I'm not a man, but I think it is perfectly reasonable for a man not to want to date a woman who's bitchy, gossipy, and constantly complains. I noticed men enjoy it if you are bubbly, kind, and cheerful. And women love men who are empathetic, sweet, and would make great dads. There's a reason why I avoid talking about feminist stuff or my feminist opinions around men, and it's because most likely they're not going to be interested about me whining about double standards. Just like how it'd be awkward if on a first date a man I was dating started griping about women.

And with my personal experiences, I don't care about height or income and I actually prefer short men over tall men. But one thing that gives me a huge red flag when scoping out someone to be a potential partner, is any form of violent talk about people they dislike. Like talking about wanting to beat up a family member over a joke they made. It shows me they have trouble controlling their temper and may be a negative influence in my life. As someone who's previously been in a relationship with a very mentally ill emotionally abusive man, it's given me greater perspective when looking for red flags.

It's why when I see anti-feminists say how western women are just jealous of the women the passport bros picked, I'm like "I doubt it.". Because when I see the passport bro subreddit or anti-feminist video comment sections, I see these men saying very violent things about women. Even the ones who say they found a perfect wife in another country. And it makes me think why would I want to be with someone who talks about abusing/murdering women in the open.

It is still important for us women to hold ourselves to the same standard. To avoid divisive content or joking about male genital mutilation and taking it seriously as a subject. I just noticed a few man-hating memes in my university discord as well, which I believe makes these women repel men. I also think therapy would benefit a lot of women instead of trying to make their boyfriend into a therapist and dumping negativity onto them.

TLDR: men and women need to be less negative and I think they'd have more success in finding a decent partner.