JOIN US ON DISCORD - LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD

Arrowdodgingace · 2026-08-08T22:02:12+00:00

The biggest plight of the body positivity movement was they were asking for attraction more than they were respect and acceptance. Don’t believe me? Tell a body positivity girlie you don’t find a certain trait attractive on a woman. Instead of the mature “Ok whatever you can like what you wanna like but you still need to treat people with respect”, you’ll actually get “if it’s small just say so!” Or “a real man would [blank]”.

We should treat people with respect no matter what they look like. That doesn’t mean they need to find you hot.

Hot_Lack_4868 · 2026-08-09T04:47:12+00:00

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Imagine actually believing this. Such a disconnect from reality.

Mysterious-Candy8615 · 2026-08-08T16:33:16+00:00

I’m an objectively good looking guy. I can say the women who approach me first are deluded. If the genders were reversed it would be like a short; overweight ginger guy approaching a fit long-haired feminine stacy.

If I want women in my league I have to approach them myself and face rejection many times. But I am not lying when I say women are deluded when it comes to their own league. When you see a 2/10 female rating herself a 9/10 on social media it’s not ragebait; she really means it.

Educational-Bag-4293 · 2026-08-10T09:53:48+00:00

How come I keep reading on reddit that the average man is ugly and doesn't take care of himself? Most Gen Z men I see IRL look very good, they clearly put a lot of work into their appearance. I think the average young guy where I live would be considered a chad on reddit.

Mysterious-Candy8615 · 2026-08-08T18:09:15+00:00

Agree or not :

For a man to approach a woman he just needs to think he has a chance with her

For a woman to approach a man she has to find him very good looking regardless of her own attractiveness

Hot_Lack_4868 · 2026-08-09T05:23:45+00:00

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Broader range of what's considered attractive 🤔

Plenty-Practice-6399 · 2026-08-08T22:53:47+00:00

I'm going back to sane land and not falling much for people who generalize a whole sex. I've been treated as shit by men and by women, i've been treated fairly well by men and by women. When i look at my experiences they show me no group is an absolute evil or absolute good. That's prob what normal people think but recently it seems more and more unpopular 💀 sadly our brains get addicted to negativity so hating on people also is. I wish people simply didn't get money with such, it's depressing seeing dudes getting millionaire by dehumanizing me.

Mysterious-Candy8615 · 2026-08-09T10:55:33+00:00

The most efficient way to get women is to be 1. physically attractive 2. someone who doesn’t overthink what he says or does regarding women

If you are 2. but not 1. you’ll just be a creep to them and get harrassment cases against you

If you are 1. but not 2. you’ll get plenty of IOI’s but you may not act on them or kill the attraction later on

Mysterious-Candy8615 · 2026-08-09T07:01:02+00:00

Are we sure women take rejection better than men ?

Everytime I saw a female get rejected (usually by a guy way above her league) she and her female friends will say : “He must be gay”; “He must have a small dick” or “He’s not a real man and can’t handle you”.

Whereas most men I see getting rejected have build a shield around it and will just go and try with the next girl.

winter_lover28 · 2026-08-10T07:12:35+00:00

The narrative is always that women only have their looks to be attractive to men, while men can be unattractive but become attractive because of money or fame. However, rich and famous women also wouldn't have any trouble attracting men.

Possible_Company_her · 2026-08-11T16:15:43+00:00

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Arrowdodgingace · 2026-08-12T02:15:36+00:00

Is attraction for anyone else a case by case basis? Like I can describe traits I like because it’s not really enough to get me hot for them. I gotta look at them as a whole. I’ll know when I see it.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2026-08-08T17:03:55+00:00

The founder of looksmax.org went on Claviculars stream to rate (mostly men) faces.

He’s the one on the left, just in case people got confused with two Maxed out chads in the picture

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That’s right- he’s the guy who created and designed the whole looksmaxing internet subculture.

Hot_Lack_4868 · 2026-08-09T13:03:01+00:00

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Life of an unattractive women. Situationships, casual hookups ...

winter_lover28 · 2026-08-08T17:49:30+00:00

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Good physique for casual sex?

b_berry458 · 2026-08-09T19:50:02+00:00

Eyes? Do you prefer certain eye colours, do you like glasses? 👓
Okay random but I get comments for having big pupils. Do you notice particular things about peoples eyes?

