Why do men knowingly date gold diggers?

stats135 · 2024-02-12T20:07:11+00:00

are they that desperate to get laid.

Yes

Dr_Click_Click_Boom · 2024-02-12T22:27:28+00:00

The men who knowingly date gold diggers probably have enough gold that it isn't a big deal to them. What I notice more than anything else are men with average salaries getting outraged on behalf of Jeff Bezos, Dr Dre, Bill Gates, Tiger Woods etc because they lost significant portions of their fortune in divorce court.

Jeff, Dre, Bill and Tiger aren't aren't complaining though. That's important so I'll repeat it. Jeff, Dre, Bill and Tiger aren't complaining though.

Sure Mrs Bezos took half (or somewhere around half) of Jeff's fortune but he's a multi billionaire which means he can lose half his fortune in divorce court and still walk out the richest man in the world...or maybe he's the second or third richest at this point. But you get the idea.

IronDBZ · 2024-02-12T20:12:51+00:00

Scarcity mindset.

I think a lot of guys, myself included, to one degree or another take for granted that certain negative behaviors and outlooks in women are practically unavoidable on the macro-scale.

I'm trying to move past it, but I can't pretend like I haven't seen certain patterns (not necessarily out-and-out gold digging, I'm speaking about general dynamics here) and been around women having certain conversations about what they want, what they don't, what they would leave a man for and what they'd stick around for.

It's very hard to cultivate a perspective on women that doesn't end up being some version of "you get what you're gonna get or you'll get nothing, so avoid what you can and look out for exceptions".

Mr_Chad_Thunderpenis · 2024-02-13T07:19:35+00:00

They really want hot women. It's that simple. They want to look at a pretty face every morning, they want to fuck a hot body every night, and they want to have beautiful kids. Also, a very attractive woman increases a man's perceived status in every social situation.

They leverage their money in order to date the caliber of women they otherwise wouldn't be able to date basically. But generally most men with a lot of money are smart enough to have asset protections in place and to get a prenup. They won't be losing half or anything close to it. And the portion that they'll lose, they can probably easily earn it back in the following years if they are competent. Money is ultimately just a tool that can get you what you want. You won't be taking it with you to the afterlife. If you have a lot and you lose some, who the fuck cares.

If the wife eventually cheats on them and divorces them, they'll just move on to a younger hotter woman. They might marry again and have more kids or since they've already done their reproductive duty, they don't need to marry the next one, which makes the risk way less. Rinse and repeat till they die.

Rich old men and hot gold diggers are a match made in heaven. Both get what they want, both are satisfied. Most people who are shitting on them are probably broke and are dating someone mid, and are just coping.

wtknight · 2024-02-12T20:00:48+00:00

These men probably like the traditional power dynamic and they don’t think that divorce will happen to them.

babazuki · 2024-02-12T21:30:25+00:00

The character traits that make a gold digger arre greed, materialism, and selfishness. Those are the traits that a man needs to be wary of.

Gold diggers come in all tax brackets. A gold digging woman doesn't gain some kind of moral superiority by increasing her income, she's still a gold digger.

The man needs to look out for signs in how the woman dresses, how she uses social media, who she interacts with, how much she shows appreciation for her partner, what she demands of her partner. Not how much she makes.

Another characistic of gold diggers is that they look down upon people of lower socio economic classes.

Zabadoodude · 2024-02-13T04:10:32+00:00

If they can afford it, it's a way for them to get a more attractive woman that will treat them well. It comes with a risk, of course, but many men are careful enough to protect themselves or delusional enough to think it will never happen to them

BootyMessiah · 2024-02-13T11:31:42+00:00

Multiple reasons

They are simps & tricks who do not care about whether or not the woman is genuinely attracted to them, at least not until it is too late. They make so much money or are so driven and self-reliant that they simply don’t care if they are used. They pedestalize beauty. They could care less about genuine attraction or intimacy. They want sex with a woman they find attractive. They want to show her off. They want her to give them attractive children. Etc etc etc.
Simping, tricking and transactional dating is all they know and is the only way they believe they can ever be with the caliber of woman they want. They don’t want to settle for a compliant or genuinely interested 4.5-6. They want a 6.5-9 and will chase after and compromise for these women.
They have a scarcity mindset so the moment a woman shows them medium interest or gives them relatively consistent sex, they hop right on it.
The women do a good job of feigning interest or genuine attraction and the men are too ignorant to set up boundaries and procedures to vet for such women.

Appropriate-Ad-8030 · 2024-02-12T22:02:57+00:00

I think gold diggers are good at giving men what they want.....they set a bait that is hard for men to resist.....as I've gotten older, it's been easier and easier to say no.....but when you are young, it's hard not to sink your teeth into a beautiful woman that is inviting you into her trap

r2k398 · 2024-02-12T21:45:31+00:00

Surley they know if a woman earns less she can take him for a ride or are they that desperate to get laid.

A woman earning less isn't necessarily a gold digger. And in my state, it is almost impossible to get alimony unless the person is disabled or taking care of a disabled kid.

