Unless a girl tells you expressly that she's looking for a relationship its fair to be coy about whether or not you are because that's the exact same thing she's doing.

Both sexes who spend their time complaining about the other sex wish to keep Strategic Ambiguity available for themselves and deny it to the other.

Strategic Ambiguity is a political science term used to describe a tool that governments sometimes utilise within certain aspects of their foreign policy.

It's the practice of being intentionally ambiguous about whatever matter it chooses. One example is Nukes, Isreal is strategically ambiguous about whether or not it has Nuclear weapons. Another, Saddam Hussein, who was strategically ambiguous about whether or not he had WMDs leading to the Iraq War.

In dating and sex people are strategically ambiguous. Women refuse to approach so as to keep up their strategic ambiguity, they like to be indirect and coy with their "approaches" as they never have to face rejection this way.

The best male seducers are typically strategically ambiguous. They are practiced at making a girl feel a deep and unique romance, directly stating their intentions would break this spell.

Women complain about this because they know how powerful and persuasive it can be when done right. That's why women will great angry when men do this they feel hoodwinked.

Things like TRP will tell men to be more strategically ambiguous, she'll convince herself that you 2 have a unique flame if you don't interrupt her so just don't do that thing.

Now this would be unconscionable, in my opinion, if only one side were utilising strategic ambiguity. But normative dating roles that women defend really keep their strategic ambiguity alive. Given that, all's fair.

I've seen women on here argue that a man who tells a woman he's not interested in a relationship, but takes her on dates, and holds her hand is leading her on.

Prima Facie this makes no logical sense but it does when evaluated from the perspective which I've just outlined ie women don't want men to have the tool of strategic ambiguity while they themselves have that tool.

All the moralising about leading people on and being honest and direct can really be seen as an attempt to convince men not to utilise strategic ambiguity.

For the average frustrated chump, on top of adding muscle mass and interacting with more women, being strategically ambiguous is a powerful tool to fulfil his sexual desires.