Theory Friday - No Stupid Questions Thread

Seducibledotcom · 2016-04-25T09:48:27+00:00

Mods, can I nominate this blog be added to the sidebar?

https://kakistocracyblog.wordpress.com/2016/04/24/the-hospitality-business/

ShottySnipesOnThePit · 2016-04-24T22:04:47+00:00

I've been trying to fix my posture lately and was wondering if I'm going too far with pulling my shoulder blades back and down. It feels strange in my collarbones on each side when I open my chest like that, is it something my body will get used to?

xray777 · 2016-04-24T21:54:25+00:00

How do I become an approved user to be able to post on TRP?

plebbit_guy · 2016-04-24T10:19:14+00:00

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Dio_Brando_Joestar · 2016-04-23T20:37:46+00:00

My game sucks. How do i improve it ? I want to have great game that will allow me to have many friends and women in my life. I'm much of an introvert and my looks haa had me have success in getting laid. I'm not completely socially retarded either. I lift and look good, and feel good About myself.

My game just sucks. How do i improve it ?

Wolfengristl · 2016-04-23T18:49:45+00:00

I often hear about people needing 'strong father figures,' and that in their absence we search for them until we find one.

Is there such a thing as a 'strong mother figure'? And, do we need them as much as a strong father figure?

trpthrowaway911 · 2016-04-23T15:36:30+00:00

i still don't understand the exact problem with women who have daddy issues. like, what if he was never there. are they more clingy then or narcisstic or slutty or what? and why? also, what if the mother is the problem? what kind of behaviour must be expected then?

can someone please elaborate?

cantFindValidNam · 2016-04-23T14:03:09+00:00

Does any other non-native speaker feel that rollo tomassi's articles are too hard to understand?

QPRCHOC · 2016-04-23T07:56:59+00:00

How do you go about transitioning from dating to LTR? What sort of ground rules do you lay down? How do you maintain frame?

DforDeadpool · 2016-04-23T07:23:11+00:00

I look well, women show interest in me. But generally I'm just a low energy person who has little game (I used to do PUA stuff but now I'm just too rusted). What's the best way to obtain a good TRP game?

IAMAwhitecismaleAMA · 2016-04-23T06:40:22+00:00

What kind of shit tests do men throw at each other?

lJunKunl · 2016-04-23T14:51:18+00:00

I got 7 upvotes but no answer on an earlier thread for posting this question:

What about when you can generate some visual attraction, but don't know whether to be cold or hot enough? Have had girls weirded out that I tried too hard (friend zone or creepy) then on the other hand, girls who are even more weirded out when I don't show enough emotion (autistic or awkward). You can give attention but isn't it bad that it's only because she gave it first, i.e. you're desperate? But if you don't show attention you're uninterested? And how do you escalate to seeing eachother outside of class, work, gym etc.?

This is even worse when dealing with girls with boyfriends, who have been the majority of those attracted to me. Go too hard, your reputation is established as a weirdo for chasing a taken girl. Go too soft, your reputation is a beta.

Bethefuture9 · 2016-04-23T04:16:51+00:00

Why do both men and women in the modern world, particularly living in the united States, think the path to success is to act more like a gorilla and less like a rational being?

Bethefuture9 · 2016-04-23T04:07:00+00:00

If my delts get so big that my neck disappears, how much more pussy will I slay?

redestofthereds · 2016-04-23T03:30:22+00:00

Is it better to start approaching at bars that you normally don't go to than it is at bars you regularly go to?

LeBaronKJP · 2016-04-23T03:03:15+00:00

How do some of you guys cultivate the DGAF attitude when approaching women? I've done it before with some I wasn't interested in so I know what it's like, but I can't get myself to return to that state. I feel like I end up being more invested than I should (subtle attempts to impress for example) and lose track of the fact that I'm the prize and not her. Guess this is also related to abundance mentality.

I've had the most success when I couldn't care less of the outcome, I'm well aware of that. I want to get back to that mindset. But how?

Donny577 · 2016-04-23T02:41:27+00:00

I've read How to Win Friends and Influence People, No More Mr. Nice Guy and The Rationale Male what other books do you guys read?
I have no problem opening with women or speaking confidently but how do some of you guys close? It's been a problem as of lately.

cociludzie · 2016-04-22T23:06:33+00:00

Hi Redpillers. I've read No More Mr Nice Guy and it is somehow about me. I just wanted to ask you where do you define a boundary between typical Nice Guy attention seeking actions and normal, socially accepted behaviour?

