That or they bend the truth to seem virtuous. Its no real secret that women virtue signal more than men but it is astounding and puts into perspective that alot of men arent even on thier radar. Thats why socially the term "his energy" comes up alot, I have no doubt in my mind men can be charismatic but women treat it as if it doesn't matter that the dude they were with was physically attractive. Men fake personalities for a night, lie about how many women he's been with simply to peak interest further. Not just in one night stands but because if a woman is contemplating staying with a man. It is ALWAYS a plus that he is attractive or appears to be attractive. Thats why alot of womens insults are superficial to eachother and men because they are very much so interested in your public image. Ultimately women are attracted to competency and proof of it. This stems into alot of the issues I see here on ppd, a man gets insecure when he feels or knows a woman will no longer view him as competent. One of the biggest issues in dating is how people fuck it all up. Men lie, some dudes even resort to putting down others around them to appear better and more capable and women have made it far too worth it do to do so for modern dudes.

As a bit of anecdote my first and only relationship a year ago. Lasted 5 years while I was only focused on being as competent as I could. Both to secure the relationship and a challenge to myself to put my money where my mouth is. I focused on sexual intimacy and emotional intelligence.

Edit: response to everyone disagreeing. You forget that sexual competence is indeed a thing that needs to be believable aka you need to be attractive enough to be sexually competent also I suppose this post is more at how a guy needs to get his foot in the door to even get a relationship.