As a man, your personality can never make up for your lack of looks or status. All it can do is make a woman pity date you to feel more safe

There's tons of examples of women on here and just in the world in general who constantly go on and on about how some man they dated wasn't exactly their type or how their neighbor dated a 5'4 goblin because of how funny he was or how some dude with a dental disease just married a 10. This is somehow seen as an achievement, as proof or evidence that women don't care about the man's shallow traits that much.

But this is a fundamental flaw. It helps to try to answer this by wondering why a woman decides to care about a man's looks or status or resources that much. The answer is simple: it's to ultimately satisfy her selfish desires. And what is one of the most sought after desires by women? Feeling secure that a man won't cheat on her.

When a woman dates a guy below her league, it's not because she's some angel sent down by God who decides to overlook his looks for his charming personality. It's because she literally looks down on him. She fundamentally disrespects him so much to the point that he is seen as a guy who would never cheat on her. She is not dating him because she genuinely loves him any more. Which is why these kinds of relationships end up in r/DeadBedrooms so much.

She is dating him because she sees him as so inferior to her that she can't ever imagine him leaving her. She is dating him because of pure and unadulterated narcissism. Any sort of relationship where a severe power imbalance exists like this never ends well. It may last "longer" but only because women want to drag it out for as long as they can in hopes of security.