Even a 35 yo man has these same meltdowns but they're the logical sex!!!

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-11-04T19:41:56+00:00

As expected men are being extremely emotional in the notes. So funny they get auto blocked and no one will ever see their irrational emotionality. 🤷‍♀️

If a scrote screams in the notes and it's auto blocked, does it make a sound?

Astral_weaver · 2020-11-04T12:32:10+00:00

Hahaha, even the worst teenage angst tantrums by me and my sister were nothing compared with the tantrums my brothers threw at EVERYONE.

And guess who has their shit together emotionally even now in adulthood.

Not my brothers.

_xyoungbellax_ · 2020-11-04T12:03:14+00:00

Most men stonewall their partners and family too. Go completely silent when they are being said to do basic things for the welfare of the relationship or the family. It's a form of withholding of emotions so that they don't have to communicate and keep acting like an infant who can't speak and ultimately the work has to be done by the partner or the respective family member. That's an emotional response too. If they were really the logical sex, they would not give the silent treatment and do things without having being told to repeatedly.

strcrssdvoyager · 2020-11-04T11:53:29+00:00

I tell people this all the time! Men are extremely emotional beings.

Punching a wall when your football team loses is an emotional response. Screaming at other drivers on the road is an emotional response. Throwing your video game controller at the television is an emotional response. Throwing a fit when someone asks you to clean is an emotional response.

Novemberinthechair · 2020-11-04T12:48:08+00:00

Why do people keep insisting that men are less emotional!? Jfc, how many mass shootings, wars and genocide do men have to initiate before this becomes fucking mythology?

PessimisticAna · 2020-11-04T13:51:23+00:00

Anger is an emotion.

When a man displays it they're seen as logical.

But when a woman does we're called over emotional

shesacarver · 2020-11-04T14:46:37+00:00

Ugh. My brother is crazy emotional and sensitive. He threw angry tantrums up until his twenties, and my parents never did anything about it. Meanwhile I was the calm one so if I ever got angry (even when it was justifiable) or argued with my parents, I got punished for it and sometimes even kicked out. I was the emotionally mature one so I was held to a much higher standard because I “knew better”. Well, maybe my brother would’ve known better too if my parents had actually fucking disciplined him.

Being a woman fucking sucks.

just-peepin-at-u · 2020-11-04T13:40:49+00:00

Maybe it is because what men say and do is acknowledged with more legitimacy from the get go, so their overly emotional responses are either pacified out of fear and exhaustion, or assumed to be logical? Like, men freak out, but society says their anger is justified, even if it isn’t.

Whereas women are punished for speaking up for ourselves and instantly told we are not logical whenever we don’t do what men want. It is the default if they are right, we are wrong.

So anytime we speak up, it is irrational because how dare we don’t do what those logical men want!

_xyoungbellax_ · 2020-11-04T11:47:23+00:00

Yea I hate it when men say they are more rational. I mean have you seen them watching football or sports. They literally get into fight or scream over some sports team.

KAT_85 · 2020-11-04T15:07:08+00:00

Most teenage boys I've known have gone through an angry outburst stage somewhere between 13 and 16-ish. My brother in law is very intelligent, an engineering PhD student, etc. I've known him since he was 10. Between those ages he would melt down and try to punch my husband (10 years older) if he was told that he had to conform to family expectations. Basically, only my husband and my father in law could get him to do anything. And by "get him to do anything," I mean some male person had to physically drag him out of bed for school, had to block his access to adult content on the home computer, had to make the computer shut down at a particular time so that he wasn't online until 2 AM on a school night... He's mostly grown out of that stage now that he's in his 20s, but it's laughable to say that only teenage girls have trouble learning to handle their newly-formed social/emotional/sexual consciousness. We just expect them to grow up sooner and to not express negative emotions publicly. Right or wrong, that level of self control takes longer to cultivate.

honcho713 · 2020-11-04T13:31:57+00:00

Males go through an entire hormonal cycle EVERYDAY. Completely unpredictable.

Silverpool2018 · 2020-11-04T13:26:04+00:00

Haha. I've heard while growing up that boys' teen years are tough on parents because they are troublesome and hyper..and girls are responsible and "emotionally mature".

Way to treat us as designated therapists from the day we're born.

eveninghope · 2020-11-04T14:15:52+00:00

And boys get placated bc otherwise they throw violent fits so they turn into low EQ adults who don’t even realize they’re being emotional so assume they must be LoGiCaL and anyone who tries to compel them to be empathetic is crazy.

Sewud · 2020-11-04T13:00:50+00:00

They definitely catch the parents' attention more. When my parents took my brother's Ethernet cable he trashed the house and punched holes in walls. Same scenario repeated itself with my other brother. Also if my two brothers fought each other my parents would immediately intervene and take it seriously.

Me? I didn't have a computer because "girls don't like computers" and I got bullied by my two older brothers constantly and my parents never tried to intervene. Instead of responding by kicking down doors I'd just cry and that went fully unnoticed because I guess a girl crying is nothing special.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-11-04T14:47:43+00:00

I would make that little boy clean the whole kitchen for that. Imagine how she's spoiling her children that her 14-year-old is throwing a fit he has to do something so simple?

