Does this subreddit actually help anyone?

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2023-11-08T03:03:22+00:00

it's not here to help anyone, it's a debate space

Party-Honey2056 · 2023-11-08T03:56:33+00:00

Help in a positive way ? No I’m not sure. I mean maybe it does for some , but it’s also just as damaging. I do think it’s at the very least educational in some sense?

I have seen people come to conclusions I would’ve never came to in my wildest dreams.

Both Good and bad. It’s very interesting to see wildly different takes on a single topic . There are a lot of things here that I may have been better off not seeing and maybe totally disagree with but that’s what makes it fun.

If everyone in here felt the same way It would get boring really fast.

When I’m not here I don’t really think about this place at all. What happens in purple pill debate stays in purple pill debate.

I had to learn to stop taking internent strangers comments as a seriously as I used to. When I write a comment I’m writing what I feel. I know my opinion comes from my own personal view and experience. I know that my word isn’t law, I dont expect anyone to take what I write as any sort of gospel.

My opinion isn’t the end all be all. Do you put this much weight on your own comments?

Probably not.

You add your two cents and leave. When you read a post that negatively affects you, try to remember the person behind the screen is just like you. They may just be expressing the complicated emotions that come along with love and the human condition.

They may be expressing it poorly, but don’t take it to heart please. There is nothing wrong with stepping away from something that’s taking a toll on you mentally.

Personalix · 2023-11-08T03:45:45+00:00

This sub confirmed my thoughts that I need to do a steroid cycle to scape the shit hole and be considered sexually attractive.

I would do it naturally but being skinny in the early 20s doesn't help.

TenaciousVillain · 2023-11-08T03:51:01+00:00

It underscores what I noticed happening at the onset of the social media era: a dismantling of the old ways men and women related. Being here just animated the kicking and screaming people are doing because they don’t know how to change and create something better for their lives. They have a death grip on the past, hatred for the opposite sex, high school bullshit thinking, and wet dreams about arbitrary rules they pray others lose sleep over. (Like just because you’re obsessed with a wall doesn’t mean you’re stopping anyone’s show.) Most don’t have an independent thought, all regurgitating different versions of the same crap.

I agree. The awareness is great because you can spot certain narratives a mile away and make note to avoid certain people IRL. But it’s important to ditch this place periodically and be sure to cultivate your own views and relationships based on what you need and want.

I’m relieved when I leave here and encounter the opposite type of men off screen. Thank baby Jesus. Makes me more appreciative of them, especially knowing they are perplexed by these mentalities too.

InjectAdrenochrome · 2023-11-08T02:54:13+00:00

I am just here for the regular users who are here all the time. I like them even if they don't all like me.

I would try to detach myself emotionally from the dating topics if it is upsetting you too much, but if you can't do that then you might want to take a break.

Barneysparky · 2023-11-08T03:12:17+00:00

It certainly does.

Many young men have turned their lives around. You have to understand that a lot of the guys here who aren't here just to argue or push their agenda (I'm talking about the guys my age) are here because they are questioning what their algorithms have been feeding them.

They may not post much (or do) but it sinks in.

leosandlattes · 2023-11-08T03:24:15+00:00

This isn’t really a self help sub, so it’s not really supposed to help you. It’s an entertainment and debate sub.

My suggestion is to get off pill spaces for a while - let your head clear. When you constantly hear about how men and women are bad and which gender is more poison, etc., it’s not good for your mental health as a single person. It’ll make you feel more alone (as you say) and make it harder to connect with both men and women because you’ll think the worst about them, even just as friends.

SecondEldenLord · 2023-11-08T09:38:10+00:00

This sub convinced me once more just how oblivious women are a out the real world.

mods_have_small_ween · 2023-11-08T17:01:01+00:00

getting pilled changed my life as a former 30 year old virgin.

I learned the red pill, implemented it in my life, and saw huge results.

After getting fit and muscular I went from getting ghosted for 4 years on dating apps to having 8 dates scheduled within a week of updating my photos. Multiple sexual experiences within a month.

It really does work. Don't listen to the blue pilled idiot, they're naive and haven't learned how fake the world is (including attraction).

Den_the_God-King · 2023-11-08T02:44:45+00:00

Helped me reach the conclusion that relationships are for losers.

MistyMaisel · 2023-11-08T03:02:25+00:00

It has kept me from quitting my job out of unbearable boredom for almost two years.

Spyro7x3 · 2023-11-08T03:40:28+00:00

Just listen to the women who swear everything is okay

SleepyPoemsin2020 · 2023-11-08T06:22:48+00:00

God no, this place is toxic af, I'm just here for the drama.

MidoriEgg · 2023-11-08T08:37:46+00:00

It’s a balance. I think it can be good to be prudent and not be too naive on the modern dating scene, but I think a lot of the vitriol on here is way too negative in the extreme. Like ‘there’s no point trying dating because you’ll end up forever alone anyway, and if you do get a girl she’ll be a landwhale and cheat on you with chad and kill your dog, so there’s no point even trying, just stay where you are. Never think things are getting better’

If you feel like it’s genuinely impacting your hope for the future I’d give spaces like these a break.

SyrusDrake · 2023-11-08T09:34:36+00:00

It helps me if I feel the almost sexual urge to waste my time by arguing with strangers on the internet.

gntlbastard · 2023-11-08T14:54:34+00:00

This isn't a relationship subreddit nor is it advertised as a means to improve anything. It's more or less a forum to discuss ideas.

happy_discus · 2023-11-08T15:22:00+00:00

It certainly helped me a lot I am not allowed to post the reasons why I think it helped me because I would get banned again.

