Men who are concerned with lack of women in their life, have you even tried maximizing your chances?

No_Mammoth8801 · 2024-04-02T22:14:16+00:00

I've almost always said yes to every social situation I've been invited to. And I will say that like most men with below Chad-tier genetics, I do far better in real life settings than I have off of apps.

That said, real-life settings are not the promised land of women who are single and ready to mingle. Charisma, wit, and conversational skills are more relevant sure, but looks are still by far the most important trait, full stop. It's better than dating apps but its marginal.

It also helps to have people that actively want to go out a lot and aren't tied down by relationships of their own. As you get into your late 20s, finding and having these people in your life to go to these events with becomes harder and harder.

Obtainable20 · 2024-04-02T21:38:24+00:00

Bro, your greatly overestimating the options unattractive men have. If you're not desired somewhere, you might as well be invisible there. Going out and maximizing your options might help but rejection gets tiring and not a lot of people can handle constantly getting turned up.

It's dating 101. Maximizing your options and exposing yourself to as many women as possible. It doesn't always work if you're not visually attractive.

bottleblank · 2024-04-03T02:14:59+00:00

People who are concerned with drowning, have you even tried breathing?

Whiskeymyers75 · 2024-04-02T22:35:59+00:00

How much do these girls weigh?

Currentlycurious1 · 2024-04-02T22:04:48+00:00

Some men just don't have attractive personalities. I interact with women all the time: I'm on multiple co-ed sports teams, I go to gym, go to bars, I wait tables, have multiple friend groups. I haven't had a date in years.

In my experience women like himbo personalities: guys who aren't too introspective, don't consider others when interacting with them, overly confident, narcissism, don't harbour doubts or reservations...

Aafan_Barbarro · 2024-04-03T06:10:49+00:00

The designated chad humble bragging thread where OP acts shocked that unattractive men exist.

sixsevenrice · 2024-04-02T21:35:27+00:00

Some men are just fucked dude. Imagine being a 5'5 bald guy with no chin.

Edit: Some of you are getting confused. I'm not a 5'5 chinless bald guy. It's just an example.

stats135 · 2024-04-02T22:19:18+00:00

The only strategy I employ is going places where there will be plenty of women every single day. Mostly bars. But that's because I enjoy drinking.

The thing that "maximizes your chances" is also a thing you enjoy. For many people it is simply not the case.

They can do things they don't enjoy, but maximizes their chances. Or do things they do enjoy, but don't increase their chances. It seems like both strategies get shit on around here.

CatholicChanner · 2024-04-02T22:13:34+00:00

I am not concerned with the lack of women in my life, I am concerned with the lack of quality women in my life. If I really wanted to I could probably dumpster dive and/or go hard with volume to find people for sex but I just don't give a shit about that.

FreitasAlan · 2024-04-03T00:45:27+00:00

You don’t go on dates and have sex every other week? You’re killing it. Statistically you’re having way more sex than “the gatekeepers” of sex, so you’re pretty above the vast majority of men almost by definition. I know men who are really average (like 5/10), like drinking, go out every weekend, and have sex like once every two years. I have more than that but it’s still a lot of work. Are your dates from online dating? Even getting these many matches converted into dates means you’re not average at all. If it’s not online dating, that’s even more impressive.

PMmeareasontolive · 2024-04-02T22:57:05+00:00

In my late twenties I realized bars aren't that fun anymore. Plus, the women who would be the best match for me aren't hanging out at bars and clubs, except perhaps once in a blue moon. But haunting bars in hopes you'll meet that person becomes pathetic after a while. Even then; it's good advice, but not everyone lives in a hipster neighborhood with nice bars (the kind women like). Add in Uber and the price of drinks these days and it becomes prohibitive economically, and again, just sort of ridiculous.

But I agree with you in principle. You have to go where the fish are at if you want a fish.

Green-Quantity1032 · 2024-04-02T22:50:42+00:00

You mean sex every other week with a new girl or you have a fwb?

You're at the bar every single day?

Do you have sex on same night or date her and she becomes fwb?

We need details dude, stats!

SecondEldenLord · 2024-04-03T09:14:34+00:00

Seen many dudes like yourself saying "I am not Chad and I fuck every week" then it turns put they are actually a Chad but they want to feel gratified for their skill instead of their lucky genetic win.

I had been to many social settings, a shit ton back in my 20s. Bars, clubs, events, you name them. I am a short unattractive who never had a gf or even a hook up. Got rejected every single time, even got a few slaps, got spat on and also accuse of sexual harassment, and all of that because those women felt insulted by my apperreances.

And yes, I tried pretty much everything to maximise my chances: better clothes, gym, better hair and facial hair, accessories, and so on. Nothing worked, it got me female friends, but that's about it. I am blamed all of the time for the lack of succes with women despite my best efforts and most people who blame me of my lack of success never been there, they lack the knowledge of why I had been rejected and how and what I had done and not done.

alebruto · 2024-04-02T21:50:47+00:00

I don't think this is unpopular, as no one associates it with fun.

But definitely this is quite useful and quite safe.

