Men, how many times would you have sex with a woman you don’t like.

DokiMin · 2022-12-05T22:04:21+00:00

If I don't like them I wouldn't want to have sex with them it would just be weird and uncomfortable I wouldn't enjoy it

Lift_and_Lurk · 2022-12-05T19:16:30+00:00

Why don’t I like her? Are we talking not my type or she stabbed my dad while we were at the sports bar?

Podlubnyi · 2022-12-05T20:47:41+00:00

Can't speak for other guys but I have a category entitled "not even if I was desperate".

Bikerbats · 2022-12-05T19:59:21+00:00

Um zero. If I don't like her, why the fuck would I sleep with her?

Dstar538888 · 2022-12-06T02:11:05+00:00

I read through some of these trifling ass comments, and yet some of the men in this sub have the audacity to get upset if me or any other woman in this sub states that we don't have sex with men until after exclusivity and commitment has been established first....the men in the sub are literally proving my point lol.... there's one dude who admitted he's had an on and off FWB for 5 whole years... some people get married and have kids within that time span lol and our good sis has just been nothing but a booty call that whole entire time smh....I hope she or any other woman submitting themselves to such arrangements get therapy to figure out why they have such low self-esteem and no standards so that that they can avoid being in life long situationships with men who don't care about them....I hope other women read these comments and establish more boundaries and standards for themselves so that they can avoid these types of men who are just nonchalantly trying to use them for sex, and then drop them to go commit to a different girl because ain't no way....

NotARussianBot1984 · 2022-12-05T23:43:45+00:00

Here's the thing, great sex is HUGE to me. Its hard not to like a girl that is great at sex.

And the biggest turn off for me is being a bitch.

So I'd say zero. I've never had sex with a girl I disliked. I've never strung a girl along for sex, but I also take my time to decide whether to end it or not. Last relationship it took me a month or two to really process my feelings to know it was over. As soon as I did, I ended it.

It's also a weird question because well unless you already know you dislike a girl (say you won't date her), well how do you know? Until you actually date her? I've a dated girls that was unlikely to be serious relationships? Sure but I give them a shot anyway, who knows, my best and current gf is generally not a girl I'd normally date, we matched during covid.

gymbro718nyc2 · 2022-12-05T19:22:57+00:00

Depends on how horny I am, how many beers I've had and how late it is.

AstuteBlackMan · 2022-12-05T20:02:33+00:00

Depends how bad I don’t like her

Puzzleheaded_Bet7294 · 2022-12-05T20:29:44+00:00

As many times as my refractory period would allow for

FlyV89 · 2022-12-05T23:17:58+00:00

If I'm having sex then I like her.

She may not be the best woman I can get thou, but then average looking gals tend to be more willing to please you and engage in kinkier, sexier, funnier sexual acts I may be into at the moment.

I've dated very good looking women and IME, at least for casual sex, it doesn't worth the effort and the chasing.

DreysunTheOne · 2022-12-06T01:59:47+00:00

Unless it's completely free and takes literally no effort from me, there is a 0% chance I fuck a woman I don't like.

The bare minimum is being able to hold a conversation, If I don't like her enough to do that there's no way I'm going near her like that.

Now If we mean a woman I may not like 100% PHYSICALLY, then it becomes a lot more variable, how much do I like her as a person, how well can we mingle, is the sex good?

This is a very multidimensional question with not enough parameters because depending on what you mean exactly the answer could be "never" or "as long as she lets me"

MarBitt · 2022-12-05T19:46:04+00:00

Now? 0. I have better opportunities and hopefully some sense.

In my teens and early 20s? It didn't matter if I liked her in the sense of being in love, but if she turned me on. Sex (in the broadest sense of the word) was just new, fun, and I was freaking horny. Did I like her breasts or butt? Did she smell good? She said and let me do exciting things with her? Would she let herself be tied up so I could try it out for the first time? Would she go in a threesome?