SupposedlySapiens · 2024-02-12T21:53:34+00:00

Poor vetting ability. Gold diggers are easy to spot a mile away.

Legitimate_Type_1324 · 2024-02-13T05:12:09+00:00

1) "I can change her"

2) "this is what money is for"

3) "this is how it's supposed to work"

Ooooorrrrr they just didn't know the woman enough and she turned on him.

Oooooor, everything was fine, but marriage deteriorated and she sees an easy way to walk out with tons of cash so she takes it.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2024-02-12T20:08:44+00:00

They aren’t. The situation is the “influencers” are grifting and so the only types that go for grifters are gold diggers. (Big shock). So of course the “RP influencers” are always warning dudes about the kinda girls they can attract by flashing a bunch of money and bad pickup lines around.

DarayRaven · 2024-02-12T20:41:56+00:00

I regularly see on here complaints about divorce and the loss of assets for me.

A woman divorcing you and taking all your assets is a result of the marriage system not her being a gold digger

Average women are also capable of doing such

KratosGodOfLove · 2024-02-12T22:27:40+00:00

The entire ritual of dating is built on gold digging since it involves men paying for dinners and dates. (I don't need to hear about the exceptions where the woman pays). So, unless the entire culture of dating changes, men will always be dating gold diggers to some degree. Then there are women who gaslight men into thinking they aren't gold digging.

ColbyXXXX · 2024-02-12T21:56:29+00:00

I remember dating a woman who barely made any money at her job. I figured I could train her to do IT since she expressed interest in it before and I was a trainer at my job. Nope. She was super lazy and wouldn’t apply herself at all.

Since then I only date women who have a nice career and a good income. The wealthier women ofter have better disposition and looks too.

AdEffective7894s · 2024-02-12T20:24:40+00:00

I can see that it is a reaction post but i do have a legitimate counter to your question.

Women online claim that they can sense our misogyny through the screen and that is given as a reason for why incels are alone.

Sure I am not good person just because i say I am, in fact i have fully accepted that I am a piece of shit.

But if women are able to sense that in me and are avoiding me, how are they getting beaten and abused?

Surely the misogyny detector works a great deal better when out in the wild with the mans tone, glower and body language oozing misogyny?

So asking wether or not women are for whatever reason going after terrible men on purpose is a reasonable doubt to get

Men never claim to be detectors of anything, we dont know that these women are after us or after what ever benefit we provide.

A significant number of us will never experience true desire directed towards us so how would we know that the attraction is faked?

Late virgins an incel like me assuming we fix up the misogyny have even less eperience to gauge it from, How in the fuck are we supposed to be able to tell?

And if we are autistic? Holy hell, we are fish in a barrel for these women

Independent-Mail-227 · 2024-02-12T20:20:24+00:00

I regularly see on here complaints about divorce and the loss of assets for me.

Premise is already wrong, you can loss your assets even if you're dating a non gold digger.

This begs the question why are they marrying women that are going to fleece them for money?

Every women is going to take men out their money unless she make substantially more money than the man because of the nature of how assets are divided and the way child support is settled the men will aways end up worse.

Surley they know if a woman earns less she can take him for a ride or are they that desperate to get laid.

Of she earned more she wouldn't be interested in the men in first place. So what?

SlowEffective8146 · 2024-02-12T21:27:17+00:00

All women are gold diggers, it just matters to what extent she is

Some women will only date a guy with a steady job, some women will only date a guy who makes 6 figs. It's all the same thing, just different levels.

Aafan_Barbarro · 2024-02-12T20:44:56+00:00

If she earns more, she can't divorce? But yes, men are desperate. They don't get to have as much choice in partners as women do.

favabeansandwine · 2024-02-12T23:00:07+00:00

Men often try to use resources as leverage in the mating arena. Yes, resources help, but when you use them to "cheat" (hit above your weight) in the mating arena, you've made the arrangement 100% transactional. And that transaction is:

HE gets to be seen with her in public (and she needs to be seen with him). And,

SHE takes all of his money.

The man believes he's getting the short end of that stick, but then again we don't know how old, fat, balding or disgusting he is.

Myself, I think they deserve each-other and the unique brand of shaming they get from "the rest of us".

TRTGymBro · 2024-02-13T11:46:41+00:00

Cause they are usually hot and men are ruled by their hormones and boners.

Oh, you really bought into the BS that men on PPD fed to you that men are rational and will take any fat ugly bitch as long as she is nice to him and that they can totally control who they are attracted to? Yeah right.

izoldetales · 2024-02-12T21:07:32+00:00

Why do women knowingly date aggressive men ?! . OP is probably a woman since he just blamed the victim which is men instead of telling people how gold digger women are piece of sh*t .Nice trick adding knowingly so people wouldn't hate women for exhibiting shitty behaviours

"Hey Mrs Patrick , do you know that your wife Angelina is a Gold digger "

"YES OF COURSE , IT'S WRITTEN ALL OVER HER "

Barely-moral · 2024-02-12T21:33:24+00:00

Why do men knowingly date gold diggers?

