Sex Toys Mega-Thread

abaxeron · 2021-09-18T19:27:39+00:00

"Women are good sex toys"; "people are good sex toys"; have I missed something? Have humans learned how to vibrate and produce high-frequency electric shocks while I was away?

Offtopic. Can we have 'Men Ain't Shit; the Thread' for the next week?

HumanSockPuppet · 2021-09-17T17:43:29+00:00

Women make perfectly-fine sex toys.

MisterJose · 2021-09-17T05:20:53+00:00

I see most of the stuff here is about female sex toys. I have to say, I wish I had eliminated the stigma in my mind years ago and experimented with the different male sex toys. Looking back, it probably would have been good of me to get the most realistic fake vagina available and 'practice' with it, because the way I jerked off had so little to do with the motions or feel of penetrative sex, it created a real awkwardness trying to adjust, as well as a lack of confidence.

Also, turns out putting things in your butt feels really good.

TheBookOfSeil · 2021-09-16T17:53:26+00:00

Apparently the best sex toys to use are other people.

Laytheblameonluck · 2021-09-16T17:05:22+00:00

“Men always want to be a woman’s first love – women like to be a man’s last romance.” - Oscar Wilde

NockerJoe · 2021-09-16T08:26:07+00:00

i just got an ad that doordash is partnering with a local sex shop. Thats an ...interesting... combo, but I guess its a good way to discreetly buy sex toys without having to talk to anyone.

wekacuck · 2021-09-16T02:59:38+00:00

Some technological nightmare fuel (... courtesy my Google filter bubble ... hmmm... not cool, Google)

Slate: My Husband Is Suddenly Very “Well Endowed”—and That’s Presented a Problem. https://slate.com/human-interest/2021/09/husband-penis-size-enchacement-problem-advice.html

A little while later, he asked to try again, and said he’d read up on how to use it better. So we tried again, and it still hurt, but he went really slowly, and I have to admit it wasn’t as bad. Fast forward a few more times, each of which was better, and one of the times most recently, it was really good to the point where I actually had a pretty big orgasm from just penetration. That was the first time that had ever happened to me. Now he always asks me if I want to use it. He’s gotten much better and loves “having a big cock,” and it feels really good. He genuinely seems to like that I enjoy it. It has allowed us to try some different positions.

So here’s my concern. I’m a little worried that I’m actually enjoying it TOO much. I haven’t been the one yet to ask for it, and I truly don’t always want it. But whenever he brings it up now, I have been saying “no” less and less frequently, and I secretly get more excited about it coming out. And when I’m done coming and he gets his turn, I’m finding that I’m a little desensitized to his penis. It definitely seems temporary, because it’s always back to “normal” the subsequent times we have sex, but right after he’s used it, I get less of a sensation of him in me. I’m not normally an addictive personality, but I’m a little worried about wanting this more and more. Should I try and stop using it? It doesn’t seem to bother my husband. Is it OK if I want to have it be a regular thing?

ChadThundagaCock · 2021-09-15T23:12:25+00:00

Pro tip: Always bring a sex toy for the lady so if you come early, the fun for her doesn't have to stop.

Holler4Heller · 2021-09-14T23:12:52+00:00

Who cares it’s all a cope like almost everything anyone does nowadays. I will say I’m rather disgusted by the female need to control male sexuality but I’d also be disgusted if men did the inverse

Ordinary_Arrival5406 · 2021-09-14T21:34:22+00:00

Sex toys don’t even give women the strongest or even longest orgasms.

passepar2t · 2021-09-14T11:21:14+00:00

Guys itt care way too much if their female partner gets off during sex with them.

So she desensitized herself with her custom-bore strip-mining equipment. It's not like it gets in the way of your dick enjoying the inside of her pussy for however long it lasts. You're still gonna come. Her toy dependency, her problem.

If you're so angry at women for their hypocrisy, shouldn't you consider it simpery to try to ensure her orgasm?

