This is why you never stay with a man who expresses interest in anal. What he really wants is to hurt and humiliate you.

DivineGoddess1111111 · 2022-03-01T07:21:33+00:00

That is so horrifying. It's rape.

ifhewantedtohewould · 2022-03-01T07:40:46+00:00

“To be honest I hated every second but he had a blast. So yeah” pretty much sums up 90% of relationships these days.

makeawomancum · 2022-03-01T07:32:24+00:00

My rapist groomer boyfriend who was 22 when I was 17 constantly brought up anal to me almost every time we hung out. I always said no. He coerced me into doing a bunch of shit I already didn’t feel ready for or like to do, but that was something I was set on saying no to. One day on new year’s eve, he got drunk and “slipped it in the wrong hole”. He tried so hard to gaslight me that it was on accident, but he fucking knew… he was a porn addict who could only get really hard from seeing me suffer.

Even before him, there was a guy my age who wanted to take my anal virginity desperately because I told him I wasn’t a virgin. He was so entitled, he said he wanted something no one else has gotten since I already gave my virginity to someone. Honestly disgusting how lvm degrade women into objects for their use. I’m glad I know how to assertively tell most men to fuck off now. I don’t owe any one any thing.

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2022-03-01T08:55:19+00:00

Ugh this made me feel sick. Poor woman. Goes to show how they push boundaries as a power move.

I also know a woman who had to have surgery because a scrote was too rough doing anal.

I had an ex that took advantage this way when I had passed out from drugs and alcohol (before FDS).

I also had another ex who tried to slip me date rape drug and when I wouldn’t take it (because I saw him slip it in) he said “what do you think I’m going to do, wait until you pass out then do something to you?” All night he had been pressuring me for anal. He then choked me again that night, knowing full well I hated being choked. It was his way of establishing the power back.

KaisaIlona · 2022-03-01T13:37:13+00:00

Lmao I just received the redditcares message. Sure me not wanting to be anally raped or watch it happen to other women means I'm mentally unwell 🤦‍♀️

galian84 · 2022-03-01T14:21:31+00:00

This poor woman! And what a pos scrote he is for doing that to her. I’m glad she left his ass.

Wanting anal is a dealbreaker for me as well. I had a p0rnsick ex try this exact thing, constant pestering despite my repeated “no”s and then trying to poke around there, even had an “accidental slip”. Funny how he would squeal and jump 2 feet into the air whenever anything went near his bum, though. And I made sure to do it enough until he eventually stopped asking.

If a male doesn’t respect your first no, dump him. He doesn’t respect you or your boundaries. You should never have to do anything you’re not comfortable with. Give them an inch and they take a mile.

No-Village-3946 · 2022-03-01T07:53:48+00:00

Ahh, the virtues of online porn: being raped in the ass by your husband multiple times and having to wear a diaper in your 30s. It's all about power for him. I can just picture his disgusting, porn-fried brain lighting up when she agreed to anal yet AGAIN after literally being injured for months because of it. Crazy thing is you can't even ask men for passionate lovemaking to "spice up" your sex life, but they can request anal.

Determinedblonde · 2022-03-01T08:23:37+00:00

If they want anal, find a man.

Certain-Year-5367 · 2022-03-01T08:24:20+00:00

I’ve never been pressured into doing any sexual activity I don’t enjoy, one of my ex loves doggy and I hate it, he pressured and pressured and I said no, that’s one line I never let guys cross. Ladies stay woke, sex should be enjoyable for both parties, if he doesn’t like what you’re offering he should end the relationship and search somewhere else.

Davina33 · 2022-03-01T07:45:55+00:00

Oh my goodness. That poor woman 😞 I swear men only want to do anal to see women in pain. They get off on it. I've heard stories that once a woman really enjoys anal that the man stops doing it. I can't imagine having incontinence, especially at such a young age. The ex should be in prison for it!

Pahapan · 2022-03-01T09:57:18+00:00

A new coworker was unloading on me the other day about her relationship. It's clearly unhealthy but she maintains that they're both "equally toxic and love it 🤪". But then she started telling me about how he'd pressed for anal for ages, despite having a really large dick. She said she gave in one night when they'd both been drinking. Mind you, he's a football player and she probably weighs about 115 pounds soaking wet. I highly doubt he was as inebriated as her. She said he shoved it in without any lube and without any prep and that, along with it being incredibly painful, she tore and bled and that to this day she experiences bleeding. She said she went to a doctor about it and he explained that it would take a very, very long time to heal, because every time she defecates it reopens the tearing. The cherry on top was this doctor telling her to practice safe sex in the future and to use lube and go slow. He'd just told her she might bleed out of her ass for years but didn't caution her against ever attempting anal again like any sane healthcare professional would. The sad truth is that even doctors can be porn obsessed misogynists who prioritize another man's sacred access to anal over the health and safety of their female patient. It used to be that sexual injuries like this would be taken as an obvious indicator of rape, but not anymore.

I tried to explain to her that none of this was okay and that what her boyfriend did to her was rape but she laughed it off and said he totally wouldn't have shoved it in dry like that if he hadn't been drinking. She then proceeded to tell me about how she'd ordered a buttplug kit for training her ass to accommodate his penis. This is a young college aged woman, just completely and relentlessly pornified and subjected to perpetual assault that she can't even recognize as assault because our culture has become so twisted.

I used to think I wanted children but I'm really not sure anymore. How do people raise kids in this?

broogaloo · 2022-03-01T12:06:53+00:00

This is rape. It kills me that this form of rape is often unrecognized for what it is, and joked about all the time! As if its not an equally traumatic experience to be forced into sex this way.