Excellent_Badger123 · 2026-08-10T03:27:58+00:00

I have a date tonight with a looksmatched man 🤗

Excellent_Badger123 · 2026-08-11T02:35:37+00:00

Q4All: how do tattoos factor into attractiveness for you? Plus, minus, neutral?

y2kjanelle · 2026-08-11T07:03:33+00:00

Which ppd guy is my looksmatch?

Throw-away10111 · 2026-08-12T19:39:36+00:00

WARNING: A very unhinged and triggering view of body image

Whew y'all are harsh in these comments so now I know this is the only place I can post this opinion without sounding controversial. I'm going to sound very crazy but I can't look at very anorexic people without it making me very uncomfortable. Not uncomfortable in the sense that I feel bad for them (I do but that doesn't trigger a visceral response), uncomfortable in the sense that I'm visibly unnerved, stressed and sometimes even disgusted with the body. For context, I have underweight friends and they look fine. Most celebrities are underweight and look fine. Normal weight fine. Plus size fine. For some reason my mind has a knee jerk reaction to very visibly underweight people.

I cannot look at that Ariana Grande music video or pictures of her or any severely anorexic people. The chest area where the bones start jutting out scare me. A human skeleton fine. A human with flesh fine. But seeing bones through flesh makes me viscerally cringe. You know how tripoohobia makes people's skin crawl that's me with very visible, prominent bones on flat areas like the chest. A collar bone is beautiful, pointy elbows are beautiful, I'll even take pointy shoulders. But, once the bones are popping out of your chest or your ribs are poking out very prominently I cannot look at it. It makes me feel like my own skin is thinning out at the chest. It's such an unpleasant feeling.

Every time they showed us pictures of those kids with biology I couldn't stomach it. In school we once had to watch a video of a smoker who ended up with lung cancer and they showed a still picture of him close to the end of his life where he was so skinny every bone was practically visible under his flesh and I was terrified. I slept with the lights on for three days because that still image was so burnt into my mind. At the time it terrified me and I don't understand why. Like the image of frail patient scared me when I was 11 years old because all of his bones were sticking out. It doesn't make any sense.

The only other thing that triggers me that much is large amounts of blood. For most of my life I couldn't tolerate any amount of blood on a screen. My friend at 9 made us watch a movie about a girl who's arm gets bitten off by a shark (Her name was Bethany I think). She watched the shark bite her arm off while eating pasta. I ran to the other room.

Then you have someone like my partner who can stomach everything under the sun. He used to watch episodes of botched as a child because he found it interesting. Meanwhile, someone's fresh bloody nose job popped up on Reddit and I had to block it whilst half covering the screen.

I feel so bad because I think it's immature to be, for lack of a better word, disgusted, with the state of a human body that's visibly suffering due to mental illness or any other reason - like the men who think any women who are overweight are disgusting sound very vindictive and insensitive, so I know that's how this nonsense of mine sounds. I'm a big ass hypocrite because I cannot even stomach looking at Ariana chest for 2 seconds unless she's covered up. Whilst I judge people for telling bigger people to cover up.

Being slim/skinny is fine and obviously the beauty standards in most cases but for some reason there is a very low weight where bones that are generally non-visible start poking out and it triggers a very uncomfortable response in my chest. Like I'm stressed looking at you and I don't know why. It's the most irrational thing ever.

Ironically, people who are 700lbs are on the other end of the spectrum and they don't make me feel nearly as viscerally uncomfortable and I don't know why. I'm not attracted to them either but there's nothing about looking at them that makes me feel stressed out either. I could watch an episode of my 600lb life with no problems or qualms. My partner could watch something like botched but would immediately turn off an episode of my 600lb. I wish I could understand the psychology.

Somerandomdudereborn · 2026-08-10T18:07:55+00:00

Daily and friendly reminder for how it works for most people:

Looks > Neurotypicality > Status > Personality.

ThatBitchA · 2026-08-10T18:29:20+00:00

No. I wouldn't date someone who thought I was mid.

