What is your honest opinions on subs such as r/dating, r/dating_advice, and r/seduction?

LiftSushiDallas · 2022-01-19T12:25:10+00:00

Most of the posters on r/dating and r/dating_advice are very young, very immature, or both. 90% of the posts are, "Why didn't she respond to my SnapChat?" "Does this guy like me or...?"

livs4dietdrpepper · 2022-01-19T13:26:35+00:00

Not feeling like I was getting honest advice was what brought me here. I was explaining some problems I had and they were all very kind but it was very much just “don’t settle” or “it will happen when it happens” true in theory I guess but I was looking to do a little more analysis on what exactly was happening and why and how I could help/fix it.

I also feel like there’s a lot of young people on there that are just crushing. There’s like 100 “how do I talk to my crush” a day

Seduction is wild too. I feel like they just are pretty ignorant when it comes to what women are looking for even in a ONS. They don’t listen to women’s opinions over there because of the whole “don’t ask a fish how to catch a fish” thing which I get a tiny bit, but I just see some crazy shit over there that would end so terrible. The guys who are “good puas” over there are just attractive guys.

KingWhoCared86 · 2022-01-19T11:53:11+00:00

I’ll chime in to offer my useless opinion when applicable but for me personally the issues I have with dating are more complex than what can be solved with a simple subreddit thread.

meddit-throwaway · 2022-01-19T13:06:07+00:00

r/dating and r/dating_advice are echo chambers. I was banned for simply stating my opinion.

No Soapboxing Or Promoting An Agenda. This means keeping red pill, seduction/PUA, incel, pinkpill, purplepill, FDS, and blackpill material out of r/dating

So literally only blue pill advice is welcome on r/dating, there is a very limited perspective and almost no free discussion. Take it for what you will.

StarchRunner · 2022-01-19T12:34:55+00:00

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iammybiggestenemy · 2022-01-19T13:41:52+00:00

they give up and abandon relationships way too easily

iamthemovie1992 · 2022-01-19T12:51:19+00:00

r/seduction is the stupidest subreddit ever. The tips and strategies they use don’t work unless you’re actually attractive. One time I saw a dude say “when you’re at a bar, order a drink next to a girl you find cute, and then go sit down and wait for her to come to you”. And his photos on his profile showed he was what most women consider attractive, but he’s talking like it’s all his game. Nah man, it’s not your game, if you spent any time trying the same shit as an average man you’d fail. Which is why it should be required to show what you look like on there when you give out “advice”. Ugh. That, and it’s got the same PUA bullshit that doesn’t actually work and just makes you a nuisance in public

r/dating and r/dating_advice is mostly female centric, so women will give men advice on what they want them to be, and maybe on being a decent partner. But don’t go to r/dating for advice on how to get laid. Women are terrible at giving men advice for that

wtknight · 2022-01-19T16:40:30+00:00

Advice from dating subs is too Blue Pill for me. Advice from a sub like seduction is too Red Pill. I think that game and strategy are important but so are emotional bonds. It seems like the subs on both side of the spectrum don’t want to acknowledge the importance of both of these things.

san_2003 · 2022-01-19T11:47:41+00:00

Those subs are filled with women with the ‘it’ll happen sooner or later’ mentality. Useless pretty much.

Mustbeaight · 2022-01-19T13:25:41+00:00

It’s embarrassing how everyone just skated around the issues with fake platitudes and when you do point out the obvious you get downvoted to helll lol

Film2021 · 2022-01-19T13:58:29+00:00

I think it’s mostly bullshit, with some okay advice sprinkled in there.

The bottom line is that there are some things that are simply out of your control - race, height, facial features. Literally in no universe ever will the 5’5 Indian guy with busted teeth pull more than the 6’4 blonde football player with the massive torso and arms. I think these subreddits like to ignore that.

