Have you ever been abused, sexually assaulted or harassed by a woman?

2024-02-29T20:15:30+00:00

Definitely abused, verbally and physically

untamed-italian · 2024-02-29T20:37:33+00:00

Totally. All the above, plus attempted murder.

thisaccountaintrea1 · 2024-02-29T21:37:41+00:00

Yup. A few times, in fact. One thing that I’ve unfortunately become acutely aware of is that as a Black man, I’m held to a higher standard than the other people around me- people, consciously or not, are taught to see us as dangerous and aggressive. As such, with the situations that I went through, people asked me things like “Why didn’t you shove her off?” and the like.

Well, if I had shoved her off, I’d have been a muscular Black man who just roughed up a photogenic little white girl. Let’s see how that gets spun. I know that I’ve gotta keep my cool- sure, hysterical women get laughed at, but angry Black men get shot. It’s not fair, but them’s the breaks.

Fan_Service_3703 · 2024-02-29T20:22:27+00:00

When I was 8 after my dad kicked us out, we stayed in a hostel. One of the other residents was a 12 year old who developed a crush on me. She used to knock on our door saying something was happening downstairs, take me onto the stairs and try to kiss my face off. I was far too young to be thinking about girls and was pretty horrified. She also threatened to hurt me if I told anyone that "we" kissed.

Teen years, a girl aggressively pretended to finger herself in front of me, another pulled her skirt down in front of me. Two of them thought it would be funny to spread a rumour that I had a foot fetish and started rubbing their feet on my crotch.

Coming home from work a few years back, two very drunk women repeatedly tried to kiss me and force my trousers open. I didn't entertain them but put them in a taxi to get home safe.

Yesterday I was going to the shop. I walked past a pub when two middle-aged, well-dressed ladies came out. They saw me, stopped and started dancing in quite a sexually aggressive way. This was broad daylight, so they were obviously very drunk. I didn't feel uncomfortable or threatened by it, I just said goodbye and kept walking.

All of this is relatively low level and none of this is remotely comparable to the horrors that women and some men go through, but men absolutely do face sexual harassment.

gntlbastard · 2024-02-29T21:01:44+00:00

Verbally and physically sure. Chick doesn't get her way it starts with a your not a real man and escalates from there. It's also the last time I will ever see such a person. Not being married to them helps ensure that there won't be some long drawn out divorce. Disrespect and raising your hand to me is something I won't tolerate. You can go beat up some simp who wants that from you.

Ayaka_Simp_ · 2024-02-29T22:29:55+00:00

You know... now that you mention it... many of my interactions with women involved some form of assault. It never registered until now because I never felt "in danger." Due to being bigger/stronger than her. Some examples...

The girl I lost my virginity to forced herself on me multiple times. I had to fight her off because she was my friend's little sister. Eventually, she wore me down and got what she wanted.
Her older sister (girl #1) tried to rape me in their basement. She literally said, "I'm going to rape you." Then forced herself on me while ripping off my clothes. I literally had to choke her out until she gave up.
My ex was a walking red flag. High body count, history of sexual abuse, and mental health problems. I made the mistake of trying to save her and be a gentleman. The first night I came over, she made it abundantly clear that sex was off the table. Knowing her history of sexual abuse, it never crossed my mind. I just wanted to cuddle and watch movies. However, this pissed her off. She berated and yelled at me for not forcing myself on her. I was so confused...
The last girl I hooked up with was a ballerina I met online. She tried to rape me because I didn't want to have sex with her. We agreed to Netflix & Chill. No sex, only head. I'm a munch, so this is fine. I ate her out, and she seemed to enjoy it. Afterward, she says she needs some dick. I tell her no. I don't have a condom, plus we aren't that close yet. She throws a fit, like how could you eat my pussy like that and not fuck me? We get into an argument. She cries and says it's because I think she's ugly. I'm in full panic mode. I try to comfort her. I can't raw dog a stranger, safety first. She perks up and runs to her bag. She brought condoms. I tell her no. She fucking loses it. I'm like bro, why are you doing this? I just want us to be safe. She calms down and wants to sleep over. I agree, I'm scared of kicking her out after that. She tells me to come to bed, and we cuddle. This is at 1am. She spends the next 2 hours trying to manipulate me into sex. She argues I should raw dog her because we already 69ed. No dice. She tries seducing me by showing how wet and tight she is (I almost folded ngl). No dice. She berates me. No dice. She says we should be bf/gf and make it legit. No dice.

What happened to no means no?

