Thought this belongs here. (From selfawarewolves... Men are so close, I can't decide if they're ignorant on purpose or genuinely can't grasp basic concepts)

ginnapp · 2021-05-22T11:22:14+00:00

This is also a pretty messed up way of shaming women who want to stay and be single. They know that there are women out there who will read this, internalize it, and get out of their ways to please and entertain men just to avoid the shame that men place on single women.

Ladies, please IGNORE anyone who shames you for wanting freedom and for wanting to be the best queen you can be without men's baggage.

themissdaydreamer · 2021-05-22T11:25:50+00:00

bro I'm just running errands and grocery shopping, I'm not doing a catwalk through downtown so you can practice your Redpill-PUA shit on me.

Big-Respond8481 · 2021-05-22T09:24:04+00:00

Um......who ever actually got into a relationship because they talked to a complete stranger on the street

radsera99 · 2021-05-22T09:43:35+00:00

Walking fast and wearing headphones have been my safety tactics since I was 13 years old. Fuck men that approach women in public. We don’t want to talk to u!!! Leave us alone!!!!

fireforestfairy · 2021-05-22T09:56:49+00:00

Lol true. Men who cat call women are creepy as fuck.

Alien_DBH · 2021-05-22T08:59:33+00:00

This is very accurate I do this for the purpose that people leave me alone especially guys. Its just more peaceful plus I get to hear music I love. :)

LovedDemons · 2021-05-22T13:03:23+00:00

Men walking up to women they don't know and trying to talk to them is just gross. Especially when it's clear the woman is trying to ignore them and everyone else around them and just do their own thing. They don't know when to back off.

curlywurlyprincess · 2021-05-22T09:37:15+00:00

What’s sad is that doing all those 3 things isn’t enough to avoid the attention from men.

I remember one time I was at the bus stop and this guy kept staring at me. I had my earphones on and he literally pulled one out to talk to me. You know what’s even creepier? He said that a girl like me shouldn’t be out alone because there are “bad men” out there. And then he asked me where I live.

Literally walked back to the busier part of the street and took an Uber instead.

ItsFreezen · 2021-05-22T12:08:34+00:00

"3) She doesn't accept my bad attitude."

veniphyl · 2021-05-22T10:14:20+00:00

We do that because we don't want to interact with creeps like this one.

babalonsCup · 2021-05-22T14:09:20+00:00

I got stopped by a random male coworker the other day for looking "pissed off." I was walking to my station, deep in thought, and I walk fast--I always have. He was obviously angry about it, and speaking aggressively. When I explained that I was just thinking, he told me I needed to be "chipper" and not in my head. I walked away with no other explanation, of course by then I WAS pissed off.

Connect_Chipmunk_691 · 2021-05-22T12:33:31+00:00

This is the absolute truth! Is avoiding eye contact on the list cuz that's a big one! Also keeping any verbal interaction to an absolute bare minimum if it can't be avoided for some reason.

Also wearing sunglasses, if outdoors! Pretending to talk to someone on the phone? Yup!

relationship_reddit · 2021-05-22T12:45:40+00:00

Lol. This scrote really can't take a hint.

cmny062000 · 2021-05-22T12:38:15+00:00

They are ignorant on purpose.

lolmemberberries · 2021-05-22T13:34:22+00:00

This dude can't take a hint that women minding their own business don't notice or care about him.

_nylea · 2021-05-22T15:15:00+00:00

Why’s this dude basically just admitting that he desperately chases busy women on the street and gets rejected by all of them

catlady4u · 2021-05-22T14:40:21+00:00

It's always the woman's fault, right? Never ever the scrote's.

millrice · 2021-05-22T11:26:29+00:00

💯💯💯

LunarCannons · 2021-05-22T15:12:26+00:00

Reasons some men are single 1: They refuse to give women any value or autonomy/ Women have eyes 2: They tell on themselves/ Women have noses 3: They are asexual, aromantic, and prefer to live alone/ They are devout widowers who remain single as a means to honor their lost lovers.

Reasons why some women are single: 1: They are choosing to be single.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-05-22T13:09:18+00:00

what amuses me is that they all assume that women 'need' or 'look for' male attention everywhere they go.

it's pure projection.

Colour_riot · 2021-05-22T16:22:51+00:00

If only those tactics worked. You can walk fast with headphones and still have a car of 4 strange men chasing you down the street or something.

