I was initially attracted to this community because it taught “I’m not good enough” was just a limiting belief that kept you from a good dating life. But after approaching hundreds of girls & getting rejected countless times, I feel like maybe that belief was right all along. Anyone else feel this?

Whopper_Jr · 2019-10-07T01:38:34+00:00

Paul Janka said his success rate was like 11%. That’s coming from a dude who is incredibly good looking, smooth, and has elite level game. This is a numbers game man. Quantity quantity quantity.

smoothmax · 2019-10-06T21:09:37+00:00

I didn't improve my skills with women by doing hundreds of approaches. I did it by reading self help books to learn about myself plus pickup books to learn the fundamentals of being good with women. Then I started practicing using my social skills and pickup skills on my family, friends, all kinds of people that I knew already and on women that I meet incidentally in my normal life.

To me it seemed like a lot easier and stress-free way of building confidence and self esteem. I got positive feedback almost from day 1 from my closest family and friends. The good experiences built up slowly and steadily from there, and I see no practical limit to having continued improvement.

jin-sookwon · 2019-10-07T00:52:55+00:00

What areas of your life specifically have you identified as underperforming. That you’d wish to fix.

Or is this not good enough just a dog whistle ?

gtrman571 · 2019-10-07T01:51:34+00:00

After maybe 2000 approaches in 1.5 years, I've realized that I'm good enough to go for what I really want in life whether it be that gorgeous woman in the grocery store, the money that will help me live the life I really want, so forth and so on. I don't have it figured out yet I know I'm willing to do the work it takes to create the life I want rather than live a fantasy. I'm 39 and I've been "rejected" in the past 1.5 years than I've ever had in my life yet at the same time I've been on more dates and had sex with 15 different girls, some of the most beautiful girls I've fucked in my life. It's a paradox. On one end I feel like, fuck I suck with women yet on the other hand I've never been more comfortable with myself and in the company of beautiful women. The journey for me never ends and I'm so glad I decided to start a 30 day approach challenge back in Feb 2018. I was so fed up with not having a dating life that I was like, fuck it, I'll talk to these beautiful girls I see everywhere and document my results in a journal. I work with computers and there is so much to learn in the field of computers as well as dating. I'm always learning and open to new experiences. I'm grateful for where I am today deciding to push past my fears, face humiliation and heartbreak to better understand myself especially when it comes to dealing with women. I feel like I had no other choice because I was ruining my own life because I did not know what the fuck I was doing with women.

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hey-bail · 2019-10-07T00:29:51+00:00

A scientist is conducting an experiment to determine whether frogs can follow simple commands. He begins with a healthy, four-legged frog, and says, “Jump, frog, jump!”

Right on command, the frog jumps.

He then cuts off one of the frog’s legs and repeats his command. Although somewhat hobbled, the frog complies and jumps.

The scientist cuts off another leg and instructs the frog to jump again. The frog does as well as it can, but only budges a few inches after belly flopping onto his two remaining legs. After the frog loses its third leg and is instructed to hop yet again, the poor amphibian struggles, but heroically moves a few centimeters forward.

Finally, the scientist cuts off the frog’s final leg. Again, he issues his command: “Jump, frog, jump!”

The frog doesn’t move. The scientist barks his command again: “Jump, frog, jump!” The frog remains motionless.

The scientist finally opens his notebook to record the results of his experiment: “When frog loses fourth leg, frog goes deaf.”

Yes, there must be an explanation for why you are coming up dry, but perhaps the explanation is something other than "I am a worthless piece of shit, despised by all women."

I can't tell you what is wrong with your approach. Maybe nothing is wrong and you just have bad luck. But I absolutely do not believe the explanation is that you aren't good enough.

Perhaps it is something practical. Do you have someone, some neutral person, who could observe your technique and tell you if there is something systematically to you are doing that puts women off.

“Success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.” — variously attributed

SouthernOhioRedsFan · 2019-10-07T03:27:15+00:00

Am I attractive? Can I date hot chicks?

