How many of you men here are actually In shape?

Det_Steve_Sloan · 2022-05-14T07:41:43+00:00

Six pack. Abs. Delts. Traps. I work out and have a good looking face. I'll tell you one thing, we notice when other men are in a similar shape. You can tell even through dense clothes, same way women can tell another woman's figure.

And I would say less than 3% of men I see are muscular. Hell maybe 1%. Go to an average small western city and the men are dressed like shit.

neolib-cowboy · 2022-05-14T07:58:02+00:00

Not me LOL

NelsonManswella · 2022-05-14T11:58:04+00:00

Since it only seems to be guys who are in shape that are responding; I’m not. I’m slightly overweight.

Zestyclose_Ad6094 · 2022-05-14T08:48:16+00:00

Hey finally something I'm good at.

I'm 5'7 170lbs 14%bf

I bench 255

Squat 315

Deadlift 405

Run 1 mile in 7 minutes. I'm in good shape and workout every week. 😊

PMmeareasontolive · 2022-05-14T13:53:04+00:00

alright, WHIP OUT YOUR DICKS, MEN!!1

AreOut · 2022-05-14T19:06:06+00:00

define "in shape", I am a 6.2" 250 lbs powerlifter who can lift a shit ton but I have 20% BF (not obese but still) and I run 1 mile in around 10 minutes, on the other hand I know people who have 10% BF (so they look much better than me) and run mile in under 7 minutes but can't pull half my weights

P.S. 90% of girls would choose these other people but I still love my powerlifting :)

IHaveSalesQuestions · 2022-05-14T07:44:14+00:00

I’m 6’5 230lbs. 38M. I need a procedure done soon and this new doctor decided to say “oh look at your muscles. You’re a big guy!” He then proceeded to feel my arms up. If that gives you an idea.

I’m sure it’s similar to shit women deal with regularly and it’s weird. Definitely one of the weirder things to happen recently. It actually made me wonder if I should get a new doctor.

Anyway, yes I’m in shape and a health freak. Built my own home gym. I only eat organic, no processed foods, grass fed and finished meats only. Work out regularly. Track macros daily. Take about 15 different supplements a day as well. Whole Foods is my home away from home.

2022-05-14T12:16:15+00:00

I lift 3 days a weeks, and I’m in early stage training for an ultramarathon next March, so Im running about 30-40km/week. I also have a physical job.

No idea what my body fat is, but I’d guess around the 12-15% range. It could be lower, but I like beer and pasta.

Aesthetically I’ve looked better in the past, but I’m definitely in shape. I look a lot better than most guys in their 40s.

2022-05-14T13:38:53+00:00

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Taipanshimshon · 2022-05-14T16:34:42+00:00

I'm 14 % body fat athletic look.

But I'm short and bald so whatever

Gravel_Roads · 2022-05-14T11:04:51+00:00

This is two separate questions: 1.) how many men here are in shape and 2.) how many men here believe one has to be in shape to have an attractive partner.

And to answer:

1.) I’m fit; I rock climb and jog. I’m more wirey than beefy, but I’m genetically mostly Scandinavian and Irish so that’s pretty in line with my natural physicality.

2.) No, I don’t think someone has to be in shape to have a partner that’s in shape. I dated a heavy girl when I was running Tough Mudder - she was supportive and took pictures at the finish line. I was perfectly happy with her company and didn’t care that she was out of shape. I loved her. We broke up amicably because we had different life plans. She definitely deserves someone nice.

Edit : also, I had my most attractive partner when I was my least in shape. I’d just cut three tendons in my hand and couldn’t do much exercise. My muscles atrophied quite a bit. My partner didn’t leave me for it. We’re getting married actually

WestsideMoonWalker · 2022-05-14T16:33:13+00:00

I'm like, 5'10 and 125 or 130 lbs. I've always had a smaller frame and am built super narrowly throughout. Have very little body fat. I'm happy with how I look, but I could stand to be more active. Want to hike more than I already do, and play basketball more consistently.

jingleofadogscollar_ · 2022-05-14T10:53:52+00:00

I agree with the underlying theme of this question, which is if you're not in good shape (not just "average"), you don't really have a right to complain about dating struggles

