to be on the c*ck carousel just because Suzy-Beth on Facebook is a wedding planner and mommy influencer.

Heterosexual couples are not being restructured like he imagines. Women are not wired for that shit show. Women have a plethora of other sustainable lifestyle options that don’t involve investing in unhappiness and uncertainty for a chance at a relationship. Women’s capacity to take a gamble on men is vastly overestimated.

Millions of women worldwide are done with men and millions more, know better than to date poorly behaved men (if they decide to date at all- many are opting for single only lives).

Women are not continuously and collectively allowing men to hurt them with dating fuckery because of social media pressure. That’s unsustainable. Despite all the gendered programming that grooms women for bad dating and relationships the dick isn’t that special after all. Women figure out first hand the orgasm gap and the reality that sex is the sum total of what men have to offer them. Bad sex isn’t enough.

This massive shift away from ltr and men’s normalization of shitty destructive behavior directed towards women has consequences.

My anecdotal experience is men of all ages cannot find a date, sex or the relationship they want. And the Internet is filled with men complaining they cannot find a woman. Moreover research shows a sex recession. There’s all sorts of science that shows heterosexual couples of all durations are not forming.

The men I met- it’s not always his looks or finances - tbh they’re awfully angry that there’s not a plentiful supply of women to run through- more often than not there’s no women that meet their expectations, and sometimes there’s just no women. I’ve told a few that they should stop shitting their own nest. They didn’t understand.

Women know men don’t like women as people and use them just for sex that isn’t pleasurable. Women know men don’t make good companions or conversationalists. We know men are work. We know men are violent. And in 2020 we know that it’s impossible to date shitty men.

I’d venture that men of all ages don’t commit because there’s nobody to commit to.

I no longer believe men’s elaborate fantasies about how heterosexuality works. They show their truth. It’s unsustainable to hate what you fuck.

tellmesomething11 · 2020-07-12T01:11:50+00:00

This sounds like such bullshit. Men may control their desires to have sex with women, but many times it’s due to ED. They can’t get it up, and the ones who can, are premature ejaculators. Also, yes, a man could date a younger, “easy going” woman, but most times they want commitment, even more so because that “biological clock” is ticking or they want to get married. I knew a guy who was in his late thirties dating a woman in her late twenties. He was constantly looking up how to prolong orgasm on YouTube and wanted to take steroids because he wanted to bulk up. Sir, no.

Anyway, it is what it is. Fuck that dude anyway. Especially when he claims that he’s living his best life, but still leading woman on and wasting their time. He could tell the woman he’s dragging along that he isn’t interested. But nah, he gotta be a scumbag and lead her on. I could say a whole lot more, but older men usually have beer bellies, poor health, can’t get it up and AINT SHIT. So try again buddy.

curlygirl507 · 2020-07-12T02:19:08+00:00

All of that is fine. All of us are better off without men anyway. They're almost always just a drain on our resources (time, energy and money) and a distraction from the fabulous lives we should be having without them.

PS - I'm more attractive now at 32 than I was at 21.

breadandbunny · 2020-07-12T07:03:39+00:00

Most men don't give a fucking shit about being in a relationship, period. That's why men in their 30s won't commit. Commitment is not hard to do, they simply do not give a fucking shit.

holodeckdeathtrap · 2020-07-12T00:45:50+00:00

What he's wrong about: This myth that women become undesirable after 30. I'm actually in the position of the man he's talking about. I'm getting hit on more, by younger guys, in my 30s than I was in my 20s. Like much more. It's not even close.

What he's right about: It was never about the man. It was about me, thinking I needed one. Having seen how much more I get done when I'm not carrying a man, I'm in no rush to settle down.

ErikaNaumann · 2020-07-12T11:28:58+00:00

It's true most men don't enjoy the company of women.

It's not true that men are these super accomplished, plenty of hobbies, rich, traveling guys that have so much energy in their late 30s. Most guys reaching their 40s are NOT rich, they are fat, bald and have very low energy. They sit on their sofas watching football, drinking bear, order take away, might play videogames online and jack off to porn.

