How do I avoid boyfriend vibes?

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Accomplished_Ad_3418 · 2021-10-26T13:56:51+00:00

Actually please show me your ways lmao

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Either-Drink5684 · 2021-10-26T11:25:24+00:00

i care about u after just reading ur post. i gaurentee its the way you look and the fact that u are aloof. start cuddling and talking about ‘what are we?’ and i gaurentee quite a few will back off lols. its true

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jakeperalta11 · 2021-10-26T16:15:57+00:00

Save some pussy for the rest of us

Neil1398 · 2021-10-26T16:08:59+00:00

Most women will develop feelings especially for someone they can’t have.

To be nsa, a lotta that shit has to be conveyed early. But still even if a girl knows you’re a fuckboy/player, she’ll be attracted to the chase (especially if she’s young).

If they start developing feelings and that’s not what you want then you should leave because what’s gonna happen is that you’re gonna get attached. You may not even like them like that but they’ll slowly reel you in.

After that they’ll start demanding more if you’re time and wanna get you’re commitment. But you’re too attached to let them go so it becomes an emotional battle(to game or not to game).

The stuff you’re doing is not a strategy for the women not develop feelings and getting attached it’s to prevent you from catching feelings and getting attached

Asiangyal · 2021-10-26T12:59:29+00:00

Tell them you have Covid bro

iggly1999 · 2021-10-26T11:29:16+00:00

I’m assuming you’re young because your actions attract needy girls even more. Go for women or up your standards.

TheStrouseShow · 2021-10-26T17:24:05+00:00

The following is not great advice, but I’ll give it out anyway:

Don’t change anything, dude. Not a lot of people have that kind of magnetic personality and it’s unlikely you can just turn it off. Try to appreciate that you’ll attract a lot of women but maybe that will bring you to the one you might want to settle down with at some point. If not, you at least have comfort in the fact you were being honest the entire time and they’ll come to appreciate this.

Source: I’m a formerly clingy/needy woman that is fiercely independent and knows what I want all the time now.

JazzleRazzle · 2021-10-26T16:25:38+00:00

Oh the woes of a fuckboi lol.

dobbs1997 · 2021-10-26T12:34:00+00:00

you’re doing the right thing to avoid the boyfriend vibes, i think some women are just gonna inevitably catch feelings cause they just love the way you come across and carry yourself, you’re not always sweating them and along with some other characteristics that’s gonna make some girls like you, they don’t always experience guys like that..just let them know straight up that you’re just trying to be casual and you’re not looking for anything serious, but make sure the actions go along with that so keep doing what you do.

AelfredRex · 2021-10-26T12:06:20+00:00

You can't, cause that's what women want. For them, every one night stand holds the possibility of a long term relationship, since every instance of sexual intercourse carries the possibility of pregnancy. It's just biology.

MuertaDeLS · 2021-10-26T15:26:15+00:00

Lol you're doing all the right things already.

Switch up. Start creeping on them all. Watch how fast they switch.

rickmackdaddy · 2021-10-26T14:59:29+00:00

Dude. Don’t change. You got it on lock.

Psynaut · 2021-10-26T16:08:22+00:00

Lol, be uglier.

unbelievablilityx · 2021-10-26T15:11:14+00:00

Being upfront doesn’t help soemtimes when shes already caught feelings. If she wants to be with you and you dont feel the same way then its best to cut it off. Its selfish to let her feelings grow when you know you’re only in it for the hole.

feuer_kugel13 · 2021-10-26T14:40:32+00:00

They obviously think they need to “fix” you

UnparliamentaryTea · 2021-10-26T16:05:40+00:00

I think you’re seeing being a “boyfriend” as the antithesis of a fun, sexual guy that women want to be with. I used to be the same way, women would tell me I was a “long term guy” and I saw it as them essentially telling me I was like that “nice guy” in the movies who wears the woman down to date him, not an inherently fun or attractive person. As time has gone on, I realized that being a longer term option meant that most women really liked me, they wanted to really date me, and I was not a “drunken mistake,” they wanted to be seen in public with me. They didn’t want one night with me, they wanted one thousand.