I just don't know exactly on what qualities is my subconscious driving my actions and how to recognize deeply rooted fear of rejection. Please share with me your thoughts.

cociludzie

lumberjackinla · 2016-04-22T22:36:06+00:00

Can some one explain the difference being Dominant and being rigid with your opinion. When do you allow flexibility in your opinions to sticking with your opinion? Its a thin line between the two

TomilloDanup · 2016-04-22T22:28:50+00:00

For the past two years I've been working a lot on myself. Lifting 5 days a week, transformed my body (no masive muscles yet) picked up and amazing hobby and getting better at it. Finished my masters. Etc...

Still I don't feel as confident as I wished. Faking over confidence is a very intensive task for me. I'm no self defeating looser anymore but I still find it difficult to walk around the world feeling awesome.

Right now after those two years I want to start dating, meeting girls and fucking sluts. Yet I find it difficult to go just meet girls, aproach or even scalate my game lacks and sucks.

To improve my game I know I just need to go do it, get out of my comfort zone. But how do I work up my self confidence not just for meeting women but for almost everything else that needs it?

Revenge_Of_The_Jesus · 2016-04-22T22:07:11+00:00

How do I talk about myself without coming off as boastful, but still coming off as interesting?

Are European girls easier or harder to close with than American ones?

What's the best way to approach girls at a festival/on a dance floor if you're a shitty dancer?

markahammond · 2016-04-22T22:00:22+00:00

Long time lurker here. So I've been hitting the gym like a madman over the past month doing two a day cardio sessions (1st Question: is this a good strategy or am I wasting my time) but I am lost when it comes to adding in weights/lifting. What kind of lifting can I do to maximize my weight loss? Love this subreddit btw.

zenhoodman · 2016-04-22T21:19:01+00:00

I think I have good game but I just keep coming on way too strong. When is right time to kino? How do I know if she's actually contributing to the conversation and I'm not being a dancing monkey?

QQ_L2P · 2016-04-22T21:10:52+00:00

How in the fuck do you interact and be friends with other guys? A lot of it seems to be insulting each other as much as possible, but I just seem to not get it.

Also, dealing with groups of people. I'm OK in a one-on-one scenario and am OK in one-on-two conversations, but anything larger than that I get lost. There are so many strings going on with people jumping in and out seemingly at random and trying to process and keep up with it is both difficult and exhausting. I guess it's something that comes with practice but is there anything specific I should be doing?

walking_ape · 2016-04-22T21:02:46+00:00

The other day I was sitting with strangers (meetup). One guy was obnoxiously loud and trying to take control of the entire conversation. Trying to be funny and all that.

I thought to myself, he looks like a joke! I mean, his behaviors.

On the other hand, he's good looking (as far as I can tell) and in good shape.

My first thought was, he must've been reading RP material and trying to be the alpha male of the group.

Is that what alpha looks like? Loud and obnoxious?

PotentialAlpha · 2016-04-22T20:56:35+00:00

So I went out to baseball game with my buddy and his girlfriend, who brought her friend who showed a bunch of interest.

I've been following TRP principles but she is playing the female version of TRP with me. I sent her a text last Thursday night but she didn't respond until Saturday morning. Below is what happened:

me 9:05pm Thursday- Hey gangster, hows the thug life?

her 9:00am Saturday- Sorry. I'm a bad texter...

her 9:01am Saturday- What are you up to this weekend?

I didn't reply to her text and my question is do I even reply at all? I was thinking something like "Hey I'm going out for drinks at XX tonight, see you there" on Saturday evening. Would this work? any recommendations?

ApexScorpion · 2016-04-22T20:24:50+00:00

Quick question.

It was my cousin's "girlfriend" birthday last weekend. We went out clubbing.

4 guys and 3 girls in all. Of course she was drunk. The whole night she was making her rounds to all of us when it came to "dancing". Out if the blue she would touch my face and chest, I saw it as moderate kino. She did the same thing with the two guys I was with.

But...

She never danced on me (grinding and all that shit), and she never reached for my dick, which I consider heavy kino. I was tipsy but luckily I caught myself from indulging like she was another girl at the club. Same kino story from the others also.

I took it as her just having a good time while drunk and trying to have simple fun within the group we had. I let my cousin know this at the end of the night, as he was oblivious from drinking also at the time.

My question is.....is this considered a red flag?

rhettbutler-rpaf · 2016-04-22T19:07:37+00:00

How deep does the rabbit hole go?

Women were not allowed to vote in the United States until 1920. In the 1800's unmarried women were not allowed to own property or attend public universities. Women were banned from attending the dedication of the statue of liberty.

Were these policies illogical? Unjust? Or were they just a reflection the reality that women should not be involved in these matters, because among other problems, they operate based on emotion rather than logic?

I am not trolling. This thread finally gave me a chance to ask this.

ItsTheHomeWrecker · 2016-04-22T19:01:14+00:00

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TheDonald2k16 · 2016-04-22T18:13:15+00:00

Has anyone here ever seen a post-wall woman in denial, acting like she isn't post wall, is hot shit, and is still entitled to high value men?