Only a minority of men (of all ages, not just in their 30s) are like the guy in the article. And that guy is probably exaggerating A LOT.

mistlylotpot · 2020-07-12T00:14:18+00:00

Far out. I think this guy knows my most recent ex.... or is him 🧐

askmeifilikeanal · 2020-07-12T01:46:57+00:00

He is not as smart as he thinks he is and he isn’t right. Guys need a woman around and the realize it in their late 30s. They need the one to hold it together and keep things organized if they actually have a high profile job. At the end of the day most men are selfish enough to want their genes to continue on and they can’t manage that with a busy job without a woman. HVM appreciate a woman who is there for them and gives them affection just like women. These Lvm losers think they are cool because they fucked one desperate 23 year old while she was drunk but trust me she regrets it now

hilariouslystated · 2020-07-12T04:36:49+00:00

This man has his face on his website but it's likely hiding how morbidly obese he is, the real reason he was forced his own way.

Neorago · 2020-07-12T10:48:31+00:00

All I saw was a picture of a guy with "predator" on his laptop and redbull behind his bed. That's all I needed to know.

CassieGreen85 · 2020-07-12T05:03:40+00:00

WTF did he say about 13yo CHILDREN??

Someone please report this pedophile, put him on a watchlist and keep him away from children. That's some sick, pedophiliac shit right there.

myousername · 2020-07-12T06:17:43+00:00

By age 35, a man has been in a few relationships. He’s experienced the ups and downs of tying himself to a woman: navigating her tumultuous moods, dealing with crying fits, manipulation, and expectations. Previously, the promise of sex was enough to balance out the drama.

Translation: I hate women, their only redeeming quality is sex.

I mean seriously, imagine the redpill uproar if I wrote an article that ended with:

By age 25, a woman has been in a few relationships. She's experienced the ups and downs of tying herself to a man: navigating his controlling behavior, fits of rage, domination, and expectations of domestic and sexual servitude. The only value that men bring to a relationship is money.

Oh wait, I don't have to imagine, because we already post stuff like that all the time and men are bitter AF about it. They dish it out, but can't take it 😂

EffectiveHoneydew422 · 2020-07-12T13:59:27+00:00

Couldn’t finish reading that this guy sounds like a fucking boring loser. He’s got big ideas and a future of travelling LOL imagining those pathetic older single sleezy men who are all free and trVel but they trust me my mum married and divorced one of these guys who thought he was this catch and young at 40 but he just kept womanising and now is really sad ugly delusional old creep.

TVsFrankismyDad · 2020-07-12T04:11:38+00:00

This guy is 37. He's kicking it with his hobbies and female attention. Let me tell you about this guy in 10 years.

The single man at 47 is sad. He is alone. All of his friends have settled down and now spend every weekend and vacation with their wives and or kids. He's lucky to get together with them once in a while for a barbeque or party when one of his couple friends has one. Younger single men do not want to hang out with him. He's old and pathetic if he tries to hang with them and he scares off the women those guys want. Those 22 year olds that dated him on a lark ten years ago are gone ('cause c'mon guys, you know you don't get young girls because you're just sooo hot, right? - it's for curiosity and shits and giggles while we critique your penis and sexual performance with our girlfriends. LOL men are so easy.). Those girls found someone and got married and had kids and the new batch of 22 year olds think he's old and pathetic. He lives with lots of regrets; he's dated plenty of good women over the years but let them get away. Now no decent woman wants his crusty ass; his dating prospects have shriveled to those "old, desperate" women with lots of baggage that he found so unacceptable 10 years ago.

But the worst part? The absolute worst? None of the other men are jealous of his single lifestyle any longer. Because this author is correct. For LVM men it is all about getting the validation of other men and gaining masculine street cred. But that doesn't work by the late 40s. The other men do NOT think Mr. Bachelor here has it great. They understand that his life is empty and pathetic, too. And that's the worst part - he no longer gets masculine pats on the back from his buds. He just gets pity from everyone.

*source: I'm gonna be 50 this year and know a couple of these guys. Not a single one wouldn't trade their uncommitted 30s for the companionship of a committed relationship now. Their loneliness is real. It's sad. And it's 100% their own fault.

slightlyolderthanyou · 2020-07-12T18:10:07+00:00

This article is so cringeworthy and just illustrates this guy's inability to connect with women on a deeper level. Besides, in his picture I really don't see a wealthy, healthy 30-something adventurer, I see a bald basement dweller with patchy beard and two washed out sweaters, standard ikea-couch and ugly curtains for his rotten apartment. No wonder he hates women, they probably barf at his ugly personality.