I was also a lot like you. Mostly unbothered by women and not putting in a ton of effort to be their boyfriend. Ironically, that’s a huge part of why they like you so much. You don’t need them, you have other options, you’re not banging down their door to date them. An honest answer for how not to give off boyfriend vibes would probably be “be a simp,” which I don’t think is something you want. I know it can be hard when women are trying so hard to get to know you, spend tons of time with you, etc. but the best way to not give off boyfriend vibes in your situation may be to continue to set and maintain your boundaries

RideProof · 2021-10-26T18:04:42+00:00

Probs because your just naturally attractive

ProdiLemaj · 2021-10-26T18:29:47+00:00

Honestly, all the things you listed are the reason they’re catching feelings. It sounds backwards but when women know you’re not always available, and that you have other options, it makes them more attracted to you. Also, if you’re really putting it down on them in the bedroom, that’s gonna do it too. Honestly this isn’t the worst problem to have bro, it’s much better than the reverse.

skinisblackmetallic · 2021-10-26T15:38:07+00:00

If one of them is getting too serious, stop talking about other girls, talk to her on the phone for a long time and cuddle a lot. She’ll be gone within 24 hours.

WretchdFlesh_Redeemd · 2021-10-26T17:17:42+00:00

The fact that you’re communicating that you are detached will make them want you more because now it’s a game for them of trying to win your approval.

drewcer · 2021-10-26T17:23:46+00:00

Set the precedent up front. Some dudes say they just recently got out of something complicated and aren't ready for a super involved thing and need to date casually for a while, but if that's not the truth I prefer not making shit up and being real.

You can also just say you don't believe in monogamy. I mean frankly monogamy is kinda whack any way you look at it. Half of all married couples end up divorced. Of the remaining marriages, TONS of them end up having affairs (just ask any psychiatrist, like 90% of their older clients have affairs. Or look at what people are saying on r/adultery).

And of the people who remain married and don't cheat, they just lose the spark in their relationship, the sex dries up, and they end up hating each other, or are only together because they're codependent, and it would just be too much trouble to split up.

Shit, my parents are still together but they haven't slept in the same bed for 20ish years.

Of everyone who is older (50+) who I've met who said they found their REAL true soul mate, they found the person way later on in life. In their 40s or 50s.

Anyway I'm rambling now but I'm just gonna roll with it.

Girls are programmed to want to lock you down as a monogamous BF from an evolutionary standpoint. But the real reason behind that is because if you knocked her up in prehistoric times and abandoned her on the Savannah of Africa hyenas or vultures some shit would come and both she and the baby would be done for. That kind of fear is definitely hard-wired into the female brain from hundreds of thousands of years of evolution.

Frankly I do believe monogamy is what makes society stable on a mass scale and if everyone was polyamorous it wouldn't work. But... if it's not for you it's not for you. I'm not currently monogamous but I'm open to that changing if the right girl comes along. But I'm not settling.

So personally I don't *only* want girls for sex. I like to talk to them and go out to eat with them and do fun stuff with them too. I like to listen to their perspectives. If a girl gets heavy feelings for me I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I have feelings for the girls I date too. But if I can't be committed to just one girl, I have to draw that boundary and let her know ahead of time so she doesn't risk her feelings too much if she's expecting something that I can't deliver. I want to be cognizant of that.

Girls get feelings for me all the time, but the fallacy is that feelings = monogamy, which isn't necessarily true. The point is, I've dealt with this time and time again. You just have to draw the boundary that, yeah I have feelings for you too, I think you're awesome, and I want to keep spending time with you. But it's not in my nature to be in an exclusive relationship. I've tried them before and they don't work for me. Maybe I've got more stuff to figure out about myself. But as it stands right now, I can't be monogamous with anyone. If that's a deal breaker for you, I totally understand. I don't want to waste your time. But I would like to keep hanging out with you if you're down.

Some girls will respect that, they're actually glad when you clear the air and lay all your cards on the table like that. A lot of them just don't want to feel like you're using them for sex. I've drawn boundaries with girls and they started crying before even though I said when I first met them I wasn't monogamous so they already knew, lol. Some will get angry. But as a high-value man, you deal with it and draw your boundaries and stay true to yourself.

From my experience what ends up happening, is a lot of the ones who cry or get angry eventually accept that you're on your own journey trying to figure shit out for yourself. And if those terms aren't a deal-breaker for them, they'll eventually come around and be okay with it.