ZippyTheSpaceMonkey · 2016-04-22T18:05:06+00:00

What's PowerTalk? Can you provide an example or two?

truthyego · 2016-04-22T17:52:04+00:00

I don't care enough to bother with women, or even much with people anymore. I can meet women, get dates, get laid. I'm ok at it, not great. But it's been awhile since I've even bothered to try much. I mostly only bother with easy shit that basically falls in my lap. Im confident I could get good, but I don't give enough fucks to spend the effort.

I have other things that are more important than spending time with vapid sloots, or even calmer less slutty women. I like to fuck, but I don't care for 90% of the other shit. I realize there are overtones of depression here, but I am motivated and making progress towards other goals. I occasionally get laid here and there.

Anyone else feel the same way? Or any of u who are really good with women reach a point where you dgaf, not enough even to play the game anymore?

Note, this not a "I don't have much success so gave up" rant. It's a "I've had some decent success but doesn't seem worth the effort or time wasted" rant.

rigbyismyhomie · 2016-04-22T17:44:25+00:00

Can I learn to be witty? If so, how?

stejul · 2016-04-22T19:12:33+00:00

How does one improve to be more machiavellian?

Rollo-Tomassi · 2016-04-22T16:53:18+00:00

You can bring your theory question to me live this morning if you'd like: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kCBdriBK8LA

Starts in about 15 minutes.

Kingofmyworld909 · 2016-04-22T16:42:48+00:00

If i'm put into a situation where my opinion is asked for about some controversial topic, should I hide my true opinions (given that I no longer believe in BP shit like supporting feminism, marriage (at least with respect to the status quo), etc.) from those that make up my social circle or even acquaintances / strangers?

sqerl · 2016-04-22T16:40:59+00:00

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Nucka574 · 2016-04-23T13:01:46+00:00

Fairly New RPer here.

I am coming to understand that getting more women or becoming Chad/DT isn't the goal of RP as many would believe. RP teaches men to the the best possible man they can. Getting women is a side-effect of being fucking awesome.

Women are like dogs, they don't always get taken on walks but when they do they are very excited about it. Let them sniff around and piss where they want, but in the end you are the one holding the leash making them heel. If they are good, you give them a bone, if they aren't you don't pay attention to them.

Are there flaws in my understanding?

trpthrowaway001 · 2016-04-22T16:08:22+00:00

How do I go about picking up girls at a bar when all my friends have girlfriends? No one else is interested in girls there and we always just end up sitting at a table bored and drinking, it kinda makes it hard to get that predator mentality. Don't go? Just get up and walk up to girls? Find new friends?

razgrim · 2016-04-22T15:31:29+00:00

I'm running into a bit of a conflict with TRP and game, and I want to get that resolved.

To start, TRP tells us how to be (attractive) men. Lift, Stoicism, be socially active, maintain a great diet, improve constantly. Now for game - we need to accept ourselves, be happy with who we are, own our shit. We need this to have a congruent personality, because women have a sense for fakes and head for the hills when they see one.

There's contradiction here. I don't think most guys are going to be happy as the manly man who lifts, plays sports, eats strictly protein all day, takes cold showers, gets up at 5am. Let's face it, a lot of this manly shit isn't fun, isn't comfortable.

As for me, I used to be a geek. I'd play video games all day, watch netflix, catch up on my favorite shows. After 6 months of TRP, I've quit video games entirely, never have any time to watch shows. I do martial arts, airsoft, read, social activities, cook all my meals. I'm an entirely different person now. And I miss playing games, ordering take out. But I know that if I touch my old pleasures again, it's a relapse, a failure of my integrity.

Soo what, do we force ourselves to be the manly man regardless? Perhaps I have yet to come to terms with that identity, am I supposed to grow into loving cold showers, strict diet and lifting?

This RP journey has brought me out of a very dark place and a negative spiral. I've had days of happiness I haven't experienced in years. This strict self discipline though.... I feel like I'm in a different prison now, forcing myself to be someone I'm not.

Oh, also: We're supposed to be calm, stonefaced, and stoic, yet live each moment fully, heartfelt with excitement. Are there times to be one or the other? Are these different strategies? It's quite impossible to be both at the same time.