Da_Famous_Anus · 2022-05-14T08:39:56+00:00

38M. In excellent shape considering my personal health related circumstances. I run 30 miles a week outside of my personal adult soccer games and training sessions coaching kids at the middle to high school level. I ran with my local high school track team this spring. I ran a 4:58 mile, beating most of them. I do weight sessions to stay strong enough to play goalkeeper in one of the leagues where I'm usually a field player who does most of the running for any team I'm on. I also teach goalkeeper technique privately to high school hopefuls. And I led a kindergarten age soccer program this spring as well. I do my basic 3 mile run loop at about 6:15 pace per mile at the moment without making it race effort.

majani · 2022-05-14T09:02:19+00:00

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drew8311 · 2022-05-14T15:31:10+00:00

+1 for another in shape guy

FrivolousMood · 2022-05-14T16:21:32+00:00

Older man here. Single digit body fat and elite level cardio fitness.

purplish_possum · 2022-05-14T17:30:17+00:00

I'm in decent shape for an old dude. I'm 57, 6'4", and 230 lbs. Before the pandemic, I was 215 lbs down from a high of about 340 lbs six years ago. I developed a heart condition and had to limit my exercise regime. I had heart surgery last year that seems to have fixed the issue so I'm ramping up my physical activity again.

I like big women so I've never chased after thin women. I have found that fat guys don't get much love -- not even from fat women.

analt223 · 2022-05-15T03:58:29+00:00

can deadlift 585 lbs, 33 year old virgin. Have a little bit of a beer gut, but still

fizeekfriday · 2022-05-15T13:51:22+00:00

I'm pretty in shape, visible abs, decent chest, decent arms (I used to box), I'm overall a very athletic person.

I'm 5'7 and I've been able to touch a basketball rim with a running start since I was 5'3. I honestly have pretty good stats overall but the height thing just kinda ruins it for a lot of girls.

Fusiontron · 2022-05-14T13:18:32+00:00

I’m ~ 8% body fat but it’s mostly due to genetics. Even though as an adult, I work out 6 days a week, I was hovering around the same body fat percentage as an untrained teenager with a terrible diet.

I’m actively trying to gain weight so I guess I’m not really happy with the way my body is even though people tell me it’s a blessing to eat and never make a dent on the scale. I’m 5’8 at 140lb.

So yeah, I’m entitled to say that I would rather die than date a fat chick.

2022-05-14T15:01:08+00:00

Are any of you in a somewhat respectable body fat range?

Here. Around 13% bf

If not, other than depression or lack of money, what is the main reason you are not the way you want to look right now?

I'm short and I have a small penis. There's nothing I can do to change it and never will be.

2022-05-14T18:59:56+00:00

Im over 6'5 and semi in good shape. My height carries me tho. Im not build like a ogre so its hard to gain muscle

Mrjimmyjohnson · 2022-05-14T23:59:12+00:00

5'11 150lbs chin ups PR 20 6 pack abs I can skateboard 8 miles 13.5 inch biceps tryna get to 15 Low appetite I can only eat one meal a day sometimes nothing at all I maintain and gain weight by drinking 2500 cal shakes. Can skip rope for 5 minutes. Been told I kick hard at muay thai course

How come girls don't want me? 🧐 Kidding I'm not conventionally attractive in the face I'm black with a big nose a skinny face so the proportions are off I guess. I like my face tho it's just it's not the kind of face most women would like to kiss... Too bad for them I'm packing 8 inches.

bloodthirsty_emu · 2022-05-14T09:04:31+00:00

I'm just on 6 ft and 91kg which probably puts me in the very slightly overweight category @ 35.

Not overly muscular but for context I have had two kidney transplants, need to take appetite stimulating meds, and am unfortunately injury prone due to the illness.

I'm constantly getting fatfished and told by girls who literally waddle that I'm too ugly for them to consider dating, all because of how illness affects my appearance.

Essentially I'm living proof of the double standards that exist.

Specialist-Action-33 · 2022-05-14T08:26:41+00:00

I'd say im 12% body fat last height and weight we had. Luckly we have one tomorrow. But I am decently in good shape. Passed the ACFT this morning (Army physical fitness test for those who dnt know) with a pretty high score with a torn meniscus. I also go to the gym 3 times a week for power lifting and spend 30 mins on the elliptical. So i guess I'm in shape.