It took me a long time to realize when a man did this to me that he was a rapist. Women are so brainwashed into acquiescing to a man’s demands in the bedroom that sometimes we cant even see the abuse for what it is until months or years later. Never believe that it was an accident, they know. They know and they do it on purpose.

ApprehensiveGiftBox · 2022-03-01T18:30:18+00:00

FISTULAS?!?! Can she sue him for bodily damage??

mxmoon · 2022-03-01T13:08:43+00:00

Yeah this is terrible. I was anally raped by my ex husband too. I hate that guy. Men suck.

tiredmummyof2 · 2022-03-01T09:47:17+00:00

I hate the idea of anal? Its disgusting. I told my husband before we were getting married that I would never do it, if he wanted anal, he should look for someone else. I don't know who even came up with the idea of anal. There is is nothing in it for the female partner

ConfusedBisexual1992 · 2022-03-01T10:12:25+00:00

Wanting anal would be a huge red flag/dealbreaker for me. We all know that if scrotes like something, they will try to pester you into it.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2022-03-01T07:29:41+00:00

This is correct. Men who like anal hate women.

lowsodiumhumanbeing · 2022-03-01T15:15:12+00:00

My ex, who I was with for seven years from the ages of 16 to 23, was pornsick. He bothered me for anal until I let him try it when I was 17. I had a pretty bad anal fissure and have experienced chronic, painful hemorrhoids for more than a decade as a result.

The worst part? He didn’t stop pushing for it. I firmly resisted for a couple of years, but he decided his pleasure was more important than my health and began regularly anally raping me until I eventually broke up with him and moved states. I am ashamed that I had convinced myself it was somehow acceptable.

Anal was some of the worst pain I’ve ever experienced. I’ll never let it happen to me again, and I discourage uninterested women from not being firm in their boundaries. Interested women should ask themselves, honestly, why they’re interested — or if they even actually are.

StrawberryMoon3 · 2022-03-01T14:56:28+00:00

She was raped. An obvious reluctant "yes" is not consent.

sassyheather · 2022-03-01T09:02:38+00:00

Horrific. I thank myself that even in my worst times, with everything else I put up with, I never allowed anyone do anal to me.

Noemie_Mathilde · 2022-03-01T10:53:57+00:00

And Teen vogue publishes articles on this very sex act. Smdh.

oscine23 · 2022-03-02T01:33:05+00:00

So fkn disgusting. I’m speechless. So, seeing her bleed all over the place wasn’t a deterrent. He tries it again, this time without her consent. 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

AnniaT · 2022-03-02T06:58:01+00:00

I feel like I'm going to be very trigged if I read this so I just want to say that if a man even just asks for anal please dump him. Anal is porn sick. No man that loves you and his HV wants to do anal with you. Plus anal is incredibly dangerous.

intrepidis_dux · 2022-03-01T07:42:33+00:00

That's so sad. 😭

MsXxSelfDestructxX · 2022-03-01T22:45:26+00:00

i think i was meant to read this post. I had an ex scrote suggest interest in anal. Dodging red flags out here

Carneliancat · 2022-03-01T19:50:57+00:00

No straight man who actually knows how to give his partner fulfilling sex complete with orgasms wants to do anal. The vagina provides much more pleasure for a man who has a healthy sexuality. No sane man enjoys the thought of his penis being put where a woman shits from. Anal is for losers who are bad at sex and who have broken porn dicks, end of. Leave these pathetic and broken men where you find them. They have nothing to offer you but bad sex, and a flaccid dick that will always smell of shit.

throwawaybcwierdos · 2022-03-01T08:58:22+00:00

Any man who likes anal is a porn addict. These are unnatural urges and are meant to hurt you. You don't benefit from anal AT ALL, only the man. Big red flag.

OldLadyAndHerBees · 2022-03-01T10:31:41+00:00

My ex always expressed an interest in anal, although he never did it. He also used to watch porn daily. We had a lot of discussions around these topics (and others like what he follows on social media), and he stopped watching porn and also agreed to not do anal if I didn't want to. HVM will listen and improve. That's the reason we still talk, although we have irreconcilable differences (he wants kids and I don't) so a relationship is out of the question.

Most men truly like to see a woman cry or be in pain in bed. They have been wired by porn to think it's good and what women deserve. If they don't listen the first time you say things like that, and even are willing to hurt you again after making you bleed, they deserve to be brought to the police.

Daikon-Apart · 2022-03-01T14:51:24+00:00

So I genuinely do enjoy anal in specific rare situations. I still would suggest running away from any man who actively pursues/pushes for it. It should be completely driven by the person receiving in order to prevent any injury, and any man who's looking for it is likely to ignore that fact. The only time a man should bring it up is 1) A overall 'yes/no' conversation about sexual boundaries or 2) confirmation when you've indicated interest in it that day if you'd still want it.

Typical_Candle_5627 · 2022-03-02T22:31:13+00:00

ffs omg this is the thing. people have normalized that shit so much and i’m like YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT KIND OF HEALTH CONSEQUENCES THERE ARE. it’s DEPLORABLE

albus247 · 2022-03-01T09:07:25+00:00

Okay please put trigger warnings that was A LOT.

HarleyAeilo · 2022-07-10T16:15:29+00:00

And every dude like this is insecure about their sexual identity so they try to force themselves to think it’s not a homosexual interest bc porn tries to make it seem like it’s something women actually are down for.

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