Unprotected sex

rofnacla · 2021-10-05T23:37:07+00:00

Think about it this way: if she asked you to do that, she asks every guy to do the same

ricoconyo · 2021-10-05T22:52:02+00:00

You handled it appropriately. Contrary to popular belief, men can revoke consent to sex as well.

Edit: Id like to add that if the situation was reversed and the man removed the condom without the consent of the woman, it would be considered rape so yeah

Edit 2: I was just trying to point out a double standard. I wasn’t insinuating that she raped him.

fudgeredpill · 2021-10-05T22:29:17+00:00

Haven't been asked, but I had someone remove it without saying anything. I was livid, but kept it composed. Had a stern talk with her afterwards. If she at least is consensual, it's okay to say no.

ZumasRevenge · 2021-10-05T22:36:28+00:00

If you feel uncomfortable about having unprotected sex, let her know. Raw sex is dangerous and it all depends on knowing your partner we’ll enough to do so.

blessedwiththecurse · 2021-10-05T22:44:36+00:00

I would have ripped my dick off and thrown it out the window as a distraction for her to chase after then I would have made an exit, stage left.

that_old_white_guy · 2021-10-05T22:30:14+00:00

My sister says that all the time. Don’t believe her for a minute.

xoxosnowskin · 2021-10-05T23:26:51+00:00

Just here to say I applaud you for not getting In the Heat of the Moment and potentially creating a situation out of lust.

VulturekingZ · 2021-10-06T03:22:57+00:00

I was raped by my ex girlfriend like this. She removed my condom as I was about to bust and sat on me forcefully. Thankfully I didn't get her pregnant because she was 110% a psycho cheating bitch.

Marcothy_ · 2021-10-05T22:55:10+00:00

A bit ashamed to say I’ve been in this situation and willingly went through it, nothing negative happened but it was a dumb decision. If you want to keep seeing her talk about your boundaries, and if not cut things off

neal189011 · 2021-10-05T22:24:54+00:00

Honestly good question, I’m curious how other guys have handled it as well. I’ve always just kind of ignored them and continued having sex. I’m not into taking chances

Figgytron · 2021-10-05T23:27:54+00:00

Good on you. This one time I just trusted this girl because she said she had an IUD and on the first time she wanted it raw and to finish inside. I stupidly went with it. Luckily it was okay. We talked on and off and she ended up doing the same for the guy she dated after me and got pregnant. She miscarried, but it’s just crazy how unsafe you realize it is after the fact. Continue to take care of yourself

PLiwantallthemoney · 2021-10-05T22:43:13+00:00

I took alot of chances in my younger days. Wild times, very careless. But since it all worked out now many years later, I remember those times fondly

jorstar · 2021-10-06T02:44:50+00:00

Us guys typically get a bad rap for pressing unprotected sex. But in my experience I’ve never ever felt compelled to have casual, unprotected sex. It’s crazy how many women have asked me to “just put it in” raw while in the heat of the moment. Some women would even get upset about it. It would always make me think of how many other random hook-up guys they probably said the exact same thing to. I never made a big deal about it. I’d usually just say I’d be more comfortable using a condom. Or I’d make a joke that I’ve got super potent sperm that even birth control pills and IUDs might not be able to stop.

Ginny_Bean · 2021-10-06T00:05:35+00:00

Tell her condoms are non-negotiable. Nothing more than that needs to be said.

TheWhiteWalkerSpeaks · 2021-10-05T22:42:41+00:00

I was once asked to just put the tip of my dick inside her. I just said no. She never asked after

rivetcitymayor · 2021-10-06T00:02:07+00:00

Boy I woulda jumped out that pussy so quick if did that

kraghis · 2021-10-06T00:19:28+00:00

I was getting busy with a girl I know pretty well one time.

She gets around a bit, which is fine, but I wasn't comfortable haven't sex without a condom This is something we had discussed.

After a little bit of foreplay she told me to lay down on the bed We were already naked at this point. She then spread her legs out on top of me and we started making out. I reminded her that if we were going to take it any further I wanted to use a condom. She chuckled and said fine; she just wanted to feel me rubbing up against her.