PoorlyTimedPun · 2016-04-22T15:25:48+00:00

Don't have a real specific question but more looking for general advice. I had alpha traits and gamed the wrong woman, had a baby with her and beta'd the fuck out for a year or two and she left me. I've been on this red pill journey for the last year and after getting my shit in order (job, mission, lifting, weight loss and the depedestalization of the pussy) and its starting to pay dividends. As a kid growing up I was lazy as fuck so had to rely purely on game and personality to get pussy, now at 30 in the best shape of my life it's paying double. My question(s) are advice for single dads? I have 2 daughters the older one is not mine biologically but I've been in her life for half of her existence and her bio dad is shit. How much do I stay in her life (torn about raising someone else's fuck trophy when I'm not even with her mom)? Advice on fucking 18 year olds? Maintaining frame with my ex who gets the fuck under my skin with her shit mothering, awalt, shit family, (i need to pass these shit tests)? Navigating plates with my kids, do I hide this stuff from them? Obviously not trying to bring a bunch of whores around them, and they are kinda the perfect go to for kicking girls out, not staying the night, if I'm busy fucking other plates....etc etc They also kill my chances with a lot of women, do I just not mention them to the early 20's hb7/8/9's? I'm I going to only attract single moms, women who are baby hungry, and 18 year olds with daddy fantasies?

lumberjackinla · 2016-04-22T15:14:03+00:00

how to learn to be dominant. can some one talk about how to be social ly dominant

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_fappycamper · 2016-04-22T14:08:50+00:00

I live at home with my parents (27yo). This has been a big Hangup for me mentally. It makes me feel like a loser, and is always on my mind when speaking to girls. Aside from moving out, how can I fight this? I've heard of dudes in their 40s not giving a flying fuck about these things and walking in hot girls home straight past mom's bedroom.

Thenextprince · 2016-04-22T13:58:22+00:00

1) I've been grounded most of this year so i haven't texted chicks too much because there's no reason to if I can't set up a fuckdate, since I can't leave the house. So not texting very often has made me rusty . how caniI improve my text game? (Texting is essential at my age, teen chicks love texting. I still don't text too much even when I wasn't grounded)

2) how do i learn more comfort game? Women are pretty useless to me besides sex, so I don't get too interested in them besides sex. And I don't give a fuck about losing them, and girls can kinda pick up on it.

3) what are the best redpill pua sites, like heartiste? A lot of PUA sites are filled with good info but also BP faggot shit.

Rredpillaccount · 2016-04-22T13:00:20+00:00

Okay so I've been reading up on this sub the past week, and have come to the harsh reality of how true TRP is. Started applying some tips I found here and before you know it I got this chicks number like nothing. Now this weekend I want to kick it with her but I really don't want to go out with her or anything, really just trying to smash, how should I go about this one? Got my own place and all, but both of us are college freshman so we can't go to any bars.

2ndLion · 2016-04-22T12:58:14+00:00

I need some advice/examples for nightclub/bar game; With some girls I can talk utter bullshit and have fun, but forget to escalate - How can I do that verbally. Is telling a girl shortly after you've met her "you're going home With me" too offensive? Any good topics to talk about with majority of girls? I always end up With not much to say: either she keeps talking about the same Thing over and over, or she looks at me expecting me to entertain her or w/e which always end up with Them leaving.

mrthrowaway413 · 2016-04-22T12:33:45+00:00

I know that you need to not give a shit about a girls N count but my girlfriend has had sex with 3 people before me and that fucking gets to me. I don't mate guard or anything, but sometimes when we're fucking I just think about the guys that have fucked her before.

Things like she's giving me head and swallows how I like it, but then I think about the guy before she's probably done the same to. Or having sex and her cumming then thinking about previous times she's had before. Like it's fucking stupid and gets to me. She's not aware it does, I keep it to myself. But I need to get over it.

The thing is I'm pretty young and very aggressive in bed how she likes it, she tells me I do things no guy has done before, like lightly choking her or spanking her. So I know I'm one of her best lays, but I can't get over the fact that she's been fucked before.

Hook up culture despises me. I wish girls were still virgins now and days. For plates I don't give a fuck about the N count, but if I have a little bit of feelings for the girl, my mentality changes. How do I get over this?

and_what_not · 2016-04-22T15:12:55+00:00

embarrassingly stupid

so for starters:

How to become more present and less 'caught up in your head' type of person?

Social interaction for me in particular is kind of tiring. Often I have a feeling that nothing and nobody is really interesting enough to pay attention to, so that many conversations feel more like a duty. How does one make reaching out and talking to people more pleasurable without keeping a tight act almost all the time?

How do you effectively withdraw commitment in an LTR as a mean of playing dread, knowing that you have some specific future plans arranged together (eg. tickets to shows you don't want to miss, or some weekend trips planned together for the month). Ideally this should come off sort of naturally, without entertaining drastic measures at this stage, with my intention being strengthening the frame.

Lord_Fucker · 2016-04-22T10:32:49+00:00

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Thatnewgui · 2016-04-22T10:25:01+00:00

What is hypergamy?

michael_wilkins · 2016-04-22T08:14:45+00:00

I remember when I was younger and was into PUA stuff I'd start with general chit chat and I was decent at switching to a sexual vibe from a non sexual vibe.

