This is one of the concerns RP men keep on mentioning:

That one of their biggest concern is dating the reformed party girl, who now wants ''something real" and is willing to settle down. They fear she has dedicated her best years and her most uninhibited, sexy self to random hookups and although she's in the mood for LTR now, she will deprive the poor sod of a kinky sex life.

I mean I can see why that would be off-putting to a man. You have a woman who was allegedly very kinky with exes but wants just vanilla sex with you. It may make you wonder if she's settling.

But my question is:

How would you know?

Like, unless your gf/wife is a former sex worker, in which case you do know she has been with many men and her body count is in the triple digits at the very least. And it's quite possible she had entertained clients with far-out kinks.

Or, one of her exes releases a sexy video of them getting on and trying out God knows what kinks, and you come across her being tied and performing extreme anal splits.

But in most cases, the woman will not be a retired sex worker or have amateur porn videos on the Internet.

She will be Jane the banker, Maggie the librarian Julia, the kindergarten teacher, Ruby the legal associate. A perfectly ordinary everyday woman in her 30s, with a good head on her shoulders and the picture of serenity and sensibility, who might have had a hot girl summer decades back.

Maybe she will one day open up about having a hoe phase with you. Maybe not. Unless you have common close friends that go back decades, and those friends spill piping hot tea about her to you, how will you know that she engaged in Shibari with the former love of her life? Chances are, even they won't know.

Most women don't share such intimate details with multiple people. Maybe one BFF if that. And the chances of that BFF telling you is marginal.

Even if you come to know that she had that phase, it doesn't necessarily mean, she spent a summer engaging in Shibari, being spit and tied by random men, or being gangbanged.

Maybe she just engaged in vanilla sex.

Maybe she did try anal after one ex whom she really loved. And found that she hated it. And swore never to try it again.

Just coz people have tried something once, doesn't necessarily mean, they loved it.

It's not that different from food. Say, you tried eating roast mice in Shanghai and were completely put off by the taste. If you refuse to eat mice again, that doesn't make you a hypocrite.

Now, if by miracle, if your hypothetical LTR/wife opens up about her past, admits she had hardcore BDSM with an ex or two and loved it, AND refuses to engage the same with you, then you're free to dump her I guess.

If you know someone has engaged in a sexual practice before and loved it, and refuses to do the same with you, sure your resentment is justifiable.

But that's after a lot of ifs and buts. This is after you know she had been promiscuous, done a lot of extreme shit with her exes/hookups, enjoyed, it AND she refuses to do the same wit you.