Women of PPD, how often do you get hit on in public?

Infinite_Signal90 · 2023-05-14T18:09:37+00:00

I’m a below average to mid woman in her early 30s. About twice a year I’d say.

Safinated · 2023-05-14T19:11:51+00:00

You mean seriously hit on, or just having drunk or homeless guys yell “I wanna put it in your ass!” at you?

Are we counting approaches with plausible deniability or just overt “You’re hot, can I have your number?”

throwawaylessons103 · 2023-05-14T19:09:58+00:00

This is so location based.

I live in the Midwest, and people will chat me up occasionally at bars/clubs when I go but they're usually not direct about their intentions.

I went to Miami on vacation with my best friend, and we got honked at/hollered at like 30 times just from a 15 minute walk from our AIRBNB to the Planet Fitness. And we got hit on at every bar/club multiple times.

We're both fit and pretty cute, but not supermodels. It was kinda shocking because you'd think in Miami, people are used to seeing much more beautiful women than us everywhere.

learn2earn89 · 2023-05-14T18:58:34+00:00

Never.

Well, about 6 months ago, a guy asked me for gas money, gave him 5 bucks and then he asked for my number. He had face tattoos and looked like smoked meth. So there’s that.

mackenzie013_02 · 2023-05-14T18:44:29+00:00

It really depends how much effort I put in my appearance. I’m fit with a good body, my face is average if not a bit below average, and I’m in my 30s.

If I wear a nice dress and minimal make-up (bronzer and lip-stain) I get approached at least a few times during my outing.

If I wear my “grocery store” clothes then I don’t get approached at all.

Particular_Return166 · 2023-05-14T22:23:14+00:00

Not even once in my entire life.

I've had two instances of strangers groping my ass and then running away before I could see who it was, but a man has literally never verbally cold approached me.

fakingandnotmakingit · 2023-05-14T22:24:48+00:00

In my 20s i could get catcalled wearing sweat pants in a grocery store.

In my 30s now and it's only been maybe 3x this year. Most time in pubs/bars while I was waiting for my friends to show up.

It mostly happens when I'm just out with the girls, it seems the presence of guy friends decreases this. Lucky for me I mostly hang out in a mixed gender group which makes the frequencey if being hit on much less.

lovebloomin · 2023-05-14T18:48:46+00:00

I’m average and probably only get hit on once a year because I never go anywhere

Virtual-Loss2057 · 2023-05-14T18:59:13+00:00

Well the other day a group of men followed me a my friends and barked at us…not sure if that counts…

sweetestpineapple · 2023-05-14T19:11:17+00:00

A few times a year and it’s mostly catcalls when I go into a bigger city. I’m an about average looking WOC in a small town.

EulenWatcher · 2023-05-14T19:55:19+00:00

I'd say it almost never happens these days. I guess largely because I work from home and if I go out, I go out with my husbands as I don't really have friends of my age here. I got approached a few times online when I posted an add and people could see how I looked like (per the groups rules as I usually avoid posting any photos of myself), but not in public.

chalkandapples · 2023-05-14T20:29:06+00:00

Very rarely.

TarantulaWhisperer · 2023-05-14T21:29:46+00:00

I get hit on at the gas station in my scrubs looking like a trash can IMO... I don't get it. I think I am a decent 6 on my best day. I get hit on as in men asking me if I am married and asking me for my number. This also happens at the grocery store as well. I can only attribute this to my chest size honestly because I'm nothing special

No_Yogurt_4602 · 2023-05-14T18:17:54+00:00

It varies wildly depending on where I am, how I'm dressed, what I'm doing, etc. If I'm just like doing errands or on campus then I'm probably pretty focused on what I'm doing and have on whatever clothes are comfy and big, leave-me-alone headphones, so if necessities are all I have time for then idk maybe once a week. If I go on a night out with friends or just for a drink by myself or something then that goes up.

Trouvette · 2023-05-14T21:42:02+00:00

Never

AceArguments · 2023-05-14T23:15:08+00:00

There are more forest fires where I live than people. So the answer is 0.