Conversely, if I had really crush on a girl or had respect for her as a person, it diminished my boldness towards her greatly to the point that even if she was interested, there was a decent chance that it would end platonically. Because I would be indecisive, nervous, full of anxiety, and i will be worried that I offend her or hurt her in some way. And therefore really bad for casual sex discovery. Perhaps a similar situation to what some women describe when they find a man they don't care and they can easily enjoy sex with him without strings attached, while when they meet a man they would like to have a relationship with, they suddenly leave him waiting, fearing that sex will ruin everything.

Because I had this idiotic view of sex, as something exciting, but also forbidden, dirty, which is not done with good women, but to lewd women. In retrospect, I don't understand how I ever came up with this childish approach to sex and I'm glad that a normal, healthy, loving relationship in my mid-20s got rid of it.

NOTSM · 2022-12-05T19:48:29+00:00

Reading between the lines here but it seems like you view a casual hook-up where the man has no interest in progressing things to a relationship as some malicious manipulation.

That's not really how it works. Normally the chick is cool and we just casually hookup until one of us gets weird and/or finds a long term partner. This whole thing can last a few weeks, be an on/off thing for years or anything in between.

zyzzspirit · 2022-12-05T20:37:03+00:00

Zero. Sex is for bonding with someone you love

M3taBuster · 2022-12-05T20:53:38+00:00

Zero. I'm waiting for my future wife. If I were to sleep with a woman, it would be because I like her and want to marry her in the future.

SolidPuzzleheaded984 · 2022-12-05T21:21:30+00:00

How physically attractive?

If attractive, thin, and young then yes and I have.

It was strictly just sex and then leave. No talk.

ChudBuck · 2022-12-05T21:23:23+00:00

The only time this realistically happens (based on personal experience) is if you're in a dying relationship and you're sick of one another, maybe sex still happens once in awhile despite you not liking her/vice versa. If you're meeting someone for the first time, it's pretty easy to pick up on "I genuinely don't like you and would rather be somewhere else" vibes and she would either pick up on it and dash, or you wouldn't even want to pursue any sexual escapades with her in the first place.

ChibsFilipTelfordd · 2022-12-05T22:55:56+00:00

Don't like in terms of what?

Don't feel romantic feelings to? Infinite, if they're consenting and I'm consenting then we don't have to be romantically involved to be sexually involved. But I'm upfront and have never strung anyone along

Don't enjoy the company of? Zero. I can't do that at all.

judge_me_harshly · 2022-12-05T22:57:18+00:00

Depends. If I can just show up, bust, then leave. As often as possible. If she wants to "connect" and "be together" and all that gay shit, would rather not fuck her at all because I know it's going to be accompanied with lame emotional text messages and stupid gooey shit.

Head-Language-2977 · 2022-12-05T23:28:08+00:00

Once just to get the curiosity out of my system. I’m curious how most women look naked and how they smash, but long term I’d rather spend my time and effort looking for someone else.

purplish_possum · 2022-12-06T00:55:08+00:00

Nah. She doesn't have to be the love of my life. However, there needs to be at least some warm feelings.

I've turned down women who were physically attractive but total bitches.

5eggsEveryday · 2022-12-06T02:44:20+00:00

Been in a LTR with a woman I did not love or enjoyed being around and it is what it is. She was doing the same. It's all about comfort.

Ugliest_Loner · 2022-12-06T09:58:05+00:00

I'll try my best to answer all of these questions. I sleep with only 3 women who I found to be unattractive for my tastes. I didn't "dislike" these women more so i just had the option/opportunity. We would hook up a couple of times before we broke up. My relationship never went past about a month. Desperation is a factor when I am looking for sex and of course, the easier it is, the better. I doubt these women loved me and probably saw me as just an option as well. However, 1 kept having constant arguments with me, and I left because of it. I don't string women along and just tell them I just want to fuk from the beginning. I'll admit, I do have a problem with ghosting, but I don't do it maliciously. When I take too long to respond, I get this dumb feeling that I would be hurting this person more if I were to respond and that maybe it's for the best we don't hang out anymore. It could also be some attachment issue I have, but I would rather not confront it. I don't look for a relationship because I don't see myself as relationship material myself. Best scenario for me is to find someone who would just booty call me and agree that we are only together just for the sex. My body count is super low, and I am actively trying to raise it. It's still hard, but I noticed a change when i went from 132 pounds to about 160.

