Unless the man is mentally handicapped (or perhaps sadistic) they’re going to adapt to whatever seems to yield results.

If the crude sexual pestering on dating apps and mean spirited negging and tryhard tough guy bullfuckingshit only ever got them blocked, scoffed at, spat on, and reported, they would surely eventually civilise their approach.

The question is, who the fuck is enthusing this? Who is rewarding these scum not just with sex but with relationships?

How many desperate or damaged women are there?

Is there a pandemic of low or non existent self respect? What the fuck caused it?

Even if a man is devastatingly handsome with deep pockets, why reward disgusting behaviour?

I know romance and sex dwell far beyond the realm of logic - probably there’s my answer - but it doesn’t take a process of intense ratiocination to realise that a relationship - or a dalliance - with the womanising scumbag who starts berating you when you don’t give him what he wants or can’t go a few minutes without bringing up sex is probably not going end well for you.

We’ve all heard horror stories, and seen it depicted in fiction, enough that we should be attune to the major red flags. And yet you have women downplaying it and jesting that they’re like bulls charging headfirst at red flags, whilst continuing to do exactly that. Clearly everyone knows on some level when they’re wandering into the lions den.

Some say that those who were abused in childhood eventually find some strange familiarity and comfort in abusive relationships as an adult. The human mind is fucked up enough that this sounds plausible in some extreme cases, but it surely doesn’t explain most of the self destructive decisions.

Some argue that every woman just wants to feel adored to explain the success behind lovebombing - serotonin and oxytocin are powerful chemicals indeed but it’s usually clear when this is happening, being rushed and smothered and incessantly flattered by someone you’ve just met is not the augury of a healthy genuine romance. Hollywood is partly responsible for this bullshit.

Or that it’s common for people to date a comparatively lower grade partner as an assurance that they will never cheat - is that really a common strategy?

The mind is so maladjusted to modern life that it defaults to mistake narcissism (and dark triad traits) as confidence, and confidence as competence, and competence with safety and provision, however any level of critical thought will reveal that outward confidence is essentially meaningless in modern society, and men exhibiting dark triad traits are far less safe and stable than others. It doesn’t take an Einstein level inference to realise this. Just look around at where aggressive, narcissistic, psychopathic people tend to end up… behind bars… or sometimes running companies but that doesn’t help to prove my point.

I’m well aware that some womanisers are scheming masterful manipulators who remove their mask as soon as they believe they have a woman locked down and deeply invested (especially when they’ve sunk costs into marriage, real estate and children are involved), and there are some that very meticulously break down their victims self worth, but they’re the exceptions - most are just impulsive controlling abusers and the writing is on the walls from the very beginning if anyone cares to read it.

And this doesn’t explain the casual bonehead disrespectful pudgy balding single dad with two kids he’s not allowed to visit who manages to beguile a woman far younger, sexier, smarter and more ambitious than he is.

The only time it really seems justifiable is if a woman is poverty stricken and marries into wealth for material security.

And of course the same can and does happen in reverse, but generally speaking men have less to lose or at least aren’t typically in physical danger when pursuing a woman, so can afford to be a bit less discerning with who they pursue.

I won’t go so far as to argue that scumbag men are women’s Frankensteins - that would be shifting the blame and self accountability away from these pieces of shit, but some women aren’t entirely guiltless either.

Agree? Disagree?