If you have to ask, you don't want the answer, and I'm sure deep down you know that, but you choose to believe PUAs' bullshit anyway because it's easier than accepting the grim reality.

pimpapprentice · 2019-10-06T21:11:56+00:00

What do you define as good? I was told something on an RSD boot camp that has stuck with me. I took a cab ride with Tyler’s current gf and we had a very in depth convo. At one point she said to me, You are already enough. Damn that was heavy. I think that the key to game is properly conveying just how good enough I am.

I think that the simple fact that you have done all this work to better yourself puts you leagues above the average guy. I would say invest (or in my case pirate ⚓️) in a highly rated program that goes step by step, to help expedite the learning process and make sure you are learning the right things. My personal fav atm is Todd V’s The System.

The tl:dr is this: right now there are no wamens going for ya. By giving up, that will never change. By keeping at it, hey it just might 😁

TheManWithThreePlans · 2019-10-07T03:17:22+00:00

The truth is, you're probably NOT good enough. That's fine. That should light a fire under your ass. That should put you onto a path of perpetually trying to be a better version of yourself. The goal of saying: "you're good enough" is to make sure you're always putting yourself out there. We're terrible judges of ourselves and would either never improve or think that we have so much further to go before we make a move. Both extremes are unhelpful.

So yes, as you are now, approach people and try to make connections. This does NOT mean you don't go to the gym, keep up a good grooming and skincare routine, attempt to acquire more coin, attempt to secure a better living situation, attempt to cultivate your friend group in a way that selects for the most beneficial, attempt to dress better, etc. You should do ALL of those things in addition to continuously putting yourself out there.

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vincent365 · 2019-10-07T03:27:01+00:00

I think that maybe it's your mindset that's holding you back. You're only looking at what's bad and not what you've done good . It takes a lot of balls to even go out and approach a woman. Imagine doing that hundreds of times. That's success to me.

33Merlin11 · 2019-10-07T06:55:40+00:00

Are you in shape? Do you keep yourself well groomed? Do you maintain your hygiene? Do you practice your social skills (trying pickups does not count)? Do you hold eye contact? Do you make jokes that are slightly risky? Do you actively show sexual interest in them? If you can answer yes to all of these then I don't see why you would be having any issues. I'm average in looks but I'm fit and really take care of myself and I keep eye contact and try to confidently talk without studdering, opting for a moment of silence to collect my thoughts before talking so I'm not tripping on words. Since working on these various skills my results have gone from 0% to about 20% and I'm only going for 7/10's or higher

partaura · 2019-10-07T09:50:07+00:00

Uh, I had serious issues with my self-confidence around women because of which I was always rejected. I always let my feelings known too early and I tried to build my personality around my perception of what the girl wanted. After years of rejection, I finally got into a good long term relationship. That kind of helped me build self-confidence and taught me what it is that she likes about me. And that I can be likeable. That I did not need to excessively present myself.

We had a break-up after 3 years together but since then my dating life has gotten much better. Even though I’m not a good-looking guy, I’ve dated exactly the kind of women I like since then: Actresses, Poets, Harvard-educated activists. What has changed is I have gotten comfortable with not marketing myself. I let people know my innermost feelings now, not about them, but what I feel about life. And I find that women, especially the ones that I like, find that attractive. They don’t get the feeling that I need them more than they need me. But that we are broken beings looking for solace from the world. And it comes naturally. Yes, percentage wise I’d say I’m at around 25 percent out of the women I like. With certain women right from the beginning you know it is not going to work out. There’s no point in pushing it feeling that something is better than nothing. I just give up at the first conversation if I get that sensation from them, no matter how good they look.

Approach the minds you are attracted to and I feel more often than not it will be reciprocated. And always value truth over presentation. At least that’s what I do.

kartikxthakur · 2019-10-07T13:17:07+00:00

Maybe there's something about you that you need to work on but you just haven't realised it?

pokerguy119 · 2019-10-07T13:28:44+00:00

This is EXACTLY where i am at right now my friend. I have been doing this since June and I am shocked how much rejection I have had to face considering I am a good looking dude and all. Also same with night game, I go out solo and it feels so uncomfortable and the girls shoot you down hard there. We will get through it my friend. Feel free to shoot me a dm if you want to go over approaches, set challenges, together or something of the like. Could even text each other while were out solo lol. Good luck!