SmurfESmurferson · 2021-09-14T01:39:35+00:00

WAIT. Texas still has a ban on the sale of female sex toys?!

sugarplumcutie · 2021-09-13T19:24:42+00:00

No ❤️

abaxeron · 2021-09-13T14:44:08+00:00

I'm quite worried about the disparity between sex toy prices and actual quality of their components. Cellphone-grade vibration motors can be bought as cheaply as $0.30-2 per piece. Embedded in a couple ring-shaped grams of plastic (let's say $1) and given a case for disposable batteries (let's say $1) it suddenly turns into $15. Not even properly waterproof. Switch to the waterproof model, and you're easily in $50 range. I want a "full hands-free" thing, but I expect it to serve for at least 3 years, which I am not convinced it's designed to last for; the warranty covers only one year.

GridReXX · 2021-09-13T10:04:46+00:00

Also the fact that PIV sex is "designed" to make a man orgasm means that it's way more common for women to go without (during many hetero sex encounters). Getting her to orgasm means a bit of extra work on either her or her partner's end. A vibrator just speeds that up so everyone wins.

Great point from a comment down thread.

Any counters to this one?

blue_dandelions · 2021-09-13T05:47:55+00:00

Am I gross for being turned on by thought of men masturbating?

But sex dolls? Gross & creepy

2021-09-13T03:41:23+00:00

It looks like men need to take women down a peg or two with their prejudice against male sex toys of any sort. Like, keep out of our fucking business. For real. Don't tread on me.

Slipthe · 2021-09-12T21:12:11+00:00

I think the difference on sex toy philosophy is because the majority of men can make themselves orgasm by using their hands to jerk off.

The same cannot be said for women. So for women, sex toys can become essential to exploring their pleasure. For men, it's more hedonistic because their hand methods work for them but they still want more.

Glarkin42 · 2021-09-12T19:40:00+00:00

Men using sex toys is viewed as pathetic because sex for men isn't about the act of ejaculation, it's about the penetration of the woman and control over her. What ever other physical feeling that's induced in the male penis is secondary.

tiposk · 2021-09-12T15:50:57+00:00

I clicked on this thread enthusiastically when I thought I read "sex mega-toys". I became utterly disappointed when I read the title once again.

moosemc · 2021-09-12T14:49:05+00:00

So....men don't think about women and their sex toys at all.

And women think about men masturbating to porn, continually. And they hate it. More for the masturbation, than for the porn. It just sounds less controlling if they focus on the porn.

Exotic-Employee-9369 · 2021-09-12T13:16:15+00:00

I recommend the rampant rabbit platinum. 🐰

ohdiddly · 2021-09-12T12:09:01+00:00

I see fleshlights as equivalent to dildos; you fuck it and it's shaped like genitalia. Pretty basic stuff. Sex dolls are a step up from that, because it's shaped like a whole ass torso or body. I imagine most people would feel weird about fucking a doll, or they'd only wanna try it once for the novelty.

FatmanSlim93 · 2021-09-12T05:59:15+00:00

If she needs it to cum then she’s probably not compatible with me and that’s fine. I wish her luck with the next dude and I can find someone where I can use my fingers or tongue instead. I’ve never had that issue but honestly I’d rather just find a partner who doesn’t need them. If she wants to masturbate with them alone then that’s fine but it shouldn’t be needed every time we have sex or something is probably wrong with me 🤷‍♂️

HOLYREGIME · 2021-09-12T04:53:34+00:00

Women are already thinking of ways to ban sex robots. Women will never let men go.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/futurism.com/law-experts-sex-robots/amp

Psychological_Wear_7 · 2021-09-12T04:30:27+00:00

Just as I've been saying for months here the women here are pathetic hypocrites

Just seen multiple comments saying sex toys for women are okay, but fleshlights are disgusting 😂

thetruthishere_ · 2021-09-12T04:21:15+00:00

Just glad all my long term partners were turned on by it and enjoyed it when we used it together sometimes.

If you're not hot watching me orgasm with my fingers, a toy, your mouth, or your D. We are not compatible.

passepar2t · 2021-09-12T03:04:39+00:00

Is this actually a thing? Or is it just three very reachy PPD posts that certain guys who have a bone to pick with women cling to like drowning men?

SmurfESmurferson · 2021-09-12T01:19:40+00:00

Honest question - what happened? I can’t fathom young guys being negative about women using sex toys. The men in my generation just thought it was hot, and wanted to watch

Willow-girl · 2021-09-12T01:13:07+00:00

Before he got Amazon Prime, whenever the man needed to spend a bit more to qualify for free shipping on his purchase, he'd order me a new sex toy.