Agile-Explanation263 · 2024-04-03T10:41:58+00:00

I have grown to fucking loathe people in general. Im so tired of hearing people say they're surprised by how funny I am.

I believe every woman is chad only, I also view maximizing my chances as nothing but a looks based game, my personality was never bad but is now more openly becoming trash as I feel the contrast of how people treat me different because I look better.

I usually try to be kind to strangers but to people I know I'm nice and funny, give life advice then ghost them or treat them like they don't exist soon as they're not in front of me. Thinking of disappearing on my current job.

Only took me a year to basically own the store and go through each level or promotion.

My life is scarce of people to remind me why living and interacting is worth it. Imagine going from being laughed at just for existing to co workers hitting you up who you KNOW would be making fun of you if you were still 80lbs heavier.

OrdinaryFarmer · 2024-04-02T22:07:12+00:00

How old are you? What's the quality of women you get with? Are all or most of them fat?

Don't you think going to the same places and always asking out and trying to get with women would make you seem desperate or creepy, to the point of potentually getting a negative reputation in that place. "that desperate guy that's always trying with any woman here"

AcephalicDude · 2024-04-02T23:20:29+00:00

You're really hooking up with bar randos every other week? That's gross lol

CatholicChanner · 2024-04-03T00:40:45+00:00

I guess I could also get more women/higher chance of a gf and certainly more sex if I sociopathmaxxxed and engaged in lying/manipulation/emotional abuse like some men do. But that would be lowering myself and putting on some kind of act so I'm disinclined to do it.

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AloneOnTheStrange · 2024-04-03T04:02:37+00:00

I'm sure from reading a lot of these reports that a lot of people live in places where socialising is treated very differently.

I live in a medium sized city, which tends to be fairly quiet except on Fridays and Saturdays. People are very closed off to socialising with strangers. No one talks at gyms. Even getting a "Hey" back is hard. There are a lot of weirdos and ferrals around, so people have their guards up in bars.

I've joined clubs, but they're also kind of anti-social. You can get some small talk out of people, but most just turn up, do their thing, and leave. Even uni tends to be like that a lot of the time.

The best options I've had is when your workplace has a good social scene that you can join.

Tokimonatakanimekat · 2024-04-03T10:25:49+00:00

Would you consider going LTR and marrying any of these bar women though?

SoldierExcelsior · 2024-04-03T00:56:58+00:00

It seems like you're describing cold approaching.Go to a bar or club talk to women and hope you get lucky,and this can certainly work it's worked for me on occasion,but not enough to justify the cost and effort ..Getting to the bar getting home from the bar paying for the drinks one beer is $10 plus food or a cover it's a club,it's atleast $30 just to walk through the door...

Honestly if you just want sex, in 2024 bars,clubs and cold approaching women just isn't it especially when they are out here selling it wholesale..You can sleep with a woman everyday of the week for far less time money and effort.

I think it's good for guys on their 20s to get out their and experience things and atleast see where they fit in,he could be a Chad in bloom.If you start going out and you have good experiences and you attract women easily good keep at it but if you're struggling hang it up save your money and time, there's better options.

caption291 · 2024-04-03T23:51:06+00:00

There's an interesting thing that happens when you ask people to estimate how much luck played a factor in the outcome of a game.

The losers slightly overestimate it and the winners underestimate how much factors outside of their control mattered.

Why? Because the more it's about "skills" the more their win means and people don't give them as much pushback as they really should because it makes them look like sore losers without really taking away from their loss but shitting on losers basically only makes your win more important without taking much away from your win.

Anyways, all that to say I'm going to guess you're at least 6'2 and attractive enough to be considered a Chad.

caption291 · 2024-04-03T23:51:12+00:00

There's an interesting thing that happens when you ask people to estimate how much luck played a factor in the outcome of a game.

The losers slightly overestimate it and the winners underestimate how much factors outside of their control mattered.

Why? Because the more it's about "skills" the more their win means and people don't give them as much pushback as they really should because it makes them look like sore losers without really taking away from their loss but shitting on losers basically only makes your win more important without taking much away from your win.

Anyways, all that to say I'm going to guess you're at least 6'2 and attractive enough to be considered a Chad.

More-Tax-62 · 2024-04-03T00:16:14+00:00

This sub is filled with mentally unwell/ nihilistic men whose negative views of themselves manifests in revolting/ unappealing personalities and lethargy for improving their conditions. Getting rid of those negative thoughts alone can go a long way.

My hairline was receding in my early 20s - barbers struggled to line me up. By 24, I was out here looking like Vegeta. I started to just shave all my hair around that time. The women who like it, love it.

I'm 5'6 and have been turned down a lot for it. It's is what it is. There are things I do so as to not draw attention to this such as wearing well fitting clothing and getting all my pants tailored/ tapered. I generally wear nice boots when I go out. Thursday Boots is my favorite.

Many more things I could go into like being a gym afficionado, sports, hygiene, colonges. Some level of humor.

Title	Men who are concerned with lack of women in their life, have you even tried maximizing your chances?
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Date	April 2, 2024 9:08 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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