arthezaddonix · 2022-12-07T01:55:01+00:00

The responses you got. only a guess but It seems like the men that told you they are having sex with women they don't like didn't mean it literally. I know one guy who slept around in Highschool and young adultish. He personally would keep those girls in backpocket that he "didn't like" is how you would put it. however as he put it, he's just "debating" on them. and that's probably the confusion.

if a guy sleeps with a girl and didn't really commit, probably likes her, but doesn't like her "enough" to be completely sure to start dating her. so. and that could be for a multitude of reasons.

wtknight · 2022-12-05T21:17:29+00:00

Zero. I’ve never been sexually attracted to women whose personalities I don’t like.

social_mule · 2022-12-05T21:48:45+00:00

Don't like or dislike? I've never slept with anyone I disliked. I have slept with people I was completely indifferent to...neither liked nor disliked them.

abaxeron · 2022-12-05T19:54:04+00:00

When I was 18, I thought that any sex is better than no sex.

Today, if a woman I don't like got a desperate borderline psychotic crush on me, and I decided to be charitable, the maximum amount of "sex" she's getting from me is one gloved handjob.

Very common misconception about "men" is that the person trying to characterize "men" confuses them with billy beta-ish 18-year-old boys.

onirroc · 2022-12-05T19:15:17+00:00

None. Wtf?

OhDestinyAltMine · 2022-12-05T19:27:48+00:00

What do you mean “don’t like?” I am currently seeing a girl with a major drug problem, who is insanely forgetful and flighty, and who is absolutely allergic to full accountability regarding the above. I will admit there is literally zero chance i would associate with her if not for … she has perhaps the best ass I’ve ever seen in person on a white girl and she fucks me extremely well.

I would not like her as a (totally platonic) friend or as a longterm romantic partner, entirely because of the surface drug issues and chaos. She has many great human qualities that are very apparent underneath that. And I like her very much as a FWB, at least after having learned to treat plans made with her as very very loose. In my case the answer is dozens of times and counting.

If this sounds sleazy or heartless, i am a cute and deeply personable man who has been drowned and suffocated in warm fuzzy treacle people have told me were “higher” forms of love. My druggie fwb simply offers me something rarer and more valuable than “i feel so close to you! (I just don’t wanna touch your dick”)

jerrywheels · 2022-12-05T20:41:11+00:00

Personality or looks?

Honestly from what I know of my roommates. They didnt even like the chicks. They just banged without a thought. That’s kinda why I had to switch roommates. It was sad seeing how they treated chicks.

But that’s common. Which is why a lot of women ask if men even like them as a category. It’s because a lot of men will fuck but won’t have an iota of care for the chick if she’s good looking enough.

Edit: so I don’t seem doom and gloom. For the ladies actually find out if he likes you as a person first before you sleep with him. This takes months atleast. But no sex is better then sex with some who doesn’t care for you.

tharkyllinus · 2022-12-05T21:22:30+00:00

Never been married? That happens off and on.

LaloTwins · 2022-12-05T20:04:32+00:00

I have one girl I've been fucking for like 5 years on and off at this point when I get extremely horny

She has great big tits, but is a butterface.

I have 0 interest in her except sexual and even then it's only when I haven't got some elsewhere in a while.

She knows it's purely casual, I think she was into me early on, but figured I'm an asshole who doesn't like her but we just have good sex.

stats135 · 2022-12-05T19:20:48+00:00

with a woman you don't like

In terms of?

Don't like her personality? Well gotta take what I can get. At the moment thats not much. So keep it as long as possible.

Don't like her looks? Well if she's below what little standards I have left, its not really worth it.