Damn, I hate Amazon Prime ...

2021-09-12T00:52:52+00:00

I support everyone doing their own thing if it's not hurting others. If your partner feels bad you should probably talk to them and hear why and reassure them, or make changes if you're willing to.

I like my vibrator, but I try to use it sparingly because if I use it too often it's harder to orgasm with my partner. I also like using it during sex because it's lower effort for both of us and makes sex feel better for me. Nothing wrong with using my fingers it's just that sometimes it takes longer and I don't want my bf feeling bad if he cums early.

I'm masturbating less these days, to save my libido for sex with my boyfriend. He rarely ever masturbates anymore too. I avoid porn because it reinforces my body image issues, he avoids it because it's boring and a bit toxic. Every now and then we try to watch it together but can't find anything good or just laugh at it and forget about it.

I have an insertable toy but it doesn't feel good. Bf not a fan of it either, says it's too big and makes him feel like I'm replacing him, so I don't use it.

I've suggested to him we could get him an autoblow, or prostate toys, or just plain old sleeves. But he always says no. Edit: oops I mean flashlights and the like, not sleeve extensions lol.

banalchenal · 2021-09-12T00:40:43+00:00

Why are you guys so concerned about what women think of your sex toys?

If women find fleshlights gross (and we do) just keep it to yourself. Why does a woman's opinion your masturbation habits even register? Do you need our approval to jerk off?

geyges · 2021-09-12T00:29:28+00:00

It is much more arousing to see a woman masturbating with her hands compared to a toy.

its like night and day difference in terms of how sexy it is.

I can't quite explain why that is. I'm not anti-toy, I just have no interest in seeing them used.

TheBookOfSeil · 2021-09-11T23:10:33+00:00

Women should just masturbate normally/ with their own hands instead of with something that has a motor and is capable of being converted to a mini power sander with the right modifications.

CMV

nemma88 · 2021-09-11T22:55:55+00:00

Our wand came with an attachment sleeve for men, but its too tight for him. You can still vibrate under on the frenulum though.

Some people are more effort than others, and people who think they're taking too long can be very much aware, worry about it etc. If this is just how someone is it's OK to put the ego aside pull in a bit of powered help for both your sakes.

Fridric_Magnus · 2021-09-11T22:52:47+00:00

Diddle yourself with whatever hunk of metal, plastic or rubber you want. Just understand you're partner is probably not going to appreciate being held to the standards you'd hold to a device designed for sexual stimulation. That said, try not to be insecure about your partner occasionally seeing to their needs; sometimes one just wants to get off without any fucking fuss. This all goes for both genders.

There that about covers my thoughts on it.

Oh also sex robots are still just sex toys, they'd probably just have a voice assistant+ built into them. Giving it thought, they'd be an absolute privacy nightmare. Maybe someday I'll get to contribute to a FOSS sexbot OS that informs you that it's actually GNU/Linux, not just Linux.

KJ1017 · 2021-09-11T22:36:01+00:00

Use of them should be treated like male use of porn and male excessive death grip jerking off.

Women in this thread and this thread both say vibrator use does desensitize them. Maybe that isn’t the case for ALL women but we know it’s the case for a lot of them who use toys.

Why should men have a problem with that you may ask? It’s the same exact reason women have a problem with porn sickness and death grips.

It creates an enormous risk of the partner guilty of using the 3rd party tool becoming disengaged and uninterested with sex because real sex doesn’t get them off the same way 3rd party tools get them off.

If there’s a problem with the way a man uses 3rd party tools, the standard should be applied to women as well. If women don’t want men who use porn but they themselves use toys it’s hypocritical.

Slipthe · 2021-09-11T22:14:59+00:00

Here's the thing. I only know of one way to O from PIV, and it requires a position and speed and friction that feels like my bladder is getting rapidly punched. And often times if I'm not 100% aroused then that is extremely uncomfortable.

With a vibrator I can orgasm in PIV without having to get 100% aroused.