Mr_Slowflow · 2019-10-07T07:17:58+00:00

Just like many have said in the comments. Women should not be your main priority. Try and live an amazing life that makes you happy. Passions , hobbies , hang out with friends , and do pickup for fun . When your in a better mood, you will get better results .

As opposed to being a pickup zombie approaching every girl you see.

big_daddy_007 · 2019-10-07T01:39:28+00:00

Man! I'm starting on this shit And just want to say, maybe it's the vibe Your vibe may not be good enough That's it. You need to come off more confident and smart and macho.. that's it

DecentRiver · 2019-10-07T07:51:48+00:00

I would say from what I have learned, women are like the icing and cherry on top of the cake

But you need cake to be underneath for the cherry and icing to have any real meaning

The cake is basically your life, go and do what you enjoy, workout, focus on your goals, maybe a musical instrument, maybe it's a new hobby, if you see a woman you like, you ask, if it's no, just fall back into making the cake

videogames_ · 2019-10-07T08:55:49+00:00

Do you put the same amount of effort in your looks and style? You need to pass an "okay" threshold to get to 1% success rate (approach to lay)

Even buff dudes like Good Looking Loser got 6% lay rate on 100 approaches.

Icatchbutterflies · 2019-10-07T09:27:51+00:00

To problem is that getting better at seduction takes self improvement.

And it takes self reflection self analyzing and honesty to self improve. This is hard and takes time.

Results in the seduction community varie greatly. It attracts guys that have no succes with women at all but also normal to intermediate guys. Seduction (or game) helps best guys that have above average intelligence. Want to put in the effort. And already have reasonable attractive qualities. They just have to stop doing certain things and let their attractive qualities get accross. They have the succes stories. They try put themselves out there and find out they have attractive qualities about them they just were not able to get those qualities accross.

The guys who are way worse have to do a lot more.

For example: If you aren't very social to begin with. Not even with friends. It is very hard to understand all the nuances of social interaction. Being very low on confidence in any part of your life not just women makes it very hard to come accross as confident to women.

There are dozens of traits and situations that you have to convey as you being attractive. And if you fall beneath a threshold on some trait it will ruin 90 percent of changes instantly. You can't compensate with other things.

If you are rude for example. You can be confident and funny and good looking. Most women will lose all attraction for you.

What piece of advice you should take and improve upon is hard to spot. "Just go do it" can help some guys improve greatly but with others it makes no difference.

Doing the same thing wrong over and over again doesn't get you anywhere.

Guys who are bad with women who I know also have clear reasons why. Everybody who meets that guy for 15 minutes knows why.

It will hurt like hell but you must find out what it is or hire somebody who will be honest with you.

It hurts but in the long run you will be way better of. Don't try to protect your ego. Knowing is better.

Reveur1 · 2019-10-07T11:00:53+00:00

Have you revisted your dates? found out what went wrong, it's a learning process, I went from someone who couldn't make contact with a girl to having a lot of them as friends and dating some of them, it took me 5 years.....it was hell but I'm happy and I'm still improving...Give yourself time and work on it...mindset is everything

pimpapprentice · 2019-10-06T22:24:33+00:00

I think it’s helpful to not place too high of expectation on what a win is. A win for me is making the approach and running a game that sticks to the plan. No matter what happens after I can be happy that I was able to do this. If I get blown out, that’s fine I did what I needed to do. If her friends drag her away, that’s fine. If her bf is in the bar and I didn’t know until 15min into the set, that’s fine. I have had some Horrendous blowouts that you wouldn’t believe. Then again I’ve had some girls that become putty in my hands. It sounds like you are a pretty dope individual. Again my advice is to invest in a reputable program that is step by step, to cover the skills specific to having a good time talking with the wamens.