MO_drps_knwldg · 2021-10-26T16:53:45+00:00

You answered your own question. You’re non-needy and doing things that cause girls to chase

Otec_Fedor · 2021-10-26T17:20:28+00:00

Nice humble brag there

MatrixMaven · 2021-10-26T17:35:06+00:00

Telling them you’re seeing other girls isn’t strong enough. That sounds like a temporary situation and a challenge they can beat if they are “the one”, which they will convince themselves they are bc of their own ego. Men do this too.

You need to tell them at the beginning: I’m not looking for a committed relationship, just hookups/FWB.

PowerVerse_ · 2021-10-26T17:37:20+00:00

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BrodieDharma · 2021-10-26T19:03:48+00:00

https://youtu.be/dj86TBjnqQc

https://youtu.be/aXv-f8ff750

Here are two videos about this topic on my YouTube channel

Tr_black_soul · 2021-10-26T20:19:02+00:00

Is this the power of a god? Please teach me how to be like this lmao

IntrovertDatingCoach · 2021-10-27T00:13:45+00:00

Literally just do the opposite of everything you mentioned in this post, and watch the women dry up lol

DMmeboobsthanks · 2021-10-26T14:52:41+00:00

i struggled with this too. you honestly have to act like kind of an asshole. don’t smile at girls too often either

krispykreme01 · 2021-10-26T16:03:43+00:00

Nigga what. For most women to let you have sex they already see you as a potential boyfriend or more. Men and women are different also, we can have sex with no feeling attached but most women cannot do this. They think they can change you mostly.

Fuck the little eight ball where the keys at?

jestercake · 2021-10-26T15:27:34+00:00

You are doing the exact things you should be doing when you want a girl to get attached. Do the opposite of what you're doing now, and you'll be fine.

Sufficient-Cry-9163 · 2021-10-26T16:38:05+00:00

Its just female nature. If you have an ongoing sexual relationship with them they will develop feelings. To make sure they understand its just casual sex, bring up your sexual encounters/dates with other women often. I had a casual relationship with a man who would do this. I had a crush on him but understood he was not trying to date because he made it very obvious that he was really just into casual sex.

FiestyBuck · 2021-10-26T17:16:42+00:00

Treat them like sisters, with no exceptions.

TheBurningStag13 · 2021-10-27T00:36:08+00:00

This is how it works. You don’t want them, they want you. You want them, they’ll probably go after your best friend.

idrinkapplejuice42 · 2021-10-27T04:32:52+00:00

You probably have good social proof. Girls see that you have stuff going on with other girls and they get fomo.

Republic_of_Ash · 2021-10-26T14:46:09+00:00

Dude, if you want to attract the kind of girls that won't get feelings then good luck. All girls get feelings.

My only advice (if you aren't doing it already) is to make it clear what you're looking for and set boundaries. It will scare a few girls off, but the ones looking for hookups only might bite.

Inf3rn0_exile · 2021-10-26T16:21:19+00:00

Fortunately I am ugly so I don't have any such problem. Infact women run away from me. However for you I would suggest start gaining a reputation as a fckboy. This should keep some women away.. they'll still want you but they would practice restraint. Most of them would aspire to be the "girl who changed him" for you... and to those girls you say you like the fckboy life and intend on keeping it. If they insist, you may have to fool around with them and jump to the next one..only to fool around again and repeat. this is the f*ckboy way. Believe me you on the "the girl who changed him" kind of girls.. ive seen my women friends try to be that girl so many times and fail miserably but they never give up. And hey, you're on the good side of the social spectrum. You could have been like me. Count your blessings.

HyakuShichifukujin · 2021-10-26T16:53:26+00:00

Sounds like you’re doing most things right but you didn’t specify: how often do you see them?

Anything more than once a week beyond the first couple bangs to lock them in is going to trigger boyfriending mechanisms regardless of what else you say or do.

If you strictly want casual relationships I don’t recommend phone conversations either, stick to texting and even then try to keep it mostly to planning the next meet.

Odd_Novel5236 · 2021-10-26T17:21:54+00:00

Sorry for you! Are you straight to the point with them?? Not like "I see other girls" but "I wont comit. Not my style."

