What can a man do to become more sexy and provocative "instantly"?!

GrandpaDallas · 2024-11-04T16:50:37+00:00

Right choice of clothing also goes a long way for a man. Get clothes that fit, style your hair, and maintain a clean appearance.

If there's one thing I learned, it's that women go gaga over a man in a button up with the sleeves rolled up.

toasterchild · 2024-11-04T17:23:36+00:00

Flirt and create sexual tension.

darthsyn · 2024-11-04T17:33:00+00:00

sounds like what you are looking for is a magic lamp with a genie inside.

Phoj7 · 2024-11-04T20:37:22+00:00

Dress like you’re successful. Make good eye contact. Smile , also make a joke early on.

I read a thing once out why women regularly say they like men with confidence. Confidence relays success that can’t be proven by appearance alone. It’s showing that you know you’re a worthy man because you’re successful. We all know women care more about money and social standing than men do. Use that idea.

So either be confident because you’re successful or fake it.

leosandlattes · 2024-11-04T16:35:21+00:00

Being provocative for women also has a lot to do with behavior, body movement, posture, the tone and speed at which she speaks, etc. And there is something similar for men - having relaxed or open body language and eye contact are ones that I always notice. Other than this, a good cologne is always intriguing for me personally, same with that thing men do when they roll up sleeves to their elbows.

Feeling_Ad_1034 · 2024-11-04T16:46:56+00:00

Have an attractive girl with him.

Nellylocheadbean · 2024-11-04T19:31:18+00:00

Be reincarnated

Makuta_Servaela · 2024-11-04T19:12:53+00:00

Things guys have done to me to come off as instantly attractive:

Been into similar fandoms or hobbies as me and be able to hold up conversation. This includes asking me on my opinion on things in that theme and being honestly interested in what I have to say.
Been good with kids and/or animals. Not just having one or liking one or knowing how to spoil one, but being the kind of guy that animals/kids actually want to be around and being respectful to them. You can tell me you love cats 'till you're blue in the face, but if you let your unvaccinated, uncollared, uncastrated cat outdoors and then brag about how much you love your cat (true story!), I want nothing to do with you.
Having stability or a goal for stability. Love it when a guy has a tradeschool license or a degree and a stable full-time job in the same field.
Being active physically and socially. Don't have to be big and buff and have lots of friends, but at least a respect for his body and mind goes a long way.
Being able to compliment something about me that isn't an unchangeable trait, and a compliment that isn't self-pitying. Mention my eye colour and I'm instantly turned off. Tell me my art skill is impressive and then adding that you can't draw a stick figure is an instant turn off. Complimenting my choice of attire, my dance skills, or my art authentically (bonus points for a compliment that includes a specific detail you like about it) works wonders.

King_conscience · 2024-11-04T16:39:49+00:00

Your SMV:

Money,Game,Looks

VWGUYWV · 2024-11-04T17:01:22+00:00

Shoe lifts, hair plugs, neck beard, nipple rings

Thin_Ad_9043 · 2024-11-04T21:09:03+00:00

1: look attractive

Thats it now just go out and find out who sees it. Its not magic

batfacecatface · 2024-11-04T21:16:09+00:00

Dressing well.

Bekiala · 2024-11-04T17:25:01+00:00

Probably paying attention and being an active listener.

nightsofthesunkissed · 2024-11-04T16:33:21+00:00

...The Blue Steel turnaround look? My first thought, lmao.

TraditionalPen2076 · 2024-11-04T16:47:20+00:00

Find a tall and good looking dad and be born through his wife

rosesonthefloor · 2024-11-04T18:47:14+00:00

A nice tailored suit.

Fab_Glam_Obsidiam · 2024-11-04T18:48:40+00:00

The fastest I've gone from not interested to aroused by a man is learning that he's a good dancer.

Edit: also if he can play an instrument. The hand skills translate.

Optimal_Apricot_6543 · 2024-11-04T21:50:56+00:00

Posture is big

Zaichick · 2024-11-05T00:52:55+00:00

Wedding ring.

Not even lying about this.

MyLastBestChance · 2024-11-05T02:12:59+00:00

Get a good haircut. Shave your neck. Trim or shave any scraggly beard. Moisturize. Brush and floss and use white strips. Wear decent clothes that actually fit you. Trim /file /clean your fingernails.

Depending on where you fall in the “attractiveness” hierarchy, that will either make you more sexy or less unappealing.

Nothing is going to instantly make an unattractive man sexy and provocative to women.

G4M35 · 2024-11-05T02:25:18+00:00

Flash a wad of cash, metaphorically speaking that is. Take her shopping. #SUGARING

DamagedByPessimism · 2024-11-05T07:03:51+00:00

Be tall and above average

jhunter2015 · 2024-11-05T17:31:03+00:00

Nothing tbh. Dressing nice doesn’t really do anything if your sub5 genetics wise

Acceptable-Truck3803 · 2024-11-04T16:43:45+00:00

Have the body of baywatches Zac Efron and take off your shirt/have a skin tight shirt showing rock solid 6 pack abs while being very clean cut.

