Men who’ve given up on dating, what’s the point of convincing internet strangers you made the right decision?

ScoopTroopcopiesthat · 2024-11-28T17:38:01+00:00

"Striking unionizers who gave up on employment, what’s the point of convincing workers you made the right decision?"

Although I don't fall into the 'given-up' camp, I feel qualified enough to speak on the matter. If more men stop falling to their knees for a crumb of pussy, the collective value of all males involved goes up. There's so much demand that the price of the supply has skyrocketed (hoeflation). Enough people refusing to buy at any price eventually leads to the price falling.

ACE_Overlord · 2024-11-28T17:19:33+00:00

Probably the same reason why single-women go on Tik-Tok to convince the world they are happy with their career and don't need no man.

PayStreet2298 · 2024-11-28T17:07:32+00:00

Aren't men encouraged to talk more?

catdog8020 · 2024-11-28T20:27:25+00:00

Well, obviously, men want to feel that what they are experiencing is normal. Men want to empathize with other men and have some commonality with their experiences as a result of a dystopian dating market for men in America. So, it’s really not about convincing internet strangers you made the right decision it’s really convincing them that they are not alone because for most men this is the only decision. If 30% of generation Z females are gay and the other 20% of females are 4B then in reality men have not given up they have accepted the reality of the dating market in America which is at best WEIRD. Also, it allows for discussions that lead to other alternatives for dating (sex dolls, legalized prostitution, dating woman from other countries, etc).

SomeSugondeseGuy · 2024-11-28T17:31:49+00:00

Cause it made me a lot happier and I want people to be happy

flakybottom · 2024-11-28T18:24:19+00:00

Giving up on dating improved my mental health, so I'm hoping it can help other guys who are drowning in the sea of dating.

rustlerhuskyjeans · 2024-11-28T17:25:46+00:00

Common sentiment online by men and we know it’s because he can’t get dates with any amount of reliability, which is normal now. Men got fed this future is female rhetoric, metoo, dumb bear argument with yet another attack on men. We are looking at graphs from studies where women rated 70% of men a 4/10 or under. So women don’t even like most of us? Why am I supporting any form of feminism?

Men got dating apps and social media and guys get this big hope of finding a girlfriend, and can’t even barely get matches. They DM girls and get ignored. While we all know top guys who feast on an endless buffet of women with virtually no effort. We know too much about women now with the internet and we’re over it.

FreitasAlan · 2024-11-28T17:14:34+00:00

There could be a meta question about that. Why worry about people who worry about people?

I think the answer is always the same: they find the topic interesting and the motivation is rarely convincing other people. People might be venting, looking for a solution, looking for evidence that could prove them wrong, they may like debating, they could be just scrolling and decide to join a discussion casually, they might be academically interested in the topic, and so on. And they might be interested in convincing other people, although I find this rare for other reasons.

The reasons a person might be interested in a topic are endless.

SuckingMuffin · 2024-11-28T18:13:38+00:00

Men need to open up more. They need to talk about their feelings and experiences.

No! No! Stop! Not like that!

empireofadhd · 2024-11-29T21:09:16+00:00

Im more chill now but it was part of a 10 year mourning cycle where I gradually let go of any dreams of romance, children and intimacy. It’s like you mourn a loss of your humanity, it’s a pretty big thing to cut out of your life.

Now I’m completely detached from anything and anyone and pretty dead inside. Sounds horrible but it’s better than the pain I used to feel.

BearSpray007 · 2024-11-28T17:14:16+00:00

People are allowed to struggle with their decisions or talk them out with whomever wants to engage. If you don’t want to be a part of that sub simply don’t join.

giveuporfindaway · 2024-11-28T21:17:56+00:00

It's telling the emperor it has no clothes. Men would be happier if we lived in a society that transparently admitted that women are at fault for the current dating crises. Men would be happier if society didn't act like things are fine and dandy, when we're in fact heading for extinction level events. What bothers men is that we're crashing on an airplane and nobody seems to acknowledge it or care.

Lovers691 · 2024-11-28T17:06:55+00:00

I only do so if someone asks me about my dating experience, I would assume the same applies to other men who have done the same. As for the point, if someone asks a question do not respond honestly?

stats135 · 2024-11-28T17:31:26+00:00

There's a bit of a damned if yo do, damned if you don't argument here.