Also yeah girls want what they Can have. But after a few honests talks, I'm sûre you will have it better. Good luck

srynearson1 · 2021-10-26T17:52:53+00:00

Just put on weight or go bald, or both. Girls will jump in front of moving vehicles to avoid you.

Amkg2020 · 2021-10-26T18:20:10+00:00

Yeah girls prefer cats to dogs , just come back when you want or need something and meow

Particular_Visual531 · 2021-10-26T18:40:20+00:00

You can't have it both ways. most women ( not all) are different than men biologically. The thing that makes you want to spread yourself to all these girlsales them want to hold you close and provide them security. So get use to breaking hearts if you want to be a player.

MauPow · 2021-10-26T20:07:19+00:00

Have you tried being ugly and awkward

Comander1SUV · 2021-10-26T23:40:14+00:00

Bro is literally Sasuke Uchiha

LanaTownsend · 2021-10-27T01:20:37+00:00

You ARE giving off "boyfriend vibes" by being emotionally unavailable.

Amateur.

jrippy17 · 2021-10-27T02:29:37+00:00

So many people in these comments need Patrice O’Neal in their lives

NiceHighway_ · 2021-10-27T03:46:30+00:00

I’m a straight guy but i think i have feelings for you

Successful-Thanks-89 · 2021-10-27T06:43:58+00:00

Because we hope we can make a bad boy into a good guy and that they will choose us out of all the girls 🤷🏻‍♀️

aryabhataa · 2021-10-27T07:39:52+00:00

Idk man, you’re kinda giving boyfriend vibes right at this post. Maybe it’s the way you talk? Idk really

lesenpaikun · 2021-10-30T07:37:17+00:00

I applaud you moreisbetter94. Don't listen to the jealous haters in this thread. Keep doing your thing bro

SymbioticDan · 2021-10-30T07:54:21+00:00

You’re a laid back guy. girls really like that because they’re so used to guys being needy and always so eager to make things happen. How does the idea of meeting up with girls happen ? Are you suggesting to hang out or do they chase you from the beginning

2wheeledgod · 2021-10-26T13:35:43+00:00

You're a giver .. Be more sexually selfish. you won't lose any girls, but they will have a better understanding of their role.

Either-Drink5684 · 2021-10-26T11:25:35+00:00

btw call me

sweetsweetjess · 2021-10-26T15:12:59+00:00

You’re just a walking giant red flag

homelessfish22 · 2021-10-26T12:01:40+00:00

By being the biggest asshole in the world.

__j_e_e_l__ · 2021-10-26T17:47:40+00:00

please bro, you mentioned what you are not doing. but I'm more interested in what you are doing... that this is the case

Mc_Dickles · 2021-10-26T18:05:50+00:00

I totally feel you bro, a lot of girls don’t see it but they LOVE RUSHING things. I had this one girl ask me “what are we” after like 3 dates… we hung out over a total of 9 hours and she was already willing to be committed to me. The scary thing is how normalized that is for women, to just rush into relationships with people they barely know. It has to do with them being afraid of doing the “hoe phase” and sleeping around, and you checking off all the boxes you fulfill.

Some of the comments are saying you gotta put your foot down and be more assertive. It seems like you already have these girls wrapped around your finger so just try your best to be honest! Nothings worse than leading a girl on and breaking her heart.

And yes, try to meet girls who are better fitting for your lifestyle. Meet the girls with drinks in their hands at the parties, they are looking for fun instead of the girls at the library studying. That’s how you get fun flings and group sex.

Also the ultimate cheat code to 3somes is getting a girlfriend. Women will feel much more comfortable having sex with you when they have another woman who can vouch for you. It’ll be much harder making two girls who have a weak link to you come together to have a 3some. When 2 of them are secure, seducing the third is a piece of cake.

harpsichorde · 2021-10-26T15:16:13+00:00

Girls want what they can’t have… simple

tryingmybestatm · 2021-10-26T15:43:38+00:00

becoz they want a project/ a challenge. since ur prob aloof and don't want to settle down they want to change you and "fix you" and also they want what they can't have.

also these girls aren't high value women(hvm) becoz no hvw would want to pursue a relationship with a guy like you. you dont give intimacy/ mentally stimulate them/ dont validate them/ no interest in monogamy. these girls are prob needy, insecure or low self esteem that's why they think ur bf material.

willgo-waggins · 2021-10-26T16:03:48+00:00

No this stuff is not correct for what you described.