It just makes sense to me to orgasm in a way I find satisfying and comfortable.

wtknight · 2021-09-11T21:58:07+00:00

Sex toys for couples aren't really necessary. A guy who is willing to use his fingers or tongue can usually make a woman orgasm easily if PIV sex won't do it. I prefer fingers, myself, because if you're lucky she'll squirt all over the place when she orgasms.

I've never dated a woman who used sex toys on her own. They've always been fine with just their fingers.

I have no need to "optimize" my own orgasm with some male sex toy. That just seems unnecessary and probably makes clean up more of a hassle.

goneaway2thewind · 2021-09-11T21:45:27+00:00

Ive met multiple women who used sex toys on their bf/SOs and they had zero respect for them. They used to laugh about fucking them in the ass and other depraved stuff and even let me know they would cheat on them with me.

The one weird thing out of all those women is that they were sex fiends too and enabled it, nearly to full out cuckolding. But the idea of those men seeking pleasure outside of that wasn’t negotiable.

Two out of those men found out they were trans and got sex changes. One doesnt even bother with women anymore and is now gay. Another still would let me fuck his gf. Strange stuff.

I’ve always been vanilla regarding sex but I wouldn’t mind a partner using a sex toy, I have used a vibrator thing on a girl once. But this kink stuff is a slippery slope.

There’s my unnecessary comment

mindsanitizer · 2021-09-11T21:41:55+00:00

The Pulse Solo from Hot Octopus is a pretty amazing piece of kit. It’s a frenulum vibrator for men. It can take you from flaccid to orgasm in like a minute. The fact that you don’t have to get horny before using it is weird and awesome. You just turn it on and BAM! Orgasm.

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hardstruck · 2021-09-11T21:28:19+00:00

Apparently something like only 20-25% of women can achieve orgasm from piv alone. I still don't want a girl who needs a toy to cum. I guess you could say I'm only interested in the top 20% of pussy. Sound familiar ladies? Just like women don't owe incels sex, men don't owe women who need toys an O.

If you've tried everything to legitimately have an orgasm with your partner and it never happened I feel bad for ya, but that sounds like a you problem, not a me problem. Good luck with that, sure does suck though not being born into the top 20% though doesn't it? You have to work harder for what you want.

Go find a man who loves you and your toys and the two of you can ride your fake plastic orgasms into the ether.

yoooooooooooodaddy · 2021-09-11T21:24:02+00:00

lmao did I inspire this thread with that shitfest I posted yesterday

purplepilldthrowaway · 2021-09-11T21:20:35+00:00

I got a hitachi to use with girls I sleep with, because I'd heard it's a game changer. But I have yet to use it because I've been too embarrassed to whip it out, lmao. Maybe at some point I'll get over it though and be able to own the fact that I have it.

Are women's vibrators more like men's pocket fleshlight or porn?

I suspect there's more male insecurity thinking about vibrators, than there is female insecurity thinking about fleshlights. It's a lot easier to be bad at sex as a guy (it took me a lot of practice to get better and get girls to cum from PIV) than as a girl. There's not really anything that a fleshlight can do that a girl can't (it's literally just a hole that feels like a pussy), but a vibrator can make a girl cum when most guys can't.

parfaitimme · 2021-09-11T21:09:02+00:00

Never tried one lol, am I missing out a lot? Curious

EleanorAbernathyPhD · 2021-09-11T21:06:53+00:00

Satisfyer supremacy represent

thetruthishere_ · 2021-09-11T21:04:20+00:00

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HighValueMoidxD · 2021-09-11T20:59:54+00:00

Men who think realistic sex toys will improve their situation are pathetic hardcore copers. Get off hopium man

abaxeron · 2021-09-11T20:57:11+00:00

As I mentioned at least twice already, my greatest mistake was not buying a toy earlier. Most accurate take from an online radio show I've listened to: "Why do you call spinning robot pussy 'Our Lord and Savior'?" - "Because when I first used it, I fell down on my knees and whispered 'Oh God Oh God' uncontrollably. We're talking some genuine spiritual experience here."

A good toy is the only way to true and lasting post-nut clarity.

I'd gladly get something new after my last toy failed (weak flexible coupling), but a gun is higher on priority list right now. (And yes, a second-hand smoothbore long-barrel gun is in the same price range as a good male sex toy here.)

