I feel like one of the most raw deals that does really struck a nerve when it comes to being a man within greater society is the lack of positive affirmations and reinforcement when it comes to our endeavors as a whole in anything, it could be related to our jobs, to our dating lives[but that's beside the point], to our academic & school performances, how we go about doing in sports or exercise training sessions, I feel like we men are so micro-checked about everything we do, and not only does society place such a high strain of performance morality onto us, we don't even get to self-congratulate, and I feel like a lot of hustle propaganda preys on the inadequacies of young men very strongly, but really how many guys want to be filthy rich, overworking, meatheads to begin with?

Society does not even ask what men really want out of their lives, we're just constantly bombarding the average man with success & hustle propaganda, but we barely ask if said men feel fulfilled and deeply-appreciative of their shortcomings in life, we barely even ask men ''are you ok?'', ''everything alright?''

Obviously if you want more out of your life you have to put in the work, yes the whole ''If I want something, I go get it'' mantra, this is so obvious, life doesn't automatically come to us

But the problem is society is constantly always projecting what it thinks men want: lots of cars, access to women, to be a top dog and have such a bark about things, to have lots of money in the bank account and to have lots of fame

In reality men are very simple creatures, all we ask for is a sense of direction, clarity, guidance and mental peace

Now sure, some men have a higher drive than others to achieve, this is what we get into like a bell curve about the difference in performance moralities between different men, so, some men like being straight-up tinkerers, some men like being involved more in diplomatic and socio-civic affairs, some men are big time into their sport and thus try to be a pioneer about it. whether that be Tony Hawk pioneering skateboarding, Tiger Woods pioneering golf, Michael Jordan pioneering basketball or Colin McRae pioneering auto rallying

But generally still we have an honest assessment of what we want out of life, for the most part we men are very straightforward creatures, like we mean what we say

So why does society keep projecting onto us what it thinks we want?

And so then your average young man gets stuck in this constant loop of self-beat and self-policing about how they aren't achieving enough, they aren't going after their goals, how [insert particular hobby/vice] is turning you into a loser, how do you think the help guru bubble got so powerful on social media in the first place? So many gurus giving out conflated and confusing messages

Like Jesus Christ can't society just appreciate men's shortcomings for once?

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In regards to the simping part, well if more men were to feel deeply appreciated and just respected for simply being a civil human being just like everyone else, then most men's emotional needs would be come off as more completed and fulfilled, rather than depleted. How? Because now most men would obviously not just see relationships as the only way to feel emotionally and existentially validated about things, sometimes a man just wants nothing more than a deep, but quick hug, a big 'thank you' for their endeavors, I mean we barely even respect our troops FF's, or a firm handshake. Now obviously I am not saying relationships still aren't part of the mental and emotional health equation, a loving fulfilling good-intended relationship still fills a huge portion of that, I am just saying men's simping and desperation for female company/validation would be toned down a bit with the help of more positive reinforcement/affirmation from everyday society