A whole town of single mom/done partying/ready to settle down?

That shit is exactly what they want. He’ll trap himself.

leone8354 · 2021-10-26T18:48:20+00:00

You should get off your high horse and stop thinking you are God's gift to women.

shady_gamer · 2021-10-26T17:46:47+00:00

Don't do the honey do chores... Change light bulbs, fix a toilet, check in from the grocery store in case she needs anything, etc. Also, don't do the things her father would do for her... Give advise (fine balance to stay engaged and interested though), minor car repairs, have routine dinners (every Sunday or Tuesday steak night).

Avoid these things, but be charming and a gentleman at all times.

Void_Being · 2022-05-28T20:44:36+00:00

Next time when this happens, ask her why she falls for you then stop doing it.

Edit: Also don't forgot to share what she said.

Lally_Pop · 2021-10-26T20:06:42+00:00

Stop caring. You care to much.

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willgo-waggins · 2021-10-26T15:40:21+00:00

What number level are you playing at? And be honest here because it’s important.

primallyours · 2021-10-26T17:12:50+00:00

You’ve got the kvorka, my friend.

Healthy-Shirt-6869 · 2021-10-26T18:29:08+00:00

fling your poo at them and screech at them

SheSoldTheWorld · 2021-10-26T18:40:29+00:00

Save some pussy for the rest... Or be my bf 😍

UrFavPlayerIsBack · 2021-10-26T19:11:55+00:00

Give nice guys vibes instead

thelittleshark12 · 2021-10-26T19:14:37+00:00

Just keep this boyfriend vibe 🥱

Eagleeddie · 2021-10-26T19:30:38+00:00

Don't see them more than once a month

InvestigatorEvery838 · 2021-10-26T19:38:16+00:00

High pitched whiney voice works from what I hear

Guru0204 · 2021-10-26T20:11:07+00:00

Do the exact opposite of what you said you were doing

SushiMuchWow · 2021-10-26T20:34:27+00:00

Just say, “I’m just trying to fuck, NSA.” But like that lol.

bbcSnowbunnyslayer · 2021-10-26T20:38:16+00:00

I don't know what your goal is with this girl. But your best bet is to invite another girl (better if shes ugly or not as good looking as the other) out in her presence. Whoever your target is, give her less attention and strike up some inside conversations with the other. If she sees you're into the not so good looking 1, your target will most likely use everything in her arsenal. I'm talking about her pussy

recursivePasta · 2021-10-26T20:44:31+00:00

Attraction is not a choice - Todd V

G35guy1994 · 2021-10-26T20:50:41+00:00

Tell them you don't want to date and that you only want something casual

KongDonkey_92 · 2021-10-26T20:59:32+00:00

Player vibes.

As a former Pookie & Ray Ray, sexual charisma and relaxed confidence are game-changers. Most women crave a man that's not in their face 24/7 and have a life of their own. That's why we're winning.

Girls can't help if you have a magnetic aura.

You're doing the right moves and saying the right things.

Maybe you're destined to be a lifelong bachelor. Myself I tried the relationship thing. While it was nice, deep down, polyamorous relationships sounds more of the type adventure I'm into.

Just don't end up being a simp. Stay pimpin

BellaMadison131 · 2021-10-26T21:03:29+00:00

Just act crazy…Most females don’t like crazy. Like randomly just start barking.

SagerG · 2021-10-26T21:27:49+00:00

You must have it so rough

KrimsonPepe · 2021-10-26T21:37:55+00:00

Is this a meta post? The answer is to do the opposite of what you are doing and they will run from. Just go point by point on all the things you listed and do the opposite. Also maybe make yourself shorter if possible.

sh1ftyswar · 2021-10-26T22:10:49+00:00

Because that's the rub friend, you are comfortable enough in your own skin it either resembles, or is confidence and that cool hand attitude is precisely what it takes to get a girl interested.