TL;DR: Women have tried to sexually assault and manipulate me since I was a teen.

his_purple_majesty · 2024-02-29T20:30:41+00:00

Yes, my ex wouldn't take no for an answer. She also unleashed a flury of punches on my arm once. I've also been groped by friends' partners, usually when they're drunk. Some girl slapped me in the face once when she was drunk. Maybe she misheard me. I definitely didn't say anything controversial. I've also been randomly groped a couple times at the club.

2024-02-29T20:44:02+00:00

Legally yea but it was not her fault

Edit: fuck you mods for making me change my flair

gopher_glitz · 2024-02-29T23:06:52+00:00

I've had women slap my ass. If the roles were reversed it would've 100% sexual assault

abaxeron · 2024-02-29T20:19:51+00:00

Yes. The story I'm most comfortable sharing here is that a woman 5ish years my senior tried to get into my pants when I was 16 (and gave birth to who knows whose baby some time later), but it's far from the only one. But since I don't define myself around my own genitals, I don't worry much that things like these happened. I'd rather be assaulted or harassed a hundred times than cheated on once.

MikeArrow · 2024-02-29T20:30:09+00:00

This is so minor I wouldn't even mention it in the same category - but in high school one of the girls snuck up on me, smacked me on the butt then ran back to her friends, giggling. Like she was dared to do it. I got embarrassed, of course, but just walked it off.

LowCreddit · 2024-02-29T21:05:24+00:00

One of my early girlfriends had a meltdown because she thought I was cheating on her. I was not. Her screaming and throwing escalated to the point where the neighbors called the police. I was cuffed and put in the back of a cop car. They got our stories separately, and thankfully, she told the truth. The cop said he was supposed to put me in jail for the night and released without charges, but he offered to let me leave since he didn't want me to get in trouble with the military. I asked if they would escort me through the apartment to get my stuff and break up with her, and they agreed. This was only the final incident, not the first.

The sexual harassment is constant, usually a dick or butt grab. The worst time was at a friend's house party. My girlfriend wasn't there at the time, and another girl saw this as an opportunity to get trashed and make a fool of both of us. All our friends just laughed and cheered as I continuously rejected her escalating advances. I eventually lost my temper when she started undoing my pants, and I yelled at her. She fell to the floor crying, and everyone told me to apologize to her. I left and didn't hang out with anyone there for a long time.

Zabadoodude · 2024-02-29T23:02:09+00:00

I've had multiple strange women grab at my crotch or aggressively try to make out with me. Mostly drunk girls at parties. I didn't mind. If I wasn't feeling it I just pushed them off.

I've had exes get insecure and mopey if I wasn't in the mood for sex, but I've never had any react with anger or violence. I have never been one to tolerate aggression in in my relationships and I think the women I dated knew that if they pulled a stunt like that, I would dump them on the spot and never speak to them again, so they kept themselves in check.

blarginfajiblenochib · 2024-02-29T23:36:16+00:00

Yes - I have been groped (crotch, butt, arms, back) numerous times at bars, clubs and concerts I’ve been to, I also had a stalker. Like you OP, I also had a girl my age force herself onto me when I was 11, granted it was only kissing, but the way she and her friend took turns to restrain/assault me is a memory I have repressed for awhile.

I think a lot of women don’t consider this type of behavior to be problematic or to even actually be sexual assault.

TomKikkert · 2024-03-01T00:30:17+00:00

I think all men do, but we are told that we are "lucky" to have such harassment.

One example I can share is when I was the head of department for a large company. We had a business planning session and the (female) head of another department invited herself back to my hotel room for a "nightcap". I told her we were both married and it was inappropriate so nothing happened but women don't take rejection well.

shonenhikada · 2024-02-29T21:50:05+00:00

No but I'll like to leave some stats on abuse, sexual assault and harassment for men

-About 1 in 3 men experienced contact sexual violence, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner during their lifetime.

-Nearly 56% of men who were victims of contact sexual violence, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner first experienced these or other forms of violence by that partner before age 25.

-Nearly 1 in 4 men in the U.S. experienced some form of contact sexual violence in their lifetime.

-About 1 in 14 men in the U.S. were made to penetrate someone during their lifetime.

-More than 1 in 38 men in the U.S. experienced completed or attempted rape victimization in their lifetime.

-Among male victims of completed or attempted rape, about 71% first experienced such victimization prior to age 25.

-About 1 in 17 men in the U.S. were victims of stalking at some point in their lifetime.

-Nearly 41% of male victims first experienced stalking before age 25.

