What's your cutoff for sharing a high value man?

fiftypoundpuppy · 2025-03-27T05:26:33+00:00

I don't do one-sided monogamy

Either we both are free to fuck around or we're monogamous

I don't care about "sharing" if we're both not monogamous

And none of it has anything to do with his financial status

SquirmingAddict · 2025-03-27T07:46:47+00:00

If I'm sharing a high value man, then I don't love him.

I'm just using him for whatever high value stuff he has.

My cutoff is my emotional connection to him. He's basically a pay pig if I have to share him.

leosandlattes · 2025-03-27T05:11:11+00:00

I’d rather be monogamous with my bf who meets my standards, or just stay single if he hypothetically did not exist.

Being a mistress or sharing a man is so fucking embarrassing in 99.9% of scenarios. I’d probably kill myself before being forced to share a man if that was my only option. 🤮

ItIsnt0verYet · 2025-03-27T05:42:06+00:00

Why would I want to share? I'd rather be poor and happy than wealthy and sharing the town bike.

p_fulga · 2025-03-27T05:36:11+00:00

Eww. Yeah, "high value men" type stuff isn't really for me. I'm VERY heavily monogamous and I'm not interested in playing concubine to some Saudi Prince or some rich jackass who paves his road gold in Silicon Valley. I just fundamentally wouldn't be interested in someone who wants a real life harem. The quality of their character is far too low for me.

PracticalControl2179 · 2025-03-27T07:24:58+00:00

I mean I would choose the software engineer or doctor any time over polygamy. The only way I would tolerate polygamy is if the other option is death or starvation and that would be a horrible and depressing situation.

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2025-03-27T06:05:40+00:00

If we both want something casual, we're both seeong other people. If he wants fidelity from me , but he gets to hoe it up, hard pass.I don't do one-sided monogamy.

ConanTheCybrarian · 2025-03-27T07:52:02+00:00

A. Men do not have "values" because they are not commodities

B. I would not "share" a man. I dont care how "high" or "low" a "value" he has according to other men's opinions. We are either monogamous or both in an open relationship. Period.

SwimmingTheme3736 · 2025-03-27T05:00:39+00:00

I do t know any woman sharing apart from one polly couple

I’m very happily married, no amount of money would have me change what I have

flipsidetroll · 2025-03-27T08:10:58+00:00

It’s no secret women share high value men? Where do you turnips get this information? Being told women share men by other men isn’t proof. And supposedly, men don’t talk about their sexual conquests. So either they are lying about women sharing men or they are lying about talking about their conquests. Either way, not exactly good examples of upstanding men. And somehow, you never seem upset with the men.

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2025-03-27T11:52:47+00:00

there is nothing that would induce me to knowingly openly share a man. this isn't even what rp means when it says "women would rather share a high value man...", the mean that women will delude themselves or turn a blind eye to a man's cheating or plate spinning if his value is high enough. the promise of monogamy will still be there, he'll just break it

missmireya · 2025-03-27T05:11:53+00:00

I'm not sharing my man with anyone. I'll slit his fucking throat. That is, If I ever get into another relationship again...which I don't foresee happening anytime in the near future.

No-Past7721 · 2025-03-27T05:26:31+00:00

No thanks.

SlothMonster9 · 2025-03-27T07:20:07+00:00

I think sharing a man has little to do with that man and more to do with the woman's situation. I guess in VERY tough circumstances like extreme poverty, return of female subjugation etc, I would prefer to share a good man, any good man that would treat me good, than to suffer and die.

It's not a preference, it's a survival mechanism. If I would ever get to that point, you bet i'll hate every moment of it. Just the thought of a guy playing couple with multiple women disgusts me sexually, so I will not find him attractive at all and only tolerate it cause I want to live.

Outside_Memory5703 · 2025-03-27T09:55:11+00:00

Having young kids in wartime or extreme poverty

SayuriKitsune · 2025-03-27T11:15:05+00:00

I would never EVER share. I find it pathetic unless you are into poly. Side chicks need to value themselves and don't do this nonsense.

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Jambi1913 · 2025-03-27T08:49:32+00:00

A small proportion of women share “high value” (still don’t really know what that means) men, most don’t nor do we want to unless we have to in order to survive.