Seconds after she said that she pushed herself down on my dick and started bouncing.

It pisses me off to this day that at that point I didn't put my foot down and get her off of me. I figured I was already in so why not just enjoy it.

KingoftheNorth412 · 2021-10-05T22:43:09+00:00

A wise man once said “Hit that shit raw dog and then bail.”

Sickofitblonde · 2021-10-06T00:33:55+00:00

Yeah no. I'd stop seeing her or anyone that wants you to have sex without protection. Especially if you're not in a realtionship, without proof of a clean bill of health. People can literally carry STDs for years without any outward symptoms and spread that shit without know.

I mean STDs are making a major comeback right now because of morons going raw without even getting tested first or even knowing if they're clean themselves. So keep being smart and keeping yourself safe. Also remember STDs can be spread though anal, oral and vaginal sex. Some even through kissing if you have sores or something like that in or on your mouth.

YoMamaz_azz · 2021-10-05T23:29:18+00:00

Tbh I woulda creampied. Lol

recyclablebanthas · 2021-10-06T01:39:38+00:00

1

Im the sort of guy that if I am not regularly sleeping with the girl or don’t know a lot about her lifestyle, I will definitely not have raw sex.

This is perfectly valid and there's nothing wrong with sticking to your guns. At all.

2

When she was trying to get it off I stopped her forcefully because ain’t no one tryna catch an std or have a kid right now. How would you guys handle this situation ?

It sounds like you handled it just fine actually. She was coming on really strong and you apparently needed to respond strongly in order to stop her.

3

Also, what she did kind of constituted sexual assault. We're talking about her pushing (unprotected) contact that you didn't want.

She was also really selfish and inconsiderate about how she pursued this, attempting to steamroller over what you wanted without any concern.

Not saying charges need to be filed. The point is that as men, we usually don't have to deal with this kind of thing. So when things like this happen, it can really highlight how important it is to be in touch with what the other person wants during these kinds of interactions.

Mandrake_m2 · 2021-10-06T00:38:04+00:00

Oh boy, now that's a red flag if I've ever seen one. That's not okay at all, she can ask you if you feel comfortable to do something but crossing your boundaries like this is not okay at all. I would say no, and if she doesn't listen I would leave.

Excuse_my_GRAMMER · 2021-10-06T01:04:25+00:00

Your a strong man.. I had this happened to me a twice on tinder dates and once a girl ask me if I don’t mind going raw but I rejected that and fuck with condom

the panicking afterwards and the std panel cost lol are not fun even if raw sex is way better

splendidEdge · 2021-10-06T07:44:33+00:00

haha she wanted to get pregnant 🤰 be careful and if you use a condom be careful too. she might sneak into the bathroom and steal your sperm out of it. such crazy women do exist.

Calamity__Bane · 2021-10-05T23:55:48+00:00

The responsible thing to do is refuse to go further without a condom, but I'm not going to lie, sometimes in the heat of the moment I've just gone with it. Not something I recommend by any means, but it happens.

mithrinwow · 2021-10-06T00:04:05+00:00

Do you want to get chlamydia? Because this is how you get chlamydia.

e: How would you handle that situation? You put a condom on your dick or stop.

HughBeaumont500 · 2021-10-06T02:39:28+00:00

What?

Dude...my bud caught some nasty wart down in his business area and he had a condom on. Hooked up with some rando from a pizza place he used to hangout at.
Even with a condom it's risky now a days.

And what if she got preggers?
Naw son, you need to nope the F out of this scene.

daysinnroom203 · 2021-10-05T23:38:24+00:00

I feel like this is assault. She could potentially be putting your health and livelihood at risk. I would stay far, far away from this person.

LakersAreTerrible25 · 2021-10-06T04:13:53+00:00

Raw sex is a thousand times better, but not worth the inherent risks. Not just pregnancy, but stds that will stay with you forever. Plus you never truly know how many other dudes any given chick has been with, no matter how innocent they may seem. The only girls I fuck with are at a good uni and I still wouldn't trust any of them going raw. You just can't nowadays man

Narcan9 · 2021-10-05T22:43:29+00:00

You do you. If you want a condom then keep it on.