A4_Ts · 2019-10-07T00:31:51+00:00

I feel like women will gravitate more towards you when you enjoy your life and you’re happy with yourself. It’s kind of nice being single too, you don’t have to worry about anyone but you and you can do whatever you want. I think the key is be in love with your life no matter what you do and women will come. Keep going to the gym too and make sure you have good hygiene, nice clothes, etc. Can’t speak for everyone but I feel like this is how it is for me.

VIGILANCE981 · 2019-10-07T01:21:08+00:00

Nope cause statistically tou need to hit those noses to get the yes

CanadianStatement · 2019-10-07T00:18:40+00:00

Intent is everything.

Alot of posts on this sub are from people who really don't value women, and only want to fuck them and move on. Bedpost notches. If you want a quality person in your life, you will have to make an effort towards your self confidence. If you want to put on a show to get laid, you will be on a high for a little while but it will leave you feeling empty after a prolonged period. Its all about what you want, and thats up to you.

"Whatever happens, your toes are still tappin'."

I don't relate to empty-headed club girls but always seem to attract intelligent, caring women. I have no intention of going out of my way to try and impress somebody I don't respect, and refuse to waste my time. Its not that you're not good enough, but it may be that your sights aren't calibrated properly. I have no idea of your personality or attractiveness, and am only offering my advice to a stranger.

Im actually unsubbing after posting this comment because your post made me reflect on this, but will say that the quality of person you are is reflective to the quality of person you attract.

FrostyGlaciers · 2019-10-07T01:00:03+00:00

No. In fact, I feel like I already know almost everything people in this subreddit post. I joined to help me sharpen my game up but it's full of dudes who need beginner tips on how to pick up women.

FlakeyGhost · 2019-10-07T02:15:43+00:00

I wish I had more time to reply man, but as someone who very much has been in you’re position I totally know how you feel and still feel that way from time to time. Just don’t give up. You’ve learned more than you realized. It WILL pay off.

UndeadStranger · 2019-10-07T02:18:12+00:00

Well everyone has got room for self improvement and self development in all areas of their life

2019-10-07T03:22:52+00:00

Hundreds?

AntocaRD · 2019-10-07T04:00:46+00:00

Are you the Best version of yourself?

intelectualycurious · 2019-10-07T04:20:14+00:00

The goal of this forum isn’t to praise undeserving men who thinks nothing is as good as doing something. The goal of this forum is to bridge the gap between people who know they could be better and give them the necessary tools they need to succeed.

Long story short, you are good enough as long as you continue to build your value and better yourself as a man. However, diluting yourself with the belief that you are good enough without having to do anything at all is just simply irrational.

Average_Manners · 2019-10-07T04:52:07+00:00

Well, you're right. You're not good enough. Not for everybody, or anybody, but perhaps for somebody. You can be the most delicious peach, but someone still hates peaches. That's to say nothing if you're not the best peach.

You ARE good enough for somebody. Sometimes the 'somebody' is very few people, and if you'd like there to be more people, you need to be improving. Improve yourself in whatever way works for you, and find the right 'somebody.'

Sephar · 2019-10-07T05:02:53+00:00

The cold, harsh truth is that often we are not good enough and it requires self-improvement before we get ahead. That means working on your appearance, personality and status. Don't be obsessed, but simply spend a little time every day to work on you. Do it because you understand that you should love yourself first.

chiminage · 2019-10-07T05:45:51+00:00

Maybe you need to work on yourself? Give women no choice but to be attracted to you. Get in shape. learn how to dance. Learn humility. Learn about the world... get good at things through hobbies...get a good job.... what woman can resist?

JohnMayerCd · 2019-10-07T05:53:11+00:00

The amount of approaches inspired by this subreddit taught me a lot about myself and I realized how objective it can be from this subreddit. Learning to value encounters and treasure other people’s contributions have helped me find more common ground with women. So no I don’t think this sub is actually helpful. But I do think, if it gives you confidence to approach, it will help you at least open up to a stranger which is the first step. You are good enough for the person you will end up with. And you shouldnt settle for someone who doesn’t want to be with you.

uptimex · 2019-10-07T06:51:34+00:00

You should change something in your strategy after every single approach.