Now my method is just a lot more natural, just be myself and when I see a Girl flirting or become attracted to me, pull her away and kiss her.

I've seemingly lost my ability to turn a social situation sexual with my "target" I remember always being decent at "phase switching" once I'd isolated.

Is it something that should be worked on, or am I just mis remembering situations where Girls who were already into me and I attributed my tricks to creating that attraction?

Lord_Fucker · 2016-04-22T07:35:09+00:00

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renzoken99 · 2016-04-22T07:26:24+00:00

Alright let's see what I got.

Been trying to implement TRP ideas and had mild sucess with my own image of myself. Read no more Mr nice guy along with other great TRP reads but I have run into a few bumps that also probably deal with my past.

1) Question part, how does one get out of that mindset of always wanting sex or at least develop a mindset where you're not a damn addict?

2) Also, when it comes to game...I lack if. Approaching has becoming easier for me (i don't mind starting conversations with random people or women) but I can't seem to keep the conversation going to tell her to give me her number. That and dating for me has been riddled with beta tendencies that i's annoying to get rid of. F-close? Yea... Not even once due to beta tendencies and living at home with hardly any time alone. (23m, in college, lives with single parent...you get the idea) Suggestions on how to improve game past approach anxiety and F-close in my situation?

3) what are some habits that you have developed that have helped you in really embracing TRP and growing as a man? I lift, dress better, and am more focused on work but still can't seem to fully embrace TRP.

Redasshole · 2016-04-22T06:20:12+00:00

Life is mainly pain and suffering, the world is fucked up and people are nasty. Why bother living? Dying now could prevent a lot of pain (I dont believe in God).

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lurkythelurkingbean · 2016-04-22T14:13:29+00:00

Questions below, here's my predicament: I find sex rather boring. I've had a fair amount - I certainly haven't slayed mad pussy, but I have a mid-30 n count at 24 and 150 pounds, so decent enough that I've tasted a few different parts of the rainbow. I've tried various ways to make it more interesting (light bondage, I'm naturally rough and get more so all the time, different body type girls, threesome, roleplay, public locations, etc), but sex pretty much always ends up just being a chore I do to get my rocks off to keep from going crazy. It's also necessary to keep the girls around...The thing is, I find myself much more excited by the game part - the mental stimulation that comes from playing with a girl before the bedroom, the challenge of winning her, and the validation that gives me when I succeed. The pat on the back I can give myself when a girl can't resist me. I mean, shit, even losing has its own unique thrill. TRP has been an absolute blast for this reason - it basically gives me a rule book to the game that I was already sort-of-winning, and it let me beat the levels I was stuck on for so long. But as far as I'm concerned, as long as a girl is WILLING and READY to go do dirty stuff with me, I'm okay with jacking off, and I pretty much lose interest at that point and do the nasty mostly as a reward to her.

Is this something that any more experienced terpers deal with? How do I develop my desire for the physical sex act, or is it something that is even worth developing? Should I just accept it, jerk off more, and focus that energy on more productive activities? Is it possible to keep a girl around without giving her the d all the time?

I've considered LTR game for the unique challenges it entails (and the inevitable decrease in sex frequency), but that seems to be opening a dangerous can. I haven't had a LTR since high school, is it something worth checking out?

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Hiimusog · 2016-04-22T04:59:06+00:00

Not really a stupid question but...

1.To anyone here who uses gear, how old were you when you hopped on?

2.How long had you been training naturally prior to hopping on?

3.What changes in your day to day life/personality did you see from using gear?

As a young newbie, thanks in advance.

theodor_herzl- · 2016-04-22T04:04:32+00:00

How do I not puss out?

I'm still pussin out and it's getting frustrating.

DeathSperado · 2016-04-22T03:51:27+00:00

Are there any introverted Alpha pussy slayers out there?

freshdesuka · 2016-04-22T10:00:55+00:00

In the past, I have displayed a combination of mostly beta, but slight alpha tendencies. I was a typical "nice guy" with high approach anxiety and desperately waned validation and LTR. Was single for all my life until I turned 21 as a result (plus I was a skinny faggot). I first dated a girl because she was so slutty / BPD bad reputation in high school that I had 0 respect for her and treated her dismissively and like a child. She went crazy for it and we fucked a bunch of times this summer. I treated her like dirt, abandoning her when she did stupid shit (my primitive version of calling out shit tests) because I truly, deeply didn't take her seriously since she was so childish and unstable. Then when she went off to school on the east coast, I wanted to cut it off, but she tamed me into being in a long distance relationship. Slowly she infected me with lies about how she wanted me to be available all the time, shit tests every day, threatening to break up to beta-ify me. Then broke up with me for a new chad.

