This guy basically breaks down how harem works and why 63% of men under 30 are single

AnyIntroduction3288 · 2023-03-29T12:51:00+00:00

These are unique and extreme examples. You literally have a retired porn star. Acting in porn is something that’s usually reserved for men on the fringe. It’s not a mainstream career. And he likely has fringe sexual practices and relationship dynamics because he does porn.
The girls in the video are not getting a “wake up” as you claim. The girls in the video are making faces of disgust. Why? Because the average woman with a modicum of self respect is not going to tolerate being with a guy who has multiple girlfriends and multiple side chicks. Why do you think “are we dating the same guy” groups are a thing? Women don’t want to share a man. Most of the time if a guy is with multiple women, it’s because he’s lying and cheating to multiple women, not because he has a consensual harem.
How does he know the other women are exclusive to him aside from a verbal promise? If they’re cool with being the side chick or sharing a man, why wouldn’t they be cool with dating other guys on the side? And not telling the main boyfriend? Especially the side chick women.
The tradwife lady is also a unique and fringe example. If you look at the comments on the video, the top comment says she was featured on “soft white underbelly”, which is a page that interviews fringe members of society like prostitutes and homeless people. According to the comment, this lady went through a bunch of trauma and horrors. So that makes her even more unique and fringe. In fact, I looked up the video and it showed up on top. She is literally an only fans model and works in porn, was abused, dealt with her dad dying, and was heavily traumatized.

These are fringe relationships which is why they are getting interviews and film features.

SlashCo80 · 2023-03-29T12:44:54+00:00

I just watched that second video and it was sad tbh, the dude seems like a narcissist while she has no self-esteem. I can't see that relationship having a happy ending.

revente · 2023-03-29T15:43:50+00:00

I hate to break it to you but all‚dating coaches' are just marketers and you shouldn’t believe what they say.

Especially having 3 ltrs at once sounds unreal. Not because it’s impossible but because it’s sounds stupid. If you can juggle multiple girls why even bother getting into ltrs with them?

He’s just another Andrew Tate’s clone who rents fast cars and hires hookers for some fancy photos.

Notanothrshitthrow · 2023-03-29T11:44:58+00:00

. Many guys in the 37% of males in relationship have side women and/or in exclusive LTR with multiple women, who may or may not be aware of each other.

If you think that enough men have side chicks to account for a 2:1 statistical difference, then I'm sorry but I just don't think you're living in the real world.

Some of the men in the 63% of males may also be single and have only FWB relationships that they don't take seriously and therefore still consider themselves single.

This is far more likely.

ForeverMaleficent993 · 2023-03-29T12:26:06+00:00

Wow. He sounds like a catch!

First word that popped in my head is the phrase, 'community dick' No hate on poly people but nothing feels good or natural about this weird dynamic he has going on.

Complex-Glass-8539 · 2023-03-29T12:59:33+00:00

Dude get off the internet and take an actual look around, make friends and be social and see what’s actually going on. The reason men in their 20’s are single or sexless is a convergence of 4 things:

People, both men and women, are having less sex, less sex partners, abstaining from sex till later in life and are in relationships less.
Women date slightly older (not extremely older) men. This makes it so the 27+ women are predominantly dating 30+ men. It also means, because people are abstaining from sex till later, the late teen women are not sleeping with the early 20’s men.
Men don’t consider FWB’s or a “situationship” a relationship usually, I’ve personally never heard a man refer to something as that even, but have heard many women say that about the guy who was just fucking her.
Women, especially on the early end of their 20’s, are having a lot more casual sex with other women, which reduces the casual encounters they are having with other men.

This harem bullshit is just that, if anything women have these sexual harems and it’s usually at the request of their partners. Like, my little post divorce ho phase involves fucking a lot of married women, a few gfs and a not small portion of their men knew about it….I’ve also had enough female friends say that their SO wanted that and they didn’t.

obviousredflag · 2023-03-29T11:54:48+00:00

So you just speculate about the number of men with harems. Nice try.

Where those this "many guys" come from? Where is the evidence for that being anything other than an absolute fringe outlier phenomenon? If you go by the number of open or poly relationships, you can see that "many" is not what you want to make us believe.

Flightlessbirbz · 2023-03-29T17:25:06+00:00

None of this is normal though. He’s a former porn star. These people already have extremely non-traditional sex lives, obviously. Anyone who dates someone in porn already has to accept they’re not sexually exclusive, and even though he’s retired he’s still likely in the same circles.

The same applies to some degree to all rich and famous people. If you have enough money, you can have just about any type of arrangement you like, including one-sided poly ones. But it is just that - an arrangement. These aren’t women seeking loving relationships and someone to grow old with who just happen to be cool with all these other women in the picture. They’re gold-diggers and clout-chasers. And the reality is there aren’t enough men who can afford this and women who will do this, for it to really affect the stats.