Linvaderdespace · 2024-02-29T22:42:46+00:00

I’ve actually been gotten drunk and taken advantage of by 4 different women over the years, plus a smattering of other ones who have crossed hella boundaries and good taste trying to bang me in public.

oh shit, a distant cousin groped my junk while we were cooking thanksgiving dinner, smiling right at me the whole time, her husband was watching football in the next room.

had the one friend who loved to dose the rest of us with Molly or ghb and that ended in a big naked pile a few times, but she was also really apologetic when I was like “bitch I’m dating someone, we’re not doing this.”

and yeah that’s without getting into the vitriol that you can catch when you just turn a woman down. I’ve never been battered by a scorned woman though, just lucky I guess.

Tobor_Xes240 · 2024-02-29T20:40:19+00:00

40M. Had an asscheek pinched by a landwhale during a professional event (?!?) The sponsors put on a cover band, so the reception hall turned into a dance floor.

I know it was her because I spun around and saw her beaming. Didn’t want to start shit so I just skedaddled.

harmonica2 · 2024-02-29T21:29:57+00:00

One time a stranger woman spanked me at the bar when I didn't ask for it if that counts as sexual assault?

raldabos · 2024-02-29T21:07:10+00:00

No, I'm pretty unattractive lol. My college friends however they were, I was witness of mental and physical abuse a few times, aswell as having his cellphone destroyed by a jealous girlfriend. Also had a uncle with an Attempted murder from his wife.

Remember, women-on-man violence is more common more than ever and women-on-women relationships have the highest rate of violence in all type of relationships.

FateMeetsLuck · 2024-02-29T20:48:12+00:00

Yes.

Legitimate_Type_1324 · 2024-02-29T20:52:19+00:00

Yes. Groped many times.

Ok-Dust-4156 · 2024-03-01T03:32:12+00:00

No, I don't remember anything like that. Worst thing that happened is when my classmate back in middle school asked me to have sex with her and I refused. She was pissed off and said something rude that I can't even remember but that's all.

RahLyt · 2024-03-01T13:31:14+00:00

I woke up with this girl trying to insert my dick in her with no Condom.

Podlubnyi · 2024-03-01T18:42:51+00:00

Used to work in a bar. Couldn't even tell you how many times I got grabbed or groped by a drunken woman, usually an older woman, or saw it happen. Groups of drunk women are the worst.

I've found a lot of women have very little respect for male boundaries or the need to obtain his consent, probably because they know there will be few repercussions if they don't.

SecondEldenLord · 2024-03-01T22:59:22+00:00

Manipulated, physically abused and mentally abused by a woman I loved and that made feel hopeful about her being in a relationship with me. She did that for about 2 years and for 2 years she absolutely destroyed me mentally and financially.

Fun_Push7168 · 2024-03-05T08:20:24+00:00

Of course. All of the above. Are there really men who haven't?

AreOut · 2024-02-29T20:58:23+00:00

A lot of times. The one I remember the most was when my cousin sat in my lap directly on my D and started shaking, we were both 12. Caused the first erection in my life that I was aware of, I was scared as fuck.

KayRay1994 · 2024-02-29T22:42:31+00:00

Never by a woman, but I have been by a man - it can be really damaging, no matter who is doing the assault, fact is, you’ve been SA’d, someone put themselves on you without your consent or implied consent at the very least, and that’s never okay.

Men shouldn’t be ashamed to come out with accusations, no matter if it is a woman or a man who did it - it’s wrong in all cases.

I can say for a fact on my end that attempting to deny it and hide it for years has had a negative impact on me, and a large part of it is not only the shame of being a man and being SA’d, but also add in the homosexual implications (especially since the time i was a closeted bisexual in denial), that’s double the internal shame you feel for something done to you.

Barely-moral · 2024-02-29T20:08:33+00:00

Closer thing to abuse I can think of is an instance in which Miss Moral used a disclosed vulnerability of mine in an argument to cause some pain.

I believe it comes close to abuse, some people would call it abuse, some won't. I call it a crossing of boundaries.

Other than that, I don't interact with women enough to favour those kinds of situations.

Harassment? Maybe some verbal passes at work by some women that believes she can climb by using charm. Happens once every two years maybe. They are right by the way. Only wrong assessment is believing I am the ladder. They will find one eventually.

bifewova234 · 2024-02-29T23:38:08+00:00

One time I read something on the internet and it wasn't true.