Freethinker312 · 2023-05-14T18:40:54+00:00

Never

megapuffz · 2023-05-14T18:14:43+00:00

Maybe like once a week. It really depends on where I am and how I'm presenting myself.

UpbeatInsurance5358 · 2023-05-14T19:43:20+00:00

I'm I'm my 40's now so it's only a couple of times a week. It's nice becoming invisible.

Passionfruit-loop · 2023-05-14T18:16:36+00:00

I would class myself as average in my country but just because of my weight/physique I’d be classed as above average in the US.

Average about 1-3 times a week, and but it picks up during the summer. I dress very modestly, and very seldom wear make up. Not even mascara/eyeliner/tinted foundation.

januaryphilosopher · 2023-05-14T20:10:51+00:00

Under a generous reading of "hit on", less than once a year.

BoopEverySnoot · 2023-05-14T19:12:43+00:00

If I go out with friends, literally every time. Same if I just go alone to grab something to eat or a drink. Occasionally when I’m grocery shopping. I can’t quantify it with a number because it’s so heavily reliant on what I’m doing and who I’m with. Alone or with friends, it’s probably going to happen. My husband or my kids, probably won’t happen.

ResponsibleUmpire752 · 2023-05-15T01:33:40+00:00

Constantly when younger and single. Now less often as I'm older and wearing a wedding ring and am usually with my husband. Guys still like to play flirt or chat a bit but not seriously hitting on me as I'm obviously not available.

idkcjibkk · 2023-05-15T08:24:43+00:00

Never

Plastic-Exit-9679 · 2023-05-14T18:34:20+00:00

Usually whenever I go out. I thought the ring would help, but it actually became a conversation starter.

SlipperyLogs · 2023-05-14T19:47:57+00:00

Man, I wish I could experience 1/10th of the attention that the average woman receives lol

lovearia7 · 2023-05-14T20:56:15+00:00

Too often. Almost every single day. I just tell them that I’m not into men. I used to wear a fake wedding ring but I lost it. Sometimes I’m rude when they won’t get the hint. I am straight, but not interested in dating at all. I’m very focused on myself and my family and friends. I never smile and never make eye contact or look approachable and yet they still approach me or try to strike up a conversation. Like men have pretended to not know how to do something like use the self check out when I was using the one next to them and asked for my help. It’s cringe. I pray that no one talks to me every time I get out of my car. A few men have even seen me walk out to my car and literally knocked on my fucking window to get my attention and scared the fuck out of me. I plan on buying a gun within the next two months. I bought new AirPod pros to help with people talking to me in public and I accidentally threw them away in my fast food bag 🥲🥲💔 Idk I hate talking to strangers in public. I wish they’d just fuck off. Oh and I’m 25 and I live in Florida.

Cosima_Fan_Tutte · 2023-05-14T21:48:31+00:00

Never. I'm a middle-aged, mid-looking woman in the Midwest who only really goes to the grocery store, kids' activities and a mostly-empty office (a few days a week).

saraimarsena · 2023-05-14T19:32:55+00:00

in an average week like this past one going to/from work, i was approached and directly hit on twice, random men complimented me 3 times

on a night out if i dress up, it might be a a few times a night.

neetykeeno · 2023-05-14T19:31:29+00:00

Approximately once per fifty hours spent on public transport or at public transport locations like bus stops and train stations. I've tried everything I reasonably can to prevent it other than taking up bicycle riding instead. Every other context my efforts have worked.

I'm fat and fiftyish and do literally zero to provoke this other than exist and go about my business.

GlamSunCrybabyMoon · 2023-05-15T04:22:33+00:00

Never, I’m fat so I don’t have these problems.

I got hit on very very often by grown men from the age of about 11-21 (I hit puberty early). So I don’t mind being basically invisible. I finally get to exist in public in peace.