Otherwise there isn’t an “on/off” switch for men.

Main_Aside_3072 · 2024-11-04T17:55:09+00:00

Get in shape
Improve social skills
Get plastic surgery

Don't listen to the people who tell you that you should make more money. Unless you don't care about dating golddigers and high maintance women.

Wattehfok · 2024-11-04T21:45:32+00:00

Buy some clothes that fit and get a haircut.

If you really want to stand out, develop an interest in fashion and a personal style.

Most dudes dress like sacks of shit. It is very easy to dress well.

No plastic surgery required.

ArtifactFan65 · 2024-11-04T16:59:10+00:00

Become a criminal

Sharp_Engineering379 · 2024-11-04T17:15:27+00:00

Relaxed posture and a grin.

gutenshmeis · 2024-11-04T18:00:21+00:00

If you're already hot as a guy, rolling up your sleeves to show off your forearms, taking off your suit jacket, etc. Maybe you unbutton your top button to reveal a tattoo near your collarbones, etc.

If you're not hot, then nothing. Literally nothing.

Even a below-average looking woman can become provocative by unfastening a blouse button. I can't say men have the same effect on women.

gangbangoldfolkshome · 2024-11-04T19:55:24+00:00

I was browsing a book shop with my wife the other day. I noticed a guy who walked up to a girl and tried chatting her up. He was dressed in old, out of date jeans, dirty, grandpa sneakers, had greasy long blond hair and were some nondescript jacket.

I was like, bro, you seriously gonna go out and try to approach women in public looking like that? How fucking clueless are you.

If you want instant sexy look, here is what you do. Get a charcoal or navy blue suit. Go to a tailor and ask them to tailor it for you. Buy black Chelsea boots, black belt and a black turtle or mock neck. Go to the expensive hair salon and get a banging haircut and ask to be styled then also buy the product they used to style your hair. Go to the mall and get a popular fragrance like Aqua Di Gio and wear it.

Then go out and watch women swoon.

Alternatives to this look. Black jeans, black turtleneck, cowboy boots and a light grey blazer. If you want to be more casual: black jeans, Chelsea boots, dress Oxford shirt with sleeves rolled up. A nice white t shirt can also be used to substitute especially if you have a nice upper body build.

DopeAFjknotreally · 2024-11-04T22:24:47+00:00

Dudes need to stop looking for instant fixes and start focusing on creating a lifestyle

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Wide-Explanation-725 · 2024-11-04T17:23:00+00:00

A fresh haircut.

RopePotential5293 · 2024-11-04T18:09:02+00:00

Be faithful

Hard_Corsair · 2024-11-04T18:11:27+00:00

A quality shave goes a long way.

Double_Aught_Squat · 2024-11-04T19:35:06+00:00

Make sure your hands are clean and, more importantly, your fingernails are clean and trimmed.

Where fitted clothing that works with your frame.

Develop a well-groomed hair and facial hair style.

jedi1josh · 2024-11-04T19:42:13+00:00

Be funny

lilian120 · 2024-11-04T21:19:40+00:00

The most I can think of that helps "a little" is to dress like some random archetype like eboy, military, surfer or other shit like that. Either that or if you go to the gym wear a v-neck, there's it lol

fundamentally_comfy · 2024-11-04T21:28:53+00:00

Makeup, high heels and short skirt

RelativeYak7 · 2024-11-04T21:42:36+00:00

A deep voice, button down shirt with sleeves rolled up to show off forearms, thick hairy thighs.

detransdyke · 2024-11-04T21:43:43+00:00

Aesthetically -

Dress nice, even in casual situations - some chinos with a leather belt, a button up (short sleeve or rolled long sleeve), and some leather boots or oxfords can be a fabulous casual look, and can easily be dressed up or down with a jacket/blazer, different shirt, slacks instead of chinos, black boots/belt instead of brown, etc.

Get and maintain a haircut that works with your hair type and face shape, get refresh trims every 6-8 weeks, and take good care of your hair - use a nice shampoo and conditioner, and add a bit of product: leave-in conditioner, curl cream, styling gel, whatever fits your hair type and style (but don't overdo it bc your hair will look greasy or feel crunchy if you put too much).

If you have enough facial hair to grow a nice beard, go for it - but if your facial hair is patchy/sparse, a beard will look unkempt or even unclean. If you do go for a beard, KEEP IT NICE: beard oil, frequent shaping/trims, wash it in the shower and at least once a day in addition (beards can harbor bacteria).