And I think this sub is basically just men hating women and women hating men.

trololol_daman · 2022-01-19T23:32:47+00:00

r/dating is full with young inexperienced people and older people that are out of touch with modern dating. r/dating_advice is pure dogshit that won’t get you anywhere unless you’re socially retarded and most posters there are out of touch with dating anyways.

r/seduction is full of redpill incels in denial that have somehow deluded themselves that they can somehow “generate attraction” with a woman through mind games and linguistics completely ignoring the fact that they are bald manlet genetic dead ends.

goneaway2thewind · 2022-01-19T12:40:10+00:00

It isn't very insightful like RP or PPD, you will get your generic advice there but never to really learn anything. Just one dimensional responses to situations. It'll be summed up with "move on" or "communicate" in every thread.

Ineedmyownname · 2022-01-19T12:38:23+00:00

They probably have good intentions but I wouldn't believe them if they said they actually struggled with dating once, it just feels like the dudes answering are outsiders looking in our hole. Also, while telling people how to fit in the status quo is fine, they really need to acknowledge it when something is just unfair and that in an ideal world you shouldn't need to work your way around it, like the men-approach-women dynamic.

prettymuchredpilled · 2022-01-19T22:25:21+00:00

/r/dating and /r/dating_advice are quite useless (for both genders), but can be quite entertaining to read. /r/seduction is decent for young men starting out.

xDankHorse · 2022-01-20T00:04:48+00:00

For r/seduction some of their advice is good and some of their advice isn't so good. If you've ever read PUA books or articles from "gurus"; many of them are guys who say they're highly successful with girls and get laid a lot, and have easily slept with 50+ girls. In addition, they tell you that if you follow their advice, you too can get laid just as much as they can. But I don't think this is necessarily true.

For one thing, a lot of attraction comes down to your looks which a lot of is due to genetics and factors outside of your control. Some people simply have more potential than others; A 6 ft 1, naturally muscular, neurotypical man, is almost always going to pull more than a 5 ft 3 balding autistic guy. Secondly, the man who has slept with 50+ girls, unless you're a rockstar, you'd probably have to spend a lot of time interacting with women like it's a full time job. Most guys either don't have the time nor the desire to do that.

Sleight_Hotne · 2022-01-19T15:29:49+00:00

Those subs are like "My SO (34M) of 10 years, (30F) forgot to place the milk back in the fridge, is this a red flag?"

Then you have responses on the level of, "That age disparity just shows he is abusing of you. My former husband also left the milk outside before he physically abuse me."

Also a lots of 13 year olds sharing their magnificent and insightful view of the world.

awaythrow1234588 · 2022-01-19T13:30:40+00:00

Seduction is not bad.

The dating subs , always suggest break ups for small and dumb reasons.

Eg . "My boyfriends alarm keeps waking me up" The dating advice - "That's a red flag , leave now OP , his a misogynist "

ProfitHour4768 · 2022-01-19T15:25:38+00:00

I honestly didnt kniw r/seduction existet, thanks for the info

ruboyuri · 2022-01-19T16:01:19+00:00

I guess people have to learn somewhere, although the internet, people, come on

Obj3ctivePerspective · 2022-01-19T18:38:03+00:00

Lots of lost souls of all ages

LateralThinker13 · 2022-01-19T20:47:07+00:00

Mostly useless. Mostly blue-pill, feels-good advice, especially from the rah-rah-you-go-girl crowd, that doesn't do jack for healthy LTRs.

UnitedIntroduction48 · 2022-01-19T12:35:26+00:00

Useless, because normal healthy people stay away from these subs

lulll · 2022-01-19T14:00:00+00:00

seduction is just the same pua garbage mystery method shit that hasnt changed in 20 years

Mark_Freed · 2022-01-19T11:42:08+00:00

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heyitsjeape · 2022-01-19T13:45:04+00:00

I haven’t looked at them. Advice doesn’t work for me. I have learned to steer clear.

TakeTheVaccine · 2022-01-19T14:50:54+00:00

They basically shame eachother if a man knows his worth and calls him insecure, it’s fucking cancerous

Ohmaygahh · 2022-01-19T15:17:37+00:00

Honest opinion? /dating misses the mark often. /advice is sad in that soo many guys just don't get it, and feel the need to ask a world of strangers on what to do on the micro level. /seduction at times gets close to what is really going on, and what works and what doesn't for men to attract and seduce women.