Gold_Supermarket1956 · 2024-02-29T20:12:14+00:00

To be fair I don't consider sexual assault groping ( at least not on adults) someone smacking your ass or grabbing your tit ain't traumatizing... I've had my ass smacked countless times in bars... Had my package groped.... Etc to me sexual assault is when penetration happens...... It's why most men don't see why women get so shitty about it... Especially since most of you swear up and down your boobs aren't sex organs so which is it they just like a man's chest or are they sex organs ...

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TheGreatBeefSupreme · 2024-02-29T21:52:14+00:00

Sure. Never felt traumatized by it though.

ArmariumEspada · 2024-02-29T21:52:36+00:00

When I was 11, this neighbor of my grandmother’s (who was in her early 20s) would always act flirty around me; it made me feel so uncomfortable. Nothing seriously criminal, just saying things that made me feel uncomfortable and kissing me on the cheek which I didn’t care for. Hope she’s doing well

moosemc · 2024-02-29T22:32:21+00:00

In high school, a girlfriend hit me in the head hard enough to break 2 of her fingers.

aslfingerspell · 2024-02-29T22:32:29+00:00

I wouldn't go as far to call it "harassment" since these were one off incidents, but I have definitely had some events where women said or did things that would have crossed a line.

When I was in junior high sometimes girls would surround boys and grind on them at the dances without asking permission. I had this happen to me maybe 2-3 times over the years.

I perceived it as a prank at the time, but I'm not traumatized or that upset even in hindsight.

At one job I had, a female coworker joked about how she was going to "grope" me when we were alone. She never did so, was clearly joking, this only happened once, and I wasn't scared of her, but it made me uncomfortable and was a definite WTF moment. I complained to my family but not to HR since I didn't want any workplace drama from it.

Steakman1 · 2024-02-29T22:51:53+00:00

I had an abusive stepmother through about half my childhood. But nothing sexually abusive from her. And then when I was maybe 18 or 19 I had a borderline stalker.

scwizard · 2024-03-01T00:18:20+00:00

When I was a teenager the two hottest girls in my class insisted on teaching me how to kiss, then told me I sucked at kissing cause I didn't really kiss back.

Also when I used to go out drinking more often, I had one girl at the bar grab my junk. Then on another night I had this girl on the sidewalk grab my junk when I was walking home from the bar.

Nothing too serious, but for sure boundary violations.

TomKikkert · 2024-03-01T00:40:19+00:00

You could call this an "occupational hazard" but when I was at University to get extra money I did a few "adult entertainment dances" (aka stripping) usually for hen's nights etc. Just the usually dress up as a fireman type stuff which got the girls all "hot under the collar" or if there were a few of us the old "Manpower" type routines. (not full nudity)

I would guarantee you that there was always one middle aged aunt who would have a grope

wtknight · 2024-03-01T00:42:56+00:00

I was stalked once, but it didn't last long and it wasn't dangerous. Just some woman who liked me who I wasn't attracted to following me.

wardenferry419 · 2024-03-01T01:01:48+00:00

First girl I had a relationship with said that every guy she dated "raped" her. She was usually lazy, always self-centered and sometimes angry. During last argument, she refused to let me leave, stripped naked and said I would never see her naked again. She tried to pin me to her couch. I pushed her away and got out. I oftened wondered if I was added to her list of "rapists."

antariusz · 2024-03-01T01:06:04+00:00

be me: be at a bar for karaoke... turn down a drunken woman. She physically grabbed/yanked my arms, picked me up and literally carried me to dance floor a few feet away

Hot-Law2682 · 2024-03-01T02:07:11+00:00

2024-03-01T03:36:20+00:00

Arse grabbed at work, biceps grabbed at a private social event and at the pub.

Would a woman grinding her arse on my crotch on the dance floor count, considering the social setting, was I fair game?

From a male offending perspective, I have never been to prison, so never been raped by other men though.

lolthankstinder · 2024-03-01T04:30:08+00:00

Got pinned against a wall forced kissed by a giant fat girl once. She kissed like a dementor from Harry Potter.

RecreationalPorpoise · 2024-03-01T04:35:28+00:00

Once had a coworker snap creep shots of my ass while I was swimming and post them to her Facebook.

And my mom was super abusive and neglectful to me and my sister. My sister even killed herself over it, but our mom cried her way out of accountability and no one really cared.

SlowEffective8146 · 2024-03-01T06:12:54+00:00

Now that I'm in my 30s, I don't get targeted as much anymore for sexual abuse. I am more confident now and assertive, I don't think a woman would fuck with me like that anymore.

In my late teens, I would be the target for a lot of older women (40-50s) for sexual abuse. Ass pinching, sexual comments, etc. Women intentionally chose me because they knew I wouldn't fight back.