Start telling them you wonder what yalls kids will look like, right after hooking up.

bigbootynopussy · 2021-10-26T22:21:46+00:00

Make ur dick stinky. Girls no likey stink dick

JoMamma23 · 2021-10-26T22:32:54+00:00

Be a s imp. They’ll just take your time and attention, but won’t want a relationship

EpicJohnCenaFan · 2021-10-26T22:53:49+00:00

You're doing exactly what you should do if you want a girl in love with you.

It's not a bad thing, just if she starts to piss you off, dump her.

angelsfan-34 · 2021-10-26T23:15:31+00:00

LMAO must be nice

TKC_343 · 2021-10-27T00:28:00+00:00

If you get any hint that she might get that sort of feeling, start being sensitive and cry on petty issues. You will look a bit uncool and this combined with your other charming aura will give the balance you are looking for. I hope it works for you. Girls hate this.

notLOL · 2021-10-27T00:51:48+00:00

Maybe your presence is too damn comfortable

Neuvebroke · 2021-10-27T01:55:57+00:00

Easy. Do the opposite of everything you're doing. Tell girls that you want to see them again. Stay on the phone for hours. Cuddle girls. Get lovey dovey. Compliment them. That'll keep them away.

SenorPuff · 2021-10-27T02:02:11+00:00

Classic Shmoesby

bearsarescaryasfuk · 2021-10-27T02:03:15+00:00

Most girls are attracted to men, who mark to the beat of their own drum. Also bonus point cause woman can become introspective and insecure when they feel like a guy they like, is not as into them. Especially considering how much woman can have to deal with men who are more motivated and/or pushy.

fulgurdeus · 2021-10-27T02:31:02+00:00

Why are some many comments removed and deleted?? And also holy shit, how do u pull so much that u dont want a relationship, i m over here struggling to even have a girl look my way

recyclablebanthas · 2021-10-27T02:45:18+00:00

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I tell girls I'm seeing other girls...

I don't stay on the phone for hours.... I don't cuddle girls constantly.... I don't get all lovey dovey with girls... I don't constantly compliment....

All this sounded fine, until.....

It's say I am dating right now but I'm open to a relationship if I meet the right which they then say same

Dude. You realize you're sabotaging yourself, right?

This bit here is literally how you are unintentionally creating all this drama. You are communicating to all the girls that you're dating that you're wanting a relationship and they'll need to compete to get you.

You're unintentionally screening for:

Girls who are going to say and do things to try to out-compete the other girls. They'll try to present themselves as "wild" and "fun-loving" but it's in service of competition, not actually being wild or fun-loving.
Girls who are desperate and low self-esteem enough to date someone who's doesn't want a relationship, even though that's what they want.
Girls who are manipulative, dysfunctional and don't know how to express what they want in a healthy manner; indirect people.

You can't have it both ways. If you want casual, it doesn't work to say you're "open to a relationship." People will hear what they want to hear unless you're absolutely clear.

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If you're wanting casual, then ironically enough, you need to commit to that instead of being wishy washy. Unless you like girls breaking down on the phone with you and getting manipulative?

Also, it's playing with fire because unstable girls competing for a guy can end up doing some messed up shit.

The remedy here is that you have clearly communicate with the girls you're dating that a relationship is not in the cards. You need to have the Talk with them soon after sex happens or sooner if they show emotional attachment before sex happens. James Marshall goes over how to do this. Good summary and explanation. Take a few minutes and watch it.

It's possible to have casual encounters with a regular rotation that doesn't involve all this drama. But not if you're unintentionally promising the possibility of a relationship, perhaps because you don't want to completely toss out the possibility. You have to pick a side of the road.

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And you might reevaluate whether you actually are after a relationship. If that's the case, then you should change what you're doing because if your current habits get too ingrained, you could easily up with a manipulative and dysfunctional person.

timewavetheory · 2021-10-27T02:57:29+00:00

Talk about sex and that you're a cheater. Usually short circuits that train of thought.

Funtimes773 · 2021-10-27T03:52:28+00:00

Wait 10 or 15 years and then when it all dies and you're the creep you can come back to this thread.

Spoiler Alert: It will happen.

Background_Ad_8261 · 2021-10-27T05:05:28+00:00

Theres a mixture of things at play here. The type of women youre going for definitely is a factor. Mature women will take your word for what it is, whereas immature women will take it as a test to try and lock you down. The fact is that because you act so cold and are seeing other women, you become the unattainable prize that they want to obtain.