IntegrateTheShadows · 2022-01-19T15:48:22+00:00

50% of the answers there are “Dump him!” The other 50% are “Dump her!”

anonymousUser1SHIFT · 2022-01-19T16:16:22+00:00

Not to take the advice from these subs. Most of the time the answer is "Man up and change" or "he is the worst person in the world break up with him this instant". Never any actual advice.

CatchPhraze · 2022-01-19T16:34:06+00:00

Hilarious or sad. Little in-between n

ShinyBronze · 2022-01-19T17:07:18+00:00

The first two are horrifically blue pilled subs. None of the advice is good, and there is absolutely no critical thinking in those subs.

Seduction seems to be very red pilled. Who knows how true those stories are.

UnregisteredDomain · 2022-01-19T17:18:00+00:00

I would never take an issue I had with someone to the internet. Either talk to someone who knows you both, talk to a licensed therapist, or the best one is just talk to them like an adult.

No matter how hard you try, you cannot remain a neutral party and will always have a bias to your side of the issue. Even if by all accounts it appears to be ‘neutral’, there is always another side. And without either knowing the other person, or with the professional training to read between the lines, you aren’t guaranteed to find worth while advice.

BedRottle · 2022-01-19T17:28:11+00:00

You gotta see the subreddit overlaps to see what kind of advice you’re going to get.

Most of the relationship subs are dominated by women who give terrible advice.

The PUA/RP overlaps are mostly wrongthink.

Smitten_Squire · 2022-01-19T21:53:53+00:00

Most of it is feel good advice and virtue signal.

downvote_to_feed_me · 2022-01-19T22:43:29+00:00

Too many white knight cucks on those subs to ever get any legitimate advice. The moment you start talking in real world terms you get banned. If the topic has an ugly truth to it that even the cuck brains can't deny, the mods will just lock the topic.

Connect-Taste175 · 2022-01-20T01:46:58+00:00

cancer

1962_beta-simp · 2022-01-20T06:25:46+00:00

I did read into some as reddit suggests them (dont know why)

It is gringe a.F.

If i'd be a woman my toe curls would roll up on such men.

DaphneDK42 · 2022-01-20T07:02:52+00:00

Most dating & relationship advice on Reddit is made by women and from a female perspective. 90% of advice is "seek counsulling / therapy"

ogsimpology · 2022-01-20T08:14:04+00:00

On a different account, I used to post advice, and it always got showered with rewards and upvotes.

These people are lost and very uneducated about dating... Since a lot of things I see there are clueless and the answers to their issues are obvious...

VanVahlen · 2022-01-20T10:44:26+00:00

As useless and meaningless as all the others

studiocel · 2022-01-20T19:19:11+00:00

I hate FDS but they actually spit more facts than most bluepilled reddit subs

Kentucky_Supreme · 2022-01-20T22:50:28+00:00

I got banned from them for simply stating the verifiable fact that women can get matches on dating apps 100x easier than men. One mod even called me an "incel".

They have no grasp on reality at all. I don't know how they expect useful advice to come out of these subs if they can't even simply acknowledge reality in the first place.

Most of the advice I saw in those subs were the same old BS non-answers the mainstream pushes.

"Just be yourself."

"Just be confident."

"Men and women are completely equal in every way except their genitals."

They're simply echo chambers for mainstream generic advice that gets you nothing.

Any_Championship_654 · 2022-01-23T23:15:15+00:00

Absolute cesspits of delusion and bad advice. Decent advice is like a needle in a haystack, and opinions that are not explicitly pro-woman in every situation are banned.

itsslolaa · 2022-01-19T15:53:31+00:00

Useless, it favours male views.

Title	What is your honest opinions on subs such as r/dating, r/dating_advice, and r/seduction?
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Date	January 19, 2022 10:48 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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