How to have less divorces

turbospeedsc · 2023-08-16T23:48:17+00:00

Social media is a big one a very very big one.

warrior_up · 2023-08-17T11:30:17+00:00

Not getting married. Financial Contract females profit from breaking

Until that changes, women will continue to destroy/control men via non-custodial parent court orders. Rich poor doesn’t matter, all men are at risk and sadly marrying the wrong women can/will ruin your life

Social media is also a leading indicator- for women their phone is a box of thirsty dicks. They can have a new man moved in within the week

Those pathetic fucks are ruining us as well, captain save a hoe single mother chumps to the rescue, naaa bro you let them rot

The whole systems is designed to fund judicial retirement. Families do not stick together like They did back in the day, divorce is no longer taboo - odds of seeing the women you married turn into a vicious malignant cunt should be in the wedding vows at this point

DocHolliday80 · 2023-08-16T23:11:17+00:00

Less marriages maybe?

NohoTwoPointOh · 2023-08-17T02:48:28+00:00

Title IV-D and no-fault reform.

Flashy_Yam967 · 2023-08-17T00:42:02+00:00

In my opinion, marriage is largely only right for the religious minded who believe in it as a Godly institution. If both the husband and wife share this mindset, I think it greatly decreases the likelihood of divorce.

Take God out marriage and you only have a legal arrangement that will screw over one or both parties.

preetham_graj · 2023-08-17T00:27:25+00:00

The traditional sense of marriage doesn’t work anymore. The law always has tilted in support of the wife, which was started with good intentions when they had lesser opportunities in life but hasn’t been updated since it seems like. Whereas the duties of a husband and fathers have changed drastically. I was just reading an article how millennial dads spend 3x time with kids compared to previous generations and only 97% of fathers are involved in parenting on equal basis.

But the law, its still stuck in some other era.

Tall-Wish · 2023-08-17T14:09:10+00:00

I came from a culture in which marriage was a family affair. Great thoughts are put into the selection of marriage partner. Character is everything. Today men and women are marrying people they barely knew. Yes, all those things men and women complain about later were there before the marriage. Maybe we need to put the focus back on character. Almost any marriage can survive if there is mutual empathy and mutual good character.

Acrobatic_Access_905 · 2023-08-17T16:45:58+00:00

Give men better education.

Gecks_more · 2023-08-17T01:10:23+00:00

More therapy, less marriages and less toxic woman encouraging each other to leave there men.

colobat · 2023-08-17T00:29:08+00:00

Just had an argument with my kids mom about our divorce and she did not have a clear explanation on why she did it , basically she thought about it for years and didn’t said she prayed about it and was decided to leave .. so I’m like God told u to leave me ?? She also mentioned every-time I did Smthn bad towards her in 19 years together … I mean no one is perfect and I did make mistakes .. I was 20 when I got married but she said she found peace so I just had to let it go

Physical-Aside-5273 · 2023-08-17T14:10:01+00:00

The problem is government. There are too many people who profit off of divorce. Always follow the money.

Big_Apple-3A_M · 2023-08-17T16:23:18+00:00

The biggest piece of relationship advice I’ve ever received is “If you can’t 100% accept who your partner is today, you have no business being together”. So many people ignore or think unwanted behaviors or character traits of their partner will go away. Or think they’ll be able to live with it. The fact of the matter is we should assume that our partners will never change. And if something about them isn’t sitting right with you then walk away before marriage.

I think everyone should go through pre engagement counseling. Before you make any commitments having a neutral 3rd party show where the differences are between a couple is crucial. And even more important is seeing if those difference can be resolved or at least tolerated. If not then walk away. Many people force a relationship and end up like us.

Specialist-Holiday61 · 2023-08-17T16:51:17+00:00

Again I really cant say i feel bad for men. Men, historically, follow their penis. The woman doesnt have to be this great, successful person. They just have to be hot and youll have 90% of men ready to give rings and weddings. Like as if these men have no value and require nothing in return except for being hot. Then they complain when they get taken to the cleaners. Men and women can be cruel. Not one more than the other. Marriage is not a good deal for men. Dont want those problems? Dont sign the dotted line.

Fyfel · 2023-08-17T03:53:50+00:00

You had a kid I fail to see how it’s messed up you have to pay child support? 🤔

AudreyTooTwo · 2023-08-17T05:57:47+00:00

Shouldn't the title be "How to have FEWER divorces"?

"Less divorces" just sounds funny.

Why don't you have shared custody? Maybe that could reduce your child support.

I think divorce rates are going down. But marriage rates are going down, too, so it takes some skill to separate the data and figure out what's really going on. What is puzzling, however, is how the amount of wealth being transferred through Family Court is consistently going up. If fewer people are getting married, there will be, of course, fewer divorces. And one would guess a corresponding ever-decreasing amount of alimony and child support handled by the courts. But that's not what's happening. That amount seems to grow.

If you're blaming social media now, you're about 10 years too late. I was listening to a divorce lawyer on YouTube the other day. He said something like, "If you wanted to invent an infidelity machine, you couldn't do a better job than Facebook."