Sparr126da · 2022-05-14T08:43:47+00:00

I'm 181cm tall and weight 60kg, so i'm underweight but i feel healthy

humdf · 2022-05-14T08:52:37+00:00

6'3" 275lbs 18% bf. my normal.

at the moment more bf due to lockdown and closed gyms.

it is easier to cut fat than to rebuild muscle.

i do not see 18% as "in shape". but with a 6'3 and the distribution (flat tummy, side of sixpack starts showing) it is the spot which you can be easy and it is enough to be in a sauna or at a beach topless

OldSimpsonsisbetter · 2022-05-14T13:50:25+00:00

Yep, I'm in shape. I'd guess somewhere around 15% bodyfat (I can see some slight abs, some slight obliques and a bit of vascularity in my biceps and forearms). I'm not as muscular as I used to be but I'm gaining it back fast (due to muscle memory). Decent sized shoulders and pecs if I wear a tight-ish top and I have the v-taper thing judging by what I see in the mirror and my measurements I've taken of my body.

Let me tell you, it has mattered jack sh*t with women. Women have never cared. I've never got more female attention or more women in my life from working out.

So what do you say to that? If a man self improves and it still doesn't improve his dating prospects. Kind of blows the theory that self improvement is the answer, doesn't it?

Ag116797 · 2022-05-15T03:33:16+00:00

I'm in shape being in good shape is absolutely the best thing men can do to be more attractive to women.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2022-05-14T13:34:47+00:00

I power-lift. I’m Not shredded, not concerned

Zestyclose_Ad6094 · 2022-05-14T08:01:46+00:00

Meee!!!!! I am!!!! Me me me me me me meeeeeee

If i had to guess maybe ~20-35% of the male users are in shape... between 1/3 or 1/5

RedPill115 · 2022-05-14T12:01:43+00:00

Several years ago I was bored and made the mistake of listening to online advice about getting in shape via heavy lifting. One day I wake up with pain shooting down the side of my leg and a "crunch" feeling inside my hop if I put weight on it wrong.

Let me tell you, nothing will kill your dating life like an apparent injury and limping around.

I was in shape when I was younger. I had visible abs and all I was doing was normal stuff like biking and canoe/camping once a year.

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2022-05-14T11:10:20+00:00

Used to be really fat around 280lbs on a 6' frame. Slimmed down to 200lbs now going down to at least 180 or 10-15% bodyfat depending on muscle growth.

Matt_Door · 2022-05-14T12:52:18+00:00

I’m in great shape for 43 year old guy. Running 3x week and gym (all body weight exercise) 3x week right now, other physical activity like biking, walking dogs, etc. I’m active everyday

NinjaOfTheSouth · 2022-05-14T12:57:22+00:00

5’10, 220. I’m pretty muscular, I constantly do cardio and calisthenics.

2022-05-14T13:25:53+00:00

6’ 210 ~15% bf i do muay thai and calisthenics to supplement

Grappleheart · 2022-05-14T13:45:46+00:00

I am not in shape. I will admit that. I am about 20 pounds away from. My best weight.

E-2-butene · 2022-05-14T13:45:59+00:00

6 pack, ~200 lbs at 6’0” and around ~12% bf when I’m at the top of my game. When I’m not, 4-pack, ~210 lbs, ~17% bf.

Yea, I’m pretty fit.

Fusiontron · 2022-05-14T15:02:29+00:00

I'm the male version of a cardio bunny. I don't go to the gym but play sports, keep my weight down more by portion control than good choices, etc. As I get older, I do think I will need to eat more plants.

reforged-demon-blade · 2022-05-14T15:04:53+00:00

what is the main reason you are not the way you want to look right now?

I'm in the "normal weight range", within healthy BMI and all that. I just don't look ripped because I'm lazy and not willing to put on the effort to look like that. It's pretty much a lifestyle and I'd have to spend too much time maintaining the shape or worrying about it.

jonreynolds1999 · 2022-05-14T15:11:32+00:00

I have 13%-14% bodyfat and am underweight for my height

NelsonManswella · 2022-05-14T15:12:04+00:00

140 at 5’6” it’s literally just cause i’m short lol

Siegfried66 · 2022-05-14T15:47:48+00:00

I'm on the border between normal and overweight based on my BMI, but I could definitely stand to lose at least 20 lb. Been getting more active lately and definitely eating a lot more fruits than I had done in the past. Most importantly, I definitely need to start weightlifting.