I'm interested in the guy who thinks I'm the hottest, sexiest, prettiest, cutest, best looking woman ever.

Spread-Em-Plz · 2026-08-12T17:18:31+00:00

Slightly brutal, but also unsurprising lookspill moment?

I work with kids, and while there does exist a general sense of “kids are cute”, there definitely are some who are more universally doted on for being cute, and they definitely get extra attention at times for being so

Ok-Coat7665 · 2026-08-08T16:08:53+00:00

Let’s settle this once and for all. What is the ideal boob size?

Grow_peace_in_Bedlam · 2026-08-08T16:15:15+00:00

I feel like people used to have separate standards for celebrities and people in real life.

For example, when I was in high school (early to mid-2000s), I remember one girl who was a bit chubby (but not in a way that affected her curviness) and squat-bodied. I distinctly remember thinking how she would look funny on MTV but looked very attractive to me in real life.

Do people not make that distinction anymore?

Just_Alternative3167 · 2026-08-08T20:11:19+00:00

Hooked/aquiline noses look so cool btw. Mine is only slightly hooked, I wish it was more visible. I should get into a fist fight and nose break-maxx

Arrowdodgingace · 2026-08-09T02:30:58+00:00

Walked into a sunglasses hut today and saw the most beautiful blonde woman in a white dress. She was very shy but endearing.

Arrowdodgingace · 2026-08-10T16:01:26+00:00

My skin is so red. I wear sunscreen everyday religiously for about a year now but I guess it’s just genetics. Is there any cosmetics or skincare I can do to change it to a tanner or more pale color??

Arrowdodgingace · 2026-08-11T00:51:56+00:00

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winter_lover28 · 2026-08-11T18:28:42+00:00

Young Adriana Lima was so hot, God. Blue eyes make women 10 times more attractive to me.

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At30wecrashout · 2026-08-11T20:58:40+00:00

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I think Dua Lipa is a 10/10

Arrowdodgingace · 2026-08-12T04:18:12+00:00

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Lucia Cifarelli is the few woman I consider to be a legit 10.

Just_Alternative3167 · 2026-08-12T13:51:18+00:00

Q4W: Do you agree with inkwells/looksmaxxers that the Giga Chads (so called "PSL gods") they make these montages about (no homo) are the peak of male attractiveness? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MckA9G0It4U

Reasonable_Mouse789 · 2026-08-15T02:18:01+00:00

Psychology and familiarity affect how attractive you think someone is.

I think attractive people grow used to each other’s looks in the same way as unattractive people grow used to each other’s looks. However, when someone outside of a person’s familiarity presents themselves, the attractive people get good responses, and the unattractive people get bad responses.

This effect can be noticed by staring at pictures. Looking at images of top models for 5 minutes will make you feel more “familiar” with them. However, if you then switch to normal people, they will all feel very ugly.

This effect reverses for people who “go outside”. They become mostly familiar with ugly people, and then become stricken by the rare very attractive person.

This can be tested by staring at yourself and what you look like on video. You’re probably “familiar” with your own face, so your mind doesn’t criticize it. If you stare at models, then you will probably hate your face a bit. If you stare at ugly people, then you will probably like your face more.

This also leads to something that I think passport bros pick up on: “exotic” people get extra points for their attractiveness, even if they’d be “average” elsewhere. This is because people are less familiar with their distinct looks.

It also leads to a concept I’d call “social media poisoning” or “dating app poisoning”. You should be able to be attracted to people who are facially at about the same level as you. If everyone you socialize with seems “chopped”, then a decent cure might literally be to go stare at some ugly people on the internet for a bit to reset your senses to be more attracted to “normal” people.

Tardigrade_Disco · 2026-08-08T23:19:25+00:00

I wonder why my neighbors fat ugly wife will literally throw herself at me and say how hot I am while at the same time even mildly attractive women will often ignore my advances. I could understand if less attractive women would just allow me to date them or sleep with them if I was genuinely not very attractive. That would make sense. But the way some less attractive women actively pursue me vs. the way slightly attractive women behave towards me has me completely lost in judging how women perceive me in terms of attractiveness.