NoRecommendation2007 · 2021-09-11T20:53:30+00:00

I am a Thai and I need male sex toys bro.Dating as a brown kid in a country which thinks white=beautiful is hard af.

poppy_blu · 2021-09-11T20:43:05+00:00

Yeah…PPD has come to the end of its life cycle. For sure.

HOLYREGIME · 2021-09-11T20:40:29+00:00

I follow a popular Instagram page (2M+ followers) and they advertise sex toys for women. Never sex toys for men. I think this says that men’s only access to sex should be through a woman, and women should be able to explore other options.

justgirliethingies · 2021-09-11T20:36:06+00:00

I've never been fond of vibrators and don't own one. While they feel intense, the actual intensity of the orgasm doesn't increase for me, only the speed. The few times I've used one I've been left desensitized, which is unpleasant. I understand that they are vital for some people with clits/vaginas, but in my case it's just overstimulation without reward.

People of any sex can get used to toys that feel better than other humans. I don't have any idea how common this is for women, but I'm guessing not common at all. I've slept with quite a few and the only time we used toys was for penetration - no one ever whipped out a vibrator. If they used them alone, it didn't seem to have any ill long term effect - tongues and fingers has worked on everyone except one.

Edit: as for which sex toys I do use, just a simple, honest dildo. Last time I used it was on a dude - it fits nicely into my strapon.

KJ1017 · 2021-09-11T20:33:10+00:00

Damn I mentioned sex toys not knowing it would go this far Lmdao

I guess it was probably already brought up a few times here tho guys seem passionate about it

PlayfulLawyer · 2021-09-11T20:31:56+00:00

Sex toys has been a recurring theme in the group this week lol

But like I said on another thread addiction to anything is dangerous but I'm not going to have some chick lecture guys on occasional porn use when you have the pulsating penis 3000 with nine different settings, to the best of my knowledge real dicks don't vibrate and do 360s lol, and somebody else said it on here a fleshlight is a slightly worse version Away pussy, vibrators are generally made to surpass the penis

And I think sex bots and Tech in general is going to be huge in the future of dating, it's already clear that there is a separation growing, so maybe the idea of a sex bot won't be normalized in our lifetime oh, maybe not even our kids lifetime but there is going to be a generation growing up to where that's completely normal, if anybody remembers that movie Her with Scarlett Johansson and Joaquin Phoenix where the dude dates his operating system, I wouldn't be surprised to see that kind of future either

chilikettlechips · 2021-09-11T20:30:48+00:00

Some research shows that only 25 percent of women reliably reach orgasm during vaginal intercourse. For men, the rate is between 75 and 95 percent. For both men and women, orgasm is usually achieved more quickly and reliably with masturbation.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/orgasm

For women, 15 percent said they never experience an orgasm, 49 percent said they experience an orgasm less than half the time, and 32 percent said they experience an orgasm most of the time.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/social-instincts/202011/can-couples-close-the-orgasm-gap

So for women toys are downright necessary for 70% of women to reliably get there, especially for sex. And everyone give an F for those 10-15 of women who can never get them.

Now rawdogging a modern fleshlight with the right lube is pretty damn good, but doesn't compare to an actual pussy.

How about the male prostate orgasm? I tried looking for stats but can't find any. I have heard plenty of gay dudes feel insecure if they can't cum from anal. Q4W. would you be willing to do buttstuff?

NiceGuyNumber4 · 2021-09-11T20:19:34+00:00

Fleshlights attempt to recreate a vagina while dildos attempt to surpass the penis.

geyges · 2021-09-11T20:11:58+00:00

Are women's vibrators more like men's pocket fleshlight

why is it pocket? My fleshlight is full size.

Any women carry pocket dildos?

annabeelongx · 2021-09-11T20:11:41+00:00

I’ll admit. I’ve become dependent on mine. I’m trying to take a hiatus. However, I do believe that steady use of both porn/vibrators is ideal. Sex bots, idk that’s weird to me and men here seem to claim they prefer them over real women. Thats sus

ToughAnswers · 2021-09-11T20:08:30+00:00

Vibrators are going to be better than most partnered sex while fleshlights are going to be worse than most partnered sex

Porn is better than fucking uggos beyond the first fucking

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