Meadow97 · 2020-11-04T16:09:41+00:00

One thing i have noticed is that men seem to think being emotional means to cry hence why they say men aren't emotional. Yet anger is an emotional response, so is annoyance, the silent treatment ect

Waste-Win · 2020-11-04T13:40:03+00:00

This is what I've been saying all the f time! Man are just as emotional but they don't even learn how to identify their emotions

sexxxybae · 2020-11-04T16:33:43+00:00

40 and over men have them too. I was so used to my ex and his "tantrums" that when i would talk to other guys and they said they had a bad day at work, I was surprised they weren't pissed. Not all guys are like this but some definitely are...

Solaresa · 2020-11-04T20:03:18+00:00

Oh my god, I get so so mad about people's weird opinions on children and gender.

My sister has two boys, and when she found out she was having her second, she was thrilled. Talking all about how much easier boy toddlers are than girls, how much easier puberty will be, etc...

The only reason anyone thinks it's so much better to have boys is because we have been socialised to accept men/boys' temper tantrums and emotions at any age, but women/girls are expected to behave like civilised adults and caretakers from birth.

Let children be children, understand that puberty hits everyone like a ton of bricks, and stop forcing your weird sexism onto your kids.

HaveNoIdeaWhatToPick · 2020-11-04T16:20:10+00:00

People really need to understand that not showing emotions does not equal not having them. Secondly, just because someone has emotions that does not mean this person is incapable of logical thinking and automatically gets controlled by their emotions. Last, but not least emotional side of the brain is extremely undervalued considering that having it is necessary for healthy human connections and cooperation.

chateauduchat · 2020-11-04T18:10:59+00:00

My narc ex demon: "You're so emotional and immature, is it that time of the month? Are you on the rag?" (me, crying because I told him I'm hurt from all the yelling he does at me and I repeatedly told him I can't talk to him when he's yelling at me because it's disrespectful)

Also my narc ex demon: \constantly verbally and mentally abusing me, punches my tv, throws a brick through my window door, shattering all the pieces, threatens to throw away my deceased cat, threatens to tie up my pet snake to a tree**

MEN ARE SHIT AT EMOTIONALLY CONTROLLING THEMSELVES.

MemberBenefits · 2020-11-04T13:23:16+00:00

Yep I always thought I’d have boys because It’ll be easygoing but lucky i had girls.

m00nsh1n · 2020-11-04T15:58:12+00:00

Only girl in a family full of boys here.

This is such BS! I won't say I'm an angel, but I can safely say that I haven't smashed up an entire room or choke my younger sister out of anger.

Men are the most irrational sex, but gaslight you into thinking it's your fault.

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veruscka · 2020-11-04T17:19:01+00:00

Ah, memories of my brother smashing our Nintendo/Super Nintendo/Sega Genesis because he lost a game...

People who expect boys to be less emotional are actively contribute to the social conditioning of boys/men to suppress negative emotions.

4E4ME · 2020-11-04T20:04:54+00:00

Look, I don't disagree with this woman, or with the other commenters here that their family members have acted ridiculously, but there is some responsibility on the part of the parents if children are acting out this way.

I'll give you an example; I was having a conversation with my kid the other day about how we handle disappointments in our house, vs how the family of a friend of his handles things.

My kid told me that he was playing a video game with his friend, and he didn't get the avatar that he wanted (the game selects the avatar). So he was like "oh that sucks" and moved on. His friend also didn't get the avatar that she wanted and she had a full-on meltdown, such that the mom came into the room, figured out between sobs what was going on, consoled the kid about how awful it was that she didn't get what she wanted, and went back and reset the game. These are 10 year olds. A full-on sobbing meltdown? What?

How does a 10yo get to that point? Because their parents have not taught them how to deal with disappointment. Because they have always rushed in and fixed these little things. Because they always give in when the child whines that they don't want to do the dishes. Maybe they don't make the kid do the dishes, or other chores, at all.

This particular parent has admitted to me that she doesn't want her child to cry, ever. I've been witness to this kid starting other fights with kids and the mom always rushes in and defends her daughter, regardless of what actually happened or who actually started the ruckus. The mom never makes her kid admit her responsibility for the fight nor apologize for her part in it.

You want to know how our boys are becoming entitled? Because we as parents are enabling that kind of behavior. I mean in my example of a kid I actually know it's a girl, but these are the parenting attitudes that affect all kids.

My kid doesn't like to load the dishwasher either. Do I care? No, because we have obligations to one another as a family, which translates to responsibilities to our community, which includes respecting and adhering to the boundaries of others. I don't let my kids get away with disrespecting me in my own home because while they are little home is their whole world and they need to learn about boundaries from the very start.

I really hope that I am completely off base about this particular woman and that she is a HVW trying to raise HV men. I know I keep harping on parenting issues in this sub but I think there are a lot of young women here who have yet to become parents and I like to speak out to parents and parents-to-be to raise their conciousness, and not to do things the way many of us were raised. I can't change the adult men in my life, but I will be god damned if I end up raising rapists. It all starts with teaching kids boundaries from the very beginning.

