“I don’t have a child”

Summerisle7 · 2020-08-07T04:05:28+00:00

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brownskinnedflower · 2020-08-07T04:04:20+00:00

This is my first post on here so sorry if the format is weird. Anyways, this guy was my Uber driver, thought he was cool so I gave him a chance. I went on one date with him a few weeks ago and he overshared that he had a daughter and even showed me a picture of her. Mind you, he never shared this information prior to the date. I simply took a mental note of that fact. After the date, the following couple of days, he’d always text me around 10 pm asking to “hang out” but I already knew what that meant and I always came up with excuses. By that point, I honestly didn’t care about him and already placed him in the “dusty” folder. I deleted our conversation thread and kept it pushing. To my surprise, he messaged me on WhatsApp today. I was very honest about my “no baby daddies allowed” boundary and this was the response I received. I was appalled. If he was able to lie about his daughter, what else can he lie about? Be careful out here, ladies. We need to thoroughly vet any man that wants to be apart of our lives. Have standards and uphold them. I hope that I have helped someone today...

TheSatanicVegan · 2020-08-07T04:19:31+00:00

Yes. I had her (a child) but that (she) doesn't matter.

Wow. What a deadbeat.

gcthrowaway2019 · 2020-08-07T04:35:46+00:00

This deserves an award bc you blocked him. No trying to get in the last word with a comeback, just a nice solid BLOCK. We need to see more of this here!

modernmedusaa · 2020-08-07T04:07:54+00:00

And just like that..Pinocchio's nose grew 6inches.

Its literally like watching a child with chocolate round their mouth say 'it wadnnnt me'

Sis, all I can say is...I feel ya *virtual hug*

These men aren't even trying to make their BS make sense anymore...they really are taking us for an IDIOT that was born yeserday. Their brains are too pornfried to come up with adequate lies *zzz zzz- just deny it*

brownskinnedflower · 2020-08-07T04:13:42+00:00

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plummyjellyfish · 2020-08-07T05:39:00+00:00

I hate deadbeat dads, so many men are borderline deadbeats without even realising it, too. They think because they give their kid a phone call once a fortnight and occasionally buy a video game or something that they're a parent. Give me a break! Good on you for blocking this scumbag

bubblegumthot69 · 2020-08-07T04:45:59+00:00

"I had a child but I abandoned them so it doesn't really count"

monkibare · 2020-08-07T04:37:58+00:00

I was once traumatized by waking up alone to the guy making breakfast...FOR THE KID STARING AT ME FROM THE DOORWAY. When I could finally get myself together enough to leave he just said, “he’s not usually here...” and then admitted it was his parents’ house, too. Never said a word about either for like three dates beforehand. I RAN.

Easymodelife · 2020-08-07T09:44:56+00:00

I'm childfree by choice but I've always had a visceral disgust for deadbeat dads. If they'll abandon their child, they'll abandon you in a heartbeat.

Not to mention that he's happy to start the relationship with a huge lie, which obviously would have come out eventually. Either of these things would be a dealbreaker for me, let alone both.

randomgirl34861 · 2020-08-07T04:38:27+00:00

So he’s telling you because he’s just a father and not a dad, you should be ok with him having a child. GROSS.

lickyblickyuhh · 2020-08-07T05:26:47+00:00

It doesn’t matter that he.......HAS A WHOLE CHILD?

heythere360 · 2020-08-07T04:21:51+00:00

It’s really scary tbh.

And he’s an Uber driver? Really makes you wonder if you’re the first girl....

I wonder how many girls he hits on and takes out who are captive in his Uber over the span of an entire day. Uber drivers can be fucking creeps.

Thanks for sharing your story.

wawa310 · 2020-08-07T06:02:10+00:00

So weird! I matched w a dude on an app who wanted to text all day long, but would only talk about super shallow topics. Red flag.

I started asking him questions about his life that I felt were “impolite” but also... c’mon, let’s get to actually know each other. Turns out he was avoiding talking about his ex wife and 3 children who also live in Europe (we are in the US).

And to get that info I had to pry SO HARD. Didn’t tell me he had kids, went out of his way to avoid telling me how many kids, and then only after I asked about parenting during a pandemic and handling the quarantine between households did he tell me actually they’re in Europe.

Men are garbage.

2020-08-07T07:04:45+00:00

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glittersparkles212 · 2020-08-07T11:35:51+00:00

LVM like this exists

Society : “ wHy yOu hAvE dAdDy iSsUeS “

booboodoughnut · 2020-08-07T07:43:03+00:00

Out of sight out of mind, the shit we women have to put up with I swear! These scrotes deny the existence of their own flesh and blood imagine how they’d treat an unrelated woman!!!!