Longspkdiamond · 2023-05-14T18:52:27+00:00

I don't give if "slut vibes" so never, not even when I was younger.

petiteandsweet1337 · 2023-05-14T23:25:18+00:00

5-6 times a day

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dishonouronmycow · 2023-05-14T19:50:33+00:00

Never, but I don’t really go out in public often and I’m always surrounded by friends that would scare people off

Katatonicsnake · 2023-05-14T23:00:16+00:00

Once or twice a week when I commute. People are rarely direct (except drunk people) and I’m bad at taking hints, but my friends and husband tell me I’m approached quite often.

Sea_Information_6134 · 2023-05-15T01:26:20+00:00

Constantly.

MistyMaisel · 2023-05-15T01:53:47+00:00

Kinda depends what you mean. There's categories.

Random compliments/shouts: 3-4 times a week depending on how much care I take with my appearance. I can easily drive this number up to stupid high numbers with a good outfit and make up.

Men turning to glance as I walk by or blatantly checking my ass out - a lot. Easily 4-5 a day.

Coming up to make random conversations with me, asking me questions they clearly don't need answers to: twice a week

Actually asking for a number: rare, luckily. I'm quite good at running away at this point, so I usually cut the conversation before we get to this dreaded point.

notknownfromhere · 2023-05-15T02:19:20+00:00

I’m a 21 black woman, I’d say I’m slightly above average (pics on my profile if you’re curious) and I get hit on at least once or twice a month? This goes for everyday life - work, running errands, working out not including going out because it happens more frequently then. When I go out, I get hit on multiple times throughout the night but that’s common for most women.

Laniekea · 2023-05-15T04:10:50+00:00

counting my husband then like 5000 times a day.

Otherwise maybe 10 times per year. Never someone I know and I turn them down nicely. I'm not someone who goes to clubs often, but I live in a city so it happens.

Laurely4u · 2023-05-15T04:35:52+00:00

Hourly

begayallday · 2023-05-15T05:18:30+00:00

It’s fairly uncommon at this point in my life. I would say it averaged once a month or so until sometime around my late 30’s.

luliloo · 2023-05-15T06:04:32+00:00

I’m average to hot. Rarely. Maybe once a year.

Guys at work like me tho.

satisfiedmind- · 2023-05-15T08:36:27+00:00

So there’s the sexual harassment - catcalling. I’m 36 and that happens a few times a week. It used to be almost every day in my early twenties.

Hit on is a bit different because I’m lesbian and avoid situations where men would do this and if you mean hit on by men or hit on in general. When I’m on a night out at a lesbian club/party I get hit on a few times a night. By men - A few times a year I get seriously hit on as in asked for my number or a date by a man. Generally if I’ve been too nice to them. I’m intentionally cold around men or drop in that I’m lesbian early in the convo to avoid this.

LeaveNCountAlone · 2023-05-16T01:14:11+00:00

Largely depends on what you mean. I don’t go out often but when I do I get a lot of compliments on my outfit, hair, etc. (like like button down shorts with loud obnoxious prints or vintage clothes) Like 2-3 times a day. Hell, even my dentist has complimented my shirt. But none of those guys were hitting on me.

If we’re taking about over the top, “girl you got a nice ass/I’d fuck you/ what’s your number” like, never.

Hjelmert · 2023-05-16T14:36:09+00:00

A handful of times a year maybe, and those are mostly customers at work since i don't really meet strange men otherwise and i'm from a very socially reserved country.

penguintransformer · 2023-05-16T23:37:48+00:00

Frequently. But I'm a bartender so people probably hope they'll get a free drink out of it.

Far_Welcome101 · 2023-05-20T00:23:56+00:00

None. I'm ugly so no one approaches me

eternitypasses · 2023-05-20T13:35:26+00:00

Pretty much never. I also don’t leave the house much and am married.

nicoleberry16 · 2023-05-21T00:11:04+00:00

Couple of times a week depends though on depends on when I'm out. I tend to get hit on by creepy dudes most of the time.

Title	Women of PPD, how often do you get hit on in public?
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Date	May 14, 2023 5:32 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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