Found TRP and realized my mistakes and see so many parallels from what happened and why I went from a powerful position to not. Now I'm getting educated. I've hit some road bumps though. Am I over-doing TRP and becoming an edgy asshole? I'm here to achieve goals, not be anger phase.

I am acting too much like an asshole since I learned about TRP. I was friends with a couple of girls before TRP who I thought were hot but was kind of friend zoned. Since TRP, I just act completely dismissively to them and I can't tell if I'm achieving any particular goal or if I'm just burning bridges with friends. Like, it's nice not to be their emotional sponge anymore, but at the same time I'm slightly remorseful about losing friendships with girls. That said, I'm sick of being an orbiter to them and if they won't give me sex they don't really have any particular value to me. How do I find the right balance?
As an extension of that, I'm having troubles balancing TRP with being charismatic. By default, I'm kind of a low-charisma person, but over the years I've trained myself to be more animated and charismatic. But I can't seem to combine the whole dismissive, stoic vibe with being charismatic and outgoing. As soon as I start to talk to much or emote too much, I feel like I'm reverting to pussy mode and being too validating of other people. Deep down, I'm extremely machiavellian and admittedly edgy, but if I just 'be myself' and let that out then people call me out and try to drag me out of my frame. I'm sure it comes with practice, but do I just need to find new friends who are more like minded? I find myself bonding more with frat guys but I'm not in a frat and it's too late for me to join one since I'm graduating in May. To put it simply, my friends are really progressive and find my new attitude threatening/weird in contrast to my old self. What to do?
I'm finding social media to be really difficult to balance. I can't seem to find the right timing about how frequently to text back without being too interested or uninterested. I've switched from being over-texting and pandering on snapchat to being really distant and unresponsive. The problem is I love not caring, but then I just lose contact with girls because I reply so infrequently. I'm not sure if that's working against me. Any advice?

futuretrackstar · 2016-04-24T01:15:49+00:00

Question: A major theme on this website is a man's life mission, and making the completion/fulfillment of this mission our top priority in life at all times. Is this just a really vague statement, or is it specific? Can a man's "mission" be selfish, e.g. the pursuit and enjoyment of happiness, or become the best person he can be (attain maximum SMV potential), etc.?

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themidnightfox · 2016-04-22T14:04:58+00:00

Been acquaintances with this girl for a couple years, but only been single for like half that, so the default setting in a way was "friends". Only seen her out a couple times but one time she was giving some pretty heavy signs but we were both too drunk for anything to happen. Recently went on a study abroad with her in our group and again, got some IOIs (though she was blatantly trying to fuck another guy in our group, who was having none of it) yet again on the one night I had a shot with her I blacked out and woke up alone. Whoops.

Long story short, I invited her to a fraternity date party tomorrow, but I feel like I'm already playing from behind. I've failed to make a move every time we've been out together but there's still definitely some tension. This really does feel like a dumb question because I'm sure the answer to my inevitable question is to just actually make sure to make a move but do you all have any advice on playing from behind like this? I need to sexualize our relationship but I've failed to in the past, mostly because of alcohol...

LifeWithTRP · 2016-04-22T02:55:17+00:00

I'm seeing this girl and she's almost the best I've ever had in all areas, but that being said I often think how we are both 25 and idk if I can do the marriage and kids thing.

Every time I get high, I think about marriage and kids and it freaks me the fuck out. I'm all about investing and read that financial independence sub, and even over there they talk about the risk of marriage. Financially it's fucked. It's just so fucked in many ways.

I got to the nice shopping mall, I see these sad looking, dadbod having, well - dads, and I think to myself "Holy fuck that can never be me, that looks terrible".

I feel like fatherhood in this country is a complacency ridden hell hole, or rather where men's dreams go to die.

I don't want to be overly cynical, because I would be bummed if things ended with this girl, I just wrestle with the absurdity of perpetual plate spinning. I guess I need to get my SMV up, maybe get snipped, and then maybe I can find a good girl who would play non-married monogamy with me, and at worst she can try to divorce me under common law, but at least I wouldn't have kids.

I guess my question is, after this long ass tangent, did anyone else have a hard time swallowing no marriage/kids idea? I tell myself I can figure it out, play the game on hard mode and make it work, but then I just think it isn't worth it, or I at least need to wait until 35

Metalgear222 · 2016-04-22T02:41:17+00:00

I'm having trouble making sense of "eliminate desire" and "approach girls and make your intentions known and physical early". Which one is more effective for a decent smv 24/m?

I'm going to be thrown into many social environments soon and want clarity here

mavericksteve · 2016-04-22T02:38:06+00:00

I have a friend that we'll call Jen. We've been friends for about 7 years. She's not my type sexually. Despite her admitting "feelings" for me, I've never banged nor reciprocated any admission of "feelings". I've been with my current LTR for a few years and Jen has still orbited around.