Behaviorally -

Keep up with overall hygiene: clip and file your nails to maintain a smooth consistent shape, and use a small brush to clean under them; brush your teeth and scrape your tongue; pluck your eyebrows/go to someone who will thread/wax them for you if they grow wild; moisturize (especially hands/arms and face). Find two fragrances, one for summer and one for winter - some ideas would be: a simple one for summer D&G Light Blue for Men - very fresh and bright; cold weather, I'd go for Tom Ford Tobacco Vanille, spicy and warm and sweet without overdoing any of it.

Stay healthy: eat appropriate amounts of healthy food, HYDRATE, do some sort of physical activity (even just walking daily), stop routinely jerking off to porn, don't drink excessively or smoke cigs (personally I'm fine w weed but some women aren't).

Have varied interests/hobbies - video games and anime are great if they aren't the only things you talk about.

On that note, work on your conversational skills: approach interactions with curiosity and vulnerability, with a genuine interest in learning about the other person as they share and sharing yourself w them. Vulnerability is really key, be willing to talk openly about yourself, your beliefs, your interests - and also be receptive when listening, actively listen.

Present yourself confidently, but don't overdo it - confident doesn't mean cocky or attention-seeking. Quiet confidence is so much more attractive than showing off. Leave space for other people to speak, but engage with them about what they say, don't just disengage when you're not the one talking.

EsotericRonin · 2024-11-04T22:13:24+00:00

Have nice biceps/forearms and roll up your sleeves.

Sander_Supporter · 2024-11-04T22:42:23+00:00

Win the lottery

ExcelSpreadCheekz · 2024-11-04T23:11:13+00:00

Greatly depends on the man

missmireya · 2024-11-05T00:00:29+00:00

Be confident and masculine. Wash yourself thoroughly, brush your teeth, floss, clean the gunk from under your fingernails. Keep your hair as well as facial hair well groomed.

You should also go outside if you don't already. I know that I'm not attracted to men who do nothing but game, watch porn, and stare at their phone/laptop screen all day. Instant nope.

OwnedIGN · 2024-11-05T02:23:54+00:00

Better win the lottery, dude.

Reasonable-Cookie783 · 2024-11-05T06:19:34+00:00

Women are not some kind of give mind it's going to be be a little different for every woman. Stop trying to curate your behavior to attract women it won't work.

bread93096 · 2024-11-05T06:30:22+00:00

Emote more. A lot of men tend to have dry, reserved, unemotional personalities. Women generally don’t value stoicism the way men do, and most men can’t pull off the ‘strong silent type’ thing in an attractive way. Basically, overreact to everything all the time, and pretend that everything is a much bigger deal than it is.

fman916 · 2024-11-05T09:11:46+00:00

Haunting-Scene2581 · 2024-11-05T11:06:33+00:00

Being passionate about something and being able to articulate why it matters in captivating way. Having meaningful ideas and aspirations and demonstrating these with action

HotOutcome9161 · 2024-11-05T13:28:54+00:00

He rolls up his sleeves

ThrowRALightSwitch · 2024-11-05T14:39:35+00:00

Having a wing-woman, similar effect to having an attractive girlfriend/wife

Ecstatic-Sock8482 · 2024-11-06T11:09:05+00:00

Dress well.

Get an actual haircut. Not from Supercuts.

Clean white teeth. Yes, white strips if you need to.

Deodorant.

LET HER TALK AND LISTEN TO HER. Have a conversation, don't talk AT her. Don't talk about you boring ass job.

Don't bring up sex.

So, look clean, look good, nice smile. Listening implies caring. Sex talk is creepy. Don't go there unless she does. If she likes you she will.

fashoclock · 2024-11-08T12:44:57+00:00

This is the gayest question I ever heard on Reddit

thedarkracer · 2024-11-04T19:00:55+00:00

Plastic surgery

A million dollars

A very attractive girl at your side (mate copying kicks in)

Suspicious_Glove7365 · 2024-11-04T17:19:36+00:00

Men have good grooming, cool shoes, and the right choice of clothing.

fluttertutt · 2024-11-04T18:56:23+00:00

Glasses and tweed!

StrugglingSoprano · 2024-11-04T21:20:53+00:00

Guys can wear makeup too. Male celebrities do all the time and it enhances their appearances. The trick is making it subtle enough so that you aren’t aware of the makeup.

Lightinthebottle7 · 2024-11-04T23:54:54+00:00

"Females of Reddit - What is the sexiest thing a plus size gamer gentleman has told you that has made you want to immediately have sex with him and be his girlfriend?"

DustAffectionate5525 · 2024-11-04T22:19:26+00:00

The types of men who ask questions like this are usually the types who smother women while in a relationship and lack self confidence.

So to answer your question, have confidence and show it, and live your life full of hobbies and things you love. Doing this will show that you have a life of your own and you won't be smothering women while you do it.

Title	What can a man do to become more sexy and provocative "instantly"?!
Author	Mundane_Potential454
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Date	November 4, 2024 1:32 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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