Don't make a big deal of it. Brush it off and keep going.

Ohhhwordddd · 2021-10-06T00:21:17+00:00

Handled it well. She too damn horny for her own good, or yours to be exact

gangweedsavedme · 2021-10-06T03:55:08+00:00

No means no

steveblahhh · 2021-10-06T12:43:08+00:00

Don't. Raw sex is pretty common nowadays, from that random at the bar to educated professionals you meet online. There are condoms that provide a natural feel for both partners.

One woman told me about her post-divorced summer romp in Europe shortly after we started fucking.

swfl_inhabitant · 2021-10-06T02:26:36+00:00

100% she was trying to get pregnant

_newusername_ · 2021-10-06T04:23:41+00:00

Put a sock over your condom, that way if she tries to take off your condom all she will get is a sock.

RedCafe69 · 2021-10-06T07:48:37+00:00

You did well

cafebandito · 2021-10-06T12:40:39+00:00

Run. Run far away from this woman.

yareelcom · 2021-10-06T13:12:11+00:00

Tell her the truth that you care about your health. Tell her that it is important for you that your partner is also healthy (tests). There is nothing wrong with that. Also find out if she's using birth control. A simple conversation will solve everything.

dakingofmeme · 2021-10-06T13:28:13+00:00

Get in my car and leave

AlfredKinsey · 2021-10-06T15:26:11+00:00

Sounds you handled it right. Next step might be to reiterate your boundary outside of a sexual situation, get clear confirmation for her, then give ZERO second chances. Already a red flag, but if she tried to pull it again, now that it’s clearly no consensual, I would kick her out, send her home, and tell her to lose my number.

Gimble340 · 2021-10-06T15:40:12+00:00

Just like you did ,you definitely dodged a bullet ...

bewaregravity · 2021-10-06T18:46:17+00:00

Never hit it raw my guy unless you really know her. Too many people have been caught up raw dogging it. Girl gets pregnant. Who's the Father ?

One time this girl I was hooking up with told me she was hooking up with 3 other dudes. She might be pregnant. Never hooked up with her again.

ComedianSquare2839 · 2021-10-06T19:12:09+00:00

You did great job.

nuclearmeltdown2015 · 2021-10-06T23:12:41+00:00

Most stds can be cured. Yolo.

burncushlikewood · 2021-10-06T02:28:02+00:00

Dude always where a condom, never ever, if you get HIV which is extremely unlikely you will die young, herpes is for life. One time I was hooking up with a girl, I almost fell in love, it was intense, and she wanted sex but I did not have a condom, my friend banged her that night, raw, and he got Chlamydia so yea man always where a condom, unless you're dating her and she's been tested and is on the pill. STDs are no joke man for real

parmesan_sean · 2021-10-05T23:34:02+00:00

Get a vasectomy and take em to pound town

RompeChocha · 2021-10-06T00:24:09+00:00

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hoeslikeacash · 2021-10-05T23:27:33+00:00

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Limitlesspappy · 2021-10-06T02:26:47+00:00

Go in raw son

rustoof · 2021-10-06T00:59:18+00:00

Id have finished raw.

justadudechllin · 2021-10-06T00:43:21+00:00

Man I love raw sex it’s literally the best. But it’s up to you whether you want it at that time or not.

gucciwillis · 2021-10-06T10:56:15+00:00

I'm young (18) and have never really had sex with a condom on. Every time I put one on I g soft and its uncomfortable so I just go raw but as I meet more women I'm worried I cant keep doing this. Does anyone have any advice?

eyesopen1111 · 2021-10-06T18:28:17+00:00

Christ Almighty, can’t anyone on this subreddit just have a successful sexual encounter and come back with useful advice? This really is the anti-seduction forum.

If I think a girl has or may have an STI, I’m not going to fuck her just because I have a condom on. That’s nonsense. So I do my STI GO/NO-GO check before the sex happens, and I suggest you do, too. These last minute situations like OP describes are still signs of poor planning to me. No unvetted pussy should be that close.