MGTOW_FIR3 · 2024-03-01T11:13:38+00:00

How fucking attractive are you man.

But the advice i'd give is stop dealing with crazy women, the reality of the world is that women always go unpunished so it's your job to prevent the situations from happening, it's never happened to me because I don't let it get to that level

thedarkracer · 2024-03-01T13:54:43+00:00

I was physically the weakest in my class at age 7 and the smallest too. I would get bullied and usually fight back. Boys were still persistent and would find new ways. A girl tried it once, I went up and punched her, she was twice my size, she never did it again. I have also been falsely accused despite having a clean record. Once I was accused and beaten up with 5 other guys from the teacher, My left hand didn't move for 2 days. I was 10

GhettoJamesBond · 2024-03-01T15:31:46+00:00

Well I've been verbally abused many times and sexually assaulted a few times.

AlmostKindaGreat · 2024-03-01T16:54:29+00:00

I've been groped (ass and crotch) a few times at bars and once at a work event that involved alcohol.

Also punched, slapped, and shoved by a couple different women I was involved with.

I never felt scared or particularly violated. I recognize that someone bigger or stronger doing it to me would feel different. Still I'm a bit irked that I am careful about everything I do and say and they were indifferent to any ethical boundaries and had zero fear of consequences. It's the principle of it.

iloveyouall00 · 2024-03-01T16:54:41+00:00

All I can remember is a girl smacking my arse as a kid, and another girl putting her hand down my pants and grabbing my dick and balls, when she was laying on top of me. First instance I was 8/9, second instance I was 11/12.

I haven't participated in life as an adult. But I've had a woman send me a picture of her tits unsolicited. By email lol.

Dr_Click_Click_Boom · 2024-03-01T17:24:58+00:00

When I was 16 or 17 a full grown married woman sucked my dick.

I was mowing lawns over the summer and went to mow this particular couple's lawn. The husband was a bit older than the wife. I'd say he was in his 40s and she was in her late 20s.

He went to the jiffy store to get gas for the lawn mower and she asked me to help her lift something while he was gone. I bend over to pick it up and she grabs my junk from the rear.

Yada yada yada she sucked my dick, licked my asshole and I came in her mouth. In hindsight I think her husband knew and just didn't care because the gas station was maybe 15 minutes away and that motherfucker was gone for a while.

She asked me if I had any friends who would also like to "have fun" with her. I remember going home and taking the longest, hottest shower I've ever taken. She was also fat.

The end.

2024-03-01T19:30:46+00:00

Definitely harassed and definitely pressured into it for fear of hurting her feelings. Had girls have huge violent fits over rejecting them.

2024-03-01T20:44:08+00:00

Bjj blue belt. She was cowgirl and started to shove me down as she became more aggressive and I said stop repeatedly and she didn’t stop and then told me I was being selfish. She admitted to me that she broke a man’s penis before. 1a. Another she’s on top and she was dissociated and didn’t hear me say stop.
Filmed my ex having a tantrum and she responded by punching me in the stomach with a closed fist and tried to steal my phone to delete the video. Somehow I was off my feet at some point. She “defended” herself when I tried to get my phone back. I literally only touched her wrist in the process.
This isn’t one instance but groping at clubs is pretty common. The worst example was when a woman put her hand in my front pocket and grabbed my penis through the pocket.

SurelyWoo · 2024-03-03T02:55:48+00:00

I had a hot tempered girlfriend when I was young, and she went psycho a few times after we had broken up. One night she came to the military barracks where I slept and attacked me (fingernails, biting, and punching). She was small, but fought like a Tasmanian devil. I got scratched up a bit waiting for my friend to get the MPs.

Some time later, when I was living off base, she broke the front window of my apartment, crawled in, and got in bed with me. I had parked down the street so she would not know I was home, but she drove around and found my car.

Another time she came by when I had just returned home from a date with another woman. She started banging on the windows and threatening to kill my date, so I called the police, but she hid as soon as they arrived. The police don't take a female attacker seriously anyway, even the MPs just escorted her off base and let her go.

And then there was the time she attacked me with an electric self-defense shocker thing. She had come over to my place, but I don't even remever the cause (if there was any) of the conflict. I took the shocker thing away, forcer her outside, gave the shoocker back to her and called her sister.

There was a lot of drama for a year or so, but she had been through a lot and was naturally hot-headed when she drank. When she wasn't being a psycho, I enjoyed spending time with her.

Title	Have you ever been abused, sexually assaulted or harassed by a woman?
Author	neinhaltchad
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Date	February 29, 2024 7:56 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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