TheMemeMkaer · 2023-11-08T17:27:50+00:00

Cheap Entertainment

drok007 · 2023-11-08T02:52:55+00:00

Why would it help anyone? It’s not a self-help subreddit, people come here to dunk on losers and idiots. If you can’t compartmentalize that this place is a small minority of weirdos then I don’t know what to tell you.

Dionysis_x · 2023-11-08T03:38:18+00:00

It’s another place for men who hate that women have freedom. They rage and froth and give evidence as to why many women choose nothing over men.

AngeCruelle · 2023-11-08T02:59:24+00:00

It helps me to laugh

ohdiddly · 2023-11-08T03:44:46+00:00

Sure. It helps me better understand the arguments from the other side, which makes me form better arguments myself.

karspearhollow · 2023-11-08T03:25:59+00:00

Absolutely fucking not. There is no debate here. There is no help.

People come here to vent. That's it.

OnlyOutlandishness34 · 2023-11-08T07:06:24+00:00

Most posters in this sub are immature whiners who have no idea what the opposite sex are like because they’ve never spoke to them. It’s toxic and will give you the wrong idea about people. I’d leave if I were you.

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FutureBannedAccount2 · 2023-11-08T02:52:58+00:00

If you're coming to the sub for advice you're in the wrong place. r/relationship_advice is better for you. This sub here is for being entertained by seeing how terrible the dating world could be

roger61962 · 2023-11-08T10:11:15+00:00

I hate the way life is. If i do not look at it like it is, i am happier?

Is this what you want?

Neptune-Jnr · 2023-11-08T03:40:15+00:00

I get a good laugh out of it sometimes.

RIPGeorgeHarrison · 2023-11-08T05:09:00+00:00

It helps me kill the time.

bifewova234 · 2023-11-08T04:56:05+00:00

No real debate happens here. Nobody trusts anybody. Nothing productive comes of any of these conversations. Its merely a venue for people to rant and vent, spouting their opinions and dismissing contrary views with hasty, half baked rationalizations.

Pola_Lita · 2023-11-08T06:12:02+00:00

Reading this sub makes me feel like im going to be alone forever

I'd guess you're giving what you read here too much credit or just taking it all too seriously and assuming too much about the other contributors as well.

Maybe best to take a break for 6 months or so or however long to get your perspective back. It's what I do.

Sophiatab · 2023-11-08T16:02:16+00:00

This sub has helped me tremendously. I have a tendency to be too nice, question my instincts, and give people benefit of a doubt. This sub has helped me see how much that is really dangerous in dealing with men.

AceOfSpadesGymBro2 · 2023-11-08T04:30:38+00:00

Of course not! Hahahahhahahwhahha. For it to help anyone, it will actually have to feature posts by people other than life long virgins and people would actually have to want to be helped.

AFuzzyMuffin · 2023-11-08T11:58:05+00:00

Realize most people on this sub constantly shooting down the other gender are also picking the wrong women consistently

jay10033 · 2023-11-08T03:21:58+00:00

Spyro7x3 · 2023-11-08T07:43:45+00:00

I can think of a positive. If you look at it objectively this place whether giving you a place to vent or a way to argue and be brutal means that everyone here owes each other appreciation for the fact that everyone here makes it possible. Even the people you disagree with are doing you a favor.

Having a place to talk cruel is lowkey fire

Notanothrshitthrow · 2023-11-08T09:50:02+00:00

If you're here for help, you're in the wrong place. This is essentially a shit throwing pit.

CasualTimbo · 2023-11-08T10:12:37+00:00

I'm here for a laugh. This sub is like a zoo.

Finding_Myway · 2023-11-08T11:00:16+00:00

Help? Maybe not but it's highly amusing. If it's negatively affecting you, you should simply look away and not return.

Substantial_Video560 · 2023-11-08T13:29:47+00:00

I'm not really looking for help tbh but I find the topics discussed here interesting reading.

SlowEffective8146 · 2023-11-08T14:09:01+00:00

No but it really does show how some people are with the mask off

Onefamiliar · 2023-11-08T14:29:29+00:00

They say ignorance is bliss, I think this sub helps bring awareness to the state of things.

shmupsy · 2023-11-08T14:36:27+00:00

A lot of people that post here actually want you to fail because misery loves company, and there's less competition for them if you take yourself out of the game.

Take any positive advice you see here, and ignore the blackpill dealers.

Peacesquad · 2023-11-08T14:54:47+00:00

It’s not meant to

Leaving-trunk1 · 2023-11-08T15:35:06+00:00

I like to debate and challenge ideas and have my ideas challenged. I talk to my therapist or a trusted person if I’m looking for help. Lol

ChemistryFederal6387 · 2023-11-08T16:50:12+00:00

No subreddit helps anything, at the end of the day it is a bunch of odd people talking on the internet.

95% of the population couldn't give two sh*ts about reddit and what happens here.

CryptoThroway8205 · 2023-11-08T17:58:29+00:00

I think it's helpful to vent but otherwise probably not. At least it's not an echo chamber though each individual thread can feel like one.

Berzabu · 2023-11-08T18:46:14+00:00

It's fine sometimes but too many people here are in some kind of rabbit hole and don't seem to have touched grass for a while

safestuff987 · 2023-11-08T19:00:12+00:00

I'm not here for dating advice. I'm here to hear different perspectives and opinions from different people, even if I disagree with them, because I might learn something.

I want to understand why others think the way they do, and I hope I can provide insight as to why people have opinions they disagree with.

Willow-girl · 2023-11-08T23:13:48+00:00

If I can find an awesome partner despite four divorces, anyone can do it! LOL

social_mule · 2023-11-11T04:39:20+00:00

Hell no.

Title	Does this subreddit actually help anyone?
Author	moocowkaboom
Upvotes	39
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Date	November 8, 2023 2:30 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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