If you don’t want to impregnate a girl, just pull out and cum literally anywhere but inside of her pussy. I like her face or tits or wherever. Chances of unintended pregnancy are super low using this precaution. I’m in my 40's, from a sex positive hook-up part of a sexually permissive country (USA), and we use this method all time and I have no kids. It works.

rudebwoy100 · 2021-10-06T02:11:15+00:00

Report her to the police as she was trying to rape you. You didn't consent to her stealthing you. If the shoe was on the other foot you would be reported for sexual assault.

Keanuisawesome69 · 2021-10-06T00:13:16+00:00

Are you g@y which sane guy would refuse raw sex ,🤨🤔? Also with STDs thru are rare and also if she's on birth control there isn't any issues

TheSunshineMan · 2021-10-05T23:58:26+00:00

Whoah.. so you don't have a vasectomy and you said you don't want kids right now and you're having unprotected sex?

That's just stupid.. you know how many girls I've saw, dated or girls I knew that lie about being on the pill/shot or whatever?

This is so incredibly common for girls to not be on anything, lie to their guy, girl gets pregnant and it's GAME OVER.

What are you thinking?

Are you trying to get a girl pregnant right now?

Because this is exactly how it happens.. ALL THE TIME

How would we handle the situation if no vasectomy .. same way.

EDIT - keep the downvotes coming for speaking the truth.. you young guys are in the dark.

bagofnutella · 2021-10-06T16:15:12+00:00

Learn coitus interruptus

PartyDude-Turtle · 2021-10-06T01:04:33+00:00

Same way my dude

Joker_RH · 2021-10-06T01:39:13+00:00

Yeah don't get trapped. Make sure it's planned such as birth control etc or y'all ready for it

2021-10-06T01:55:07+00:00

You did the right thing.. I am also the same. If it is a girl that I frequently have sex with, then I typically go raw. But if it’s just a hook up, then fuck no.

It isn’t worth losing future pussy for some pussy in the present that you may not savor for more than two minutes or more.

Edibl3Dreams · 2021-10-06T01:58:21+00:00

You did the right thing in sticking to what you're comfortable doing. She probably assumed it was ok because a lot of dudes like it raw, and maybe she's clean with solid birth control, but the consequences are too big to not discuss it before the heat of the moment. If she is ghosting as a result, she doesn't respect you and good riddance to her.

SgtSplacker · 2021-10-06T02:03:01+00:00

Kinda tough call. I mean if she does that with you, she'll do that with anyone right? But the heat of the moment is so awesome.

2021-10-06T02:20:11+00:00

Bro that’s rape !!!

ceswk · 2021-10-06T02:32:10+00:00

I swear, every girl I fuck doesn't even care about a condom . When I bring it out, they are totally okay with it. Some of them ask me afterwards if I always use it.

Man its strange, many people fuck without any protection. Sometimes I feel bad and jealous and wonder if catching an STD is that bad .

EarthquakeBass · 2021-10-06T02:36:58+00:00

In addition to the many commenters who rightly pointed out that unprotected sex with a stranger is a bad idea…

… if one were to want to engage in that sort of behavior, one should AT LEAST have an adult conversation about when the last time both of you were tested was, if they are on birth control, and what happens if you end up pregnant. Jumping right in like this girl did was a MASSIVE red flag.

A girl tried to hop on me once without even mentioning it, I stopped it to wrap up and I’m 90% sure she gave me gonorrhea just from oral anyway.

Far_Baby2323 · 2021-10-06T02:58:04+00:00

And guys always want to do unprotected sex with me. Where are you OP?

SuaveFuck · 2021-10-06T02:59:15+00:00

this might could WELL have ended up in catastrophe for op. be it that she was perhaps mentally ill, would have pressed charges against him after for "rape", be it that she intentionally would've wanted to give him AIDS or get preggo, i know, all extreme scenarios. but still, yeah. good job, op, for sticking to the right thing.

would've simply ended it and left.

CicadaProfessional76 · 2021-10-06T03:11:23+00:00

Nice job OP!

heypaper · 2021-10-06T03:17:45+00:00

She wants to make your baby. And stick you with the tab.

Sorry for being cynical but some people are on the make.