2020-07-12T02:01:34+00:00

What did i just (skim) read?!? Few things make me sad-cringe as hard as guys like this. I knew one once. It was like he never outgrew the "bro phase". It's fine i guess. Just such a sad existence. Ultimately it just revolves around obsessing over young (junior high wtf) girls and reminiscing of sexual "conquests". Oh and "hobbies" LOL. Sure buddy. Think of all of humanity, all the men who have lived and died leading fulfilling lives and making a mark on the earth (in the form of family, deep connections, art and love) but meanwhile there are these 40 yr old bros still clinging to the fantasy that their female peers are longing for them while they pursue their "hobbies" and justify their anxiety ridden bachelor status. It's just SO SAD. I hate it. The saddest part was saying he doesn't enjoy the company of women and making a claim that no men do. He's obviously got issues. But as a result he's missing out on a lot of life. He should just go to a therapist because he's got sad, lonely, bitter old man written all over his future. What a sad article, i wish i wouldn't have clicked on it.

pipeuptopipedown · 2020-07-12T08:00:23+00:00

Pretty offensive that he puts up a photo of a full-figured black woman with natural hair (and glasses!) to illustrate the article about "unattractive women"

ETA: Getting deeper into the article (so you don't have to) he's really going out of his way to single out and disparage black women. Feh

ironymaiden87 · 2020-07-12T10:08:45+00:00

"For women beyond age 30, a serious relationship is a MUST HAVE item, and she can’t stand being without one"

"Male attention, a woman’s main source of self-worth"

Absolutely fuck off. This guy is as low value as they get.

randomgirlimok · 2020-07-12T06:58:47+00:00

A lot of what he said was true of most men, except he vastly overestimates how attractive a 35 yr old man is. Unless you have money...

ChristianGirl93 · 2020-07-12T20:45:31+00:00

Oh my God... okay so 1. We are upset about guys we friend zone? Really? In what Universe? (The entitlement) 2. Homeboy is 37 and just has -one blog- (not even a book, not a study, not a new design or a charity) -has traveled- but for what? Did he learn anything about other cultures, make new friends, or new hobbies? NO -has skydived (I’ll let y’all read my mind here) -so... In 37 years this man has had no growth mentally, emotionally, socially, or at all- he is merely like bad wine he hasn’t changed at all. BUT this shows you how much a WOMAN’s influence will better a man -men who listen to and are friends with women ... GROW, as a person, as a leader, as a friend and husband but this guy never will

RadarFemef · 2020-07-12T12:54:47+00:00

What the fuck is up with that picture? The energy drink cans? Are you serious? I’m surprised there isn’t cheetoh dust and porn

0kfornow · 2020-07-13T02:25:03+00:00

Also they better get their skates on because no woman, no matter how old wants them after that. If they aren't bothering to give a woman some commitment ie marriage then who exactly do they think will be interested in them and why? Exactly what do they think they're offering?

timeknife · 2020-07-12T23:59:20+00:00

OP (u/kht777)

Please stop linking to posts on sites by incels. It's frustrating that because of this and the other post by this blogger being put here, this guy's now number 3 on Google for "Female Dating Strategy", while therealfemaledatingstrategy.com isn't even on page one.

This is not strategic.

Even copying and pasting the text can still have this effect. If you really want to show the contents of this external blog in order to critique it, then use the Internet Wayback Machine to create an archive and link to that.

/PSA

ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2020-07-13T04:12:25+00:00

Imagine creating a whole blog to fap about and try to normalize your mental hang ups and commitment issues.... 🙄🤦‍♀️ what a piteous creature.

wootykins · 2020-07-13T14:56:21+00:00

Why LVM*** In Their Thirties Won’t Commit

shakethat_milkshake · 2020-07-13T19:44:02+00:00

Wow. Found this on the same website:

https://solitarybeast.com/blog/whats-in-it-for-the-high-value-man

Solitary Beast is keenly aware of what FDS is doing.

Quote from the article:
"Little girls play house with dolls and Easy Bake Ovens from the time they can walk. Planning a glamorous wedding, being a married woman and a mother is most women’s dream their entire lives. Even the strong, independent FDS Queens need a man to marry them to bring the dream into reality.

As a man, you have the power to make a woman’s wildest dreams come true."

fairywakes · 2020-07-14T08:00:02+00:00

At the end of the article he talks about this beautiful woman he is using for sex - she is pursuing a serious relationship with him. He dodges the question, makes her wait, because the bachelor life is “too good to give up”.

Fine. For him. However, fuck him for stringing a very good woman along. She probably thinks there is something there and he is too evil to tell her he’ll never commit.

Disgusting.

Title	Why Men In Their Thirties Won't Commit — Solitary Beast
Author	kht777
Upvotes	78
Comments	111
Date	July 11, 2020 11:48 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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Heterosexual men don’t actually LIKE the company of women.