Many women get treated horribly by men so when they have kids, they want their sons to be the opposite of the men they dated/married and by doing that, they push them to the opposite spectrum by having them be very respectful and nice to women which works in theory but not in practice. We’re usually taught always treat women with respect and care and to be a gentleman but we’re never really taught how we should be treated by women which is why many guys go overboard to be nice, getting many gifts, always making the moves without there being any reciprocation. My mother gave me the usual advice of never taking advantage of someone, be yourself, be sensitive etc which is good advice but I never knew when I was getting taken advantaged of because I was never taught that so I learned reality the painful way. Even then I would blame myself as being the problem and it was my fault for things going wrong when it actually wasn’t. I struggled a lot with dating until I had to teach myself and stand up for myself which now worked and I’m concerned about how women treat me as well. Funny thing is when my mom found out about my struggles after I told her, she was shocked and surprised that her son had trouble with dating and apologized and felt bad for me for being very nice which is not really good. She realized that women can be just as abusive as men. I have two other brothers who have also had some struggles with dating because of the advice which has now opened her eyes. TLDR: Mothers project their fears onto their sons by making them pay for the sins of the men who treated them badly which ultimately ends with the sons being abused by the women in their life.