Any is better than none.

Being an incel is not acceptable.

I am used to the idea that I will have to pay for everything I enjoy in life. Women are just another expense.

Then why get into a relationship, let alone a marriage? At least a prostitution has a clear set "price" for the transaction.

Because prostitutes don't offer long term exclusivity as a part of the transaction. If they did, then I would pay for that service. When you think about it, a relationship comes close to said service.

Why wouldn't you do the smart thing and get a pre nup, then?

Because I don't trust in the judge. I preffer not to marry. As long as it is an option.

No one is forcing them to get married.

Being an incel is not an option. If the only way to not be an incel available to me is marriage, then marriage it is.

shockingly_bored · 2024-02-12T20:10:45+00:00

They are idiots, choosing to be dehumanised as much as the women dehumanised them

Icy-Sprinkles-638 · 2024-02-13T23:11:29+00:00

Because they all are to some degree. If she's willing to give me what I want in exchange for money then fine. Really gold diggers are the most honest women because they admit to just being in it for the money.

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ArtifactFan65 · 2024-02-12T23:52:45+00:00

Because some of us aren't attractive enough to date for free

SoldierExcelsior · 2024-02-13T13:54:10+00:00

Alot of men have an ego and they think it won't happen to them.

abaxeron · 2024-02-13T17:12:08+00:00

Men are stupid. They love women and think that women love them back. But we're working on fixing it.

FutureBannedAccount2 · 2024-02-13T19:27:20+00:00

Probably the same reason women marry men who abuse them would be my guess

operatowers · 2024-02-13T19:32:07+00:00

A woman who earns more wants a man who earns even more.

Most of the women who will date me are those who have less than me. Ask women why that is. We just deal with it.

alebruto · 2024-02-15T04:11:04+00:00

Men are not a monolith

Men who knowingly date gold diggers and men who complain about being scammed by gold diggers are different men.

A man who knowingly dates a gold digger does not complain, in the same way that men who hire prostitutes do not complain about them.

boom-wham-slam · 2024-02-15T12:54:57+00:00

First off, romantic involvement with a gold digger and marriage in general are two completely different things.

Your post and most comments are completely nonsensical because they are not from people who have any experience with this stuff at all.

I'm personally sick of women being "in love" with me. It makes for the shittiest relationships. I want someone who shares my vision for life, values, wants to live my lifestyle with me. Love is yuck, it's women who act jealous, possessive, randomly demand marriage and a baby even if they never wanted those things.... because love changed their minds. Pain in my fucking ass. Men always want more logical women, well logical as a woman is to be some kind of a gold digger. That really makes the most sense. But it makes them so much easier to deal with.

It would be so much simpler to date a woman who didn't love me but finds me hot, likes to travel, enjoys my company, etc.

So thats the whole point of a "gold digger" is that they are held to much higher standards. Both with looks and how they behave.

Now I'm not going to date some sugar baby or anything that's gross but ofc I don't work so I go to the gym and look good, I have money to go on trips, I have a nice house... any woman that even talks to me is a gold digger because she will benefit from my money. How would I even know who is who? It's not possible. So why even bother stressing over it?

I don't see a woman that talks about values and lifestyle and expectations being bad but good. I am hesitant about the girl who just goes gaga eyes for me and doesn't talk about that stuff first.

Lastly. True women with high standards are more attractive. A woman who only dates multimillionaire men would have my attention far more than some girl who just broke up with her ex who worked at McDonald's. Yuck. I like women with the highest standards (I qualify for). But so does every other man and thus most men are broke and therefore most men don't like gold diggers (because they can't get one).

I mean while yall fighting over schlubby women who nag you, I have someone hot asf, dresses hot all the time, brings me beer or food and serves me, fucks me anytime I want, doesn't nag or argue with me, and most importantly... is someone who wouldn't sleep with you all in a million years. Lol. And guess what? She still loves me but she just has high standards and so do I. That's all it is.

I have two girlfriends and one is the gaga love, she just met me out and we clicked and for months she didn't realize I was wealthy. She's a bit pain in my ass, like all my exgfs who she just needs to be near me and wants me to marry her to show our love and yadda yadda bullshit and smothers me. My other girlfriend we laid out expectations and marriage is not one of them and that's that. She's much easier to deal with. We both agree love isn't enough and if she's not pleasing to me she's gone, and if I don't make her feel taken care of she would leave... but it's not even about money, it's more about care. I have zero financial requirement for her. I don't have to pay anything to keep her. But I do have the expectation to not lean on her for money or financials (which she tells me is very common for men to want to do when a woman is as successful as she is).

Those are my thoughts from an actual wealthy man who doesn't mind and actually thinks some kind of gold digger mentality is better than not. That being said I don't find gold digger types much and I wish I did.

The real trick is a woman with high standards ie rich men only, who also is not nuts and bolts about it, ie I need xyz allowance or marriage with no prenup. That's imo the highest quality woman. 👌

Title	Why do men knowingly date gold diggers?
Author	spanglesandbambi
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Date	February 12, 2024 5:29 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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