2022-05-14T16:15:02+00:00

I’m dad bod mode rn but cutting down. Got some muscle but not super cut or anything

ConferenceHumble2129 · 2022-05-14T16:17:56+00:00

I’m 6’2 and about 190 LB and go to the gym 3-4 times a week. Body fat is 9-10% range.

Honestly I’d like to gain about 10 more pounds of muscle but I’m in pretty good shape.

AloneOnTheStrange · 2022-05-14T17:30:21+00:00

I work out, I dont have a six pack, but I have decent muscle definition, and I'm in good shape. My weight and muscle fluctuates because my schedule makes it difficult to commit to the gym constantly.

I could be better. But in terms of physiques I'm easily in the top 5-10% of guys I know.

ContradictingFeeling · 2022-05-14T17:35:14+00:00

I'm not, I was in decent shape for a while (not fitness boy, but long distance runner type). At my best I had a 15% body fat percentage. I worked my ass off in the hopes to fix my dead bedroom (with my partner). Getting in shape didn't fix anything and I got demotivated.

Now I'm fat... but on the right track again, halfway my weight goal.

DeliciousPussyNectar · 2022-05-14T18:00:30+00:00

I’m lucky to have a job to keep me muscular, two birds with one stone type of thing. Used to be scrawny, never been fat.

2022-05-14T18:27:02+00:00

145lb Bench

205lb Deadlift

185lb Squat

By no means am I a jacked lifter bro. But that's after like 6 months of serious lifting. I'm also pretty low body fat and bike 5 miles every other day. Those aren't my 1RM for the record, these are just what I'm currently at when I do proper sets.

6', 165lbs. Even with all of this I still struggle to date.

GloeSticc · 2022-05-14T18:33:22+00:00

173cm 55kg (M). Used to be in shape.

ChibsFilipTelfordd · 2022-05-14T18:38:20+00:00

Define in shape? I'm very in shape compared to the average American. But I'm not where I would like to be.

I'm 6'2.5, 195lbs and between 13 and 16% body fat depending on how good my diet has been the last 6 months lol.

But yea 100% you can't ask for a hot girl if you're not hot yourself

PrimaryFondant8648 · 2022-05-14T18:55:15+00:00

I was in fairly good shape when I thought there was hope of a woman being attracted to me if I just improved enough. It made no difference whatsoever so once COVID shut all the gyms down, I just stopped trying and haven't been to the gym since.

This is when my standards for women were "will she go on a date with me?" and nothing else, since having standards resulting no success. So it was not even asking for a skinny girl.

DerekMorganBAU · 2022-05-14T19:17:58+00:00

I’m in shape don’t know body fat percentage

Just tryna get a six pack so I can put up a low effort selfie on OLD and get bitches

cautionTomorrow555 · 2022-05-14T19:37:52+00:00

6'2, 200 pounds give or take 5-10 pounds in the winter/summer, try to go for a run when I wake up now that the weather is nice enough to do so, decent muscle. Even with these stats I have had women who literally weighed the same thing I do despite being a foot shorter tell me I am not in good enough shape or not tall enough. Bitch you get winded going up a single flight of stairs and you are expecting to date some athletic guy?

PlayfulLawyer · 2022-05-14T20:23:17+00:00

6'2 , 166 pounds as of this morning, pretty toned up, nothing flabby or anything, not a Usher type six-pack but there's definitely some abs there, I ran track and field in high school and in college and I still run every morning so that explains the slim frame, I've had a couple women tell me that I was skinnier than they would have liked, which is fine as much as I love Arnold Schwarzenegger I never aimed for that kind of physique

HazyMemory7 · 2022-05-14T21:31:01+00:00

Yup. 6ft 185 lbs, maybe 15% body fat? Physique isn't at my goal but its a work in progress. I started off at 6ft 128 lbs.

Physical-Pie748 · 2022-05-14T22:49:00+00:00

im in shape.

Basketballjuice · 2022-05-14T22:52:39+00:00

I am in good shape. Not sure my bf%, would guess around 14-16%

ThisBoringLife · 2022-05-15T00:14:56+00:00

I don't have a shredded six-pack, but I do workout regularly..

I think I'm in decent shape.

Ok-Talk-4303 · 2022-05-15T02:27:40+00:00

I‘ve been told several times now by people of both sexes that I look fit, so I guess I‘m well in shape.

social_mule · 2022-05-15T02:38:09+00:00

I'm overweight (not obese, just chunky) but I'm tall enough to not look like a beach ball.

