I once matched with this man on a dating app awhile ago. I remember he looked a little above average at best, shared a few common interests with me,…

Fast forward after chatting for a few days, I agreed to have a conversation with him on FaceTime and it became one of the most irritating experiences I have had in awhile. He looked and sounded like a straight-up neck beard through the the phone. He appeared 30 lbs + heavier than his photos, not well groomed at all.

He immediately “went after” me in a condescending tone, “So, I’m sure behind those pretty photos, you’re just a girl who just wants to be loved and protected.” 🤡 I was genuinely confused by his words and replied back, “Huh? Well, I am dating and putting myself out there to meet new people.”

He doubled down on this ridiculous act, saying “Well, did I make you nervous? Seems like no one besides me has ever cared about you before to ask that question? I know all women who like to act tough, deep down just want a guy to love and protect them.”

At this point, I could sense an incel vibe coming from him, I told him he is reaching for something that is not there, I just wanted to have a casual and fun conversation, you know, like a normal person with actual social skills. He got offended and accused me of “trying to act tough instead of opening up and being vulnerable”. I realized men like this who are unable to uphold a fun and interesting personality; Instead, they target emotionally unstable, possibly mentally ill, women who are insecure and would jump into an opportunity to trauma bond with someone, thinking that it’s “destined love”.

He was fighting for his life to bring out the daddy issues in me that I never even had in the first place 😅. He began throwing out random triggers, such as “oh you know, I bet in the past, guys leave you after sex, maybe now you’re scared of intimacy”. I was confused but didn’t have the energy to explain to him why he was wrong. I sat back and listened to him talk. He tried and tried to get me to share any trauma that I had, which I think he would use it to manipulate me later. Too bad for him, I was lucky enough to have a fairly normal childhood and sheltered life growing up. I seemed to have nothing for him to attack me on.

I gave him a funny look and told him “look, this isn’t a movie, I think you’re being really weird and awkward” then hung up. He’s blocked forever.