CandyyWarhol · 2020-08-07T11:38:47+00:00

My ex lied and tried to cover up having a child for months. Turns out he had a domestic abuse case open and that’s why she left and got the kid.

shrimpcakewithcrust · 2020-08-07T10:44:49+00:00

What bothers me is how he said his actual child doesn't matter. Imagine.

dntbfllikeidid · 2020-08-07T04:41:19+00:00

“I had her”

WTF is that supposed to mean? Once you get someone else pregnant you HAVE a child, wether she lives with you or not. I fucking hate liars. Even worse if they are breeders too! 🤮

Bovvsette · 2020-08-07T13:14:15+00:00

”Had her, but that doesn't matter” - nice to know how he would treat you and your possible kids in the future. How he treats his past relationships and even families is very revealing, it gives you a good image of what's eventually waiting for you.

So nonchalant about abandoning kids just makes you want to have sex and risk having them with him! Creating a family with him would make you and the kids so happy and taken care of, zero issues, much support! Dad of the year! /s

UnitedHoney · 2020-08-07T14:49:38+00:00

Love how men are so hard on single mothers but they literally lie about having kids. Smh

carameals · 2020-08-07T06:27:33+00:00

What an embarrassment. Sorry you had to waste your time with this MF..

GraveyardH2020 · 2020-08-07T13:31:20+00:00

My ex lied to me about having another child on the way when we first got together. I had no idea. Claims he didn’t tell me because “he was too afraid to lose me” and “one more kid doesn’t matter and shouldn’t make a difference.” (This was his third) like yea man, a whole other human being that’s going to be in this world for the rest of your life, MATTERS.

PunnyPrinter · 2020-08-07T11:57:51+00:00

Such a relief to see a quick BLOCK. 😍

dzgata · 2020-08-07T04:38:01+00:00

Not to attack you but next time don’t tell dudes like this that’s your reason. Now he’s going to lie about having a child to the next woman :( that’s not your fault ofc. He shouldn’t lie, but I also tend to avoid direct reasons with guys bc I know how they work. Instead of finding a woman who likes X about them, they deceive unsuspecting women.

herp_derp_hag · 2020-08-07T07:00:59+00:00

Wowwwwww, not just a liar, but a shitty Dad as well!

suspended_animation_ · 2020-08-07T13:42:19+00:00

They hope that we are stupid with bad memory

sadcello · 2020-08-07T06:50:55+00:00

Deadbeat fathers who hate their children and pretend they never exist are everywhere and men want me to have sympathy for men being destroyed at divorce court. They deserve it and it's not enough anyway, men always came out richer after divorce, women always end up poorer. What sympathy men deserve? What empathy men deserve? Fucking males.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-08-07T07:16:51+00:00

What a prick!

TheWarmestHugz · 2020-08-07T12:33:31+00:00

Disgusting. Imagine thinking that low of your own flesh and blood. This loser needs to step up.

lilbobabean_queen · 2020-08-07T15:02:04+00:00

Wow how is he gonna lie in the same receipt👀👀

frodosdojo · 2020-08-07T17:30:06+00:00

My ex-husband told me had no kids. I found out when we filed taxes together that he owed child support for a child.

I was pulled over by cops in my ex's car one day. They asked me if I knew EX. The officer told me there was a warrant for him for child support in another state. He was able to petition the court for a DNA test (the child was 15) because he swore to the court the mom was a ho. Test came back 99.9% his. That was the day I realized what a f-ing liar he was. It took me another year to get away from him but I am grateful every day he is gone.

OrchidLion · 2020-08-07T10:04:39+00:00

What a gaslighting piece of shit

Villanelloh · 2020-08-07T15:20:59+00:00

A man messaged me on OLD and I said I don't date anyone with kids. His reply was 'Oh don't worry you'll never see her' = 'because I don't bother'

LaTaina87 · 2020-08-07T15:42:07+00:00

Oh wow, he makes me want to vomit

Summerisle7 · 2020-08-07T04:39:37+00:00

It’s possible that he wasn’t saying his child doesn’t matter, he was just saying it shouldn’t matter to you if he has a child or if he lies about it. Which is just as bad imo! It’s not for him to say what should matter to you! And lying is always a red flag!

Levelupmama · 2020-08-07T16:20:34+00:00

So they really ain’t shit, huh?

Orphanedpinkpetals · 2020-08-07T18:00:45+00:00

Sick

throwawaynevermindit · 2020-08-07T23:21:37+00:00

Lmao, I'd probably find the ex on FB and send her this to use in any potential custody or child support case.

rating-throwaway88 · 2020-08-08T01:52:52+00:00

Wow. Poor child, having that human being as a biological dad must suck.

RoseDumpling · 2020-08-08T04:12:49+00:00

How dare he. Just yuck

dick_fingersatm · 2020-08-07T17:55:42+00:00

I had a guy I met off Tinder that I went on a few "dates" with (I wouldn't even call them dates tbh, I even paid) but after hanging out as friends for MONTHS he finally mentioned he had a daughter. He tried to KISS ME at the beginning without telling me such an important detail. I love children. I would love to date a guy with kids. But straight up hiding important things like that from potential love interests is not okay. I'm so thankful (for multiple reasons) that I didn't let him touch me.

Title	“I don’t have a child”
Author	brownskinnedflower
Upvotes	1443
Comments	128
Date	August 7, 2020 3:57 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/i56vhg/i_dont_have_a_child/
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