N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD

Desperate-Exit7423 · 2025-10-05T00:55:29+00:00

If caring about a woman’s sexual past makes you insecure, then women who would dump a guy upon learning that he slept with other men in the past are insecure

Ok_Use7 · 2025-10-04T23:31:33+00:00

Another reason this topic is dumb, no one even knows their numbers for real. Talking real hoes, whether man or woman, people who have had lots of casual sex have lost track. No one's able to remember every single person that they've slept without meticulously keeping track (which I've known some people to do).

I think people with sex history insecurities should have nothing to worry about if their partner is able to quantify it with an actual number. I don't care whether it's 3 or 30, if that person can remember every single person they've fucked, you shouldn't have anything to worry about.

If they can't remember, sure, cry away but even still, just go date someone else and let them be.

PSXSnack09 · 2025-10-04T22:22:30+00:00

the past is the past mofos when the person with a past is a bisexual man:

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SpecialWasabi · 2025-10-04T20:51:31+00:00

Hey, just want to drop by and say, yes, your suspicions on the maths were right. Adding more anecdotal evidence.

The top 20% of men do in fact get 80% of the sexual and intimate dating encounters with women, or that is to say, I’m a guy who is lucky to have multiple sexual encounters with women every week and multiple women I’m currently romantically engaged with, at least 3 seriously and another 6-7 casually, depending on frequency, and I know many guys who don’t have a woman in their life romantically.

Additionally yes sadly for better or worse we do laugh about the men not romantically involved and your messages and your behaviour, her and I when we’re together.

I date women on a large spectrum of attractiveness (because I’m attracted to different aspects of them), different types of relationships, different motivations and needs. Always consensual, always enjoying each other’s company.

So yeah. Whenever I’ve been dating this has (kind of) been the story of my life, but way more intense since I turned 30. Like just week after week has been a sexual bonanza

Hope I’m at the right place for this

Desperate-Exit7423 · 2025-10-04T19:02:09+00:00

Some people claim that guys who want inexperienced women will have to deal with shitty sex. This is stupid because a low-N person can be great at sex and a high N person can be mediocre.

N_Count_Council · 2025-10-04T18:51:18+00:00

Will any of the hoe defenders here admit their wives have high bodycount?

Logos1789 · 2025-10-04T16:43:00+00:00

Get this thread tf outta here and keep the mf looks post stickied all week this time

ThatBitchA · 2025-10-04T16:03:44+00:00

Taylor Swift's new song about KillaTrav's dick sounds like it was written by a PPD dick obsessed dude. 🤣🤣

She's a "high n count" woman and marrying a Chad. Was she dating men out of her league for the last <20 years?

Prestigious-Debt7 · 2025-10-04T14:01:43+00:00

There doesn't really feel like there's a difference between my friend who has a high body count and the one who doesn't.

They both get a lot of male attention. They both also easily attract conventionally attractive men. The men they attract are also very social and liked by most women.

They've either dated/ attempted to date unconventionally attractive men (but these men were very confident and never awkward) The only difference is their body counts. The one has a high one and the other has a low one but otherwise they both approach dating in the exact same way. They're both very easily detached to men and able to move on quickly when a man starts pulling nonsense. They both read like they have significant experience with men. They've both been cheated on in their first relationship (but that's common here). They both seem ruthless towards men. They both seem to enjoy dating and view it less seriously than I do. They both seem to get over men easily. In the past they've both left guys they considered to be the most attractive to them because the guy started showing toxic traits and they each valued their peace more. They never seem to settle for less (at least compared to my messy life and many other girls). They both wouldn't prioritise picking the attractive man if it meant picking the wrong man. Idk I kind of just like the mentality they both have. Men make it seem like there's a vast difference in the mentality of high body count women and lower body count women but they don't really differ in their dating approaches.

They date because they want to not because they need to. Despite their body counts differing by a lot there seems to be no difference at all in the way they approach dating and interacting with men.