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-12-05T19:26:08+00:00

I think the premise of the title is off. Women think that not being good enough for a LTR is equivalent to us hating or disliking them.

SolidusMonkey · 2022-12-05T19:43:45+00:00

Never, unless we're talking about like weird fantasy hatefuck situations, which aren't ever going to happen IRL so eh. Like I hate Abigail Shapiro but I wouldn't ever say no to hooking up with her but that's not a realistic scenario lol

Purple_Cruncher_123 · 2022-12-05T20:03:44+00:00

Probably once. I'm fairly big on unique/novel experiences, especially if it's relatively rare, and would probably do it just for that. Assuming of course there's little to no chance of any potential negative fallout. Gonna scratch that FOMO itch.

2022-12-05T21:07:08+00:00

If I ain't physically attracted? Nope, never. But to be honest, I am attracted to a variety of women, tall, short, skinny, fat, brown, white, black, asian, big tits, small tits, all of it. All of them are attractive to me in one way or another. My dealbreakers would be a masculine face, morbidly obese and really hairy. Also something really superficial but thick eyebrows on women give me the ick idk why.

Personality? Not even a chance, I ain't even touching her.

Lovers691 · 2022-12-05T19:30:35+00:00

Is she ugly or personality I don’t like or a straight up murderer?

ProfessorFelix0812 · 2022-12-05T20:15:27+00:00

If she’s throwing pussy at me, I’m taking it.

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jerrywheels · 2022-12-05T19:17:45+00:00

Just by looking at the title - 0

DisasterPeace7 · 2022-12-05T19:45:19+00:00

Depends on why I don't like her, if I don't like her physically? Zero, if I don't like her personality wise but she's hot and great in the sack? a lot

RahLyt · 2022-12-05T19:50:36+00:00

Lol I like how when it's about friend zone it's the guys fault for not moving on with this life. If it's fuck zone, it's the guys fault because he doesn't allow her to live her life.

Answering your question. I couldn't fuck someone I completely despise. But I did fuck girls that had traits I didn't like. Too self centred, too selfish, constantly lying, too impulsive, etc.

I wouldn't string them along. I was honest about not seeing a future.

zerocovid-_- · 2022-12-05T20:22:22+00:00

Forever.

JDWhiz96 · 2022-12-05T21:48:51+00:00

Never

KingWhoCared86 · 2022-12-05T22:08:48+00:00

I’ve turned down guaranteed sexual partners before because I wasn’t feeling a connection with them. Now I’d probably just say screw it get free sex.

GarPaxarebitches · 2022-12-05T22:26:53+00:00

If we both know it's just sex and shes attractive, then as long as possible until one of us ends it.

WideAwake550 · 2022-12-05T22:38:19+00:00

Never. But, then again, I'm in the 7-8 range of looks and am fairly picky.

NockerJoe · 2022-12-05T22:57:24+00:00

That depends. Are we talking about a woman I'm not even attracted to? Are we talking about an attractive woman who I activley dislike? A woman I have no strong opinions on? You haven't really singled out what the mans thought process on this hypothetical woman is and why they don't like her so your statement ranges from "I activley hate you but wanna smash" to "You're a friend, but I don't really want a relarionship with you".

SteelFox144 · 2022-12-06T02:03:27+00:00

I feel like this needs some context because I'm honestly not sure how this could happen where the man is really just stringing the woman along. If the woman wants a committed relationship, she's just going to say so and stop having sex with the man if he doesn't go along with it. About the only way I could think of that this could happen is if they agreed on a friends with benefits arrangement, she caught feelings, and she's expecting him to make the first move when it comes to a committed relationship. That wouldn't be stringing the woman along though because the man wouldn't know the woman wanted anything more than casual sex.