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zosini · 2019-10-07T07:28:42+00:00

you should approach average girls, not the best one only. start with ugly

auxdub · 2019-10-07T08:08:07+00:00

I know it's easy to get discouraged but this thing is a lifelong practice. Stop focusing on results e detach yourself from outcomes. Just commit yourself to practice each day a little, it will come at the right time. The reward is not women, but your transformation. Patience and commitment are all you need.

JKirkN · 2019-10-07T08:13:44+00:00

Don't approach any girls for now. What you need to do is to sit down, take a deep breath and start identifying/analyzing what you've done wrong.

Maybe it's in your inner/outer game, body language, what you say to them, are you on ease with yourself, do you pass their tests, your openers, the context you're in (like me in a conservative country), and sometimes it's not you but the girl you are with...etc.

It happened to me before. I approached like 70 times and got 1 number from a shitty girl like I was when I approached her, so I don't contact her.

Here, I stopped and my confidence was like shit. Now, after months of rest, I see what were the reasons that blocked me from progressing. Majority of them is my mistakes, but the others is totally out of control. Like my context is conservative and cold approach here is not welcomed so much, but that's generalization for sure. Because sometimes I see girls down the street radiating the vibe "Please approach me". Another reason is that I was drawing the image of a creeper and college girls were so good at sensing that (like why are here) cause I'm a dropout.

Now I'm working on myself and shortly I'm gonna comeback to pickup strong than ever. Not waiting to be successful or something like that shit, but what I realized is there are things in me need fixing and after that lets see the comeback.

presobg · 2019-10-07T09:26:40+00:00

Well you are not good enough that's obvious if what you say is true. Don't listen to the kids here telling you "you are perfect the way you are" and bull like that.

Start training start running and lifting learn a language or 2 get a high paying job.

Better yourself psychically(especially) and mentaly And women will like you. Easy as that.

ArmitageShanks69 · 2019-10-07T09:30:45+00:00

Your experiences determine whether or not you are good enough. It's nothing to with 'limited beliefs'. Your judgement is an assessment of the feedback you receive from life's experiences.

If you are having negative experiences and negative feedback you can't 'pretend' that things are different by adopting a 'positive mindset'.

This is the kind of shitty advice that the pua community peddles.

EliteMGTOW · 2019-10-07T10:36:32+00:00

Your observations aren't without merit. And perhaps you need to work on your looks or style. But i can also tell something is wrong with your approaches. There is a book i read that will help your case tremendously "the last game book by ben yareem". The guys here have give you great advice already

philknorr · 2019-10-07T10:56:45+00:00

Man I've just had a broken heart. After all the dating with different girls where things were alright yet the success rate is low anyway no matter how many compliments, I finally found a girl I had a very strong connection with. And despite the sweet things she said, she just disappeared for no reason. So yeah, my life is dominated by that feeling of "not being enough", now more than ever. It's always there and I feel like it was right all along.

ImJustSo · 2019-10-07T11:50:15+00:00

In my experience, it took a while for efforts to pay off when I started. I don't think I had any real success for about two years. After that, things accelerated and today (8-9 years after the fact) I can't believe I ever had trouble with women.

Also, I have to ask. Did you change anything about the way you approach women, once you started to see you were doing it wrong? Have you been doing the exact same things, or have you tried to adapt?

If you've been trying the exact same things and expecting a different result, then you might not be ugly. You might be insane.

Siyuen_Tea · 2019-10-07T12:05:12+00:00

Here's a book I recommend.

It's called " rules of the game" by Neil Strauss. Pirate it, buy it, whatever.

The reason I recommend this book is because it does something simple. It teaches you to game as if you were in school. You don't read a whole textbook then take tests all year. You read a part, practice it, then move on to the next one.

The book says it can get you a date in 30 days. The average person, it will take longer. The important part is using this to find your weakness.

You can get rejected for any number of reasons. It could easily be something going on in their life. You need to figure out your sticking points. Don't just constantly truck through women, learn and calibrate.

toothpickhd · 2019-10-07T12:15:39+00:00

Start approaching less attractive girls. Build some confidence and move up from there.