Electrical_Coat_8714 · 2022-05-15T03:38:47+00:00

I'm in awful shape now but I still look alright, I was never muscular. Even at my peak I was only toned from the abs down,

6'1 135

Woko127 · 2022-05-15T04:27:06+00:00

I'm the guy in the pic. Not as ripped as when I used to fight but still waaay above the average dude.

It's a massive advantage because a lot of men don't take great care of themselves.

andtheywontstopcomin · 2022-05-15T05:59:30+00:00

I’m in okay shape, I have a 6 pack, very little body fat, and defined muscles. My gf thinks I’m muscular even though I’m not, because I have good back muscles and arm muscles to compliment my abs. I can do a lot of push-ups and run a mile, but I could be way more in shape if I tried.

That being said, you can be really fit and not get girls. Face still matters to women, you know. Even uglier women who go to the gym will reject guys who are literally the same as them.

2022-05-15T12:41:54+00:00

I'm slim, six pack showing on good days. Put some some lean muscle but have lost a bit.

decoy88 · 2022-05-15T13:03:55+00:00

Used to be but not anymore.

gopher_glitz · 2022-05-15T14:34:50+00:00

6'3", 215lbs, workout 3x a week, low bf %

Gigamon2014 · 2022-05-15T16:38:33+00:00

6ft4 278lbs and probably 8-9% bodyfat at the moment. Absurdly good genetics, I actually dwarf a lot of NPC competitors IRL. Yeah I'm that guy you stop and stare at.

To say it helps would be an understatement. TBH I'm at the point now that it throws people off. I sometimes feel like a social media thot due to the weird ass way a lot of women act around me. It massages the ego, but it definitely is kinda perplexing at the same time.

JediGuitarist · 2022-05-16T18:47:33+00:00

what is the main reason you are not the way you want to look right now?

Bluntly? While I'd like to be more in shape, I don't consider it worth the effort. I don't like to lift. It bores the fuck out of me. And when I see women complaining about guys who are far more in shape than me not being good-looking enough for them, it's like, why would I do something I hate for potentially years just to get up to the point where women are still nitpicking my appearance as not good enough? Fuck it, I'm fine the way I am. I'm healthy enough; my heart is healthier than most men my age and I can bike like there's no tomorrow, that's all that matters. They don't like my slight gut that's on them.

Snowbattt · 2022-05-17T07:22:37+00:00

I have a healthy weight, my waist size is well below the threshold for being unhealthy, I lift weights 2x a week, practice martial arts and rock climb. It took a while to put on muscle on my tall frame, but I got there and I don't look like a bodybuilder, but just athletic. My body fat hovers between 12 and 15 percent.

I've had two long term relationships so far and a couple of shorter term flirts here and there but I've never noticed a woman checking me out in public places. So being in shape and tall for a man does make it a bit easier, but really, unless you're photoshoot-model level of attractive, you'll still largely be invisible for women.

That or they're just extremely good at checking me out without me ever noticing.

Lotus_82 · 2022-05-17T11:57:59+00:00

I do sit-ups and push-ups every single day along with stretching a little bit of resistance training before I shower every day.

It’s just a general discipline I picked up in my teens that I never stopped doing and despite doing drugs and not having the healthiest lifestyle I’m in my thirties and I have the same body I had at 25 when I actually went to the gym or the skatepark every day.

jcsb8913 · 2022-05-17T20:21:50+00:00

Late to the party but I think I'm in pretty decent shape (5'9", 155lbs, 8-9%bf), considering I workout 6-7 days/week. I don't think I'm near physique competition level but ppl will regularly come up to me at the gym to comment about my vascularity/physique or ask for general advice.

If anyone is curious, I posted my 1.5 yr long covid lockdown transformation in my profile and still maintain a similar physique, but trying to get down to 150lbs by June/July.

Suck-Less · 2022-05-18T01:17:41+00:00

Well, people have called me Rocky plenty of times. Don’t know why, hair vanish two decades ago.

54 y/o 5’8 165lbs. I dumbbell press 200lbs. Can knock out 20 reps of Dragon Flags. Hold a 90 degree lever and normal level. Probably about 15% bf in winter, 13% in summer. Not bad for my age.

NoRefrigerator267 · 2022-05-19T01:46:31+00:00

I am working on it. Yes it’s because of depression and other shit

Title	How many of you men here are actually In shape?
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