Red Pillers and MGTOWs (because 'going their own way' for these men means obsessing over the sex life of women full-time rather than part-time, as proven by their sub) keep saying that most women get 'pumped and dumped until they are post-wall and settle for a beta'.

This is absurd, because most women are brought up from an early age knowing that 'men are only after one thing', and taught how to easily steer clear of the trash that only wants sex and is not afraid to manipulate women to get it. These are basic rules, really.

  1. The man must always pay for all dates, especially before the relationship is established. After all, young single women have options, and men are the ones who have to fight for the privilege of 'getting access to the eggs' and passing their genes on, seeing as sperm is very cheap. Hence, they must invest.

  2. Never have sex with a man on the first date or heck, before ten dates. A relationship must be established first and the man must sweat and invest time, money and attention to get to sex (I always used this rule, and it always worked/led to a LTR).

  3. Never give him too much attention. Don't be starstruck. As a woman, you always have plenty of options. You send him one text for each two he sends you. He must be the one doing all the work.

  4. Clarify, long before sex, that you are in an exclusive relationship and that you expect to be introduced to his friends and parents. Ideally, you would meet at least the friends before having sex.

The only reason why a woman would get pumped and dumped is that she does not follow these guidelines/behave like she is worth so much more than the man. If she gives him what he wants without making him desperately sweat for it, of course he'll take advantage of her. But if you follow these rules you will never get pumped and dumped. It never happened to me in 24 years of life, and it also makes dating quite relaxing, because you as the woman are not the one putting in all the work (and you should not be anyway. Eggs are scarce, sperm is cheap and plentiful).

Tl;dr Not getting used by men is pretty easy, it's all about not giving them what they want, behaving like you are of much higher value than they are, and making them sweat for your attention. If you behave like you are worth a lot, human psyche being what it is, people will begin to believe it.