DajuanKev · 2019-10-07T12:50:50+00:00

Its the women, bruh. Just keep approach because we won't be young forever. Otherwise when a yes does happen, you won't know how to process it.

booooooooooonk · 2019-10-07T13:23:09+00:00

Totally feel this I also live in New York City tho so could just be shitty location idk I always your not ugly just in the wrong area code

JediKnight91 · 2019-10-07T14:15:08+00:00

“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.” - Albert Einstein.

STOP making approaches, or even hooking up with women a goal. Girls can sense desperation. Girls are attracted to guys who have their shit together.

Think about your life. What are you passionate about? Do you want to learn to rock climb? Buy books on that. Start going to a gym, develop yourself, build confidence in it. Bam, you are now a member of an exclusive community of people that share that passion. You are confident but still pursuing growth. You meet girls that do this, or now you have a skill to use for inviting a girl on a memorable date “Hey, do you rock climb?...No? We should hit up my gym sometime. I can teach you!”

Rock clmbing is just an example. You can insert any hobbie or interest that you wish you to explore and learn.

Focus on being the best person you can be. The best friend, the best, family member, and the best at your passions as possible. The more personal victories you can achieve and the more you can strengthen your character, the more confidence you will produce within yourself as a byproduct. Once you have made real, ernest progress in your personal development, you will be able better suited to engage and hit-on girls.

For me, the books “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie, “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” by Stephen Covey, and “Never Split the Difference” by Chris Voss, were very impactful books the I achieved a lot of meaningful personal growth from. But you should always be reading something.

If seducing women is a primary goal, you will fail. That is the irony. YOU being the best version of yourself, working to improve in someway everyday, should be the primary goal. Once you get on that path, you won’t stress about the women, but you will be more likely and equipped to succeed with them. In fact, many more will find you attractive before you even engage them.

injesterstrust · 2019-10-07T14:33:13+00:00

I feel like we're going through a period of awakening in the seduction community. We've been fed a lot of bullshit for a lot of years and we're finally gathering enough evidence to show that it was largely a hell of a lot of marketing lol

Girls go largely on looks, just like we do. Sure, there are ugly guys that get some pretty girls, but it 1/through social circle (rarely cold approach) - and when it is through cold approach, it probably took him hundreds and hundreds of approaches before he lucked across a hot girl who actually thought he looked nice (peoples idea of handsome can vary a fair bit)

DeliberatelyInsane · 2019-10-07T14:45:04+00:00

Maybe the answer lies in your problem. Maybe somewhere deep inside you still believe you are not good enough and probably broadcasting it in your interactions. The true self is always coming through mate.

Schzoid · 2019-10-07T14:48:24+00:00

Bro my suggestion would be not to go for 7-10s. Try approaching a 6, maybe she'll feel special that someone in the whole wide world is giving her attention. 7-10s are approached by guys all the time so their autopilot ( I have a BF, I'm going to class etc ) is always on.

PS: I'm Indian and I do not do cold approach necessarily to get laid. I do it to improve my social skills. In India the arranged marriage is still going strong and given my parents social status and standing in the society, they can definitely find me a decent match which would be impossible for me to even talk to in a social situation lol 😅

Crixusgannicus · 2019-10-07T15:04:35+00:00

If you try to unscrew a screw hundreds of times using a hammer, does that mean you have failed or a belief in unscrewing screws has failed OR are you using the wrong approach to the task at hand?

Can't know you specific situation, but I'll guarantee your inner game is fucked! If you have failure in mind when you approach ANY task, you astronomically increase the PROBABILITY of failure.

axe122 · 2019-10-07T15:13:09+00:00

I’d recommend reading or listening to some audio books on this stuff. There’s tons of good books but if money’s an issue you could do very well with how to be a 3% man by Corey Wayne and mystery method. Each is different the 3% book is a lot about what women actually want and respond to, how to communicate with them gauge their interest levels and keep them interested. The mystery method is more focused on getting the girl attracted and social dynamics. The main thing you want to develop is inner game but the thing o found was you can read about inner game all you will help you understand it but you need postive female interactions to start boosting it so you are living it. This is why the system works, they give you material and routines proven to work and be interesting so after you do enough approaches you’ll eventually see some positive results then some start to snowball until next thin. You know your getting postive rwults more than not.