RegretsNothing1 · 2021-10-06T03:32:02+00:00

And to think you actually might have saved your own life of pain with that decision.

the-original-chad · 2021-10-06T03:33:34+00:00

Depends on how slutty she is. Did you even get a chance to look at her pussy? I’ve had girls tell me to take it off and I honored them but def not on one night stands. Minimum of 5 fucks I’ll pull off. It’s 100% not smart tho. I was drunk each time.

wikipuff · 2021-10-06T04:17:30+00:00

I mean, if you were both getting tested regularly, then I would feel ok with it. But not without getting tested!

NostalgicKunt · 2021-10-06T04:19:58+00:00

Same way you did bro

200451 · 2021-10-06T04:44:06+00:00

How did she react?

Mog_Melm · 2021-10-06T05:21:21+00:00

If I had any sense, I'd handle it just like you did. Really, no corrections there. I don't always have good sense, though, and if I weren't using my brain, I'd spray and pray. It's 10 different kinds of risky, but God, what a feeling.

fist28349 · 2021-10-06T05:39:47+00:00

idk about you reading this but im not gonna have a child with someonei barely know

StarSmink · 2021-10-06T05:58:02+00:00

You did the right thing. You have the right to bodily autonomy, as everyone does. It’s a turn on when a hot girl talks like that ofc but props for not giving in to the heat of the moment.

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2021-10-06T06:04:57+00:00

Sounds like you handled it right.

Aliebaba99 · 2021-10-06T06:22:55+00:00

One girl I was seeing and was having sex with for the second time asked if we could do it without a condom. I really liked her and thought the feeling was mutual, so I asked if she was on the pill or something else. She wasn't. So I declined. Not much later she ghosted me, so I guess the feeling wasnt as mutual, meaning she prob fucks many people without a condom, so I dodged a fucking bullet there.

irgs · 2021-10-06T06:28:14+00:00

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TheRiverOfDyx · 2021-10-06T06:30:50+00:00

Uh she tried to rape you bro

Snoo87499 · 2021-10-06T07:26:33+00:00

I would rip it off, slap her on the head with my piece and bolt for the door

Alex_O7 · 2021-10-06T09:06:20+00:00

Cograts bro you do the right thing!

If you don't want to do something you should never do that! No matter what, if the girl gets pissed of by you she doesn't deserve you in the first place.

I can personally say I wasn't so ready to turn down the proposal when happened to me to have no condoms with me once and after talking to the girl and she assure me she was safe and relatively recently checked and on birth control she even let me saw the blister with the pills... I regret not been more strong to say no even if afterall it was safe and the girl end up been a regular for me.

Dindu92 · 2021-10-06T09:10:30+00:00

you dodged a bullet there, mad respect!

eren875 · 2021-10-06T10:01:59+00:00

I would’ve pushed her off the bed lol

2021-10-06T10:07:07+00:00

Same way you did. First tell her to stop if she doesn’t listen force her to stop.

Im a big guy (not fat) and would not let her pull it off

BigBustyAnimeTitties · 2021-10-06T10:10:06+00:00

Un protected sex needs some prep before it is kinda safe, don't do it inless you know what you are doing.

angel-cowboy · 2021-10-06T10:15:08+00:00

Damn, its almost surprising to see so many comments from men who practice safe sex. Im a 32 F and because of low self worth through my 20’s I had alot of bad experiences with dating men who would avoid wearing a condom and made me feel bad for asking them to. Couple years ago I had a casual encounter with a man who claimed to have had a vasectomy when I called him out for ignoring me when i asked for him to wear a condom before putting it in. He totally downplayed it when I was trying to tell him I felt disrespected by his actions. This post and comments really puts it into perspective that I should demand respect, and take no BS.

MisterShogunate · 2021-10-06T10:52:29+00:00

First few pumps yes since precum hasn't made it's way through your urethra. After a few minutes and the closer you get that's when it gets dangerous since precum will start oozing out.