A man with multiple wives (or multiple “plates” or side chicks or whatever) is extremely unattractive to me - doesn’t matter if he’s a billionaire that looks like Henry Cavill. It just isn’t an appealing situation at all. I don’t care if he buys me a house and pays all my bills, I’m not a sex worker and that’s what I’d be for someone like that. He wouldn’t love me, I’d just be a different flavour of woman for his collection. I have too much self respect for that.

I want monogamy with a decent man that I am attracted to and have an intellectual and emotional connection with. You know, a man who likes me and I like him. His job has little to do with that, though homelessness would maybe be a bridge too far for me depending on what got him in that situation.

Routine-Present-3676 · 2025-03-27T09:56:10+00:00

Wtf? It certainly does seem to be a secret that "many women would rather share a high value man" because I don't know a single one that would tolerate this.

Sonia314 · 2025-03-27T09:56:25+00:00

This question isn’t applicable to me because money and prestige are irrelevant to me.

UpbeatInsurance5358 · 2025-03-27T10:45:25+00:00

Either both of us are monogamous or neither are. If a man I'm with thinks differently then she can have him. No man is worth that.

Downtown_Cat_1745 · 2025-03-27T10:52:01+00:00

I have never evaluated a man on his “value.” I like monogamy. I don’t share.

Objective_Ad_6265 · 2025-03-27T11:14:19+00:00

Never, I'm monogamous by nature and I would never share.

I would rather be homeless with the man I love than a loveless billionaire.

attendquoi · 2025-03-27T14:14:43+00:00

To me, a high-value man is one who meets my standards. It's not what you describe here.

That being said, I'm totally open to non-monogamy, as long as it swings both ways.

Old_Luck285 · 2025-03-27T15:57:49+00:00

I think your premise is mistaken. You assume that there's a large number who'd prefer to be monogamous but begrudgingly accept the guy having other partners as he's "high value".

However, what I think is actually going on: 1) Large number of women who are strictly monogamous. If the man isn't as well, they're not interested, no matter how hot he is. 2) Women who consider the arrangement a form of casual sex and therefore don't care about fidelity 3) Women who are poly and therefore don't mind sharing. The guy has to be attractive enough to her so that she wants to be with him. No reluctance there.

I've dated monogamously only so far but could see myself going poly in the future. I'm avoidant and grey ace, so a guy who doesn't need me sounds enticing. I'm also not opposed to a one-sided open relationship because I'm not that interested in sex anyway. And yes, I do find the idea appealing that other women want him, too. So, it's level 1-4. A level 5 guy would have to be extremely attractive otherwise. But these are thr same criteria I'd have for a monogamous relationship tbh.

ExcitementLow4699 · 2025-03-29T19:37:36+00:00

Define “sharing.”

I’m a bit of an unusual case, because I’ve never needed sexual monogamy from my romantic partners, even if they require it from me. Like it just does not bother me or make me jealous, provided they’re safe about it and no other romantic connections are formed or children are made. That’s independent of my partner’s value.

I do think it would be nice to have a sisterwife sometimes, provided I had a close bond with her as well (ideally she and I would have a sexual relationship as well.) It would be nice to have someone else around to talk to and to help out with housework and childcare. But I would definitely not be okay with my husband like, starting and supporting another family and splitting his time between us, or having more than 2 wives (that would be too complicated, I think.)

kimmymarias · 2025-05-16T19:01:49+00:00

It's actually hilarious reading some of these responses and how differing they are for many women in the world, women in the west are hellbent on monogamy but in the east women share even low tier broke men and sometimes are 4th or 5th wives.

Personally i dont mind, i think it can be a good think for a relationship

Fun_Breakfast697 · 2025-03-27T19:12:18+00:00

1 or 2 but I would cheat on him constantly. I'd pretend to be totally fine with one-sided monogamy and then jerk my jujitsu instructor off on his toothbrush while he was off with his sidepiece. It would probably be fun!

If I actually can't cheat (or he makes it too difficult to get away with) then I am straight-up not accepting that deal for anyone.

Title	What's your cutoff for sharing a high value man?
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