MASTERFUL_WANG_89 · 2019-10-07T15:23:04+00:00

There's something obviously wrong here that you maybe be lying to yourself about or you've swallowed some bullshit that it's not important. I'm going to guess that it's either:

Your fashion

Or

Your body

Are you overweight? Are you painfully skinny? Do you have a modern stylish haircut? Do you dress like a StarCraft addicted teenager?

Looks matter. If you're maxxed your looks and you're still having problems then i don't know. If you approach as much as you say you do then you should have at least one or two results by now. Time to take a bootcamp maybe.

XDarkstarX1138 · 2019-10-07T15:32:54+00:00

A little. I also think outside sources like dating apps and social media have manipulated women's behavior in recent times. Plus the overall pressure by the media of not having relationships and taking life in other directions like building a career may have played a role.

throwthrowthrow_it · 2019-10-07T16:43:56+00:00

Do you have any girls in your life that like you?

booooooooooonk · 2019-10-07T17:48:07+00:00

Maybe it’s just me than lmao I young tho so maybe for older men it’s easier

frankiedmnd2025 · 2019-10-07T22:16:29+00:00

I think a lot of stuff people say in these kinda groups or on videos is pretty basic stuff you already know inside your head I think the problem comes when youre trying to hard or your standards are just way to high.

Melonnie2000 · 2019-10-08T02:29:08+00:00

Guys that get girls get rejected repeatedly. I get asked out by guys on a nearly daily basis. When I was younger, I said to a guy, “Do you know how many times I’ve been hit on today??” He replied, “Do you know how many girls I’ve hit on today??” We dated for a couple of months. Don’t take it so seriously.

gtrman571 · 2019-10-07T05:43:10+00:00

Why would you approach without any signals? You look like a homeless man begging for Numbers (dollars).

barserek · 2019-10-07T13:02:36+00:00

We teach "I'm not good enough" as a limiting belief so you can get out of your head and stop rejecting yourself before others do. So that you get out of the comfort zone.

This does NOT mean that you don't have to work on yourself. If you are doing hundreds of approaches, and all you get are rejections, you are doing something wrong.

Are you hitting the gym consistently? Well groomed? Nice clothes? Interesting hobbies? Social life? Sports? Job?

Theres is ZERO chance that you will get rejected by hundreds of girls if you have all the above covered. It's just statistically impossible.

getyourlifeplease · 2019-10-06T22:52:37+00:00

Heres some insight from a woman: there is NO guarantee that ANY changes a guy makes will suddenly make him more attractive or make a girl want to f*ck him. Im sorry. You can go to the gym, eat healthy, watch RSD vids, buy trendy clothes, have a great FT job, and be independent - but at the end of the day, the reality is that IF a guy does all that but is still socially awkward, creepy, comes across as desperate and clingy, or doesnt even know how to approach and have a conversation properly...he will not have success. So dont blame the sub on your "Im not good enough" mentality dude. No one promised you a gf/sex...thats on YOU.

HAKIM2323 · 2019-10-07T00:50:01+00:00

You are always good enough. You just need to have money, or pretend to have it. Search YouTube for “gold digger pranks”. It doesn’t matter what kind of person you are nowadays. You can be anyone, you can wear anything, you can have a stutter, you can be bald, you can say anything — as long as you have money (or pretend to have it), girls (especially the HOT ONES) will want to hop on your dick. Watch: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5S1wyc5BoX8 and watch: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tk90VynSVow I also recommend /r/fash

cheeeezeburgers · 2019-10-06T21:53:53+00:00

Have you actually done anything to improve yourself? I would guess no from the sounds of this. Women aren't attracted to men just because the men say hi, they are attracted to confidence and if you aren't confient in yourself they will know.

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