I also notice a correlation of getting approached by randos when I'm dressed down vs when I'm dressed up nicely with designer shoes / handbags, which is only supporting my belief that randos are low effort LVM

myeggsarebig · 2021-05-22T12:57:22+00:00

Should be titled #men are single because they ignore these 3 cues#

smallishtree · 2021-05-22T16:58:46+00:00

Wild. They can’t conceptualize that we would ever CHOOSE to be single.

takingbackitall · 2021-05-22T14:32:30+00:00

To the men reading: WE DO NOT WANT TO BE APPROACHED IN PUBLIC

We know men who approach strangers in public are desperate and usually creepy

So don't complain if we scoff and act standoffish when you approach us, because it's weird and so dangerous for us to trust random men we meet on the street

It's been drilled into our head from a young age not to trust male strangers, you can't expect us to be flattered by being randomly approached

lunarfulminate · 2021-05-22T18:57:17+00:00

"Why some women are single: because their intentionally deployed tactics to avoid men are working as intended."

DifferentBar6 · 2021-05-22T20:10:49+00:00

Why are some women single?

Because having a man is not aspirational

jupitaur9 · 2021-05-22T13:23:41+00:00

This excuse is used for catcalling, too. As if anyone really gets traction with a woman by making kissy noises or yelling hey mama.

They catastophize the lack of catcalling as the death of relationships. Because how else can a man find a partner? Lol.

Monstermagnetmarye · 2021-05-22T14:19:41+00:00

I do this as well. Kind of an odd story but I once looked while walking up to a man and he was gorgeous and walking in avant-garde high fashion and clearly trying to get attention. And still it made me uncomfortable, maybe also because I was just wearing a raincoat, jeans and rain boots but it still felt predatory.

Cat_With_The_Fur · 2021-05-22T15:51:16+00:00

Ahaha if I had only known to walk slower maybe I’d have a boyfriend.

veruscka · 2021-05-22T19:06:43+00:00

They really think we want to be approached in public by their mediocre ass 🙄

Tatterhood78 · 2021-05-22T20:08:55+00:00

I've had scrotes yank out my headphones, grab me as I'm waking by, corner me on foot or in their car, pick me up, sling me over their shoulder, bark random orders, ask her personal questions, invite themselves into my life, make assumptions (and then try to punish me for it). Hell, I've had them stick their dick in my mouth/ climb on/shove themselves inside me while I'm sleeping or inebriated.

But I should forget all that and stop protecting myself, because it makes it "harder" for the men who want to do those things.

All while they're up their own dicks about being "forced" to pay for their own children and having to go to all the work of "avoiding golddiggers".

Can you imagine the outrage if there were a mass movement for goldiggers, trying to convince men that it's normal, natural and shameful to resist? And that any attempt to change it was met by abuse and violence?

Their "worst case scenario" is still infinitely better than our most likely. And yet, WE'RE the ones who are making things so hard between men and women.

GTFOH with that bullshit. Nobody wants to suffer because they think a lonely dick is "the worst thing that could EVER happen!". The utter fucking gall....

TellCerseeItWasMe · 2021-05-22T15:40:37+00:00

It's the latter

Southernbelllle · 2021-05-22T19:02:02+00:00

F that. I’m not walking fast or headphones to avoid you. If I don’t want to talk I don’t want to talk. Period

The bad attitude stays though, that’s a fixture.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-05-23T06:19:02+00:00

men like to think that the worst thing for a woman is to be unattached to a man, thus single or self-partnered. they place too much importance on themselves, they like to think themselves indispensable.

meanwhile... the rising number of single mothers married or not, tells a very different story.

men are unreliable, dangerous and insensitive.

the rising number of single moms tells us a different story. that men do not put high regard on their offspring, they do not care enough to do half of the work or they mistreat the mother of their children, thus showing that they can easily mistreat the children as well. women do not like to take chances with these guys so they prefer to raise the child alone than live in fear and uncertainty.

jenneschguet · 2021-05-22T21:38:12+00:00

This doesn’t read “why they are single” as much as it whines, “when a woman won’t give me attention”.

SakuraGirl88 · 2021-05-23T01:36:30+00:00

All of this and I'll pretend to have a conversation with someone even if my phone is on silent 🙄

MsXxSelfDestructxX · 2021-05-24T00:51:59+00:00

What's wrong with being single?

Connect-Ad-9361 · 2021-05-24T04:00:17+00:00

You left in the username in the bottom

Title	Thought this belongs here. (From selfawarewolves... Men are so close, I can't decide if they're ignorant on purpose or genuinely can't grasp basic concepts)
Author	therebellioustiger
Upvotes	880
Comments	112
Date	May 22, 2021 8:52 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/niecqv/thought_this_belongs_here_from_selfawarewolves/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/thought-this-belongs-here-from-selfawarewolves-men.755065 https://theredarchive.com/post/755065

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