If a man talks to someone because he expects value in return (ie when he talk to women for sex), he gets shit on. If he talks to people without expecting any value in return, only for the sake of disseminating valuable information (such as the cost benefit analysis of dating), he still gets shit on.

Electric_Death_1349 · 2024-11-28T18:18:18+00:00

Because a lot of people will try and gaslight you into believing that you could find a partner if only you tick off a list of platitudes - e.g. if you repeatedly debase and humiliate yourself, and dance like a clown for long enough, then you too could be settled for and be some sub-fives oofy doofy Beta Male Provider; they’ll tell you this and try and convince you it’s preferable to giving up

TheButcher797 · 2024-11-28T19:36:46+00:00

Id only say it to men who are struggling or airing out their grievances. If I see a man struggling, I try to encourage him to stop wasting his time with fostering a hate for women

envious1998 · 2024-11-28T18:08:01+00:00

It’s less convincing others that we made the right decision and more defending ourselves from both the feminists on the left and the tradcons on the right. I don’t care if you think what I did was wrong, but I’m not going to let you build a narrative about me that simply isn’t true.

Sure-Vermicelli4369 · 2024-11-28T17:28:20+00:00

I don't do that, I understand that my situation is unique to myself and think there is someone out there for everyone, just not me.

2024-11-28T21:26:57+00:00

Men are encouraged to talk more about it, they never talk about it unless asked to
Probably the same reason women go online and talk about it?

asdf333aza · 2024-11-28T23:41:37+00:00

Men who’ve given up on dating, what’s the point of convincing internet strangers you made the right decision?

Wise men learn from the mistakes of other men. You dont need to touch the hot stove yourself after seeing someone in front of you touch it.

just_a_place · 2024-11-29T07:06:51+00:00

We're not making any such point. I only use this flair cause it's a requirement for this subreddit.

I couldn't give less of a shit about convincing anyone that I made the "right" decision. Because it is my decision, whether or not it's the correct one is entirely up to my criteria.

whatever8482 · 2024-12-01T21:13:06+00:00

This society and culture is just completely garbage. I refuse to put in effort and continually humiliate myself just for some sex or a relationship with a used up chick. I can get it if I really, really try, but why should I have to? I don’t think I’m being prideful in saying this and I don’t think it’s lazy either. I just have self respect and It’s a waste of time and effort. If I was treated fairly in dating I would participate but I’m not so I won’t. By fairly I mean regularly finding girls who are as average looking as me and not with a bunch of baggage and problems, and they wouldn’t hold me to some hypersexualized standard of masculinity that I won’t be able to fulfill forever.

RycerzKwarcowy · 2024-11-28T17:05:28+00:00

Reverse-Uno: why do people feel compelled to challenge their decision?

Apart from "prove me wrong" motive you suggest, formal annoucment is stronger than just making up one's mind.

FluffyAgency6173 · 2024-11-29T03:14:32+00:00

I never tried. I'm complacent and a bit nervous honestly. I want a relationship, like a long term one, but I don't really feel like asking anyone out. Idk who I'd even ask out, there's no one I've got in mind.

BrainMarshal · 2024-11-29T07:48:47+00:00

LOL why convince internet strangers when you can just wait?

Proper_Frosting_6693 · 2024-11-29T16:43:02+00:00

Avoiding this: https://youtube.com/shorts/CEIy5PLcecg?si=-osrl3o4sTu6V36F

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abaxeron · 2024-11-29T13:24:00+00:00

I have spent my youth under assumption that any relationship is better than being single. This assumption was false. I know how I fell under it; I know and can demonstrate how and why it is false; I know how many years I have wasted on it, and I do not consider myself uniquely stupid or unlucky. Thus, my experience might be useful so people don't have to make as many mistakes of their own.

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youarenumber2 · 2024-12-05T05:44:15+00:00

The only way to change society is to radicalize other people.

James_M_Croft · 2024-12-13T12:51:19+00:00

Most men are not convincing other men to stop dating. Most men don't even interact much with other men. The ones convincing men to let go of dating is women.

If a guy thinks he can get this dating thing working we let them... but when they come talk to us, we will talk.

Men do not want each other company but will give it if given the chance.

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