Anyway, over the past few months, Jen has gotten distant. No initiation of contact on her part. About a month ago, I went radio silence with my Jen and she hasn't made any attempt at contact. I figured she has some new beta boyfriend occupying her time now.

Are women really this fickle that they'll drop "friends" the second new dick comes into the picture? Any thoughts would be appreciated. I'm more curious as to everything at play here.

cheeky_throwaway101 · 2016-04-22T02:37:39+00:00

I have a friend that we'll call Jen. We've been friends for about 7 years. She's not my type sexually. Despite her admitting "feelings" for me, I've never banged nor reciprocated any admission of "feelings". I've been with my current LTR for a few years and Jen has still orbited around.

Anyway, over the past few months, Jen has gotten distant. No initiation of contact on her part. About a month ago, I went radio silence with my Jen and she hasn't made any attempt at contact. I figured she has some new beta boyfriend occupying her time now.

Are women really this fickle that they'll drop "friends" the second new dick comes into the picture? Any thoughts would be appreciated. I'm more curious as to everything at play here.

BlackJ1 · 2016-04-22T02:30:47+00:00

What is the end game for the red pill?

When feminism is destroyed? When blue pill indoctrination is stopped? When men are raised well?

Is the success when men move from putting women on the pedestal to improving themselves. Then from marriage to short term LTR's?

landon042 · 2016-04-22T14:02:44+00:00

Alright this is something as I'm in preperation for the beach getting dem nice abs. lets say it's a beach in the southern U.s. not popular at all but I could see 50 girls on a busy weekend in the summer, that's when I'm visiting. Family will be there but can have car to drive around. Didn't mention I'll be turned 18(senior highschooler) by then in the summer, current 17.

but how would I go about gaming girls at beach, that I know are here with family then meet to fuck later. Cuz I don't know if there fam would let them go anywhere and the only thing I can think of is pick her up and park car to fuck. maybe she tells fam "i'm going to the public beach" after I've ran game and got number.

this will be a 4 day vacation maybe, and we all know on vacation, even family vacation, these girls don't face any shame. plus highschool girls

Lord_Fucker · 2016-04-22T02:27:35+00:00

Can someone explain why men and women can't be friends?

I had a friend we'll call Jen. We've been friends for several years. She's never been my type sexually despite her telling me she had "feelings" for me. In any case, I've been with my current LTR for a couple of years and Jen has known this and still orbited.

Over the past few months, communication has gotten scarce with Jen. It got to the point where I was initiating all contact. Noticing this trend I figured she had some new beta boyfriend orbiting her. I began radio silence with Jen about a month ago. Jen hasn't made any contact in this time. Any thoughts?

Are women really this fickle where they'll drop a "friend" for some new dick?

clavabot · 2016-04-22T02:08:33+00:00

"Embarrassingly stupid"- Then here I go.

How do you know what is good information and what is not?

mr_nate_ · 2016-04-22T02:07:53+00:00

How do I stop talking about myself?

I know this is displeasing to listeners, but I love bragging, sharing my experiences, opinions, and ambitions. This likely stems from the mountain of improvements I've made in the past year of TRP, and I want to receive some sort of validation(?). Instead of talking about myself, how do I start to gear my conversations to get 80% out of them and 20% out of me WITHOUT the conversation becoming stagnant?

RP_Vergil · 2016-04-22T01:48:17+00:00

Just went for an interview recently for a transfer to another job opening in my Company. The interview went ok, but I can't help but keep noticing how my throat dries up always even when I drank plenty of water prior to it.

Is there any good recommendation to reduce the anxiety before an Interview? I'm trying to prepare myself for further interviews I'm getting. Thanks.

Emporian · 2016-04-24T15:05:23+00:00

I've got a validation problem. I'm addicted to validation, knowing woman find me hot, I dress well, lift well and can occasionally flirt really well. HOWEVER I'm not fucking them. I've never fucked one.

I'm lacking the killer instinct and the guts to execute a lay. After a nights out I lie alone in bed and tell myself "yeah whatever, but they found you hot though, did you see that glimpse the HB9 shot you, she was totally into you". And then I realize I've been bullshitting myself the whole evening.

This happens way to often.

How to break the damn cycle?

SirCockburn · 2016-04-22T01:39:24+00:00

No stupid questions? Ok, I'll bite.

Can liking art be "alpha?"

10211799107 · 2016-04-22T01:35:39+00:00

I've used back-turning to exclude people from myself and my friends conversation when they stand to side and stare at us while talking(were speaking a different language). These people have no sense of social skills at all and just awkwardly wait for us to acknowledge them where they have nothing to add except try to break out balls. This is annoying.
Back-turning works where I've seen them take a few seconds and walk away. Sometimes I wonder if you can use this in a situation where you have an "alpha" of a group in a certain context. What are your opinions on this when they try to shit test or challenge and you simply exaggerate a laugh, then when you talk to another member of the group you position yourself in a way that cuts him out of the circle. Careful to not make it obvious, using pointing to something to make your turn etc.