PSXSnack09 · 2025-10-04T13:38:06+00:00

damn God forbid a man also has feelings and they choose who to open romantically to😭

fragile narcissists and bpd crazies shouldnt be allowed unsupervised access to the internet withouth taking their meds first honestly speaking, if this how they react online imagine if some guy opens up about this irl, cba.

(no support for hypocrites btw)

BrigidFairy · 2025-10-04T09:05:50+00:00

High n men can’t pair bond

gtbreddit1 · 2025-10-04T02:42:12+00:00

Do men in relationships with high N women not feel like her attraction is inherently less special? Whenever I have imagined the type of girlfriend I want, I've imagined a girl who has never felt attraction to any man other than me. That's part of what would make the relationship special. I can't imagine two high N people in a relationship who genuinely feel special to each other.

Economy-Praline9372 · 2025-10-04T02:21:41+00:00

When did "n count" become a thing? I've never asked or was asked this when dating. I talked to boomers, gen x-ers, and millenials and they all said they never heard of it.

Reasonable_Mouse789 · 2025-10-04T00:11:19+00:00

At what age did you start to avoid high N men or women?

N_Count_Council · 2025-10-03T22:14:03+00:00

Hoes are good starter girlfriends.

salphon · 2025-10-03T17:41:40+00:00

So let me get this straight.

Posting studies on a FUCKING DEBATE FORUM is "clinging to data because you can't get sex and you're insecure, you incel fuck."

Okay, how about saying high-n women give me the ick- "INSECURE, YOU'RE JUST AFRAID YOUR DICK ISN'T BIG ENOUGH HAHAHA."

Alright, well I married a low-n woman- "YOU GUESSED IT, INSECURE AGAIN, YOU SMALL-DICKED INCEL LOSER!"

So I'll ask sincerely: what do you people actually want to debate then? Because at this point, it looks like the insecure ones are the high-n people and the men who marry them. You don't accept different opinions, preferences or even peer-reviewed studies. You just shame anyone you disagree with.

Afraid_Top5800 · 2025-10-03T16:55:24+00:00

Two of my brothers married their high school sweethearts and one is married for 30 years and the other for around 5, grandparents also did the same and were married about 60 years. One of my best friends married his high school sweetheart and they are planning to have their first kid in the coming year. Not saying waiting until marriage is foolproof, but your chance of divorce is 5% so that pretty much ends any discussion. I can only speak about marriage which should be the goal of most people.

Icy_Ad_4544 · 2025-10-03T11:55:50+00:00

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PSXSnack09 · 2025-10-03T11:41:31+00:00

reddit is so goofy man, on one hand the past doesnt matter, but on the other hand a guy should be happy and proud that other men "trained" his wife to be good at giving head (cuz thats sooo difficult right?) for him, like what? sounds like softcore cuckoldry and objectification to me

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Lemon_gecko · 2025-10-03T10:37:39+00:00

Some men here act like n count is such a huge deal and it’s so baffling, like don’t you have anything else you’d like/dislike? You barely have any standards (according to you) and that’s the one hill you want to die on? A thing you literally can’t see/know?

N_Count_Council · 2025-10-03T03:25:49+00:00

I actually love the argument that being confident makes you better at sex. It's true peak delusion. And since yall are comparing sex to pro sports:

How many fat Gen X or Boomers do you know who claim they "should've went pro" meanwhile they're 5'7 and weren't even the best in their own high school? There's millions of these guys.

This is yall with sex.

Reasonable_Mouse789 · 2025-10-03T02:08:11+00:00

There seems to be an assumption even on Reddit that women who sleep around are always certain types of people.

This is not the case. Ambitious women sometimes sleep around. Nerdy women sometimes sleep around. Women who might seem religious on paper sometimes sleep around. Women with money might sleep around. A woman with a roommate might invite me over, I talk to both of them for a bit, and then I sleep with the person who invited me while the roommate goes for a walk.