The trad wife either has no self-esteem or a weird fetish or both. Also abnormal.

I mean if it was normal, these women in the video wouldn’t be shocked, because they would be in weird harem poly relationships too, right? They’re acting disgusted because it isn’t normal.

farm_hand_7 · 2023-03-29T13:01:31+00:00

There are plenty of real reasons that ratios are skewed right now, but this staged clickbait short video isn't one of them.

This is just outrage porn meant to get guys to high five and women to get all riled up over it.

womandatory · 2023-03-29T13:35:35+00:00

Today in ‘things that never happened.’

lankypasta · 2023-03-29T14:07:32+00:00

I’m one of these guys, but I don’t ask my girls to sleep only with me. They can do what they want, I just don’t want to know. That said, I’ve noticed that the more serious they are with me, the less likely they are to be sleeping with anyone else.

Right now, my two main girls are not seeing anyone else. Side girls most definitely are and I don’t care. I don’t cheat, but I also don’t offer full transparency after we’ve had “the talk” about how I’m not a very monogamous guy and I’m not ready for an exclusive relationship and might never be. That said, if they ask for specific details, I will tell them. Usually they don’t want to know.

I saw another post in here where someone commented about these women being low quality. In my world this is not the case at all.

One of my main women is a senior-level project manager for a large tech company. The other one is a globally award-winning visual designer. They are both beautiful women who view relationships in a traditional way… before me. They don’t love the fact that I have other girls but they are tolerant.

All of this said, I know know 1 or 2 other guys like me, so this def isn’t the norm. I don’t think we’re the ones creating/influencing these numbers, although we are certainly a factor.

gymbronyc718 · 2023-03-29T13:47:41+00:00

I see a deadman walking. He is getting stabbed or his dick cut off at one point on the next 3 years. Why would you want to be these women's sole source of cock? That's just asking for trouble.

Own-Opportunity4100 · 2023-03-29T12:48:16+00:00

Just find yourself a girl like Monica, who cares? Edit: that Monica video was a 100% acted out.

technoletch · 2023-03-29T12:00:11+00:00

Okay so, I am one of these guys.

I have a girlfriend, but also at the same time I'm sleeping with 3 other girls on a rotation.

All the other girls want a promotion but won't get it. They do go on dates etc and I encourage them, but they all say they don't like the guys.

It's easy cause most guys are just shit. Guys do better

PeopleAreLegitDemons · 2023-03-29T12:00:03+00:00

i wonder how it makes all those rich former nerds who thought that money would help them hog all the women, knowing that women are just shacking up with guys they are attracted to instead

someone once talked about sexual communism but honestly capitalism was made explicitly to buy women and now most men are losing out

it's glorious to see LMAO

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Scarce12 · 2023-03-29T13:16:46+00:00

Is one of those girls the one who bragged about how she plays guys along because she likes to "humble guys" on that show?

Safinated · 2023-03-29T14:19:44+00:00

Half of those young single men weren’t interested in pursuing relationships.

There is no data on harems so we cannot claim anything about prevalence

learn2earn89 · 2023-03-29T15:08:43+00:00

I have a friend who I think would say she’s in a relationship with a guy. I think the guy would say he’s not in a relationship since all they do is sleep with each other and talk casually. They are exclusively sleeping with each other though. I think the discrepancy comes from the wording.

I wonder if they ask people whether they are in a “serious relationship” if the stats would change.

Anxious-Tailor-7182 · 2023-03-29T17:11:16+00:00

Internet coaches/influencers are last persons you should listen about anything. Their goal is to sell their services and nothing else.

UnapologeticFoodSnob · 2023-03-29T19:28:03+00:00

The second interview is way for the couple to get traffic to their only fans site.

Their only fans is selling this 'pick me" fantasy which a lot of men get off on.

Nothing more to it.

JoeRMD77 · 2023-03-29T21:07:08+00:00

Stop being incel because women won't share you, neckwear. I swear...

beleidigtewurst · 2023-03-30T12:44:00+00:00

There are roughly the same # of heterosexual men and women.

There can NOT be vastly more single women than men.

And NO, "harems" don't really work.

This explains why under 30, we have 2:1 ratio for single men to single women.

Women under 30 find partners 2-3 years older than themself most attractive.

Things reverse as people get older. (or, in case of men, die en mass)

Boxisteph · 2023-03-30T23:54:27+00:00

So, men are lying to women enmasse saying they have monogamous relationships when they don't and therefore hoarding multiples of women?

Why do men not get angry about this? There would be more women for you if other men were honest and played by the "rules".

If men forced other men to be honest with women, the hoarding couldn't happen. Yet sexless men will congratulate and support the hoarders on their numbers. Make it make sense.

Title	This guy basically breaks down how harem works and why 63% of men under 30 are single
Author	shonenhikada
Upvotes	51
Comments	198
Date	March 29, 2023 11:41 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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