Honestly i dont think theres much you can do about this situation. Acting more needy and confessing your feelings will usually do the trick. With these types of women once you confess your feelings, they get turned off really quickly and the chase is over. But you dont wanna do that because youll be losing all the women youve gotten

The only thing i can think of is being more selective with the women that you get involved with but even then there’s no guarantee that someone more mature wont fall for you either

Roznw18 · 2021-10-27T05:40:57+00:00

Be honest and straight up from day 1. Tell them you're looking to be fuck buddies and nothing else. No bs

Polarlicht666 · 2021-10-27T05:42:06+00:00

Blow up their phone, get mad when they don’t respond. You’re welcome

PG652121 · 2021-10-27T06:05:16+00:00

Girls are supposed to be emotional. They’re emotional beings, that because of all the estrogen in their body

Sufficient-Cat2089 · 2021-10-27T06:45:56+00:00

It’s exactly because ur doing that. They are interested. N will pursue usqually will pursue u. The one with the power cuz there alwys one person chasing the other even in a relationship. The power is to the person who cares less cuz they have control for the simple ability they genuinely don’t care. But generally as human beings we want what we can’t have. Don’t get me wrong that alone won’t carry u in this regard but it’s a extremely huge contributing factor to why they do. In my personal experience.

tedmobsky · 2021-10-27T09:40:28+00:00

Be like me

drunkcherries · 2021-10-27T10:00:47+00:00

You need to be very clear from the beginning and say you’re not interested in being a boyfriend/dating. They may not be aware of this and you talking to them and making plans with them may give them false hope.

vemoparker · 2021-10-27T11:14:24+00:00

"Teach me."

angk7466 · 2021-10-27T11:31:18+00:00

Hopefully this helps you guys understand why girls develop feelings for a guy who is there…but not really. Everything you described is making you seem “hard to get”. Many a female has played this game and it backfires because men don’t care about this kind of stuff. But…to a woman, she sees it as either a challenge to rope you in, or as something that she is lacking. The more aloof you are, the more attractive you become in a sense because of the challenge/insecurity on her part. Not all women are this way, many will call you out on this bullshit, unfortunately there are many (especially young) women who will fall for this every time. I realize it isn’t ultimately your responsibility to nurture their feelings and it sounds like you are upfront with them; but do be mindful that this is someone’s feelings and what consequence they may be bringing on themselves by thinking they have a chance at something more.

AminoDistrict · 2021-10-27T12:18:27+00:00

You are just the regular dude. Don't blame yourself. The relationship is not your responsibility.

lohvei0r · 2021-10-27T14:24:10+00:00

They really like you without you doing anything. How do you avoid being yourself?

In fact, every you don’t do is attracts women. If you were to give them you whole attention then they would ran away.

stiramisu · 2021-10-27T15:16:51+00:00

Ok but as a woman, how do I have this effect on men???? Someone help

thesuccessfuladrian · 2021-10-27T16:57:36+00:00

Just be clingy and simp with them, they hate that shit

sbseltzer · 2021-10-27T22:08:49+00:00

Speaking from experience, it's probably not that you have boyfriend vibes. It's that you didn't set clear enough boundaries and expectations upfront, and from a scientific perspective have been physically intimate enough times (doesn't always take very much) for feelings to develop from physiological attachment, which is a hard-wired biological mechanism for humans (yes, even for you).

It's likely all about what you're choosing *not* to say. If there isn't clarity, it gives people false hopes so they can't do the necessary mind over matter stuff to compartmentalize those emotions, and even then it's probably more healthy to acknowledge those feelings like an adult and break up with them if it's going to be a problem, as opposed to ignoring/suppressing it and perhaps even realizing you developed unresolved feelings years later. When people willfully avoid that conversation, I can only assume they secretly like being vague to string people along and complain about it for attention.

obasmeme · 2021-10-27T23:06:49+00:00

Man came here to brag pfft

Outrageous_Fill3231 · 2021-10-31T11:03:30+00:00

Bro this is literally what I want, please tell me what you’re doing 😂

Title	How do I avoid boyfriend vibes?
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Date	October 26, 2021 11:14 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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