BlackFire68 · 2023-08-17T00:43:35+00:00

There is no place for the current version of marriage in our current version of American society. It’s simply outdated and an absolutely horrible proposition for a breadwinner.

JohnnyMnemo · 2023-08-17T03:01:02+00:00

What do you think would help in the prevention of less divorces?

Less marriages.

Barring that, women making enough that they need to start paying the male ex-spouse child support and alimony.

I guarantee when women go on the hook for this they'll run from the chapel.

TheBoyBand · 2023-08-16T23:18:02+00:00

Yep, I feel exactly like you do, I only have 4 years of CS and I always think, mannn I can’t imagine men divorcing when kids are like toddlers and be tethered to a fkn piece of shit for soooo long!

polarshred · 2023-08-17T05:54:04+00:00

I think both porn and social media play a huge roll. Porn fucks with men's brains, social media fucks with women

conker574 · 2023-08-17T01:02:28+00:00

My man. Message me. I feel you. I'm fucked too

sixtysixpixistix · 2023-08-17T07:49:02+00:00

I really enjoy the tone and spirit of this post because it's solution oriented on a large scale.

My solution is rather bleak, mostly because I think there is no solution. Ages, cultures, societies, nations and civilizations are subject to the concept of entropy just like everything else in this universe. The orderliness of a people, bound together by a few organizing principles, degrades over time like an enormous grandfather clock that needs to be rewound once every fifteen hundred years or so.

To prevent divorce on a scale that large would require a sudden reorganization that would balance the distribution of power between men and women and would have an effect on every facet of a culture. Historically, revolutions that lead to tighter social organization require a strong executive.

I'm not saying I relish the thought of the next Cesar (Lincoln), only that it's what we're all sitting around waiting for.

Head-Adhesiveness113 · 2023-08-17T14:18:14+00:00

You’re not on the hook for child support for 17 yrs because you got married or divorced. It’s because you chose to have children. So, if you don’t want to make that mistake again, don’t make more children.

rb577511 · 2023-08-17T10:31:18+00:00

Don't get married. Stand your ground and learn how to be happy with you. I see men emotionally strong armed into marriage and then lose everything. IT IS NOT WORTH IT.

FlyingSaucer51 · 2023-08-17T09:19:45+00:00

I think that, prior to a couple getting married, it’s a good Idea to go see a couples therapist together to see if he/she brings up topics you need to discuss or work through. I think defining WHAT a marriage actually is can be important.

In our “disposable” society we are taught that if something doesn’t work to simply discard it and get a new one.

My ex-wife was horribly abused sexually and emotionally by a parent. She told me she had done all the work to heal. She felt like she had sort of “graduated” from therapy.

It turned out she had cPTSD and Quiet BPD. She basically internalized everything that would bother her and say NOTHING to me. Her parents taught her that behavior and it haunted my marriage.

Because she wasn’t loved as a child, she could just sort of “play house” with me but didn’t understand TRUE love or emotional attachment.

Over 1/4 of girls are now abused as children. That causes SERIOUS trauma and future relationship issues. Think about that! 1 out of 4 are molested as kids! 25%. Then we wonder why so many marriages end up in divorces where ladies just…walk away…

This is a major societal issue.

The short answer…COMMUNICATION.

The moment one person in the relationship stops communicating his/her wants, needs, desires, or expectations…your headed for disaster.

I loved my wife of 15 years with ever fiber of my being. She DESTROYED me by walking out and NEVER giving me a chance to even know what I could have done to make her happier! She’s left me in the worst situation of my life financially, home wise, food wise, etc. I’m just struggling to survive after giving up EVERYTHING for her. I helped her follow HER dreams and gave up my successful career it took me 16 years to build, sold my paid-off home and acres of land…and moved for her. Took care of her through 8 surgeries in 3 years. Then, one day, came home to an empty house!!!

Then came false accusations because she truly did have some sort of COVID stress induced mental break! She heard me say things I didn’t say! Saw anger that wasn’t there. Lost all trust in me. Started acting crazy. She even hallucinated crap she’ll never know or believe. It was terrifying.

inagotable1986 · 2023-08-17T12:40:02+00:00

I’m going to be on the hook for child support for 17 years. How messed up is that?

Ummm... How messed up is it that you have to financially support your children??? Am I understanding this correctly? Because in reality it's cheaper to pay child support than it is to raise the child/children yourself, so I'm not sure why "being on the hook" for 17 years is a bad thing...

That_Ignoramus · 2023-08-17T01:56:53+00:00

More premarital counseling leads to less post-marital counseling.

Rollercoaster72 · 2023-08-17T06:58:20+00:00

In my country the divorce rates of people over 45 are going up: the doubled the past 10 years. But divorces under that age are stable...

Background_Pilot_158 · 2023-08-20T13:44:26+00:00

Women need to stop chasing the top 5-10% of guys that will never want relationships.

Women need to realize that “settling” isn’t a bad thing and it’s what you’re supposed to do. If you “never settle” then you’re always chasing.

Social media as others have said. It inflates the ego for sure.

Men need to have more respect for themselves.

Title	How to have less divorces
Author	steaksauce872
Upvotes	26
Comments	86
Date	August 16, 2023 11:07 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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