I doubt the women I’ve been with would take a survey. They’d probably close out the page and just ignore it if they got an email or a phone call, so I doubt online statistics are going to be accurate. All I’ve got are anecdotes. My main anecdote overall is that people who would sleep with me within 24 hours of knowing me don’t really have a whole lot of traits in common. My more promiscuous platonic friends I’ve had before who are otherwise well adjusted don’t all necessarily have a lot in common either.

Ok_Use7 · 2025-10-03T00:11:22+00:00

I think this wouldn't be a topic as much if men believed in themselves more. Positive self-image is nonexistent among this group.

You'll see a lot of them say sex history matters because they want to be their girlfriend or wife's best (aside from other arguments like "pair bonding") but do you realize how lowly one has to see himself if the only way to accomplish that is by hoping and praying that she's fucked no more than 2-3 people?

Think it would help if more men worked on building sex confidence so that they believed in themselves more and had the confidence to feel better.

grillopie · 2025-10-02T20:57:23+00:00

theres a lot of talk about icky high n count women are, and how they have xyz bad tendencies, attachment issues, etc. but theres like 0 discussion about how to find low n count women.

where are you likely to find them? how would you approach them? what can you change about yourself to make yourself more attractive specifically to this type of person?

i think a few things to avoid are people who have low n counts because theyre young or religious. if they simply didnt have opportunity or were socially pressured into having a low n count, its not filtering for the things you want.

here are maybe some traits that may be associated with low n counts:

Ambitious people - boss bitches, immigrants on student or work visas. i think theres a good chance these people had very few relationships. theyve been busy timewise, but also goalwise theyve probably not put finding a guy front and center, at least for now. these people are probably looking for someone who is also ambitious. they may not put you first, or in the case of the immigrant, they may be shooting for that green card.

misandrists - maybe they had male family members who were cheaters, or maybe they were sexually harassed by men before. theyre most likely not blue haired, and may still hold some traditional gender role ideas. im guessing theyll want what an average woman wants in a guy, but are probably more open to being love bombed, and less open to any kind of dread game.

these are pretty broad generalizations, so probably not going to work a lot of the time. at least its a place to start. if youre really interested in finding that low n woman, coming here just to trash high n women seems unproductive. dont you have any notes to compare or anything?

Desperate-Exit7423 · 2025-10-02T17:38:57+00:00

I’ve seen people counter guys with an N count preference with “A virgin/low-N count woman might get curious about what sex with another man is like and cheat!” but aren’t promiscuous people statistically more likely to be unfaithful?

PSXSnack09 · 2025-10-02T16:40:42+00:00

"men should be more open about their feelings"

same mofos when men open up:

ThatBitchA · 2025-10-02T15:49:39+00:00

It never occurred to me to read studies about having sex. Like I never once searched for a study to see if a man would still like me because I had sex before I met him.

It never occurred to me to look for research to determine if I'd cheat in a relationship because I had sex while single.

I just dated and had sex. I never needed data to tell me if I could date or have sex.

So, it's weird to me how much some people cling to data about sex. I guess if you're not having sex the next best thing is reading about people who do have sex.

salphon · 2025-10-02T15:22:05+00:00

Still waiting for studies showing high-n is good. I'll probably be waiting forever. If you want your marriage to last, marry low-n.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10989935/

https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/xqbfyi/not_only_is_past_promiscuity_a_good_predictor_of/

Reasonable_Mouse789 · 2025-10-02T01:16:40+00:00

What kinds of healthy traits would you expect to find in a relationship between two high n count people?

How should their relationship differ compared to one between low n count people, in your opinion?

gtbreddit1 · 2025-10-01T22:09:19+00:00

If you found out that a random man had rubbed his cock all over one of your dinner plates, you would never eat off that plate again. No matter how many times you washed it, the knowledge that it once had a man's cock rubbed all over it would disgust you, even if consciously you knew it was clean.

Why would it be any different if it's not a dinner plate but your girlfriend's vagina?

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