Oh well

plutonian_princess · 2020-08-13T18:19:14+00:00

God this is so triggering lol

redplaidyarn · 2020-08-13T18:21:17+00:00

I cannot even begin to count how many times this has happened to me in past relationships.

“Hey, this is something you did/said, and this is me expressing how I feel shitty about it” -me (carefully tiptoeing and trying to remember not to use language that may cause a defensive response ex. not using “you made me feel shitty”)

“That was never my intention, but now I’m gonna need you to console me because you made me feel shitty for telling me how shitty I made you feel” - him

*uhhh huh??? feeling so confused and somehow empty and me ending up apologizing??? - me

sanguine_duality · 2020-08-13T19:19:37+00:00

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123deedeedee · 2020-08-13T23:18:13+00:00

'Sometimes I cry knowing how I've hurt you'. Ok so stop hurting me????

GRCA · 2020-08-13T18:21:36+00:00

Sometimes they can’t even manage the first line. You just get “How could you say something like that to me?” or “I don’t want to feel bad about doing that.”

ieatrainbowsprinkles · 2020-08-13T18:52:08+00:00

Anything I ever brought up was met with a giant sigh, “what’s your problem?” or my personal favorite, him just leaving the room.

How are these men out here able to get themselves dressed and go to work every day, pay bills, but can’t have a god damn conversation or admit when they’re wrong?

Flufferly · 2020-08-13T18:23:23+00:00

"I'm in this picture and I don't like it"

Milobear27 · 2020-08-13T19:07:42+00:00

“I was awake all night because of what you said”
I wanted to say good!!

ohlizard · 2020-08-13T20:55:01+00:00

This reminds me of all my exes so bad, I hate it lol. Like one of my exes cheated on me and told me how much it hurt him that he hurt me like that... excuse me wat

stg21987 · 2020-08-13T22:24:40+00:00

I’ve gotten the whole “It wasn’t my intention to hurt you.” But you did and you’re not even going to apologize now because it wasn’t your intention?! 🤦🏻‍♀️

tuodnanwod · 2020-08-13T19:29:41+00:00

“I’m sick of you making me feel bad about myself!” He said this bc I was trying to get to the truth of his lying, liking girls’ provocative photos on IG, sending photos of his dick to co-workers, keeping me hidden on social media.

So to recap: He was upset at me for making him feel bad about being terrible to me...

Cytrinex · 2020-08-14T00:14:13+00:00

Real talk - how do you shut this down? Even men in my own family pull that switch and end up making me comfort them for their hurt feelings when I was talking about my own. I can't block/delete/avoid them, so if anyone has a good killswitch for that behaviour plz let me know

painmakesyoustronger · 2020-08-14T00:12:46+00:00

Every time. It’s like they expect a prize for acknowledging how selfish they are, like the self awareness is a of any consolation.

prizebeansprout · 2020-08-14T01:10:48+00:00

"You're making me feel like an asshole, and I don't like it!"

elsalinneakarlberg · 2020-08-13T20:55:11+00:00

SMH VIOLENTLY

PollyAnnaSunshine · 2020-08-13T22:58:32+00:00

OMG this is like someone was spying on me and my ex. The pictures even kinda look like us.

breadandbunny · 2020-08-14T00:49:22+00:00

Fuck every single piece of shit that does that. FUCK YOU! You're not the one having a hard time. Stop treating people like shit! Plain and simple. (Not directed at OP. This shit just makes me fucking angry, especially because I've been on the receiving end of it.)

starsheepie · 2020-08-14T00:57:32+00:00

Or they get angry & upset at YOU after they hurt YOU!!!

I hate this sh!t. 😒

RiteWriter · 2020-08-13T19:35:19+00:00

Makes

Sorry and Sorry I was an ass look high effort

🤮

mandiefavor · 2020-08-13T22:31:22+00:00

Well... Saving that for the next time an ex hits me up out of the blue.

0kfornow · 2020-08-13T22:44:45+00:00

My ex

LadyArellano · 2020-08-13T22:53:09+00:00

I’m triggered so hard right now 🤦🏽‍♀️

marsupialface · 2020-08-14T09:13:28+00:00

seen

When I told my ex how much he’d hurt my feelings by telling me I was socially awkward and didn’t compare to his ex, he text back “yes I’m an awful person and deserve to just kill myself, you’re right”.

!?!?!!

Not at all what I’d said to him. Said as much. “Nah you did”. He put his phone on airplane mode and had me, the girl he discarded pretty horribly, panicking at home and wondering whether or not to call his parents about his apparent suicidal thoughts.

He was on Tinder 24 hours later lmao

LemonEnhancingPolish · 2020-08-14T01:04:16+00:00

This brought up some old memories and jeez I am not too thrilled about this.

hunhun1299 · 2020-08-14T02:08:29+00:00

OMG THIS!!!

catsorbet · 2020-08-14T05:02:11+00:00

textbook

GretaTheBeeotch · 2020-08-14T02:01:56+00:00

Grrrrrr

stressedasheck · 2020-08-14T07:27:28+00:00

When your ex wanted to cheat on you but you shut it down before he could do it and he’s still angry at everyone cause he “doesn’t know what he did wrong” and I’m a child and sadist for not telling him, even though I did lmao. Clown shit.

phage_rage · 2020-08-14T07:49:58+00:00

My soon to be ex husband gets mad when I bring up he cheated for 2 of the 3 years we were married because I'm just making him feel bad. (Yes I know I have to cut him off from my life but its been less than a month since I found out an we were together 9 years. I'm getting there, but for now I like the option to call and remind him what a piece of shit he is when I'm vodka drunk in my new apartment)

flamingo23232 · 2020-09-24T18:49:49+00:00

Lol, my sister does this.

Title	Oh well
Author	owlwriteapoem
Upvotes	2088
Comments	97
Date	August 13, 2020 5:56 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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