Spread-Em-Plz · 2026-08-09T12:04:16+00:00

I think the real brutal pill to swallow is that if you were ugly or average and became above-average or downright hot, that you still will never have the same nervous system as someone who was born attractive

You’ve had such different experiences and it’s gonna take more time for you to learn to be more fixed in the identity that you are attractive. It could play to your favor if you’re confident in your newfound looks while also having been humble because of your past experiences

But if imma be real,quite a bit of guys start acting out and become weirdos or act like they’re not used to being attractive, instead of letting the fact exist for what it is

Proudvow · 2026-08-10T03:44:30+00:00

A bunch of guys in here talking about how much they get approached.

I never get approached. Dudes like me prove how much not having looks matters.

There is literally a looks threshold below which you are completely ignored. I don't why people gaslight about this. Looks determine whether you get some opportunities or literally zero.

Hot_Lack_4868 · 2026-08-10T05:15:01+00:00

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Ain't this true. You can be extremely obese, make no money , have no personality and you'll still have options simply because your dating pool is men. You don't even need to "compensate" in any way.

Mysterious-Candy8615 · 2026-08-10T08:48:44+00:00

For men it’s either all or nothing. You get all the female attention if you’re a top 5% male and you get zero female attention if you are a sub 80% male.

For women it’s more evenly distributed. Hot girls will get the most but average and even below average women will get their fair share of male attention.

Bluepillers will cope and say this only applies to dating apps but it’s the same dynamic in real life.

Just_Alternative3167 · 2026-08-10T13:35:09+00:00

Do you guys think the looksmatch of a short (but fit) dude is a fat woman? To me even though I can see the reasoning why one would think that it strikes me as quite unfair/unreasonable.

Logos1789 · 2026-08-12T14:34:25+00:00

Do you think it’s a coincidence that most of the mass violence perpetrators are relatively unattractive?

I don’t, but they are still solely responsible for choosing to commit harm and I do not condone it

Axis_Control · 2026-08-10T13:23:04+00:00

Kinda wanna grow my hair long and luscious and brush it on onlyfans 😂

Arrowdodgingace · 2026-08-10T18:12:48+00:00

Everyone, True or false?: Beautiful women have men approaching them far less because many men don’t think they have a chance with her compared to a similarly average woman.

Ok_Use7 · 2026-08-11T15:12:09+00:00

A lot of women debate on this sub like attractive men don't exist.

Someone told me that women objectively never explore old options because new ones always exist and that I wouldn't understand because I'm not a woman.

Truth is though, pretty privilege for men trumps a lot of what gets discussed here. People say women don't do this or will never do that and it makes for such bad debates because nobody accounts for what they apparently don't know when making arguments.

Hot men aren't confined by whatever y'all be talking about on here man lmao.

growframe · 2026-08-12T15:43:29+00:00

I don't hold much stock in the topic itself, but I do have to raise an eyebrow whenever some women say things like "well of course he should pay considering how much effort we put into dolling up. If he wants a good looking woman he'll have to pay up" regarding paying for dates.

And like... no? The most attractive women I know don't really have to "doll up". This isn't a "makeup = faking" or "natural look" point, attractive women use their fair share of product, but as far as I know it's not really this super elaborate process. When you're attractive it's more about enhancing your look than creating it

winter_lover28 · 2026-08-14T17:40:05+00:00

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Good physique for casual sex?

ThatBitchA · 2026-08-11T22:39:29+00:00

As a woman, if I lined up 10 random dudes, odds are I'd be attracted to maybe 1 or 2. Maybe. And chances are those 1 or 2 would be disqualified because they didn't hit a specific standard. So out of 10 random dudes, I'm not likely to find one compatible.

Why do y'all expect women to be attracted to 8 out of 10 random dudes???

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OffTheRedSand · 2026-08-08T21:30:02+00:00

Q4BlackPillers:

if looks are everything, which i'm not trying to argue against, do you also think looks are everything to men too and that women EVERYONE loses to chads/stacy or do you think it affects men more?

for example i've seen the criminal chad experiment and yea, brutal. but the exact same outcome would come if you reverse the genders. which argues against the notion that women are the virtous gender, but it doesn't show women care more about looks than men do. it kind of shows they do to the same extent if anything.