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2021-10-06T11:26:33+00:00

good ole "Tag"..OP was it.

poly_nerdy_panda · 2021-10-06T13:17:41+00:00

this dude has slept with something like 1 k women and talks about STD he is also 6'5 and lives in another country so game must be easy for him .... https://youtu.be/YWtZ58QH2t8

Anton_Dmitriev · 2021-10-06T13:27:21+00:00

Lol life is too short and she probably feels great.

cytomome · 2021-10-06T16:26:15+00:00

Don't ever trust anyone bringing up new information in the heart if the moment. "Oh I'm on birth control, I just didn't tell you until right this second!" Run awaaaaaay...

rben2292 · 2021-10-06T16:39:09+00:00

We’re you able to finish or did that completely kill the mood?

MrHouseGang · 2021-10-06T16:39:16+00:00

I had 15 bodies at the age of 20 and my bullshit excuse for going raw was that I analyze the person and make an assumption based off if I think they would have an std from the lifestyle I see. I am in the all clear at the moment and I am also in a loving relationship in which I gave her a ring so I’m just lucky I guess. Used to be a sex addict and loved going raw so I’m really blessed nothing went wrong

J0llyR0g3r00 · 2021-10-06T16:43:28+00:00

As an avid traveler I can tell you this varies across many countries. The best policy is to be direct and honest. Sexy time is fun, but it's the most fun when both people are comfortable with everything taking place.

I can tell you from personal and anecdotal experience... Don't ever trust any given woman to take her birth control correctly (last time I checked ~35% of women self reported that they have not taken it correctly). In my personal experience, 40% of women in developed countries do not rely on any particular form of contraceptive. In undeveloped countries, for me, the number is around 80%.

Always bring your own raincoat to the party and do not trust someone else providing one for you unless you have a base level of trust with them.

I have countless stories of women that I have met that outright admit to not using protective measures at all throughout their entire life. I have similar stories with men that I have met but significantly less overall.

Likewise, STDs and the anxiety of the unknown are not worth it.

AnonymousXX3-2 · 2021-10-06T17:09:54+00:00

Hippity hoppity, child insurance makes your money my property

ZidaneLoire · 2021-10-06T17:26:20+00:00

If it was my house, kick her out immediately. If it was her house, leave.

That's a clear violation of boundaries.

My last fwb wouldn't shut up about the damn condom and how she was on the pill and wanted to feel the cum.

Fuck. That. The amount of nasty stuff you can't see. Every day someone gets herpes, aids, gonorrhea, you name it, for exactly that situation you just went through. Every once in a while someone dies of something very easily preventable. I mean it's up to you, but as you see in these comments, a lot of these idiots would raw dog her and think they'd get away from an sti. Probably people who have never been tested or who were last tested 3 years ago and are spreading those stis around.

dixxiepixy · 2021-10-06T19:01:39+00:00

This is a sexual agression.

VividSoundz · 2021-10-06T21:59:51+00:00

I’m trying to have a kid right now

ZookeepergameClear18 · 2021-10-07T03:41:22+00:00

Also embarrassed to say but this situation happenned and still happens to me lot. I am just being hasty and get in a tunnel vision that that I see is the feeling of being inside her. So I either enter without a condom (i do that anymore) or I enter with but in so many occasions it ends up tearing up inside her. They all said they took a day after pill or i saw them taking. I am just in si much scarcity and need that this becomes the only thing I see and in the moment I do care. Its dump I know. Today I am more calm but those condoms still keep rippin off.

TechnicalCofoundar · 2021-10-09T12:38:03+00:00

I’ve been having unprotected sex with random woman for 20 years. You’re fine.

2021-10-10T21:30:57+00:00

Bounce and excommunicate her.

Dull_Elephant_2909 · 2021-10-28T07:02:33+00:00

Same happened to me once. We'd already hooked up once before and the next weekend we both got drunk and ended up hooking up again. We started with the condom and halfway through she slid off, pulled the condom off and slid back on. I was too drunk to care at the time. Ended up going raw again the next morning (silly I know but I thought "well we've already gone down that route"). She went off to get morning after pill and I got checked out (clean as a whistle!). We hooked up once more after that and the condom stayed on.

Title	Unprotected sex
Author	blessedwiththecurse
Upvotes	996
Comments	281
Date	October 5, 2021 10:22 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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