2020-11-04T17:45:17+00:00

My brother would scare me when he’d throw his tantrums in his teenage years. I was so quiet and shy and too scared to even interrupt people. I love all my brothers, but they are the reasons why I don’t want sons if I’m ever unfortunate enough to have children.

warinmymind94 · 2020-11-05T00:14:27+00:00

Exactly but be careful. My ex would internalize everything rather than talking about it, venting, or managing stress in a healthy way (like exercising, doing a hobby, etc) and also refused to go to therapy. He ended up punching a hole in the wall, driving very very recklessly, and he threw something at me. I ran out and was able to get picked up. I called him later and made arrangements to get my stuff from his place when he wasn't home. He tried getting me back and tried saying he was having a "panic attack" and it was his "anxiety". I told him no it was a tantrum and he was acting like a toddler plus the fact he actually got dangerous and put me in serious danger. Advised him to seek professional help but I don't think he ever got it.

Beware ladies. Man child tantrums are not "panic attacks / anxiety attacks". Do not let men con or gaslight by them using mental health as an excuse. It is not your job to be a therapist and you should not be putting yourself in harms way because he acts out like a toddler.

Leave at the first sign of a red flag and if a man ever gets violent throwing things, punching holes, going to hit you or making threats to harm you RUN FAST. if you're alone with him get outside. Call an uber or friend. Or get to your car and go! Don't worry about stuff you left behind or whatever. Just go.

feast_or_famine1 · 2020-11-04T15:58:04+00:00

You know when women have a bunch of emotions and mood swings during their period? Want to know the hormone influencing those behaviors? Testosterone. Yeah...

eagleverest · 2020-11-04T14:25:21+00:00

God, I love this tweet.

Men are not taught to handle their emotions. Girls, on the other hand, are required to have emotional restraint from a young age. But sure, “boys don’t throw tantrums” lol

Pudding5050 · 2020-11-04T17:59:59+00:00

Teenage boys are walking sacks of hormones, they're so emotional it's ridiculous.

agdrag123 · 2020-11-04T19:27:21+00:00

I hate it when people say that. Not true! Parents then feel they can give less attention to the boys and then we see serious issues later on.

werker115 · 2020-11-04T13:41:02+00:00

Lol what? As someone who has a brother..this is bullshit. My mom always talks about me having future daughters lol, because she loves me.

UsagiHe-n · 2020-11-04T21:43:43+00:00

Teenage boys are crazy wtf they on about

2020-11-04T16:14:38+00:00

I’m glad she put him on blast.

Women with sons seem to be too forgiving and baby his emotions.

Apparently, when women have sons, their brain re-wires itself (or something like that). It seems she’s the exception.

ParfaitOwn · 2020-11-04T20:09:44+00:00

Dishwashers broke. Time for that boy to get his fingers pruned up a bit.

SutoOuta · 2020-11-04T20:35:42+00:00

No Kids Gang (ever) rise up

nostradamusapologist · 2020-11-05T04:50:27+00:00

It drives me crazy when people (not the person in the tweet just in general) set up emotion and logic like they are natural opposites or that being logical is a moral quality. Logic is literally just a system if "if x, therefore y." A man acting like a lunatic bc he's being asked to clean is acting according to his internal system of logic. You can come to shitty conclusions with logic! It's in no way infalliable

gcthrowaway2019 · 2020-11-04T17:43:00+00:00

That's prime school shooter age

virgonights · 2020-11-04T22:28:07+00:00

My parents had their work cut out for them when it came to my brother. I was so passive and independent even for the younger kid. When my brother moved out I had to tell my parents to back off that I wasn’t used to having my every move watched. From spending too much in my room to taking to much paracetamol in a week. I was on my period!!! And my habits for staying my room didn’t changed after my brother moved out. After two weeks I called them out on it and we laugh it about it now but it was insane

tamalemami · 2020-11-04T23:03:05+00:00

The stereotype that women are more emotional has always infuriated me. Women only cry more easily, but men are without a doubt incredibly emotional and they tend to express it in the most negative, harmful way

2021-01-27T05:36:55+00:00

Love to see a boy-mom who can still tell it like it is. I feel like I just saw a unicorn.

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ChevyCheeseCake · 2022-07-04T16:12:28+00:00

Maybe that’s a comment on her parenting lol

Motor_Worldliness_34 · 2022-07-06T23:43:18+00:00

If your 14yo throws a tantrum about that that sounds like you're an awful parent tbh

icethecool1 · 2022-08-08T16:54:32+00:00

Young mothers can be so emotional

fuckyouredditusernam · 2022-08-29T19:36:48+00:00

right... so thats the little kids fault he is like this and not the parents for raising a lil bitch

Title	Even a 35 yo man has these same meltdowns but they're the logical sex!!!
Author	_xyoungbellax_
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Comments	148
Date	November 4, 2020 11:39 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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