Hot_Lack_4868 · 2026-08-13T22:52:31+00:00

https://np.reddit.com/r/antiai/s/UdX9aSAHLd

Thoughts on this?

GetOverlt · 2026-08-11T15:41:04+00:00

I would rather see anorexic bitches than landwhales.

Body positivity is stupid.

GetOverlt · 2026-08-12T10:56:23+00:00

The world is healing

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zgtlunatic · 2026-08-12T15:06:41+00:00

More faces from TRM I've handpicked. Thoughts?

Face 1 - Extremely Attractive

Face 2 - Very Attractive

Face 3 - Decently above average

Face 4 - Average

Face 5 - Below Average

Face 6 - Considerably below average (3.5 is outright repulsive)

Possible_Company_her · 2026-08-12T18:30:50+00:00

Is anyone ever curious how the men and women on those incel/femcel subreddits look like?

In real life I see short men with attractive wives having children. I see plus sized girls with men dotting over them. Nothing like the worlds that some subreddits draw.

Anyone managed to see pictures of them?

zgtlunatic · 2026-08-09T23:16:30+00:00

Who here knows of the case of Natalia Vodianova? - The woman who went from selling fruits on the street to marrying the son of (at the time) the richest man in the world

I think most manosphere autists, RPillers and Bpillers would say this is a case of "hypergamy" while ignoring this one thing - She's extremely attractive. Like, on the same tier as Blanca Soler and a prime Jennifer Conelly.

zgtlunatic · 2026-08-10T23:34:13+00:00

Why do some men think makeup is frauding?

Possible_Company_her · 2026-08-11T19:08:32+00:00

How common is actual love, like the ones you read in stories or see in anime? With pure lifelong love and shit.

I feel like in the real world people get horny, break up and then end up alone. At least for a majority of people?

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Reasonable_Mouse789 · 2026-08-12T06:01:27+00:00

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I think 95% of people are unattractive. Even when I look at some celebrity such as Brad Pitt, if someone takes a picture that’s even slightly unflattering, they lose all their appeal. Your face has to be nearly perfect to be considered universally hot in 2026

You can tell that, even though there’s nothing fully “off” about his face, he just doesn’t have the same facial appeal as a Tinder “Chadfish”

Reasonable_Mouse789 · 2026-08-12T06:15:56+00:00

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It‘s legitimately a good question to ask what percentage of men are about as facially attractive as this guy

Arrowdodgingace · 2026-08-12T23:46:26+00:00

Anyone actually had any plastic surgery done here?

Reasonable_Mouse789 · 2026-08-14T01:31:13+00:00

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Who are the hottest couples? When I try to compare anyone to this almost everyone seems “chopped”

Reasonable_Style8214 · 2026-08-15T06:40:19+00:00

Tattoos on a woman is a red flag - it shows she's likely an impulsive wannabe special who tends to make poor long term decisions. Just imagine what those are gonna look like when she gets older and her skin loses elasticity and starts sagging. Yuck.

Lemon_gecko · 2026-08-10T06:45:01+00:00

I've met a hot guy a week ago. He was fit, like really nice body. And the personality of a zucchini. And i was looking at that, and i thought that he spend all this time in the gym, probably wanting to make himself hot and attractive, and all i can feel is disappointment because the only thing he is is hot, and all i can do is just look and maybe touch his body. I can't even have good sex with him. Totally pointless. So yeah, "foot at the door" and "looks are everything" to what end if i closed the door as fast as i've opened it?

OffTheRedSand · 2026-08-10T11:33:50+00:00

It’s not just about having a traditional wife. You can’t even have hookups or get skinny decent looking prostitutes in the US

Said by a 5’5 male LMAO

It’s all hypergamy

OffTheRedSand · 2026-08-09T17:55:33+00:00

this post is brutal.

none of these males would've dates any of these women had these women been chopped but women would gladly date a chopped dude if he can compensate in some other way while all males care about is how hot you are.

IgorXY · 2026-08-09T08:27:22+00:00

I cut around 15cm of hair and still get used to it. Were shoulder long now mouth/chin.

All I am saying is remember how some people use "get a haircut" as advice for men to look better? I am that man, i just refuse to do it, i like longer hair even if they look worse.

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