SouthPorn · 2016-04-22T01:33:52+00:00

I'm 35, 6' 4", I get paid reasonably well. I've lost enough weight to start looking more muscular than fat, own my own car, play guitar, practice martial arts (HEMA) and dance. (swing and tango)
I've got the friendliest big dumb dog in the world. I am more and more on a path to being a high value male with one caveat. I moved back home last September after an awful break up. I'm using it as a opportunity to take greater risks. (way easier to star your own business)

I cannot being myself to approach women. I have no way to spin my current living arrangements that doesnt sound extremely pathetic.

I wont live here forever. I'm working on my escape every day, but it's been over a year since I've had sex, and more than three since I really enjoyed it. Is there anything I should do or is it better to wait until i have ny own place again?

antariusz · 2016-04-22T01:24:36+00:00

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tb87670 · 2016-04-22T01:07:40+00:00

Question: Do women keep exes around as friends to shit-test men with them? Is this intentional to separate anyone with confidence from those who are bluepill and desperate enough to stay with the bitch even with the ex still around?

Story this question comes from: I've known a few women who hung out exclusively or mostly with guys, some only with gays others with both gays and straights. They were all slutty types. Any of them being prior sex partners is worse, chemistry had to exist for sex to happen and that's not good having that kept around for you as the man. You know he will try to snatch that twat up any time you aren't looking. Now the past few days had a chat with a woman from a dating site, I knew immediately her hanging with guys was a red flag and told her we wouldn't work. She tried to ask me out again, some more probing she said she didn't sleep with most of them. MOST. Then trickle truth comes out there is only 1 she slept with that she talks to and he's her best friend apparently. Of course I was blackknighting at this point, pointed out it looks like she has a dick in a glass case to break on a rainy day. She kept saying she liked me and he wasn't interested, even said worst sex she ever had, then the final trickle truth after me telling her another time I wouldn't be with her: He's her dream apparently, and she would drop anything for him. He's not interested apparently so she has to find others to date now.

Whoever she is involved with from now on may be thrown away like a piece of trash if that guy gets bored one night and needs a wet hole. I just thought well played, this guy had this bitch on tap and apparently alpha widowed her. This is what spurred on my question, this bitch was delusional and kept denying that she wanted to be with him yet admitted she wanted to be with him. Is this deliberate or just the fucking lunacy of women? I assumed both and stayed away regardless. Told her that her keeping any ex as a friend she sees all the time is greed not being friendly, blackknighted so hard I'm surprised she didn't block me. It ran it's course, had my fun blackknighting her and blocked her.

npdrealz · 2016-04-22T17:18:55+00:00

If your girlfriend is staying at her guy friends' apartments, is it mate guarding to care? How do you mate guard and not come across as beta? Maybe it's already a lost cause but this girl was a total whore and only has guy friends. I am pretty sure her guy friends are pussies but am I just not as alpha as I think I am?

MattyAnon · 2016-04-22T00:52:26+00:00

Sure, I got one.

Pausing before answering someone is a sign of power, as such it's a cornerstone of charisma. (Well covered in The Charisma Myth - good book).

But.... pausing before answering also generates distrust, whereas quick answers seem more honest (no time to formulate a lie). (Similarly well researched)

Clearly both are true at different times.... but I can't quite get my head around which is true under what circumstance.

happywurst · 2016-04-22T00:49:01+00:00

The "alpha" in my group has made it a mission to trash a guy I know every chance he gets. And we're powerless to do anything about it. We know him and think he's cool but he's in a no-win situation. With all the things he's had said about him, I wouldn't be surprised if he shot up the school. Meanwhile our friend just casually goes off on tangents about him and he just doesn't care. He's 28 and still lives with his parents. People try to go with it so they don't get on his bad side.

What would any of you do in this situation? I'm stuck on not saying anything but still trying to protect my status in the group.

When	Don't say	Instead say
Asking a woman out	Would you like to get drinks sometime?	Meet me for drinks on day or day at time/place
Deciding where to eat	What do you feel like having?	I'm hungry for Italian or maybe Barbecue tonight...
Leaving a dragging event	When do you want to go?	Let's get ready to go in about 5-10min.
Planning a weekend	Want to go to the lake this weekend?	What sounds better, fishing or jet skis?

Title	Theory Friday - No Stupid Questions Thread
Author	redpillschool
Upvotes	102
Comments	440
Date	April 22, 2016 12:40 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/4fw2em/theory_friday_no_stupid_questions_thread/
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