Fit-Faithlessness149 · 2022-12-06T02:18:10+00:00

You'll get just as many answers from men as you would if you were to ask women why they keep guys around as friends but won't ever be interested in a sexual or romantic relationship with that man.

odd_cloud · 2022-12-06T02:39:41+00:00

Constantly, it’s my only hobby. It makes so much sense to find a have sex with a woman you don’t like. /s

Barely-moral · 2022-12-06T02:45:44+00:00

It depends on my options. If somehow I am convinced that I will never have any option better than or other than this hypothetical woman then thre is no limit.

Do you do it multiple times because it’s easy? Just once if your desperate?

I avoid people I don't like unless they are the only option/way I have to obtain what I want.

Have you ever strung along a woman for years just for the sex?

No

When you know they love you?

No. Also, if I know a woman loves me then I like her.

Is it just flattering to bug a woman you know loves you for casual sex?

No. It is stupid. If she loves me then I should seriously consider her for a LTR or leave her alone to find someone else.

Is there a thrill when you inevitably ghost them? Greediness? Back up plan?

No no and no.

I hear differing opinions from men all the time. Some guy friends say they won’t do it more than once if it was bad or she’s annoying.

If I was into casual sex I might agree.

Other men seem to keep women in their back pocket for ‘later’ which seems detrimental to the woman, definitely prevents them from moving on.

It is detrimental. But it is also on her.

So what is the deciding factor?

My ability to get what I want. If the only way I see to get what I want is to get it from people I don't want, then I will get it.

Do you do it even when you know you are hurting them?

I do my best not to hurt people. Even if I don't like them.

Do you excuse it by telling yourself she is a whore for agreeing to hookup or what not?

No. My rationalization does not take other people into consideration. I will get what I want. If I can do it while avoiding people I don't like then that is good. If I can't then I will get what I want anyways.

Clavicymbalum · 2022-12-06T02:52:44+00:00

Zero. If I don't like her, then I'm definitely not interested in having sex with her… nor a relationship nor anything else for that matter.

yungcameltoe · 2022-12-06T03:11:32+00:00

I’ll try it out and walk out if it’s bad

KayRay1994 · 2022-12-06T03:20:16+00:00

0 - i don’t have the patience/drive/willingness to stick it out with someone i don’t like

Ok-Device1258 · 2022-12-06T03:47:35+00:00

lying is bad so I would tell them the truth. If they are lying to me about things then I would lie right back and string them along.

Entiox · 2022-12-06T03:59:47+00:00

Now the answer would be zero, but I guess I'd have to say once if we're talking about my past since I did have sex once with someone I no longer liked. She was an ex, and I had loved her at one point, but the last time we had sex was after we broke up and I didn't even like her anymore. She just showed up at my place a few months after the breakup wanting to have sex with me because she was frustrated that the new guy she was dating didn't know how to get her off.

doitlmao · 2022-12-06T04:34:24+00:00

gopher_glitz · 2022-12-06T04:47:05+00:00

If she's hot? A lot.

Transmigratory · 2022-12-06T05:25:38+00:00

Guys probably would if she's hot enough.

Swordfromthecement · 2022-12-06T10:54:53+00:00

Don’t like her physically or personality? This is a pretty big distinction. I’ve slept with women who’s personality I don’t like. But if I don’t like your personality I try to make sure it’s clearly just casual and we only meet up for sex.

But I don’t sleep with women that aren’t physically attractive to me anymore.

Furri-Friend · 2022-12-06T11:48:01+00:00

As many as I could until I levelled up.

Fighting_dorks6969 · 2022-12-06T15:36:05+00:00

As long as she lets me?

jerrywheels · 2022-12-06T18:26:54+00:00

I dated a woman for 7 years (I know) and had sex with her for a large undesirable amount of time. Maybe by year 3, the sex did not do anything for me.

anon-sucks · 2022-12-07T02:53:39+00:00

The number is directly dependent on the amount of alcohol I consumed.

jerrywheels · 2022-12-07T19:06:52+00:00

I have had sex with many women I would never consider suitable as long-term partners. Explaining WHY to them is a CHORE and quite frankly not my responsibility.

Title	Men, how many times would you have sex with a woman you don’t like.
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Date	December 5, 2022 7:13 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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